| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 8/30/2006 2:44:53 PM | | I don't think that you can equate flirting with cheating, Flirting is a purely verbal or baody language thing. It may make someone jealous to see it but is it ever cheating. I flirt quite often it's my nature. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 8/30/2006 3:26:41 PM |
It's not cheating per se but it's disrespectful. You say you are happily married so why don't you delete your profile and go spend some happy time with your wife instead?
I find what you do disrespectful. Find a better pastime.
I have to agree, I think it is quite disrespectful. IMHO, if you are asking the question here then you have doubts as to if you are being faithful at which point it is time to stop doing whatever it is you are doing. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 8/30/2006 3:36:55 PM | Flirting to people you meet in a casual everyday situation is innocent. But obviously you are getting an emotional pay off by going online to seek out females to feed your ego.
And yes i would say that is a problem. Not just about cheating, but that your not happy enough with yourself to not seek validation from every woman you "find" | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 8/30/2006 3:46:36 PM | Flirting hurts when its found out about, if youre with someone then i would say that chatting with someone online when your partner doesnt know about it crosses the line.
Ive been chatting on and off for a few years now, but only when im single. Thats the best way, i found out that an ex was on a site similar to this and was very hurt - this is a dating site, if you have a date or a partner, you dont need to be here!! | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 9:50:36 AM | ..i have to agree with the majority of people the flirting is not cheating..what some people may consider flirting might just be one's way of comfortable chatting with someone they work with, or see frequently, or even someone they never met before..we all have our own ways about us..how we look, how we act, how we speak to other people..so you can't define one way or another specifically as cheating to ALL people..sure, if i say, hey..nice ass..wanna f*ck?..that's flirting across the board for anyone that says it..but if i say to one of my friend's girlfriends..hey sexy..what's up?..that's not flirting..even though the wife or girlfriend you have might not like it (aka..jealous), its not cheating..cheating is when you have physical contact with someone that is more then just a friendship..such as a buddy hug or kiss or somethin..it can be an emotional connection too, other then the kind you have with a professional, such as a psychologist or counselor..flirting is not always harmless, as it can lead to other things, or even mislead someone else that doesn't understand your personality..so you should be semi cautious when flirting with someone you don't know..  | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 10:05:06 AM | I'm told I was born a flirt. I flirt with EVERYONE though...girls and gusy alike. It's just my personality. Obviously not something that can be hidden or kept from my significant other unless they are blind and/or deaf..haha!
I think that being in a relationship and having to frequent dating sites to flirt is simply telling me that you need to start flirting with your girlfriend/wife a little more and finding out where that leads you! If it's something you are compelled to do so badly, then you need to let her know what is going on, how you feel, what you are doing and let her decide what she thinks is cheating. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 10:48:20 AM | | Your close enough. Don't do it. Find something else as an innocent pastime. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 12:36:13 PM | Flirting is cheating when the flirting turns into a hot nookie session.
Flirting for the 'most part' is harmless and playful. As long as you and the person you are flirting are aware it is harmless fun then its all good.
It's when the other person takes it more seriously than it's intended.
Flirting is a healthy expression of your sexuality. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 12:47:47 PM | | You are flirting because it boosts your self-esteem... Stop doing it unless you want to loose your partner. She will either find out or you will take it to the next level and cheat on her. Your EGO WILL get the best of you and then you will be sorry. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 1:58:16 PM | In my jobs, I work with the public directly, and 99% of them are folks I know well. I tend to be a bit flirtatious when I talk to close friends/acquaintences who come in. But they know and I know that once they walk out the door, there is no way in hell I would lay a hand on them. If they thought otherwise, the flirting would end right there. When it comes to online flirting, I wouldn't do it. No way. The person on the other end may have a distorted view of where the flirting is leading, and there's the problem. My SO knows I am flirtatious at work, and he also knows that it is totally without a chance of going further. I've told him and I meant it, that the thought of touching another man would be like stabbing myself in the heart, and he is secure with that.
So to answer your question, it depends on the circumstances, and whether all involved are aware of the innocence of it. If you can't say your SO knows of it and doesn't mind or wouldn't be hurt, and if you can't say that the person who is on the receiving end knows it is without chance of anything further, or if you yourself would entertain anything further coming from it, then nip it in the bud. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 2:06:41 PM | | One should follow their heart and do the best things possible on our path. Follow a path of light. If you have enough doubt about what you are doing (if it is right or not) and enough to ask this question.......STOP IT - YOU'RE DOING WRONG -= YOU'RE NOT FOLLLOWING YOUR HEART - THE SPIRIT IS GIVING YOU MAJOR LITTLE STOP LIGHTS!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 5:48:04 PM | | If you want to do someone other then a committed partner, then you shouldn't be flirting with them on an ongoing basis while you're with your partner | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 5:59:46 PM | I love to flirt but then again I may have had a labotomy!
I think flirting is healthy but when it hurts someone else its called disrespect.
Do unto others as you would have done unto you. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 6:14:33 PM | If you are doing in thing online ( or in real life ) with another woman that your partner would be upset about you are cheating.
I think you knew the answer before you asked the question.
If the show was on the other foot, how would you feel? | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 6:43:58 PM | Shyguy,
I have read the entries from others and am weighing this out pro or con. As has been brought up before, you wouldn’t post it if you didn’t feel on some level that it may qualify as cheating in your definition of the term.
It can be relative as I see both sides state that it is or isn’t, but it actually is what it means to you. Only you know what conversation is composed between yourself and the women you come across.
We are all accountable to ourselves and what we do, what you set up between yourself and your wife as acceptable behavior. And you know the answer better then any one on here.
Is there deceit involved with this innocent flirting? Certainly sounds that way if she’s in the dark.
Is it physical contact? No, so in that respect it’s not cheating. But what is in your heart and mind?
I think there is a vast difference between harmless out in the open flirting and winking with the knowledge with all parties involved that it is “all in fun”… and sitting in a closeted room, watching your back because someone might just walk up behind you. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 6:54:52 PM | first of all, what do you consider to be 'flirting'? I've had several guys IM me to 'flirt', and assume that flirting means cyber sex- but they dont want to call it cybersex, so they say 'flirting'. Is this what you are doing? Little innuendos and a basic attraction to someone without follow thru is flirting. Asking their bra size and sexual habits isnt flirting, that is cybersex.
Would you be upset if your wife were attracting strange men and doing the same thing you are doing? | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 6:57:49 PM | I think you need to look at the intention behind the flirting....is it for your benifit? What is the point of flirting for you????
IF I was driving down the road and saw a man I felt attracted to in a physical sense, do I follow it through with flirting? What would be my intention?
I think its cheating when you feel your recieving the desired effect.
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:07:30 PM | There is, of course, such a thing as innocent flirting, and there's no such thing
as innocent cheating.....so they don't equate well, but if you NEED a "rule"
here you go:
You've crossed the line when the person you're flirting with doesn't consider
it to be innocent flirting! Wether you mean it or not......if they think you do
you've crossed the line......and more important than when you think you've
crossed the line is when your SO would think you've crossed the line.....do
you really need your ego stroked badly enough to jeapordize your relationship?
Do you dumbass? 
sorry.........er.....no I'm not!
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 8:01:50 PM | If you're falling in love with someone, flirting has become cheating. Betrayal of the heart is worse than any other. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 8:42:37 PM | | You have a wife so flirt with her and leave the single people alone.We have enough to deal with single players without married people flirting and carrying on.You are in a marriage to a woman you supposedly love,act like it and give her your attention.I am sure she'd appreciate it alot more.If you have this "need" to flirt with women then do your wife a favor and STEP cause you are doing her a great disservice and showing nothing but disrespect for her,your marriage and everyone around by behaving like a ASS.At least let her free to find someone that will love ,appreciate and not sneak around and flirt with other women.I know of 3 couples in the last year who are divorcing due to one or other of the partners getting caught flirting cheating and chatting it up with others.Is your marriage worth it??It's not like you are seperated or getting a divorce so why be here on a dating site??Keep it up and you'll have to be on one cause she will walk if she's smart.Noone likes things done behind thier back. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/12/2006 9:20:25 PM | | When is flirting cheating....the first time you do it. Sounds like you have been pretty busy. You will get caught. Do your wife a favor and leave her. You already have emotionally. She deserves better than you. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/13/2006 2:55:26 AM | | No, this is not cheating at all, it's just a great way to keep a healthy relationship. I think your partner should do the same... | |
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