| | When is flirting cheating?Page 12 of 17 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17) | If in a relationship, flirting to me, becomes disrespect.
My attention is for him.
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/12/2008 1:10:38 PM |
OP - flirting never counts as cheating...hence the name flirting and not cheating. They're mutually exclusive. Flirting is flirting. Cheating is cheating. Cheating is never flirting, any more than flirting is ever cheating. C'mon now, this can't be that hard to grasp.
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Thanks, BigDaddy, for another well thought out, articulate elaboration on a misunderstood subject.
I don't see flirting so much as a "game" but as a way to exchange energy with people. I was never a flirt until I became a dancer. Flirting was common on the dance floor and at first it startled me because I always misunderstood flirting to be a sexual come-on. It was on the dance floor that I learned it was a playful way to exchange energy with people. I noticed the women that I liked the most, the ones who were warm and generous and giving of their attention, were the biggest flirts. I have now become one of them! I am a *shameless* flirt on the dance floor and sometimes off of it.
One of the keys to successful flirting is paying attention to people's boundaries and respecting them. It should be playful, not sleazy. (Okay, occasionally sleazy with certain people that can work with but in general, no.)
Now I flirt with just about everyone - male, female, old, young, married, single, who cares?- because it's a way to give them some energy. Any guy that doesn't understand that isn't going to last ten minutes with me. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:14:11 PM | | Hi. I'm Ingrid. Flirting to me is also a form of disrespect. Don't do something that you would not do with your spouse standing next to you. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:18:13 PM | | What my ex didnt understand that cheating doesn't have to be physical. You are giving other women the attention that your significant other deserves. And the women you are flirting with think of you having a girlfriend as a challenge. Just ask yourself this, would you say the same things to these women if your girlfriend was around? Probably not, because most likely she would be pissed! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:24:54 PM | ^^^ I don't like being with someone who flirts with guys. If she only does it when I'm not around, then it is twice as bad, since she obviously thinks I wouldn't approve.
I dont flirt with everyone I chat to.
If you only flirt with people you are attracted to, then it shows where your mind is on the issue. If my SO flirts with everybody, it's less of a problem for me than if she only flirts with guys she thinks are attractive. That's just disrespectful. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/12/2008 5:44:45 PM | While I don't think flirting is cheating, I wouldn't want my partner to do it.
Flirting is like sticking your toe in the water to see if it's ok to dive in. Just as horseplay has the potential to escalate into manslaughter and "just a puff" might lead to full-blown addiction, flirting can develop into a drama filled situation. Perhaps the flirter understands his own perspective, but who knows the emotional state of the flirtee? If it is an affection starved person, the act of flirting with him/her may awaken expectations and unleash a deluge of emotion and pursuit that can't be stayed, and now you have a problem on your hands.
Love the one you're with. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/12/2008 6:21:51 PM | I haven't read through all the gazillion posts here - yes! Flirting is cheating.
Anything you couldn't do with your partner right in the room, with her/him watching is cheating to me. Maybe emotional, but still it's cheating the relationship.
If my partner is gonna flirt, it better be with ME! Or he won't be my partner for very long.  | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 6:58:33 PM | If you question it - and wouldn t like it if the situation is reversed - chances are it is not ok.
A guy I recently dated got back on this site - to find someone he lost contact with - hmm well at a stretch maybe. The he got a phone call from a woman on here - hmmmm?? - and inadvertantly ended up talking about the size of his emmm member.
He could not understand why I decided to leave - it was just goofing around and he wasn t intimate with anyone.
Intent - my dear and motive, It just doesn t come up in by the way conversation.
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Posted: 10/12/2008 10:24:02 PM | of course it is scum fish...anything you wouldn't do/say in front of her is cheating
if you flirted with your partner as much as you did with the needy skanks on here that flirt/chat back to you, and the other scum bag dudes that are hooked up, and on a dating site...you'd receive all the attention back from your partner that you could handle to fill that empty ego of yours ...pathetic!
lmao..this thread still on the go since '06...all good..wondern if he ever got busted...left this post for all the "other scum fish" present and future... male and female
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Posted: 10/13/2008 5:28:35 AM | Some people seem to think it's flirting when they do it and cheating when their s/o does
I think it's cheating if you wouldn't feel comfortable doing something with you s/o watching or walking in on you. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/13/2008 11:04:30 PM | Cheating is not limited to sexual intercourse.
There is what that is called Emotional cheating.
When a partner spend his time sharing feelings and discussing his life issues with another female or vice versa. He may feel more and more away from his wife or girlfriend. Most affairs start with an innocent chat, innocent lunch and it finally may end to hurt and divorce.
ofcourse some people can handle many things such as " open relationships". But the general rule is that your partner has the right to know what you are doing.
Always reverse the situation in your mind and judge how it feels to be the other person.
I believe that you need to ask yourself serious questions :
Are you truly happy in your relationship?
Do you find it exciting and fulfiling?
In today society, most infidelities are happening via internet and not in the bars!! The technology has made it so easy to have a double life even!!
It is great that you are questioning your actions. You are on the right track. Talk about it to your partner. The worst and most hurtful thing that can ruin the trust between you two is that she discovers it before you tell her!
There is an interesting book called emotional infidelity written by Dr. Gray Neuman thqt you can read or go to: http://www.californiapsychics.com/articles/Love/477/Emotional_Intimacy.aspx
Good luck.
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Posted: 10/14/2008 11:10:42 PM | let's see...
what would she say if youdid this right infront of her?
what would she say if she could read the things that you are writing?
i bet she'd be hurt.
look, you are on your way out anyway, aren't you? that's why you are "phishing" around. if you meet something "better" you'll be out the door. but what you are doing is the classic move of lining up the next relationship so you won't have to be alone.
you are a jerk. why don't you just leave and leave the poor girl alone.
all you are going to do is hurt her anyway...
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Posted: 10/15/2008 5:03:09 AM | funny.. this is the exact reason I dumped my ex.
But, to be fair, he was not just flirting, he was telling one girl how beautiful she is and that he loved her.. and asking out other ones..
Although what he did is probably going a little further than what you're doing, I still think you should stop it and flirt with your partner instead.
I feel that flirting is not only disrespectful to your partner, but also unfair to the girls your flirting with as you are leading them on. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/15/2008 5:17:07 AM | Just cosigning with all who said that if you wouldn't do it in front of your partner and/or you wouldn't want your partner to do it - then it's cheating.
I'll add to that - if you wouldn't want to see your dad doing what you're doing with other women behind mom's back or vice versa, then it's cheating.
From my perspective, cheating isn't just about physical intimacy. It's about the dishonesty, deception, and disrespect to the partner & relationship that cause the damage. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/23/2008 10:25:57 PM | I flirt with my s/o and no one else, being friendly to others should not cross the line. To me flirting is the beginning of enticement.........
just my op | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/24/2008 6:45:08 PM | | If I am with someone as a relationship, I would not flirt with anyone else. Why? It is not only disrespectful, but flat out stupid. There is no need for it. I know people who do it and it leads to a lot of unecessary bullshit. Besides, if you love who you are with, I would think you would not stray. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/26/2008 1:20:30 PM | If I am simply thanking a gentleman for a compliment, I do not consider that flirting. If I am chatting online or IRL with other men without my partner's knowledge , then I am flirting.
In my mind, if one is truly content in their romantic relationship, flirting with someone other than one's partner wouldn't even be a consideration. As someone above me has already pointed out, doing so would be disrespectful...of the bond and the commitment I supposedly share with my partner. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/26/2008 2:47:53 PM | | My rule on cheating is this: Think about how your partner would feel if they found out about it. If you think they'd be upset, you shouldn't be doing it. Think about how you'd feel if your partner were doing it. If you'd be upset, you shouldn't be doing it. And finally, if you feel you have to hide it, it's probably cheating. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/26/2008 4:29:24 PM | | I that it becomes cheating when you feel you have to hide what you are doing....its emotioal cheating, the serious flirting should be for your parter. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/27/2008 1:20:32 PM | | I think this poster summed it up best. Flirting borders on cheating when it involves any comment/mannerism/affectation you might have with a member of the opposite sex (or the same sex, depending on which way you swing :p) that you would otherwise refrain from doing in the presence of your partner. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/27/2008 1:22:04 PM | | I think poster (000firefighter) has it in a nutshell. Flirting borders on cheating when it involves any comment/mannerism/affectation you might have with a member of the opposite sex (or the same sex, depending on which way you swing :p) that you would otherwise refrain from doing in the presence of your partner. Nuff said. | |
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