| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:28:29 PM | | as someone who is just new to this dating game again, i have to say that at this point i am not looking for a relationship...the last one was a painful enough experience so that i don't want to tread those waters again for awhile. right now, i'm looking for someone i might be able to learn to trust, feel comfortable with, have some fun with (not the sexual kind, necessarily, just maybe dancing, dinners, movies...light stuff). i'm trying to find the kind of man who doesn't want a housekeeper, a brood mare, a breadwinner and a therapist all rolled up into one. just someone who wants a like-minded member of the opposite sex to have some fun with (for now) and if it goes well, then let's get a bit more serious. it ain't a race! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:37:54 AM | | YES. There will always be women (and men) that ONLY want to have fun and there are tons of women (and men) that want a genuine relationship. I think the problem is the "grass is greener" syndrome, or "there may be someone better" illness. So even though a great person comes along, the man and/or woman will always keep his/her options open, like staying on the dating sites, and thereby ruining a potentially great relationship. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:46:52 AM |
My opinion is based on the fact i have been left at the alter twice
No they are not looking for a serious relationship anymore
No, those two particular women weren't ready for a serious relationship. There are like three billion women in the world.
Anyways, when you get into a serious relationship I don't know why some people think that you have to just sit around the house all day watching paint dry and that having fun is immature and silly. I'm going to go to concerts, fun vacations, and things like that until the day I die... single or not. Like I said, life's too short to stop having fun. | |
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Joined: 3/23/2006
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:54:09 AM |
It's possible.. just don't expect to meet them in clubs, bars, or anywhere else that stereotypical classless girls hang out.
That's just so unfair to say....I know plenty of people in serious relationships that met at such places...There are other kinds of people in bars,clubs or pubs that aren't classless...You're generalizing | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:57:52 PM | Bars age women dramatically...if they are hanging out in the bars,they are not looking for a serious relationship. I am not stereotyping,I am pointing out facts...how long do women need to go to bars before they decide...hmmm...maybe I am getting too old for this? I personally believe that you have to come to grips with yourself and say,why am I 55 and still a barfly? I did that at age 33 after going to bars since I was 19,been there done that and got the free beer mugs... | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/4/2006 9:39:17 PM | MsPussinBoots
You are a very rare gem. Too bad most of us got burned out and wont even bother dating anymore cause of all the floozies that are out there.
If most women had your attitude, your ability to communicate and your interest in a LTR, life would be much better.
You gotta understand your views are quite unique and arent shared by many women. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/5/2006 6:25:07 AM | I have several thoughts on this...
Firstly if you are looking so hard for someone to love and settle down with you are more likely to settle and wake up miserable in a few years. Don't force it...just let it happen
Second, women are leary of looking for a serious relationship because the chances of being let down increase the harder they look/push
Thirdly I think that relationships should develop slowly & evolve. Start out as a fun time...if you like that work on going exclusive...from there you just keep evolving
I wasn't looking and I met a great guy...we started just as friends with benifits...almost a year later we still have the intence passion we started with but we also have the wonderfulness of a caring relationship | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/13/2006 7:06:14 PM | okay serious relationships vrs some serious fun.
We all know that most of us want to settle down with the right person.. We would like to chose a mate that we can grow old with cherish for the rest of life. But the truth of the mater is that love and serious relationships don't happen overnight. They take time to cultivate. Anyone that tell you otherwise is one to stay clear of.
Women want serious relationships. But seriously... we have to start out with baby steps.. we are not off and running toward the alter like many men believe. We like to have our fun, yes we do.. Dating and finding that special someone.. once that someone is found and we are thinking that a relationship might be involved we begin to reassess the situation.. We want to make sure we are not being played. Trust issue comes into play.. after all you are becoming serious and you don't want to let go of everything that you might find in order to maybe have a shot of at happiness of a life time. Exclusive is something we dream of, but are scared of..It is a team effort . It all begins with communication and ends with communication. Make sure that you are infact feeling the same way ,if your not move on.. Sometimes it is a matter of timing. If you want a serious relationship than seek a serious relationship..
It is work but the relationship that evolves can be that of total passion and ultimate satisfaction.. Don't be afraid of pursuing a serious relationship take your time explore your relationship where it is and enjoy the level you have come to and gradually move toward a more reward and fulfilling serious relationship.. spark the flame, ignite the fire and passion will keep it burning.. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/13/2006 10:11:15 PM | | Hmmm ~ I think about serious relationships. Often actually. Of course, I think about the ones in my past, not ones for the future. I think that it might be nice to have someone special in my life ~ yet I can't see myself ever being a live-in and I KNOW I will never marry again. So, if someone considers a girlfriend serious ~ then yes, I think about it. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/14/2006 12:05:06 PM | message 91-i never did say i was looking for a mate in a bar,so i dont know what your talking about...all i said was basically everyone in the long run most likely wants a serious relationship,thats it nothing more.since you bring up bar,i agree you most likely wont find a mate there... | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/14/2006 1:48:37 PM | | i think both man and women are in the same boat. i am looking for a serious long term relationship but it seems that all the man in my age group only want to have fun and casually date abunch on loose women. and i am not a loose casual women. i respect my self and my body. yes i like to have a good time but i also enjoy a movie at home or a wlak in the park with that special person. but i am becoming doubtful that that special person will ever come along. | |
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Joined: 3/23/2006
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:15:50 PM |
Bars age women dramatically...if they are hanging out in the bars,they are not looking for a serious relationship. I am not stereotyping,I am pointing out facts...how long do women need to go to bars before they decide...hmmm...maybe I am getting too old for this? I personally believe that you have to come to grips with yourself and say,why am I 55 and still a barfly? I did that at age 33 after going to bars since I was 19,been there done that and got the free beer mugs
Again,generalizing....If you know nothing about them,how can you say that? What if they had been married for most of their adult lives and find themselves single in their late 30's to early 40's or even into their 50's...They should just stay home and rot or what? Amazing how people can so stereotype people,not knowing anything about their past...and bars,clubs and pubs are not just for "picking people up"...Didn't you ever watch Cheers? NORM!!! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/15/2006 3:49:53 AM | iamtheone39 - Yes there are. I'm for one am one of those. I may have had a bad history with men but now I'm settling down. Yes before i get abused for my age I am 18. Some people take life more serious then others, like me. I don't know if your doing this already but here's my advice:
a) go out on weekends go to a pub or down to a coffee shop and just enjoy the you time if you do that then someone will notice it and hey maybe they are the one
b) Get to know someone before asking them out on a date, get to know their goals and dreams in life.
c) take it slow... | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/15/2006 3:59:19 AM |
b) Get to know someone before asking them out on a date, get to know their goals and dreams in life.
I thought the idea of a date was to be able to get to know someone
obviously i have had it wrong for the last 3 years
so how do i get to know them without asking them on a date --- move in with them ?
and what if they dont move in my social circle, work with me or are on the same side of town as me
did you really think before you wrote ? | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/15/2006 4:05:07 AM | | of course some of us do! read our profile, spend time corresponding on email, and then do a lot of talking on a date. don't just tell, ask too. that's how you get the answers to questions. study a person. if their profile says they love volunteer work with orphans and seniors, but they don't at least smile at the salvation army kettle person, run like hell! play smart. you will still get some bad ones, but it may help find the one you want. | |
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