| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/29/2008 6:12:47 PM | | There's nothing wrong with a healthy bit of ego-tripping as long as it doesn't impinge on your real relationship. Flirting is fun and usually quite harmless but we all have our own ideas about what flirting actually means and therein lies the rub. I recognise that it can lead to more serious involvement but realistically temptation is everywhere and we just have to be strong, the quality of our primary relationship is the determining factor here. Are you secretly dissatisfied or just plain greedy? Maybe neither, a healthy interest in the opposite sex is nothing to be ashamed of. As a starting point be honest with yourself, understand your motivation. Talking to lots of people is rewarding, can build your self confidence and widen your perspectives, just recognise your limitations and maybe set your own boundaries and find a level of communication that you are comfortable with. No-one can tell you what's right or wrong or what you should and should not do, you are the one that has to live with yourself, so stop trying to be perfect and relax. | |
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Joined: 1/8/2008
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/29/2008 6:47:54 PM | Obviously it would be very bad for my girlfriend (that I don't have) if I was flirting with a girl that looked something like Eva Longoria. That would always be cheating for me because if she gave me one I want you looks or lean ins then what would happened next would seriously be cheating by anyones standards. However, if a girl that looked like Rosie O Donald was to flirt with me then it wouldn't be cheating for me to flirt back because it would take alot more alcohol then I usually allow myself to consume before I would respond to or throw out any invitations.
I assume the same would be for women, no flirting with the Fabio's and Jude Law's of the world but bring on all the Woody Allens you can find. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:14:27 PM | It depends on the level of flirting.
If it's something that you feel you have to hide--- well... that can't be good. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:19:02 PM | It depends on the level of flirting.
If it's something that you feel you have to hide--- well... that can't be good.
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:23:40 PM | i think until you cross the line of friendship you arnt cheating for guys. For women I think when you flirt it is more a thing for attention and I dont like that at all. if a women is just doing harmless flirting I think that is okay., And I hate people that think dacing with someone is cheating.
I am the type I put trust into the person I choose to have a relationship with. unless there is reason to believe sumthin is wrong he can have as many friends that are girls I dont care. I ANIT THE JEALOUSE TYPE IT TAKES ALOT FOR me to get to that point.
and I think it should work if you let the guy do what he wants you have the same rights and he has to trust you to not cross that line. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/30/2008 3:03:07 AM | | flirting becomes cheating, when you think your girlfriend might find out and be angry/upset. if it's good clean banter, there should be no harm in her knowing about it. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/30/2008 4:08:13 AM | 1. If you are happily married, you would only flirt with your wife. Smiling, chatting in public is ok if just being friendly. But you are doing this in the dark of night via the computer. Sound a little sinister?
2. If you cared about your wife, you would not flirt with other women.
3. If you were a man of character, you would not flirt with other women.
4. How big of a fit would you throw if you found out she was doing the same?
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Joined: 12/3/2007
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/30/2008 5:34:38 AM | | Flirting is one thing if it's kept clean but when the talk starts to go along the sex lines and photo swapping, you might want to ask yourself if you're enjoying her rather than your partner | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/30/2008 5:43:55 AM | | As long has you trust the person who you are with I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the other person knows what you are doing..When you hide things that is what is not right..If you hide it you know yourself its wrong..... | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/30/2008 8:24:38 AM | | Building model ships is an innocent pastime. An ingredient of flirting consists of getting into ones "personal space" and just because they let you in doesn't validate it as a pastime. I'm surprised you have a permanent partner at all who is "in the dark" as you call it. I wonder who is really in the dark here. I'm holding up my hand...how many fingers do you see? Keep flirting and you may see one from your "in the dark" partner. JMO | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/30/2008 10:52:20 AM | opie...Flirting is a form of human interaction which indicates interest for a romantic or sexual relationship. this is the dictionar y version of it and it is exactly what it is... please DO NOT FLIRT WITH MEN IF YOU DO NOT INTEND TO PURSUE ANY ROMANTIC OR SEXUAL INVOLVEMNET. If it is just friendship you want, please indicate this upfront so that there are no hurt feelings....same applies for men as well..but for some reason women get in trouble with this more often....It is not fair to lead someone on and flirting is exactly that....It is this type of behaviour that give us woman a bad name and make men call us teases...please don't do it...if you want attention, get it some other way, but to purposly lead a man on by flirting is so wrong on many different levels and very unfair to the person you are flirting with. Keep the flirting to your partner and all others, just dont do it...trust me, this causes so many problems in relationships when there does not have to be....so in answer to your question,...absolutely is flirting wrong wrong wrong | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/30/2008 12:35:55 PM | | whatever two people agree upon is ok. To some kissing is cheating ...to other holding hand...and to other oral sex is...it up to the person in the relatinoship | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/10/2008 7:06:20 AM | I've been there. I found out that my boyfriend was on-line with a profile... it was a feeling of betrayal. No matter what he said (excuses) it still felt like at the very least he wanted to see what his options were. At the same time I know that even I flirt and it doesn't mean anything.
Maybe you should ask yourself why you need that if you are happy with who you are with? If it is innocent and she finds out it will never be innocent in her eyes. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/10/2008 8:09:17 AM | I can always tell when a man respects his partner by the way he interacts with other women. When a married man is flirting with me, I always feel sorry for his wife. There is just something sleazy about it. I do not flirt with married men, nor do I think they need to be flirting with me. Period. If you are on a dating site as a "pastime", you are in denial of your motives. There is nothing more encouraging for a single person than to see a married man behave appropriately and respectfully toward women. This is not to say he does not feel attracted to other women. Flirting is not a feeling; it is a behavior. We all have control over our behaviors. That goes for women too.
There is no reason for a married man to be hanging out on a dating site flirting with other women. Sleazy in my book. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/10/2008 10:50:07 AM | | If you are committed every single time. The only person you should be flirting with in person or online is your mate.You are causing issues for all involved just whatelse are you lying about?You are flat bold face cheating and lying to your mate and I hope they brighten up and do the same back to u better still rip your heart up then dump your non trustworthy butt. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 2/10/2008 11:19:26 AM | | I've always felt if you are doing things without your partner standing there that you wouldn't do with them in the same room with you, then you probably shouldn't be doing it. If you are doing things that you wouldn't want her to do behind your back, you shouldn't be doing it. Just my opinion. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 3/6/2008 7:01:14 PM | Well I have to ask you , would you mind if she were doing the same thing?
There is danger in flirting in that it could eventually lead to an actual date.Don't do what you wouldn't want your significant other doing! | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 3/6/2008 7:07:08 PM | Flirting is insulting and disrespectful to your partner.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:35:45 AM | | I agree with the "It's cheating if you wouldn't want your partner to do it". I mean, if she had a bunch of guys she flirted with, how would you feel? I also don't think you should 1)Do something behind your partners back or 2)Do something that will hurt them when they find out...and they WILL find out eventually. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:38:29 AM | | Simple..it becomes cheating when you wouldnt want your lady to find out, do what yuo like as long as you tell the one you love and know she'd have no problem with it, as soon as you start hiding things from her, you may aswell be cheating.. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 3/7/2008 8:18:12 AM | IMHO we all have to think about where that first step on a path may lead. What IF you are "innocently" flirting with someone and an attraction starts to take shape...where do you go with that? Do you act upon it?
Do you love your current parter? If not why do you stay? If so, why would you need the attention of other women? ....possibly you are just biding your time until something "better" comes along.
As so many others have said, if it's truly innocent then you would be doing it in front of her. The fact that she's "in the dark" means you KNOW it isn't innocent.
If men and women both would invest the same amount of time into building their existing relationship that they will invest in "flirting", "playing or chatting online", etc. there might be far fewer broken relationships.
I had a marriage end partially because of his internest "playing" and "flirting". He still says he loves me with all his heart and wishes I would come back. It's very sad that we often don't realize what we have until it's lost.
In my opinion you need to do some serious soul searching and truly "get in" or "get out" of your current relationship. If you feel the need to flirt online something is obviously missing in your current relationship.
Rose Mary | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 3/7/2008 8:28:40 AM | | u have a permanent partner but u r on this site? that's pretty nasty right there...if u r looking 4 friendly chats just go onto facebook | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 4/16/2008 12:57:49 AM | | It's not cheating, but it is degrading and disrespectful to the woman you are with. Pay attention to her instead of other females. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 4/16/2008 3:42:00 AM | in my mind nothing counts as cheating as long as you are honest and your partner knows about it..
if she does not, you are ultimately not being honest with yourself...
You need to look at why you are flirting with women on the net...
I could make an outragious confession now about a very tolerant partner that i had ...
i used to have a soul-destroying job in telesales... the trickiest bit being getting past the experienced secretary/receptionist at the other end of the phone... to actually talk to the man responsible for buying what ever shit i was trying to sell... This was almost entirely impossible because essentially it was her job to tell salesmen to **** off in the politest way..
Fortunately my gf at the time was totally on my wavelength.. when i explained the situation... she said well you really like it when women are in charge.. that really turns you on... so why don't you masturbate while begging them to let you talk to the boss..
I can't remember if i ever did sell any of what i was meant to be selling...
i guess you could say that i was disrespectful of women... but i would say that i was essentially honest within the relationship...
More recently my job involves flirting with women of all ages on the street... but bottom line is the way that i do it... if i am in a relationship... i make that clear...
i might say "if i had not already found the most beautiful woman in the world... outragious flirt thing"... i ultimately respect who i am sleeping with... because ultimately i value myself.. | |
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