| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/12/2006 11:13:33 PM | | The question to those who think it is harmless would be, what are you trying to accomplish? Why do you feel the need to flirt? No, it's not harmless. It's disrespectful. And no we don't all do it. If I found out what op was doing, I would dump them on the spot. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/13/2006 6:05:14 AM | ^^^^^Ah, lighten up a bit^^^^
I bet chances are you do it, and don't realize it. I believe innuendos are often flirting....maybe I'm wrong.
Nothing wrong with light hearted flirting. I do notice that my female friends that I have known 10,20 0r more years seem to be a little stronger with it now then the eariler years. (note almost ALL are in good relationships or married)
I post before, but another answer came to mind that is the clencher for when flirting becomes cheating.
When you're in over your head and up to your @ss
For the guys that is.
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/13/2006 9:44:25 AM | | If it's something you couldn't/wouldn't do if your partner was in the room. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:11:14 AM |  Flirting is just that using your personality,charm to get attention.Harmless as flirting is,some do take a flirt as serious.Wellthen you have a problem.I myself love to flirt,have always been.But I ALSO CAN STEP BACK AND SEE IF SOMEONE IS TAKING IT THE WRONG WAY.I think in flirting its harmless till taken out of context.When that happens you have a problem. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/13/2006 11:35:30 AM | Flirting is cheating if the guy you are with doesn't appreciate you doing so and you know it but it's used as an 'in your face' weapon to hurt.
It's cheating when you know inside that you'd really rather not be with the one you're with and you're shopping around.
Stuff like that I'd say. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/13/2006 11:40:45 AM | In the animal kingdom it's called a "mating dance" or "mating chant".
In the human kingdom it's called flirting, Hmmmm.....Flirting is cheating when it's done for self gain and or propositional inuendo.
You have a mate, so quit dancing for another.
JMO
Best wishes to all
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/13/2006 1:08:57 PM | | Yes but if your not with a better half you can flirt allyou want.And it helps to feel better | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/13/2006 4:54:59 PM | If I'm single I will flirt only because I may be interested in the man, I typically don't feel the need to flirt for fun I don't crave insincere attention from men.
When I'm with a partner and we are in a social gathering I would hope he would extend enough respect for me not to be flirting with other woman just as I would show to him, chances are if he did flirt he wouldn't be around long. If woman find my guy handsome and are attracted to his personality ,I'm flattered because I know he is coming home with me.  | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 9:07:42 AM | Why is it that every time I comment on a forum, the end is read? I need to post my own questions obviously for I get no response.
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 9:21:32 AM | I think flirting is totally subjective. If you are married you are in a different place than single people or people in a "committed" relationship.
If you are single - anything goes as you only answer to yourself.
If you are married you have the feelings of another to consider, does your wife/husband know and if so how would they feel. If I was married and I was not hiding an affair or looking for an affair, I would have no problem letting my husband either join me while on the forums as entertainment or reading what I post, as I could never cheat on someone I gave my heart to - just not me and I expect the same in return from someone who gives me their heart.
If you are in a "committed" relationship - to me this means that you are looking to see if this relationship is on its way to getting married. So, once again you would need to consider the feelings of your partner and include your partner to participate in the forums if you are really only on them for fun and not "shopping" for something else or something on the side.
To all the single people who have a problem with married people on this site "suck it up" as forums are about conversation, sharing ideas, thoughts and a place to ask questions. There are as many dishonest single people out there as there are married or "commintted", so do your homework and look after yourself. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 2:36:08 PM | **HORSESH**__**
Flirting is NOT harmless behaviour and is NOT done with ease. If you flirt, you are expressing something of yourself with demeanor and intention, and to do so while in a loving,committed relationship is infidelic in my eyes.
BAD bad post...I need to go lay down....Oooooh this steams me!! | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:17:36 PM | >>But my permanent partner is in the dark >When does flirting count as cheating?<<
You just answered your own question!! | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 4:47:15 PM | Still on an online dating site when you have a permanent partner = betrayal...
Still on an online dating site and your permanent partner is in "the dark" about it = cheating...
Still on an online dating site cuz your permanent partner left you = PRICELESS!! | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 5:17:13 PM | | Bronze Gourmet...I don't have a permanent partner so I can "flirt" all I want...and believe it or not, I talk mostly about football and have made some good online friends that I probably will never meet at all. Not always about flirting, darling! (whoever is #1,000 gets a "real date" with me...gimme a break, will ya?!) | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:04:05 PM | Clickit13 - msg 164
LMAO - Oh I haven't laughed this hard in days!! Good one! (Master Card should be offering you a job) | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:26:00 PM | **Clikit** **Bronze Gourmet** and
**Curious Mouse**
This is priceless!!!!! You folks are great, much fun.
God Bless y'all!
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/8/2007 4:56:47 PM | i think u already know the answer to your question here ! i think u are looking for attention in the wrong place !!!!  | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/8/2007 5:17:15 PM | If you are hiding it from your partner, then you don't think she would be okay with it..... If you didn't think anything was wrong with it, why hide it from her?
My guess is that you think she'd think you were cheating... | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/8/2007 5:46:12 PM | | I agree with ^^^^^. You are already questioning your ethics about your on line antidoctes......you know it's wrong because you haven't told your partner, "she is in the dark".....I can tell you this much....if I had a boyfriend that was flirting on line with females and chatting with females in a sexual manner....I would be pissed and that would totally break any sort of "trust" I had for the man.....once the trust is gone.....it's really hard to get back..... | |
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Joined: 11/20/2006
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| What r we doin??
Posted: 1/8/2007 6:05:42 PM | Ive met a guy here on the internet,weve been out on 4 dates,He says were hangin out & more,Oh no, just kissin only!!! He says he really cares,but his EX was a ****,so he wants 2 wait & see how things go 4 us,he says hes trusts me,I want 2 know how long should i wait,i like him,but im 56 & hes 41 the age bothers me more than him,never married & dont want kids,Ive also been scared since my husband died,Cant go threw that ever again!!!! HELP-oldies | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/8/2007 6:15:09 PM | | It depends. I only think it's cheating if you take it any further. I don't think there's any harm in flirting and i think everybody does it. What your wife doesn't know can't hurt her after all! As long as you don't cross the line. I think sending inappropriate pictures, or talking dirty is crossing the line and would be very disrespectful to your wife. You do say you tell the other people you chat to that your married so it's upto them if they want to continue messaging you or not - they are adults after all. Also, if you spend alot of time messaging strangers instead of talking to your wife then it is a problem and i think you need to look at you marriage and try and find out why this is. I do wonder why if your marriage is good you conseal your online chats from your wife though! Why not try flirting with your wife? Overall, i don't think it's a question of cheating but a question of respect - is what your doing respectful to your wife? Also, how does it affect your marriage, does your online hobby take you away from her? If it affects the marriage in any way then i would say stop. Otherwise, a bit of an ego boost is good for you and therefore good for your marriage - if your happy, chances are you'll make her happy! | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 1/8/2007 6:16:25 PM | | It is cheating to some degree, or you would tell your partner. Why are you hiding it? I think you already know the answer to your question. | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/5/2007 11:31:34 PM | | i think flirting is cheating when you are interacting with people in a way that if your partner found out he wouldnt be happy about it...everyone has their own limitations in relationships on what they consider acceptable or not...why dont you just be honest with him about what you are doing and if hes cool with it,you can get rid of this guilt feeling and if he doesnt like what ur doing, then you could reassess the relationship and decide what is more valuable to you | |
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| When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 7/6/2007 12:25:33 AM | | In my experience with men and husbands, most of them flirted with other women in front of me and behind my back. I like talking to many people, so I can understand. The problem was when I started flirting, it was not ok. I would just politely say, " Now you know how it feels". It's when your partner don't know you flirt, then it's not ok. If I had a boyfriend and he was flirting all the time in my face, you can bet I'm going to do the same thing, everytime I get the chance. It won't make any difference if he likes it or not. He will know this because I will tell him. "Now that's not to say the relationship is a serious" one or a healthy one. Yes, I will take that chance because I want to see how far he will go. If he decides to dump me I am better off. He may think I should take anything he dishes out. I believe very strong in equality. However, I feel flirting can be a little healthy for a relationship, as long as nothing is going on. It sometimes helps keep a partner on his toes and from taking you for granted. Although not recomended, at times we can be tempted. We may find we are attracted to the people we are flirting with. At that point it is time to quit. | |
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