| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/24/2005 6:11:19 PM | | txbiker...u are so mature for your age. I totally agree with you. I was getting so frustrated because there were a few times I emailed someone and didnt get a response. I too do better in person and now I realize its because not only do I take suckey pictures, but in person, men get to see what a great personality I have which I believe makes anyone more attractive! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/24/2005 6:45:22 PM | let's go mathematics a little bit:
1000(beauty) X 1000(brains)= 1000000(perfection) "very rare"
but:
1000000(beauty) X 0 (brains)= 0 " very common"
it could be even worse:
1000000(beauty) X -1 (brains)= -1000000(nightmare) " for the unlucky people"
but if you are not very picky:
100(beauty) X 10000(brains)= 1000000(good one). " not a bad deal"
you can call it the samyred equation
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/24/2005 8:44:20 PM |
I wish more guys though like you. As soon as they read my profile and they find out I'm not as thin as a toothpick they run away.
MKat130, You've got to be joking, you are so not overweight. Big deal if you aren't a skinny rail, you are thin and hot.
I can't imagine it will take you long to find many admirers. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/24/2005 8:54:39 PM | On these forums, people keep coming up with the same issues and we keep giving the same answers.
I've posted on threads from both men and women, that address the looks issue alone.
All of us have then given our answers, experiences, advice, commiseration, etc. We might be able to give a new angle on things, but the answers are pretty much the same.
I wonder why people won't just read other threads? Maybe their problem has been addressed ad nauseum. Are they lazy? Do they just want people to come to them and feed them with a spoon?
I'm afraid that people are just running out of new things to post. If so, then that's sad, but I am really starting to bored. | |
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Masa
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Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 80 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/24/2005 9:42:12 PM | | well simply because there are hundreds of threads why go throught all of them when you can just start it anew... | |
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| Yep, all about the look
Posted: 3/24/2005 10:44:50 PM | Yep, looks are important, mainly because that's what attracts a person first. I mean, you can't see someone's personality when you first meet them.
Through online is different. If the profile you're reading isn't interesting, and there's no picture, what's the reason you want to get to know them? | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/27/2005 12:35:56 PM | Attractiveness is a question of opinion really. I have seen plenty of men that I find attractive that are not exactly societies idea of main stream good looks. My friends all thought my ex looked like a sasquatch but I thought he was gorgeous. Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder.
I have been attracted to men for a variety of reasons, nice lips, good eyebrows (don't ask), nice hands, great sense of humor, sweet, the list goes on and on. THose are all things that will initially attract me, its what keeps me that matters.... kindness, passion, morals, honesty, funny, sweet, sexy as hell, and great eye brows (again don't ask, lol)
finally a bit of wisdom from my 84 year old grandmother:
"Those b**bs might get you a man but they sure won't keep 'em."
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/27/2005 12:52:44 PM | Well on a positive note you people have temporarly renued my faith in humanity,lol. Looks do play a role. But the eyes see what the heart feels. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2005 2:08:30 PM | I think here, in cyberland, looks are important to most because a few words and a picture is all you get.
However .........
In day to day life.......
How many of us have had the experience where you work or go to school side by side with someone everyday, and although the person didn't "do it" for you at first, after a while you are attracted to them ..... this has happened to me a few times.
People don't "grow on you" in this forum, it just isn't that way.
So looks are important here.
Make any sense? | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/27/2005 5:56:46 PM | makeahome, you're right about the limitations of online forums, etc.
However, we still have to apply good sense and values to the situation. Pictures are just plain unreliable, so we still have to dig for other cues to use. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/27/2005 7:25:32 PM | Well, unfortunately it has always been looks first when you meet a person and you decide if you want to continue to have anything to do with him or her. How many people can truly tell you they don't go for looks. Most people are being diplomatic and do not want to be upfront to hurt the other person by saying outright they are not attractive or not their types. Then when they have decided the person is who they wanted, they go on to the next stage, it will be the personality and character that will make or break it. So looks is also very superficial.
Just like your profile here, if you put an attractive picture, at any age, you will get a response once people decide you are nice enough to get acquainted. If you put a not so attractive picture, or no picture at all, not many will bother to read the detail of your profile and as such, no response.
So the best policy is to be happy with who you are and do things that make you happy.
There is always someone for everyone.
Best wishes,
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/27/2005 7:48:52 PM | hui,
One of my best relationships was with a woman that most would have considered plain, if not ugly. We first met at a tech convention and were checking out the same hardware. I actually had looked at her and didn't really think one way or another about her looks. What I was taken by was her comments on the display. We chatted and I learned a lot from her. Her sense of humour and outlook was incredible. I invited her to dinner and it was then that I actually started considering her looks. I pointed out to myself how plain she was, but the next second she cracked a good joke and I just couldn't help developing an interest in her.
We broke it off due to her taking a job several states away and me going to Chicago to pursue some grad work. If our life choices had been different or had been going in the same direction, then who knows what might have happened.
My point being is that looks aren't always the first thing we consider. Looks matter in some cases, but not in every case. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 12:48:53 AM | Mark,
From your post, you seem like a very sensible person. I understand what you are saying. In your case, you had a chance to talk to the person and to bring it a step further to assess and you found her personality and character to your liking. Im saying in general not everyone is like you which in my view is admirable, the sad thing is most people are like that, they go for looks first then they continue from there. No matter how beautiful one is, the inner quality must be good too otherwise, the outside is only a mask. I have a few girlfriends who are still single because of this looks factor and are resigned to the fact that they will remain single all their lives. Even in jobs with qualifications and experience on par, the reality is employer will give the attractive ones the chance over those who are not so well endowed.
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 8:26:19 AM | | That's a sad commentary on our world, isn't it? Sometimes I despair at the shallowness in others. | |
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Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 91 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 9:25:33 AM | Yeah maybe we should all poke our eyes and become a blind nations lol
Then we could pick mage on smell voices , touches and actions
Here let me feel your arms and legs, ok next is torso... ok you seem healthy enough lets have a relationship lol
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 5:47:56 PM | haha Masa you are so funny...
It will be no fun being blind but wish everyone will have a heart and not be so shallow.. Look deeper into the inner quality of a person, take your time to know him/her..
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Joined: 3/16/2005
Msg: 93 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 6:15:20 PM | | I'm terribly sorry to beg to differ with most of you but I feel that someone who appreciates external appearance as much as inner beauty should not be critisized in any way. I mean; why is it "ok" to want someone good on the inside but "shallow" to expect beauty on the outside. Who are we to judge other people's preferences. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 6:35:27 PM | qtr, you don't have to be sorry to be different. It's just that everyone will have their own view and definition of what beauty is. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To me, beauty should be the inner as well as outer quality. It is no use being nice on the outside and the heart is full of malice.
Hui | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 7:55:21 PM | | I totally agree with you....40% of teh attraction comes from looks. Neitehr partys want to be caught dead in the dark with an Olga ( yeah I know it's wrong...lol). | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 8:15:01 PM | | I'm looking for snapshots of peoples personalities here and I just can't find them? | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 8:20:32 PM | | I'm a rather large guy, I have all but 4 of my teeth, hair on my back, greese between my thighs, and a smelly wart on my #$%^&*. I can't be all that bad because whenever I go someware people just can't stop starring. Of yeah and I can't spell vary good. By the way, does anybody want to go out?? | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 8:26:21 PM | | It stands to reason that the healthier somebody is the better every aspect of their life will be!! Maybe things won't be perfect, but things will be better than if they were unhealthy. Including the way they look. Why do we condem beautifull people? Maybe that is why they allways have a bad attitude. Is anybody else getting this?? | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/28/2005 10:39:20 PM | | What the media has produced as healthy (100 lbs soaking wet) is by far truly healthy. Truly healthy people (male or female) radiate certain attributes. Healthy hair, teeth, skin glows naturally. No matter how much makeup or nice clothing you wear these things will shine through on healthy people. | |
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