star52
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Joined: 8/30/2006
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/15/2006 4:50:45 AM | I too am 60 and looking for a serious relationship.So far I had two say what they wanted then changed how they felt and confessed the picture was out of date . He looked better in person.Another was honest and said I was not his type.We swap e-mail on a lot of things.He has become a good friend.
One changed his mind after an accindental meeting at Wal-mart not a bar.
He did not even let me know why.Just did not reply
No, I do not do bars and I think people should not take inventory of others so fast after a couple of e-mails.
Or judge us by their past experience with marriage or other women.
We all have a past it is not on an erase button.It is called life.
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/19/2006 5:52:43 PM | Really....Am I stereotyping? I look around and I am not a hermit by the way,and I see women acting like men...getting a piece and then running off,hmmmm.....I understand the marriage,the divorce,the freedom...if that order,but some of us haven't done it in that order. I didn't get married until I was 33 and have elementary age kids,so the bar scene is not for me. I know the stats are small,but hopefully there are other women who have been there done that! I personally don't find the bars all that exciting anymore...I would rather go out for a nice meal at a resturant on the beach and then have a few beers with a good meal.   | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/28/2006 6:50:52 PM | iv'e talked to you about the ex wife/ custody situation...i am looking for a serious relationship.I have come to the realization that if its spposed to happen it will.I dont like that it is taking so long but stamping my feet and fighting it isnt doing anything. There are not many men in my area with half a brain,and who are into the things i am into.Guess it will jsut take patience.Hang in there! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/28/2006 9:21:37 PM | | Hmm, I think the same thing regarding men. Are there any men who truly want to settle down? Both genders have that problem, unfortunately. Guess we all take it slow if we find someone we are compatible with and see what happens, trying hard to let things happen nautrally and not forcing things. Good luck to all! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/29/2006 7:36:08 AM | I think that is an eloquent way of putting it, but for people who do eventually want to get married and have children dating is more of an inconvenience than a priviledge. So many women now-a-days are so independent, many act like it is a business transaction. I liken it to the girl who buys an outfit to wear to a party, but doesn't take the tags off. If people aren't willing commit time to truly discover who someone is, then it is all just bargain shopping. Also, women have touted for so long that men are "dogs" without loyalty, which indeed is true so very often. However, if this behavior is problematic then what good can come from both sexes behaving that way? Just a thought from a guy who is NOT a dog, but IS very opinionated.      | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/29/2006 7:52:29 AM | | I see your point and raise you one bitter chip. The Monogamous Man isn't like Big Foot or Nessie, because they do not exist. You are right though, most men are merely proclaiming monogamy, but here is the deal. Once a man, a real man, makes the mistake of costing himself a woman he really loved, he is less likely to jeopardize the next. This is my current state of existence, I am truly disgruntled by me past inability to "love the one I am with." On my next foray into monagamy, I will not be so irresponsible. So please to remember, "To err is human, to firgive is divine." | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/29/2006 3:32:18 PM | Yes women have changed, however, so have men..
When you mean 'settle down'....what exactly do you mean?
Women hate settling...FYI...if you're not offering 100% of yourself..aka. being vulnerable, super honest, scared, real, affectionate, being your best....then why would a woman want to 'settle' with you...
By your comments..it's sounds like you like to blame your rejections for a relationship on women. Stop....watch some happy couples...they're equal, together, happy, holding hands. Yes this is rare. I feel it's because people are afraid to trust eachother. So scary, trust.
I do hope that my message didn't offend you. Remember life is about Attitude. 10% how you act and 90% how you react to it.
Good luck...now look real nice, go out and by some flowers, and just walk by a beautiful woman and hand her the flowers and keep walking, look back and smile and watch her reaction...I'll bet she'll ask you to stop....
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/29/2006 3:33:57 PM | settle is ment in this context as "nesting " together so to speak
not "settle" as in accepting what ever is on offer
Good luck...now look real nice, go out and by some flowers, and just walk by a beautiful woman and hand her the flowers and keep walking, look back and smile and watch her reaction...I'll bet she'll ask you to stop....
I did this a few times - all i got was strange looks and lots of nasty "fark off ya weirdo" comments | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/31/2006 11:42:10 AM | I think it's fair to say that most woman come to a point where they want a serious relationship. I do believe, however, that they are somewhat unrealistic with respect to the type of man they seek and the type of commitment it entails once they find him.
All of the women I've dated have stated, and I believe sincerely, that they want a serious relationship. Interestingly, very few have had a relationship in their past that lasted more than two years. And it became evident to me early on as to why. They invariably do not understand the time and effort it takes to cultivate and maintain a relationship. And these women were in their forties!
Anyway, I'm relating my experience, only. Oh, BTW, this thread only addresses women so please don't think for a moment I believe men are any better at this whole relationship thing. We aren't, okay? | |
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Rador
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Joined: 9/26/2006
Msg: 116 | |
| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 10/31/2006 3:51:13 PM | | I know from a man's standpoint I do want to settle down. I was something serious and lasting. This is somethingthat will not happen all at once. It takes time to get to know people and see if you are compatible. I usually only date 1 person at a time but that is just me. If I find the one I will know it. Will take it from there. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 1/30/2007 1:50:14 PM | I'm sure that there are tons of ladies out there like that, especially in your age group. So don't worry about it too much.
What I ultimately what is a relationship. Not necessary to settle down because I'm only 21 (I don't believe in getting married until AT LEAST 25... or 30) but just to be with one person for however long that will last. I'm really not fond of the casual thing. Even though there is one guy that I've known for a few months (call me a hypocrite if you want, but it's not like I sleep around. I've only been with this one person in the past 3 months) and we aren't 'officially' dating. He works 3 weeks straight at a time and lives 2 hours away, so there isn't a lot of time to see him. And I'm not sure if he's 'relationship' material or not. I'm not having much luck finding a guy that is (at least around here). Ah well... sorry for blabbling on your thread. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:06:36 PM |
It's possible.. just don't expect to meet them in clubs, bars, or anywhere else that stereotypical classless girls hang out.
I agree with that. When I go to bars or clubs I'm there to have fun with my friends, not meet up with guys. But at the same time it's kind of disconcerting to think that guys may think of me as a 'stereotypical classless girl' JUST because I'm at a bar (Not acting trashy. Just at the bar with my friends having a drink. Or dancing, NOT slutty, with my friends) when I'm really not (I tend to be very different from a lot of girls that go to clubs. But I don't go that often) I mean, I would be to a sudeo Christian or something, but I really don't like those types so their opinion doesn't mean a thing to me. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 1/31/2007 3:28:30 PM | | Of course women think about serious relationships! It's super important to most women I know, but with the profusion of buttheads/con artists/players/etc. out there, I think a lot of women are being very careful and not rushing into things. I know the thing I would love most is to meet someone with similar values and interests (not all the same interests, but complimentary ones at least) who I can share my life with. I am also not looking in bars or places like that for potential mates, but honestly I don't even know where to look for the good ones out there. These days though, I am way more careful about who I will meet because some guys are really good at pretending to be what they are not, just to attract women and get laid or whatever it is that they do, so I think twice before getting serious about anyone, or even meeting them sometimes! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 1/31/2007 3:37:41 PM | | Once upon a time.....but we don't live in Oz anymore. Times have changed and neither sex seems to be looking for a serious relationship. Why? Effort maybe? Or maybe the internet has changed our social values. Afterall, the grass seems to be always greener online. Disappointing for sure. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 1/31/2007 7:48:24 PM | At my age, I do want a serious relationship, BUT not with just anyone. It's all about sifting and finding that person that isn't perfect, but perfect for you. So you do have to date different people to find that right person, but honestly dating gets old and I prefer the comfort of being with someone that I share the simple everyday things in life with.... especially love and partnership. | |
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