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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 2/16/2007 2:45:32 PM | I am looking for a serious longterm relationship but one that allows for two very separate lives at the same time. I have many things I need to work on which are going to take some time...finding my niche as far as productive work goes, dealing with family matters that are just too much to expect any partner to take on, and finding out more about who I really am.
I'm 50 now and ever since I got married at 18 to escape from my father's rule I have either lost myself in relationships, parenthood, or financially expedient employment that didn't always account for my own dreams, hopes, wishes.
Living together is out of the question and a likeminded partner would be ideal. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 2/26/2007 4:28:42 AM | We do think about serious relationships.But as everyone knows it takes time to find someone who flicks your switch!!
But yes the same goes for men, do any know what they want? don`t get me started on that!lol, be here all day!
Lifes over way to soon, and for a lot of us male and female, we have had the run of the mill in bad relationships etc, i think deep down we all want to get serious, but from my point of view i am very nervous of falling flat again!
But i`d rather stay single than do the fun bit! 
guess we all have to keep fishing! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 2/27/2007 3:37:33 AM | | Is there actually any men out there, that seem to want to have a serious relationship and can even wait a couple of months to get what he wants and then.. play you about, men are getting very wise how to treat use ladies like crap.. i am now thinking being single for an extremely long time is the way forward with out all that heart ache?? | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 3/8/2007 7:36:59 PM | | I just don't know why I constantly attract the women that just want to "play". I am just through with that kind of lifestyle. The women that I attract that ARE looking for a serious relationship have serious personal issues,such as jealousy,low self-esteem,and well,not the most attractive ones out there. I am not looking for a barbie doll,but "attraction" is important for "longetivity" in a relationship. I want to look at my gf and go,"Wow,I am proud to hang out with her!" | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 8:10:04 AM | Man, I wonder if woman are serious anymore these days about relationships.... I've met so many girls in various places and situations and they're all the same:( Whether a club, work, a store, through a friend, etc.... Girls just don't want to put in any effort these days!
Everyone has this attitude of, everything comes first before relationships... And guess what... relationships are number 1 in this world... they are the basis for everything! Nowadays people are taught career & everything else comes first, then once u have everything... Go for the relationship.
This is simply not good... There will always be external factors and commitments in your life... School, work, family, etc, etc... But what are you doing all of this for... Just to be alone? Everyone wouldn't hesitate to go to school for 4+ years t get they're career, and all of the time involved in that!!! Can you imagine if people put that effort into a relationship with someone they are interested in! There wouldn't be any break-ups!!! This is a very sad truth:(
And to those very few ladies out there who actually understand what I am saying... Bless you and I hope that you find a guy that can do the same. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 7:25:10 PM | | Cesska, I relate totally to your response. The man I met and fell in love with was also on this site to meet women. But, it's not his fault that he broke my heart, because, he didn't 'realize' he still had feelings for her, until she called him months after dumping him, when he was involved with me. And, to respond to you, OP, yes, there are women out there that really do want to be in a serious relationship as apposed to this endless dating game.... | |
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Joined: 6/18/2007
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oshan
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Joined: 6/18/2007
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 8:11:16 PM | Oh....quit!
Most guys in their fourties either have a) teens or b) "out of the house"!. You're ten years past due what you're complaining about. You're trying to compete on a level playing field with same situation thirty-somethings. Or twenty-somethings!.
If you actually (?) want "forever", list long-term not dating.
Assure your date you have a baby sitter or nanny. Add_ reasonable_ reasons why you're looking for what you claim you want. Really!- try profile review
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 9:15:01 PM | | Same here but to me it has nothing to do on age because since I was 18 I was ready to settle down....am not the fast girl never was and never will be I was thinking the same thing. To me the whole point in dating is to find that forever yeah its fun but then again I can go to Disney land for that. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 9:40:20 PM | hi iamtheone,
yes there are many of us..but if you go to the thread i started last night..you will see why a lot of women are apprhensive...sometimes we miss out on the good ones because the bad ones have poisoned us..i'm under heartbreaks..."help!!...read the comments there maybe that will help you out a little
good luck..it's tough meeting the right one!! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 11:16:44 PM | I'm thinking about the dozen or so hapiest women I've known over the years.
The happiest was one who had been through all manner of relationships from one marriage which didn't work to a few long term boyfriendsadn quite a few one night stands.
The next two were/are happily married
Most of the others had long term boyfriends
So the serious relatiship is not necesarily he way to go. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 11:18:10 PM | Do men every think about serious relationships is also the question?
Because if they do I have yet to meet one even though they may say they're looking for that they certainly don't act like that
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Actually the female definition of a "serious" relationship, seems to be a long term, non live in, non sexual one.
I define those as convenient relationshisp. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 11/24/2007 11:57:36 PM | So what are you saying? serious relationships are not having a good time?
What you are looking for is labels..A person that is walking around with a label on there head saying I want a long term relationship with anyone, as long as I get to my goal... Either that or you are cutting your options to a select few.. cutting out those people who you may encounter on a friendship basis which could click and progress... Everything must start small then grow... You cut off so many options when you jump to a need of long term relationship.. You may even come across as needy in your quest..Relaxing and enjoying the moment creates a happier and less intense you.. It shows confidence in being the person that you are right now.. Then when you meet a new friend you may start to enjoy the journey together, you may agree to date and before you know it your in a long term relationship. Many adults these days have been hurt.. They are traumatised by there past experiences.. So instead of stating I'm looking for a LTR they are tending to look for FWB, I often wonder do they really think they are doing this to protect themselves from pain? All relationships are emotionally based... But really what they are doing is fulfilling a need with someone they call a friend.. Where is the love? where is the friendship?
What they dont get is all endings to all relationships hurt, no matter how honest the initial scenario... We are human beings our emotions cause us to at least attempt to be monogamous.... It is natures way..My advice would be to enjoy your time with those new people you met. Don't put labels on things and enjoy life for what it brings..
Pain and endings are par for the course in every case scenario... Just love life with all of your heart.. and feel free of those labels and chains that tie you to one need and one goal..
With love and respect for all. Catherine aka star.xxx | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 7/10/2009 6:19:14 PM | Your questions is rhetorical. Sure we seriously think about relationships with gentlemen that are actually gentlemen in character, not just in charm.
Some women are still looking for that. Some are too jaded to look for it anymore. Still others are preaching about monogamy and its discontents. Still others are going to party until the last disco ball has been hung from the last suspended ceiling.
The summary of your question is that dating is the closest thing to a rat race you’ll ever run. Keep looking…she’s out there. | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 7/10/2009 7:24:23 PM | Yes I am looking for a relationship and not just a "good time" but it seems the guys in my age group who live here are not interested in that. The majority of them have come out of a marriage of 20 years with the same woman and see this as "fun time".
So I do understand what you're saying OP and if you didn't live so far away...................well you know we could have met for coffee! | |
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| O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:36:02 PM | I think women nowadays are so afraid to admit that they are looking for something serious, because they know that most guys will run, that even if they are , they will never cut their own throats by letting it be know. Most older men, are very verbally demonstative about the fact thaat they only want to play. A huge majority. It is not considered even acceptable in the singles world to admit that you would like to find a long term partner. It just isn`t acceptable any more to admit to that. So most women
have given up looking for a partner. They do their best to fill their lives with other things, career , friends, etc. They have heard way too many times that men are not interested in a long term partner, and they have accepted it, doing the best to make the best of their lives alone, and have given up on the idea of finding a life partner because the bulk of men state that they don`t want it any more. I know I have. I don`t even consider the idea of finding a man to be with for my life as an option any more. | |
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