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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:28:38 PM | | I am 42 and all I want above all things including a handsome man is honesty, Loyalty and a good hug every now and again. Its as easy as that!!!!!!!!! | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/24/2007 2:57:25 AM | I can only comment for myself, but I'm a 41 year old woman, and I think the main difference is as you get older you realise that relationships don't work based on just initial attraction. There has to be more about a persons character, and you have to feel a sense of respect and admiration for them before you could even contemplate falling in love with them, so you pretty much know straight away if a person isn't the kind of person you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Maybe it's heightened instincts through experience, I'm not sure, but I know when I was younger, I didn't really have a clue what I was looking for in a person, so long as he was good looking. Now my criteria is completely different. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 10/18/2007 7:07:35 AM | I appreciate all the insight. I always have heard that women are looking for "character' and honesty, loyaly etc. and looking past the surface -- but unfortunately i have found in real life that just the opposite is true -- Woman seem to jabe a "laundry list' of character traits" they want in a man -- but then say "must be tall and have money" And tis comes from women who are like 5 foot --nothing -- looking for guys over 5 '11! How does one translate to the other? How does how tall a man is or what his carries in is wallet -- have anything to do with his character or the content of his heart & soul? Please example that to me --won't you? innocent: i am not 'crying ' here -- -- just making a obervations. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 10/19/2007 12:13:47 AM | Oh. My. Gawd.
Know what I think? They don't know what they want either. Oh, they say they do, but they really don't.
Women like to shop. We all know this. When they go and buy something, they look here and there, whereas a man generally knows what he wants and buys it at the first store he goes into. Women are looking for bargains. They have an idea what they think they want, but they are never satisfied with what is there: always looking for something that isn't. Looking for the bargain. They want the same thing in the man they are looking for: a bargain.
In my early years, I shared MY house for 2 years with a MAN who earned twice my income and contributed 1/4 to the cost of living--and he bought a house with a swimming pool (in Seattle, where it always rains) with the money he saved up by living with me.
Shopping? Looking for a bargain or a free ride? This tendency is NOT gender specific, but I have derived a sense of suspicion that notices when all the dating ideas, plans, dinners are coming from yours truly...and without wanting to be mean, I start to shine an interrogative spotlight on a "coaster" who's in it for the free ride.
Ain't it a pity that this is a fact of life? Co-workers who play Solitaire for hours rather than try to be part of the SOLUTION...these amount to 75% of the workforce, in my experience. ANd they also learn NOT TO MAKE WAVES, but are 'in for the kill' if they sense carrion. It is disgusting. It is male and female alike. But you know what? I have more fun DOING than lying in wait for a free ride.
The lack of interest--IMHO--is because church is where we learn to be generous and forgiving. A singles group in a church is an oxymoron that attracts those who may have either carrion-seeking or confrontation avoidance behaviors. Neither is all that attractive. It's a social group. If you're "meat" they'll surely let you know. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 10/19/2007 6:07:14 AM |
I've read the threads following mine. I'll stick to the premise I alluded to: 1. Women don't know what they want in a guy and 2. If what they want actually came in contact with them, they wouldn't know, because they're too busy deciding.
Flame away ladies.
Ron, no flaming here...I agree with your post. I for one am going on 42 and have no clue what I want. Which is the very reason I put dating as my choice in my profile.
I have had 2 marriages, am still raising kids, and the only thing I know for SURE is that I don't want to be "NEEDED" as in clinging to me constantly, never letting me breathe needed. I want to be WANTED...as in, when we are not together you think about being with me, but it is with a smile on your face, not fear in your heart that I don't want you as much. Wanted as in...when we are together, you are not fearful that when I am doing my own thing in the next room (laundry, reading a book, whatever) that it is because I am trying to avoid you, but rather you smile and I smile back because we are so comfortable with each other.
Simple...but oh so hard to find. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/18/2009 5:51:39 AM | My question is this. When women are searching for guys (do they even?) Do they look for a guy who seeks long term or one who's just looking? Want's friends or talk for starters and then wants to see what happends. Who do you find yourself contacting more often ladies?
Oh, I'm not in here often so please message me with any tips :p | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/18/2009 7:27:09 AM | I dated a lady over 40 although I am in my thirties. I believe they don't care about the money, but the great moments that shared together. They like to feel mentally comfortable when they have sex. You can rock them up, and they will give you better feedback than the young ....
So a mature, considerate man with sense of humor is preferred.
I like mature ladies, and looking forward to know more of them. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/19/2009 12:50:58 AM | | well i was with my ex for 25 years and i find that most women over 40 think they know what they arelooking for but find out in theend that they made a mistake and then its to late whether its pride or what ever they cant just say im sorry or lets work it out but tell them to go to a doctor and maybe it will help then your a complete ***hole . but we have the problem i guess | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/19/2009 12:53:21 AM | | well how many emailsnot have you returned because the pic looks bad beleive me pics are not what they seem | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/19/2009 1:01:45 AM | | your right when your younger looks is and popularity are num 1 but now with some people as we get older and on our second time around i find that women ask for financial stability and allthe bells and whistles they didnt have before . but it usually backfires because they are so set on having the perfect guy and home and fairytale life but thats what ive noticed what doi know | |
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| Most women over 40 think they know what they are looking for but
Posted: 9/19/2009 2:04:48 AM | ... "but find out in the end that they made a mistake and then it's too late whether its pride or what ever they can't just say I'm sorry or lets work it out."
Interesting perspective...
And some are into personal growth and try to work it out-month after month, year after year to no avail....finally realizing that it is OVER...and they are ready to move on...
They realize that it "takes two" willing hearts to create and maintain a loving, successful relationship: based in truth, respect..equality, mutual give & take and lots of compromise.
IMO, happiness "within" each person is required FIRST....so many people are looking for someone to make them happy...or seeking happiness from "outside" themselves...when what they really need to do first, is create it "within" themselves..
Once that happens, I think it is so much easier to find someone...cuz' then you're not looking for someone to fill up an emptiness..you are looking for a "complimentary spirit" to share life with.  | |
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| Most women over 40 think they know what they are looking for but
Posted: 9/19/2009 3:55:16 AM |
IMO, happiness "within" each person is required FIRST....so many people are looking for someone to make them happy...or seeking happiness from "outside" themselves...when what they really need to do first, is create it "within" themselves..
I intellectually regurgitate that mindset everytime I see someone express it. If someone is so damn happy on their own, then what in the sam hell do they need with a mate? Just buy a battery operated boyfriend or a blow up lady and live out the rest of your years in peaceful solitude in the midst of all your self-provided happiness... because you're soooo damn HAPPY just with yourself. God I get so sick of hearing people spout that crap.
Love is about completing each other; emotional codependence is a reality in any healthy and functional relationship... without it, you don't have a relationship; you have a glorified friendship. | |
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| I intellectually regurgitate that mindset everytime I see someone express it.
Posted: 9/19/2009 4:37:18 AM | youcanimagine,
I'm not going to label you...or judge you....I think the words below taken directly from your profile speak volumes...
Can I ask just one little question though?
If you were a magnet....how would you draw women to you?
"I'm still searching because in all my years I have never met a girl that is willing or capable within a relationship, of giving me the true communication, reassurance and reciprocation of my efforts that I need in order to be happy. I've never known a girl, ever, that didn't seem to need an instruction manual to understand how to just simply communicate, and make an effort. I've encountered hopeless and absolute incompetence regarding emotion and communication, with every single girl that I've ever been involved with. That may sound ugly but it's the God's honest truth of my experiences; there have not been any exceptions." | |
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| I intellectually regurgitate that mindset everytime I see someone express it.
Posted: 9/19/2009 5:14:01 AM | | Auburn, I won't pretend that this is meant respectfully because it isn't; you aren't someone I respect. The most tasteless thing I ever see anyone do on this site is to quote portions of someone's profile here publically in a forum, as a means by which to embarrass them. You and those like you, revolt me. | |
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| What do women over 40 want?
Posted: 9/19/2009 8:55:08 AM | | A meanuful relationship.Someone that can committ themselves 100% into a meaningful relationship. From being able to stay at home and spend quality time together, or just driving down a country road and see where it leads to. Life is to short for the games people play on these sites. I am looking for someone that is ready to settle down with me, and enjoy what life we have together. | |
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