Masa
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Msg: 51 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 6:15:18 AM | | Still If I dont like what I see I dont see myself going into a serious love affair with that person. Doesn't mean I cant be friends with them. But am not denying some people can fall in love with someone else's personnality. It's all about taste!!!! But you got a good point for sure! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 7:46:45 AM | | I agree with you on that Greatguy! The more you get to know a person, and the more you start to fall for a person, the more attractive they do become to you. That's because the inner beauty is shining through the outer shell. But at the same time, there has to be an initial physical attraction ... there has to be something about that person that attracts you to them. I myself go for the eyes first, then their smile ... that's the initial attraction for me ... then their character/personality will play the important factor from there. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 7:56:11 AM | Yeah your right Jen,,,sadly most women and men base it on looks,,i admit ive done that more than once,,but if the initial physical attraction isnt there then chances are there wont be anything more than friends.You need that initial "zing" to get your interrest peeked.
by the way,,not a thing worng with your looks,,very attractive lady,,especially the kitty ears pic | |
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| it's all about the looks
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mack
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Joined: 1/7/2005
Msg: 55 | |
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mack
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Joined: 1/7/2005
Msg: 56 | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 10:53:01 AM | | i had made a post on here once and though i may have not been well written i think i made some good points and i think you are right on the money about most guys any way but i can spend time getting to know some one on here who is visually stunning to most guys and after that lady and i get to know each other they for the most part find that they really like what they've learned about me and would like to get together well i prove that a great deal of people are so very shallow because i don't let them see any pictures until they say they'd like to meet me and all but 4 woman have totally lost contact with me and out of the 4 only 1 wanted to be with me any way but only as a f..k buddy and i'm not into that at all so what does that say to the fact that some woman will say one thing and do another as will alot of men i'm nothing close to perfect myself though i try to be the best i can with what i've been given to work with and i continue to grow and try to change those things about me that even i don't like but in the end i've got to live with myself and i like who i am and look forward to becoming more i did find a lady on here who i think is gorgous and she wants to get to know me and since i think i'm a good judge of chacter i believe she won't shy away after she see's my picture but like i saud i'm not perfect so i could be wrong lol | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 1:43:17 PM | | All I have to say is that I have gone on more second dates with the girl I thought was fun and interesting but not as attractive, than I have gone on with the girl that was gorgeous but boring and ignorant. But when it comes down to it in order for a relationship to work there has to be a certain level of physical attraction to go along with the mental attraction. The problem with internet dating is that physical attraction is alot easier to come across than that mental click that can happen in person. That is why it doesnt bother me if a girl doesnt respond to an email. She doesnt really know me!! I know that I do pretty good with girls when I meet them in person and get a chance to really talk to them. Plus I think I look a lot better in person :) | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 2:04:41 PM | | I wish more guys though like you. As soon as they read my profile and they find out I'm not as thin as a toothpick they run away. Well, there are more endearing things about me than what size I wear. Seriously. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 6:19:29 PM | Well Thanks you all for stating your opinion it is really good to hear everyone's opinion on this topic.. and i sure know that some Physical attraction has to take part i just wanted to see what everyone thought on this topic.. so once again thanks for writing in this forum it makes
me see alot..
Jen | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 8:33:21 PM | | I just have to say that what you said is honestly one of the most superficial and dumb things written on this subject. Who says you are a prize and what makes you the expert on looking, feeling, and being healthy. It's guys like you that cause women to have self-esteem issues. I consider myself healthy and attractive and I have a few pounds to lose....exercise but am not toned....and have the sking coloring of snow!!!! More impotantly I am intelligent...can hold more than a 2 minute conersation...and have a great sense of humor! which incomparison to a TAN is much more appealing. I was just looking through this message board and felt pissed b/c there are women of all colors, shapes, sizes, and with personalities.....unique each in their own ways and no less valueable than a size 0, tanned, and toned barbie doll. We are all attracted to different types of ppl and it is not for you to decide and tell others how and what would make them better people and more attractive. Whats' attractive to you may not be attractive to someone else. Don't be so stupid! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 9:20:41 PM | Ok i dont know who that was directed at but ,,, everyone is intitled to there opinion so make it more clear to who your talking to ..
but good for you girl..
Vangogh
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/22/2005 10:18:18 PM | | u know what is it about good looking woman that ppl cant stand u know i have heard this alot on this site abotu hot woman well not all are as bad as ppl on here are saying i mean dont let a few bad apples spoil it for the rest not everyone good looking woman is the same why judge them before u knwo them comon ppl thi smakes me so mad that ppl would do nothing but bad mouth pretty woman there are good ppl in everyone just like there are bad ppl rather ther e good looking or not i am not shallow or a snob or stuck up what is with ppl these days i mean d*mn we all dont think we are high and mighty just cause a person is good looking shouldnt mean there a bad person there is alot of good looking woman that are really good ppl so please give these pretty ladies a break ok for heavens sake | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/23/2005 9:59:17 AM | | kiss_me you'r right and i can't argue that fact , i'd like to send you a picture of myself just so i could get an honest answer of what you think though i'd like to get to know you better just so you knew me as a friend . up talking via email ? as far as anything other than a friend i'm not evn going there personally i don't think i'm you'r type lol | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:03:04 AM | | mkat130 , i'm not sure whom you'r speaking to but i really don't understand why a guy would run from you in any case i think you'r very attractive and truth be told if you walked up to me and showed interest in me i'd wonder who put you up to it lol | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/23/2005 1:12:31 PM | | I AGREE 100% IF PEOPLE WOULD NOT LOOK AT A PERSON'S LOOKS AND LOOK AT THAIR HEART THAY WOULD MEET THE PERSON OF THEIR DREAM. | |
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Masa
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Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 68 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/23/2005 7:58:19 PM | Well everyone has different dream person so ... I guess it goes back to the eye of the beholder thing...I still stand by my opinion
Heart, sould and vision... I was not born blind!! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/23/2005 9:52:26 PM | | coco thats right u are sooooo right stop with the look thing can men look past that though not so sure | |
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Masa
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Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 70 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:01:41 PM | they can If they meat the right one...
but how often does that happen :P
once so far for me | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/24/2005 9:19:53 AM | | money can't be taken with you when you die though i'd like to be well off enough to buy something for that special lady when i knew she wanted it , and no i'd not be showering her with gifts but if i knew she wanted something i'd make sure she had it of course that is if i could afford it | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/24/2005 4:36:20 PM | vangogh,
OF COURSE YOU'RE RIGHT. But then again was I so wrong. If you are pissed off at my comments (about trying to motivate people to take better care of their appearance) and take everything I said out of context, you can make anybody sound totally stupid. I've never dated a size 0 barbie doll with silicon breasts a tan and the IQ of a cucumber. I'm not interested in that type of women either.
However, it takes several days, weeks, years to get to know someone's personality, so it's pretty d*mn hard to use that as a starter for a relationship. People, to a large degree, do base their choices of mates based on looks (or money, as someone else pointed out, but that's not "attraction"). However harsh, cruel, misguided or shallow that is... I don't make the rules, I just play by them. (I use play here not in the perogative sense of course :-) )
Furthermore, some posts on here are so misspelled and hard to comprehend that they are a total turnoff regardless of the degree of TAN of the writer. It's pretty hard to be attracted to people who communicate like they are 6 year old regardless of their look. I'm sure that we agree on that one...
BTW, I don't think that you look bad at all! 
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| A girl has needs and you're a good looking guy.
Posted: 3/24/2005 5:02:20 PM | I'm willing to bet that a high portion of people on here ****ing about how shallow everyone else is are just as shallow themselves. Admit it, regardless of how you look yourself, you're all looking for "the handsome, young, rich f***** prince".
So, when girls are ****ing "oh look at me, I don't pick up" you're really talking about picking up the HOT guys, not the average joe who is craving attention just like you are. WAKE THE HELL UP AND DON'T CRY ON MY SHOULDER!
There have been periods of my life where I was much more of a duckling than a swan (e.g.: puberty) and NEVER EVER has any girl showed interest in getting to know my personality GOD DAMMIT! Quite to the contrary, the way I have been treated so far in relationships is much more as a sexual object than anything else. A girl I dated recently expressed it best. When I was slightly mispleased with the way I was treated, she responded: "A girl has needs and you're a good looking guy". She wasn't all that attractive herself and no, it didn't make my day.
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| A girl has needs and you're a good looking guy.
Posted: 3/24/2005 5:03:07 PM | I'm willing to bet that a high portion of people on here complaining about how shallow everyone else is are just as shallow themselves. Admit it, regardless of how you look yourself, you're all looking for "the handsome, young, rich f***** prince".
So, when girls are complaining "oh look at me, I don't pick up" you're really talking about picking up the HOT guys, not the average joe who is craving attention just like you are. WAKE THE HELL UP AND DON'T CRY ON MY SHOULDER!
There have been periods of my life where I was much more of a duckling than a swan (e.g.: puberty) and NEVER EVER has any girl showed interest in getting to know my personality GOD DAMMIT! Quite to the contrary, the way I have been treated so far in relationships is much more as a sexual object than anything else. A girl I dated recently expressed it best. When I was slightly mispleased with the way I was treated, she responded: "A girl has needs and you're a good looking guy". She wasn't all that attractive herself and no, it didn't make my day.
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Posted: 3/24/2005 5:57:52 PM | The best rule of thunb that will serve you well in the long run is to BE YOURSELF!
Don't try to fit a mold that is the product of what the average person thinks.
Be the unique person that you are and as a result a shinning star!
Real attraction is made up of a formula based on looks, personality and the values you have acquired which you live by.
Pardon my criticism, but much of the problem is immaturity! Teenagers have that need to be like some ideal person, that changes with maturity and the school of hard knocks!
Enough said!
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