| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/23/2006 2:50:28 AM | When you are hiding what you are doing from the person you are with or suppose to care about or you lie about it, it is a slight form of cheating.
If you are into someone or care about someone or are with someone, you should not be sending flirty emails to the ladies.
There is nothing wrong with emailing ladies as email buddies, don't get me wrong but you should be keeping it just friendly and letting them know that you have someone or are into someone.
Just my opinion.
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/23/2006 6:56:57 AM | Basically if you're doing something that would bother your partner if they were there, it's wrong.
If you disagree with what your partner views as acceptable then find someone who shares your values. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/23/2006 7:20:03 AM | If your partner is not pleased at your on line activities... you are cheating. If she is... then she is probably in denial or just dumb! You are robbing your primary relationship of valuable 'emotional' and 'spiritual' energy. Thats cheating in my book.
I've been single for over 8 years. Personally, I don't like people like you who are in relationships contaminating the personals with their disordered needs and agendas! When you made the choice to enter into a marriage with your partner, you also made the choice to give up the personals. Get the Hell out of here!
And then you have the audacity to come on here posting a thread wondering if you are innapropropriate??? YES! And. As you can plainly see.... 99 percent aggree with me. Please take their answers (advice) literally and wipe yourself out of here.. and anyother personals you are in. If you are not satisfied with your wife... do her a big favor and leave her. Even if you do that.... please wait for at least a year before coming in here. You have some work to do. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/23/2006 9:00:55 AM | Being by yourself flirting is never cheating with a 1000 differents people.
Being in an relationship is cheating (by intention) when stops being jokes but seriuos, friendly but an opened pursue or when you don't know the difference and questioned yourself about it. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/23/2006 9:11:09 AM | Sorry, I believe that flirting with anyone is wrong when you are in a relationship. Friends are fine. But if what you are saying to another you know would hurt your partner. Than it's just wrong. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/23/2006 9:18:07 AM | | Basically, if you have to do something only when your partner is not there, then what you are doing is more than likely wrong. Ask yourself "would I be doing this if my partner was here" - that is a great morality check. | |
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Tarra
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Joined: 7/22/2006
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/24/2006 11:48:17 AM | I suppose I am just a very open minded individual. I am also a hopeless flirt. I would not feel insecure to know that my SO is flirting online with his female friends. Absolutely not at all, would it bother me. As long as we have an understanding that I will be doing the same with my male friends ;) I would even watch female webcams with him.......However, I am not talking about trashy chats or cybersex. That is crossing the line.
It all comes down to trust..........that simple. You trust each other or you don't. Flirting is harmless as long as there is honesty in the relationship. You wouldn't feel guilty about it, or be sneaking around or hiding it behind their back.
Tara | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/24/2006 1:36:23 PM | flirting comes in many forms, some people think talking with someone is flirting when laughing and smiles are included. i think flirting is when you're trying to get into someone's pants and handing out your number to everyone. if you have to change your personality for that other person, then i believe the problem is bigger than flirting. if there isn't trust in a relationship, i think it's doomed from there!  | |
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Lyra
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Joined: 9/11/2006
Msg: 111 | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/25/2006 7:12:36 AM | "Basically, if you have to do something only when your partner is not there, then what you are doing is more than likely wrong. Ask yourself "would I be doing this if my partner was here" - that is a great morality check."
Maybe, but not necessarily. If your nor married, even less so. But regardless if your just here posting to forums and you don't wanna take the time to explain yourself or see no reason to even bring it up, then why do so? No need to start a fight or discussion for no reason. Even if you do "get caught" somehow, they could see your not doing anything harmful. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/25/2006 12:52:26 PM | Well it wouldnt be flirting if you were doing it with your SO there would it LOL | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/25/2006 2:09:37 PM | I think you should ask yourself how you would feel if your girlfriend is flirting with other men online. You may think its innocent for now, but "accidents" do happen. You may just get reeled in by someone you find irresistable. Then what?
And for what purpose are you flirting with other women online. Is your ego in that bad a shape? | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 9/25/2006 2:24:01 PM | Let me get this straight.....If there is no emotional exchange (can't talk), no physical exchange (can't touch, must use latex), no feelings, one time only and one foot is on the floor (aka...Bill C.), it's ok.
Whew, that was tough. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/6/2006 3:52:30 PM | "Huh? So if you do it out in the open and admit your cheating truthfully, its not cheating??
I didn't understand lol sorry"
If you say, "I'm going to be with this other person now." That is not called cheating. It is called leaving someone for someone else. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/6/2006 4:51:06 PM | | Ok. You have a partner and you are on a dating website. You are asking if it is ok to flirt with women or is it cheating. Sounds like you are cheating to me if you come to a dating website to flirt with women. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/6/2006 4:59:08 PM | Flirting online is cheating?? Well I nevahhhh... I don't think it's cheating at all. All it is is words on your screen  | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/6/2006 6:22:43 PM | | Flirting is innocent , it's just pure fun that's all with no intentions to go further. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/6/2006 7:32:21 PM | | it sounds to me like you really don't have a sincere, close relationship if you desire to flirt with other women. Isn't your partner sexy?..pick-up the phone tell her you want to flirt. Stop being an ass hoe. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/7/2006 3:07:51 AM | | Bad Johnny! Bad! Gotta treat a dog like a dog I say. If you have any honor what so ever Johnny, you'll tell your woman about your doings. And if she has any self-decency, then she'll drop you in record breaking time. Someone here said, this is a dating site, not a playground and thats absolutely right. Bad dog! Bad Johnny dog! (pushes his nose in sh*t). | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/7/2006 6:17:19 PM | | Flirting is never cheating. When the clothes come off thats when the cheating begins... | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 10/7/2006 7:54:29 PM | Here's my two cents-
But my permanent partner is in the dark. I dont want to hurt anyone, and I consider that flirting on line is an innocent pastime - but is it? When does flirting count as cheating?
It's simple- if you don't want to hurt anyone........don't.
If you told your wife, would she be hurt? Would she consider this as cheating? Because in this context, to be fair, it's really her who has the right to measure this.
You are in a committed relationship. Nothing wrong with chatting. But if your wife woud object, and be hurt, then I would advise you to stop. Figure out what it is you get from these flirt partners, and seek that out from your wife. Buy some books, see a counselor, and fix this.
And a lot of people are going to hate this, but you have to tell her. If she is fine with it, then great. You have a clear conscience and she'll respect you for being a stand-up guy.
If she is angry, well, you're going to have to deal with it. But I can nearly guarantee you that the anger you get from telling her will pale in compared to if she finds out on her own.
And apologize, and mean it. | |
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