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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:28:38 PM | | I am 42 and all I want above all things including a handsome man is honesty, Loyalty and a good hug every now and again. Its as easy as that!!!!!!!!! | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/24/2007 2:57:25 AM | I can only comment for myself, but I'm a 41 year old woman, and I think the main difference is as you get older you realise that relationships don't work based on just initial attraction. There has to be more about a persons character, and you have to feel a sense of respect and admiration for them before you could even contemplate falling in love with them, so you pretty much know straight away if a person isn't the kind of person you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Maybe it's heightened instincts through experience, I'm not sure, but I know when I was younger, I didn't really have a clue what I was looking for in a person, so long as he was good looking. Now my criteria is completely different. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 10/18/2007 7:07:35 AM | I appreciate all the insight. I always have heard that women are looking for "character' and honesty, loyaly etc. and looking past the surface -- but unfortunately i have found in real life that just the opposite is true -- Woman seem to jabe a "laundry list' of character traits" they want in a man -- but then say "must be tall and have money" And tis comes from women who are like 5 foot --nothing -- looking for guys over 5 '11! How does one translate to the other? How does how tall a man is or what his carries in is wallet -- have anything to do with his character or the content of his heart & soul? Please example that to me --won't you? innocent: i am not 'crying ' here -- -- just making a obervations. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 10/19/2007 12:13:47 AM | Oh. My. Gawd.
Know what I think? They don't know what they want either. Oh, they say they do, but they really don't.
Women like to shop. We all know this. When they go and buy something, they look here and there, whereas a man generally knows what he wants and buys it at the first store he goes into. Women are looking for bargains. They have an idea what they think they want, but they are never satisfied with what is there: always looking for something that isn't. Looking for the bargain. They want the same thing in the man they are looking for: a bargain.
In my early years, I shared MY house for 2 years with a MAN who earned twice my income and contributed 1/4 to the cost of living--and he bought a house with a swimming pool (in Seattle, where it always rains) with the money he saved up by living with me.
Shopping? Looking for a bargain or a free ride? This tendency is NOT gender specific, but I have derived a sense of suspicion that notices when all the dating ideas, plans, dinners are coming from yours truly...and without wanting to be mean, I start to shine an interrogative spotlight on a "coaster" who's in it for the free ride.
Ain't it a pity that this is a fact of life? Co-workers who play Solitaire for hours rather than try to be part of the SOLUTION...these amount to 75% of the workforce, in my experience. ANd they also learn NOT TO MAKE WAVES, but are 'in for the kill' if they sense carrion. It is disgusting. It is male and female alike. But you know what? I have more fun DOING than lying in wait for a free ride.
The lack of interest--IMHO--is because church is where we learn to be generous and forgiving. A singles group in a church is an oxymoron that attracts those who may have either carrion-seeking or confrontation avoidance behaviors. Neither is all that attractive. It's a social group. If you're "meat" they'll surely let you know. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 10/19/2007 6:07:14 AM |
I've read the threads following mine. I'll stick to the premise I alluded to: 1. Women don't know what they want in a guy and 2. If what they want actually came in contact with them, they wouldn't know, because they're too busy deciding.
Flame away ladies.
Ron, no flaming here...I agree with your post. I for one am going on 42 and have no clue what I want. Which is the very reason I put dating as my choice in my profile.
I have had 2 marriages, am still raising kids, and the only thing I know for SURE is that I don't want to be "NEEDED" as in clinging to me constantly, never letting me breathe needed. I want to be WANTED...as in, when we are not together you think about being with me, but it is with a smile on your face, not fear in your heart that I don't want you as much. Wanted as in...when we are together, you are not fearful that when I am doing my own thing in the next room (laundry, reading a book, whatever) that it is because I am trying to avoid you, but rather you smile and I smile back because we are so comfortable with each other.
Simple...but oh so hard to find. | |
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