| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 3:03:48 AM | That sucks dude and I know how it is....sort of.
The worst is when you go for them because they seem very accessible and all of a sudden, that accessibilllity disintegrates. Accepting the fact that you may die alone is bullshit.
Everyone has someone, the trick is not caring if you find that someone early or late in the game. When you have given up complete hope is when they come along. Never fails. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 6:10:34 AM | I agree 100%. I fell in love with someone a couple of years ago, a sweet, kind, caring man that became my sun, moon and stars. It was very painful for me when he quietly moved on. He is the reason my friends and family told me to "get a life" and start dating again. One of the hardest things I think I've ever had to do! To let go and move forward with my life. I see him now and then and there is that tingle in the vacinity of my heart, and the longing surfaces and the memories flood my mind. I feel that flash of joy and sadness and the desire to hold him just once more. But then I rein in those feelings and tuck them away. I will always carry him in a special place in my heart and cherish the fact that I got to be a part of his life even if it was for just a brief moment in time.
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 9:10:36 AM | Does Fabio Cannavaro count? I really miss the World Cup...
Seriously, I know what you're feeling and how awful it can be but, what you have to realize is that it IS up to you to free yourself of this and you CAN do it.
What did it for me was realizing that I didn't WANT to let go. I had loved him for soooo long, spent so many years building our life-mine and his, not mine and some other person's-that life without him wasn't even something wanted to imagine. When he was gone, all I had left was the love that had been a part of me since I was 17.
I held on to that as if, by keeping that love alive, I was somehow keeping him-or something of him. It took some years before I was able to realize that, while I may always have a tenderness for the time, the memories, and the person I shared it all with, that isn't enough and holding on to that wasn't bringing any of it back.
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 11:20:25 AM | well wrar...
she moved into my life and dissappeared.
I have the bird the cat and all her clothes.
She apparently went 'ghost' becuase shes in debt up to her eyeballs, walked away from a HOUSE, Big rig, and a decent union job.
Claimed she was raped and whatever... I didnt care about any of that.
but i see her on the street sometime and i have to pull over and puke for not pulling over to get her.
i hate crackheads. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 11:30:32 AM | i cant shut up.
Folks. I've had a really shitty summer.
Im making tons of cash but ****...
My foreman died on me trying to revive him june 2nd
My dad had an angina attack(whatever that is)
My GF dissappeared for a month.
reappeared like nothing happenned.
I left one job for more cash and never shouldve.
Now I have to get ready to move cuz this house is gonna get sold out from under me...
I have a parrot dog cat to house and I dont know what the hell to do.
I have to HIRE pet sitters just so i can go to work and not have to worry about em.
NOW i have little miss crackhead wanting back in my life again.
ive ignored her the best i can but i already know for a fact that there is NO HELPING A CRACKHEAD WHAT SO EVER.
I cant leave myself open. I cant tell her everything is gonna be okay CUZ ITS NOT
**** i just wanna die. seriously. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 11:41:17 AM | very interesting topic...i have met..matic from this site..army reserves...and got along great..5 months we talked a bit.hung a bit and got close...men..you just cant let yourself get close...not everybody i suppose...but they change there minds..just as some women do...but i like him..so much...could have been a great time.. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 1:13:08 PM | Oh god have i ever been there....
I have over many years attracted this very thing. I've learned to coin it as suffering from romio and juliet syndrome. and how i suffered.
I began to ask myself what was it within me that wasn't ready to be in a loving relationship and thats where everything changed for me. i began to see just how deeply i was able to love and eaqually how scared i was to let someone in. I was locked in the deep desire to love and be loved, with this incredible fear that i was not lovable. that on some deep level i didn't believe i was flawed, broken and because of it it reflected this in my daily life.
All pain we suffer from comes from the belief that we are less then we truly are. anyone who is reading this and is suffering, it is my deepest wish that you look within yourself, and ask the question. " what am i believing about myself that isn't true? where did this belief come from? And if I still believe it is true, what can i do to change it? " This can be both the most painful process of ones life and the most freeing.
I love myself enough to________________
fill in the blank. if saying this causes pain. You are definately believing something that isn't true. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 1:40:48 PM | Yes I am.
I am dealing with the pain of letting her go so she can find happiness without me.
If it wasn't for my kids, I would load up what I needed, sell off everything else and be driving
to her today. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 3:21:59 PM | Ive been in love with someone I cant have for 2 years... He hassled me and hassled me to meet him after messaging me on a site like this.. Id just come out of a 22 year marriage, after my husband cheated on me, and I was still raw and vulnerable.. After lots of persuasion I agreed to meet him, and BAM!!! was instantly attracted, and he felt the same..
After casual dating (because of distance) the feelings grew, and I knew Id found the one I wanted to be with for the rest of my life.. He told me he loved me too, and the relationship blossomed... although it was still just between us, we hadnt met each other's families..
Now I find out that, as part of his culture and his family tradition, he has to go into an arranged marriage. He wont go against it, because of the respect and love he has for his family, and the dishonour it would bring for him to go against his fathers wishes.. I know I have to end it, and have told him so, but God, it hurts so much....
Help me..!! I cant go through this a second time.. My heart is too fragile... | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 3:26:29 PM | I really feel for you and hope your situation improves... Life can be pretty crappy sometimes..
I hope u find everything u wish for.... take care... x | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 3:50:28 PM | "you cant help who you love..you can only hope they love you back!"
If they dont love you back..then you have to wish them all the happiness you can.
If you cant do that..then you dont love them as much as you think you do. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 3:52:32 PM | Can't say I ever had a girl turn into a crackhead but I did have one turn into a speedfreak...it was good stuff.
With shit like crack they either go clean or it kills them. Sometimes it is a fast spiral and sometimes it is long and agonising and they drag others down with them.
Don't let her drag you down, ever. Be willing to help but stay distanced.
I totally hear you on the wanting to die thing. I have been pretty much wishing that every night before I go to sleep for the past few years and issues with someone that you care about only make it worse.
Be strong, man. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 4:41:29 PM | If you Love someone, and can't be with them, do you Love them enough to sarifice your feelings so they can find happiness?
It's one of the hardest things I have ever done. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 4:55:14 PM |
"you cant help who you love..you can only hope they love you back!"
Isn't that so true!
If they dont love you back..then you have to wish them all the happiness you can. If you cant do that..then you dont love them as much as you think you do.
It's very hard to let go. Was totally crazy for someone to the point I was behaving like a love sick school kid. When things ended, I didn't take it very well. After a few months I could see how immature I was, so I called her up. Wanted to apologize and see just maybe if we could start over again.
All the emotions caught me off guard, knew what I wanted to say but lost the words. She wasn't interested in talking any more and didn't think we should even be friends. I couldn't fault her for the way I had behaved. So I decided then and there it was time to let her go. I agreed with her, gave her what she asked for, wished her well and said goodbye.
Its been months and there are still days I think about her and I'm sure I will for years to come. When it happens, I give myself a few minutes to feel the emotions and memories, then set them aside again. There's a wonderful women out there for me somewhere and I won't find her living in my past.  | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/27/2006 5:16:24 PM | | totally agree with you .. really sucks and depressing.. i did and waste my time (3 yrs ) waiting for him, hoping that everything will be just the way i planned it to be.. but it never went my way...thank God im over him... | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/28/2006 12:27:23 AM | | My ex has been gone for about 2 yrs now, She left My Son and ME and on and off came back into my Life to get money but the last 4mnths she has not contacted me and I am bot relieved and very sad. I think about Her everyday,every second of everyday. I think about Her everytime I see a smile on My Son's face or everytime I close My eyes to go to sleep. I am almost never happy always sad,and thinking about where she is,what she doing now,well part of my sadness is I know most of the stuff She is doing is drugs, coke,crack,xanex also I think prostitution. this only makes it worse for Me. I want and tried to save Her several times and failed and now I have not heard from Her in awhile and I fear She is dead or something worse. So yes I know How You feel. It is affecting Me in every way physically,metally,emotionally. Sometimes death seems so sweet. I try to be happy for My Son but most of the time I am like a zombie. All I can do now is wait and pray for either Death or a Miracle. | |
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| are you in love with someone you can't have?
Posted: 8/28/2006 12:46:44 AM | | I AM IN LOVE WITH A MAN I WAS SEEING FOR SIX WEEKS AND ONE DAY, WHAMO! TOLD ME HE WANTED TO SPLIT UP. DEVESTATED I WAS...VERY SAD. I STILL AM...I DECIDED RATHER THAN FRET AND CRY AND EAT MY GUTS OUT, TO JUST DEAL WITH IT AND KNOW THAT IT WAS MEANT TO BE. THE BUTTERFLY WILL FIND HIS WAY BACK TO ME WHEN HE IS READY... | |
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