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| Custody, one week on, one week off???
Posted: 4/9/2007 12:53:17 PM |
Poor kids... I think it would be hard on a child to flip back and forth every week!
I brought that up in a thread and was shouted down by a few parents who have it and who say there are no ill effects. I remain unconvinced. I knew Judge years ago who was confronted with this (when it was very new) - his decision? The parents should rent an apartment and THEY shoulld move every week - one week into the house to live with the kids and next week to live in the apartment - that was his signed order. After 6 months of shuffling THEIR POSSESSIONS BACK AND FORTH, they were back in court seeking a more 'conventional arrangement'. I wish other Judges would try that. | |
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| Custody, one week on, one week off???
Posted: 4/9/2007 6:20:02 PM | Iam doing it now, her father and i were not civil at the beginning but it brought us to the point where we had to be , CIVIL which is great , its hard sometimes but it is best for the children , as long as the child is not in harms way(drugs, drinkin, etc). I hope in years to come we will come to that point where we actually talk to each other but for now its strickly for the child's benefit, which is whats best for her , two parents.
Thx
April Girl | |
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| Custody, one week on, one week off???
Posted: 4/9/2007 8:45:30 PM | Did it for years, and the kids adjusted to it just fine. Don't know about this 'packing a suitcase' garbage. I provided clothes for the kids when they were at my place, and my ex was expected to do the same.
As for the whole idea of 'not paying child support'......don't count on it folks. I still paid $1000 per month. All they do (here in Ontario, anyway) is look at the charts as if each parent had the children full time and subtract the difference. Higher income still pays the lower income. | |
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| Custody, one week on, one week off???
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:14:01 AM | Down2Earth chik you wrote "it was his decision to leave and break up the family should he not suffer the consequences".
No-because his children need their dad as much as they need their mum.
Can you not see-you would be punishing youre kids by denying them their dad who loves them-cant you put youre personal feelings about him aside for the sake of youre children?
This is not abot you-or him-it is about the kids
The only question you need to be asking is "Do the children enjoy spending tome with their dad?" If the answer to this questions is yes-then he must be allowed to spend a very substantial amount of time with them-they are his children as much as yours-he is one half of their family. How can you not see that?
You say he tells them he might get back together with you-so that means he should lose shared custody of his kids? That is nonsense.
They enjoy spending time with him-so readjustment and how "civil" youre relationship with youre ex is-are irrelevant issues-when youre children have grown up they will not appreciate you having decided for them how little time they gort to spend with Dad because youre relationship with him wasnt "civil".
Please dont do that to youre kids. | |
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