| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 4/16/2008 3:58:58 AM | | flirting like moste things in a relationship is when you do some thing that you wouldent like your partner to do to you and i think if your honest you no your partner wouldent like it hense the secrecy (secrets mean loss of trust leads to loss of relationship) think about it secrets always come out ..... be carfull | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:05:17 PM | | well theres a line to not cross and if your smart im sure u know that line.u just know it inside when your crossing it.im not talking about sex.there is just certain words that u dont say or certain things u dont do to someone else when your in a serious relationship.for example if your in a serious relationship with a women and u say to another women for example :'wow u look sexy today in that dress u can imagine what id like to do to ya' that for example is going too far.even if you dont intend to do anything about it thats not right.its a lack of respect for your partner.even if shes not there your not showing her respect.respect for your partner is not just when shes with u its also the way or the things u say when shes not with u towards her or about her. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:16:33 PM |
When does flirting count as cheating?
The distinction is hard to make. When you already have a significant one in your life, any reason you like to go flirting? | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:54:56 PM | I don't think flirting is ever cheating...flirting is just that, flirting. It is healthy and normal to flirt. It becomes cheating when the person doing it is actively pursuing something with the person they are flirting with and have serious intentions behind it. Also, if it is overly sexual, it may not necessarily be cheating, but that is definitely towing the line. And being overly sexual or flirting with the same person consistently is when it can lead to cheating.
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:16:59 PM | | I have to ask myself what is missing in your current relationship that you are seeking outside "fun" . flirting amongst people that are not in a committed realtionship is fine in my opinion. I think it really depends on how far the flirting thing goes, I believe that any kind of emotional connection with someone other than your significant other is a form of cheating....... Emotional cheating!!!!! Obviously you are not getting the attention that you require in the relationship you are in or there would be no need at all to look elsewhere. IMHO. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:31:23 PM | | Flirting in itself can be harmless. But since people often don't know when to draw the line and when so much can be misconstrued, its wise to just not do it . | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:37:30 PM | | When is flirting cheating? Anytime you're involved in a committed relationship, flirting is cheating. Especially deliberate flirting, such as on the internet, and also keeping your partner in the dark about it. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:40:57 PM | | If she isnt aware..its cheating...you are online flirting with women you dont know? Its cheating. plain and simple. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:05:13 PM | | It's called emotional cheating...(Dr.Phil)says its a form of abuse..lol But really, Some people believe what they don't know don't hurt them, but is this really true? Like most here say if your hiding its cheating. Do you trust her as much as she trusts you??? People like you are usually accusing the other of it or to say the least pushin them to it..My advice Stop it. Cause what goes around does come around are you ready to give up your significant other?? What would happen if she finds out>>Anyone can get someone to flirt with them on the Internet...Get over yourself and get a better hobbie. Ya think? | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/26/2008 9:19:34 PM | | If you feel bad about it, and someone could get hurt, it's wrong. Would you want her to be online flirting with guys. It is a betrayal. Playing games is for children. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:28:05 AM | Geezes,
You actually have a datingadvert up and flirt with women?
You have some quite disrespectful manners.
If you flirted for one second in town then that would be quite innocent but for you to actually seek up flirts is unbelievable.
Why is your partner still staying with you I wonder? | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:41:23 AM | with all due respect not so shy guy johnny,,, you tell everyone your married,,,,on the flip side of that coin do you tell your Wife your Flirting??? If you spit up in the air eventually it comes right back in your face!
Stay "Home" and FLIRT with your wife | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:44:08 AM | | Ask her to flirt (cheat) likewise and then seek her opinion and compare notes. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:51:24 AM | | Perhaps it's time to examine why you feel the need to flirt. Seems like something may be missing in your marriage/relationship. It doesn't take much to cross that line and you're tempting that by flirting. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:54:00 AM | I think most of the posters hit it on the head with: If you are doing something that you have to hide.....then you prob shouldn't be doing it.
And I will go one further: If you are doing something that you wouldn't want your partner to be doing the same thing also...then don't do it.
Pretty simple when you think about it  | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 3:11:53 PM | when the person allows it to go beyond flirting
everyone likes to feel wanted, needed, and inportant
peoples feelings should always be taken into consideration
if you want to flirt and its harmless then your partner should be told about the flirting so they can give you thier input
married people should not flirt if there is any chance of hurting the lifetime partner
thier is wat to much divorice in this country
our people appear unstable to peoples from other countries
and a mistaken identity could be formed
the US must take pains so that other countries do not misjudge us
our media is our worst enemy just read the printed crap they dish out
it must be violent or obnoxious to make the news which is a sad state of affairs | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 3:17:40 PM | It's cheating. Innocent flirting you don't have to hide from your partner.
What you are doing is very different from smile to someone at the grocery store... | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 3:47:54 PM |
When does flirting count as cheating?
OP - flirting never counts as cheating...hence the name flirting and not cheating. They're mutually exclusive. Flirting is flirting. Cheating is cheating. Cheating is never flirting, any more than flirting is ever cheating. C'mon now, this can't be that hard to grasp.
It's insecurity to see people pass it off as "emotional cheating" when someone flirts. If you're a confident sort and self assured, why does it bother you? Simple, you're insecure and not confident or self assured at all. Sad to see so many people get their knickers in a twist over flirting, really.
Flirting is a game. Games have rules of engagement. Break the rules and there'll be consequences. If you don't know the boundaries involved with flirting and you allow it to become intimate, then it's no longer flirting now is it? Then it becomes cheating. Flirting as a general sense, is harmless. People flirt with you and you feel good about yourself. You flirt with people and they feel good about themselves. How is making people feel good and getting those feelings in return from time to time a bad thing?
It ain't.
Somewhere along the lines of evolution, men and women decided to institute the unwritten rule that once they're an item, ALL attentions must be paid to THEM and them alone. It's ridiculous. I flirt because it's part of what makes me, me. All my exes have had to come to grips with that fact. I don't do it to intentionally emotionally stab my mate..I do it because I can, and it comes as natural to me as breathing does to you. I make sure that my mate is included in the flirting though, and maybe this is where the disconnect exists for most...they exclude their partners from the flirsting game. I flirt in public and in private. With strangers and with my SO, whoever I happen to be with at the time. I have enough to go around.
But to see people become so vacuous and selfish as to say or determine that it's somehow a bad thing or denegrading to their mate is preposterous. Only insecure types would be put off or put out by flirting.
I flirt with them. I flirt with you.
I don't go home with them. I go home with you.
Where's the harm?
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:18:45 PM | Flirting is cheating when it's behind your significant others' back.
Once you're doing something they wouldn't approve of if they'd see it, you're cheating. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:50:18 PM | simple.... would you be okay flirting with the girls if your gf was standing behind you watching? if not then it is cheating...
that is my definition of flirting+cheating | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:51:34 PM | | to me, if you flirt, then you have already cheated...obviously you arent getting all you need in the relationship you are in or you wouldnt need to validate yourself by making a profile in a dating site without your parters knowledge | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:20:58 PM | you've flirted on here for two years and ... you're okay with that?
that's a very deceptive past time which has the potential to be destructive.
isn't there a 'flirting site' for married people?
that way you and your partner can flirt with others and share notes...
and leave this dating site for unattached people wishing to meet unattached people | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:53:20 PM | Well let me point out something about flirting online....
I was with a guy, engaged things were great so I thought... well I knew he used to chat with other girls no problem till I ran across some saved conversations on our joint computer. I wasn't happy but I got over it. There were some explicit things but it was flirting so of course I turned a blind eye to it and just went on. It became somewhat of an addiction though to see what he could get away with I think. The text messages started after that while I would be out of state working. I would come home and see them. I got over it. Finally I changed jobs and we moved back in together permanantly again he got surgery and while I was working 14 hour days plus coming home at points throughout the day to check on him to help him do everyday normal tasks such as use the bathroom bathe eat what have you since he couldnt... when he could finally sit up on his own back to his computer he went, I didn't mind we both played WoW alot, so it was good to see him back to somewhat normal I had to search a file on his computer one night and well needless to say I came up on what was starting out as innocent flirting which turned into a sex chat which turned into him inviting her over.... He didn't know this girl either. She never came over thank god I would have broken her legs but we were engaged, I kicked him out but let him back in when he admitted that what he was doing was wrong. He deleted everything off his computer messengers or anything that would let him flirt or converse with others... i didnt ask him to he just did....
When does flirting become cheating, it is when you start sharing intimate feelings with another without your partner knowing, its not fair for your partner to come across something like that it's rather hurtful and makes you feel like you can't trust them.
Needless to say though me and him are no longer together. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 8:10:52 PM | To me I think it is not just the action but the intention motivating the action. In addition to the intention, one should consider the perception of deception (oh my, isn't that poetic... accidental but cool....lol); if the intention is not deceptive then why hide it?
IMO, there are reasons other than "cheating" as to why one might flirt; a low self-esteem, a means of controlling another by keeping them guessing, to hurt another & a myriad of other human ego traits/emotions/perceived needs-desires...
Is what you do cheating? Only you can answer that by what motivates you to do what you do, but, in my opinion, the fact that you hide it from your wife seems to be very deceptive. I also think you should ask yourself about the importance of your wife's feelings & how this might affect the two of you together. Is the flirt worth the risk?
cata | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/12/2008 12:41:41 AM | Luckily, I don't need to have my ego inflated by other women when I'm in a relationship. So, I don't see where engaging in "flirting" would be necessary.
In fact, I prefer they leave me the hell alone. I don't need the trouble.
Not to mention, if you're truly confident that you've still "got it", you don't need constant reassurance by flirting with others. | |
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