| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/5/2005 3:20:21 PM | Jen..I have to agree with you on this one. Today in society we base so much on anothers looks and not the true person that they are. I understand that there has to be an attraction of some kind there, some compatibility, but as you stated we are not all "Barbi Doll" types. Not all women can be a size zero or a size two, and there is nothing wrong with that. They have all these models out here that are so thin, lollipop heads, the ones who are so skinny that they look sick. I also agree not all women want to be that thin.
I think that it is ok to base things on looks to a certain degree, but do not let that be the only thing that you go by in getting to know a another person. I have met some really attractive men that are the ugliest people once you get to know the true person.
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Posted: 4/5/2005 4:50:40 PM | It just dawned on me ...........
It must be about looks ........... has anyone seen the "rate-a-profile" section on this web site?
No ........ notta ....... no such thing ............ doesn't exist. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/5/2005 5:15:10 PM | Good piont dude. Looks may not be the final desiding factor, but they deffinatly determine weather or not you get your foot in the door. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2005 5:18:41 PM | Well i had to join in..i have to be honest and say that looks do account for something..you can't help it..either you are attracted to a person or not.
Whether or not they have a personality unfortunately becomes secondary in this scenario as we are visually attracted to their pics first.
Saying that,if a person you found extremely attractive comes off as a person you wouldn't give the time of day to(arrogant,selfish,mean)..they no longer seem so attractive.
I am well aware that I am in no way everyones type ..you can't be.
But be confident in who you are ..that means more than a size 2 anyday. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2005 5:46:36 PM | | It's not fair to say that it is wrong to screen people based on looks. It's perfectly natural. It is however a dumb idea to give favor to a person of mediocor personallity yet great looks as opposed to someone of average looks and a great personallity. That's just my take on it. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2005 6:14:04 PM | well i would say that goes just about everywhere you look. you see attractive guys with equally attractive ladies...not so good looking guys with not so good looking women...but every now and then you see this couple that literally makes you go huh?
well, i am one of those couples...i am so/so looking...but i have a fiance who is OMG gorgeous...he and i met when i was severly overweight..and he has loved me through the good, bad, ugly and best. He would tell his guy friends that would say some snide comment to me to either support us or leave..he saw what was inside...and that has let the best of me come out. I didnt even try talking to him because i didnt think he would ever look at me twice...
He Proved me Wrong!
so heres my conclusion...looking past the skin may be harder for some of us then the rest...but you might just find the most beautiful person of all if you do  | |
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Posted: 4/5/2005 7:43:31 PM | For all of the ladies out there:
Beauty Fades.... But Dumb is Forever!
If you remember this, you will never be sorry. Too many times women rely on their looks to get them through life. But they never stop to think about what is going to happen to them when they are no longer beautiful! No one stays beautiful forever. It is sad, but it is true. The best thing any woman could do for herself would be to get a good education. I am not saying that we stop caring about the way we look. We all know that when we look good, we feel good. However, if we place all of our effort on our looks, we are bound to be disappointed someday! There is no way around it! | |
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Posted: 4/6/2005 11:29:31 AM | i think as a whole most people are sheep we all have believed what we are told believe ,made to believe what is beautiful have a desire to change our looks be a ken or barbie of course there are people out there very few indeed but all the same people who have broken away from the so called standard of what we deem as desireable i find inner beauty far more appealing than visual and i know i'm not alone in that way of thinking but for the most part we are stuck in a way of thinking it will never change because people want to be led and if you don't believe that then just look at politics of course thats another topic all together lol any way just think about it i know as a guy who isn't visually appealing to the masses of females out there what right do i have to say anything huh lol well i know what good looking is and it's not now nor never will be what lies only skin deep  | |
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srijay
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/7/2005 1:28:14 AM | hi ajaxwat,
listen if u look cool then people will obviusly like u , coz of ur appearance. why thats happens? coz of many reason. people wit a average apperance want to make freindship wit a people wit gr8t appearance. thats most of the time u can see this in first friendship or first sight love. but to an extent u can even see that as the fiendship or the time peroid of relation increase. then every time the real friend relation wins. exactly....when ever u see fiendship or love is a part of beauty or appearance but not the whole thing. in real sence people wit a real larger loving heart every time wins relation of friendship or love.
so what i mean to say that if u r having loving heart , then ur friend or love once also like u.
apperance wont work for longer time but caring works. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/7/2005 1:33:59 AM | hi ajaxwat,
listen if u look cool then people will obviusly like u , coz of ur appearance. why thats happens? coz of many reason. people wit a average apperance want to make freindship wit a people wit gr8t appearance. thats most of the time u can see this in first friendship or first sight love. but to an extent u can even see that as the fiendship or the time peroid of relation increase. then every time the real friend relation wins. exactly....when ever u see fiendship or love is a part of beauty or appearance but not the whole thing. in real sence people wit a real larger loving heart every time wins relation of friendship or love.
so what i mean to say that if u r having loving heart , then ur friend or love once also like u.
apperance wont work for longer time but caring works. so love every one............make ur heart bigger for others................... | |
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Posted: 4/9/2005 7:41:08 AM | Jen i agree with you most men and women look at whats on the out side not whats on the inside. most of the people that have the looks are the most concided people out there and the one's that are avg like myself well I have the biggest heart anyone could have and lots of love there to... good luck in what your searching for...
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Posted: 4/9/2005 7:55:59 AM | IN A PERFECT WORLD WE WOULD ALL BE SEXY, SUCCESFUL, AND WANTED BY ALL. BUT BECAUSE THATS NOT THE CASE.....WE ALL NEED TO STOP ****ING. I am what I am. 20, tall and on the chubby side. Wich we all know is as close to a sin as anything else. But guess what ladies. I get what I want. It has nothing to do with looks. But confidence. A man would prefer a confident, relaxed, sociable, good humoured woman than a stick thin idiot. Online its not easy...but get out there and strut your stuff. But.....don't put down men who choose for looks and men don't put down the ladies.
Because really...... you don't look at someone and think...wow they "LOOK" like they have a good attitude. Looks are involved......but like i'm saying.....confidence wipes out sexy in a second.
BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER. FORGIVE ME IF IT NOT IN MY EYES....BUT I'M SURE ITS IN SOMEONE ELSES! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/9/2005 10:30:14 AM | Excellent points everyone.
I think the majority of the time the initial attraction is with the looks or some physical feature, because that's your first encounter usually with a person. On here you usually see the picture first, then read the profile. The rating system on here is all about looks, it's based only on that nothing else to say there. For those who only base a person based on looks is shallow, so be it if they want to be. There's no use compaining about it, obviously there's more to a person which most of us know and if one can't see past the exterior than those ppl are missing out on some very great ppl. Yes looks usually fade, so one shouldn't bank on such a thing. Also some get plastic surgery to help in that area if they feel it will gives them confidence and builds their self esteem, all the power to them I say. It's the way life is, and is different for many ppl, so just keep fishing to what it is that attracts you and if you were passed over move on and be glad you didn't get involved with someone with such a narrow mind.
I find the forums a great way to get to know a person and interact with them also. This like in chatrooms is where you develop more based on the person rather than pics. Also remember some ppl's pics are fake, outdated or simply can make a person look worse or better than in person, also they are usually glamour shots to put forth one's best appearance.
I also don't agree with putting ppl down for their looks or any other attribute or lack of to make one feel better about themselves, or whining. This is where you have the chance to sell yourself so you should be concentrating on that and selling YOUR best qualities, traits and attributes that God has given you.
Looks can also be a downfall because those same shallow ppl who only go for looks are the same ones they get stuck with thinking they liked them for themselves and not only their looks. For those not posting your pics it's a good way to weed out such ppl usually. I think everyone has good and bad qualities and it's determining what you can live with and without. Happy  All.  | |
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Posted: 4/11/2005 5:12:29 AM | | You are right about everything..Sometimes though the pretty ones are always left out in the dirt cause everyones to afraid to talk to them...I know that I am a good person and deserve a beautiful women.. So to me yes looks are important but if shes a snob or stuck up and mean later then not worth my life together..... but im not gonna give up with out a fight lol | |
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Posted: 4/11/2005 5:22:47 AM | | you can be hot like a barbie and be dumber then a door nail...really well said..u are so right about that fact...but what can we do...men like barbie girls more than smart ones...its their bad luck to find out it after date or something like that...so if u are happy then its ok...u are to only one who chose how to be and act...good luck;) | |
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Posted: 4/11/2005 11:28:15 AM | I've been reading all the posts and I can't believe the number of emotions it has brought to the surface. I felt downright hostile at some of them, the attraction is the first, blah, blah, blah. The attack on people's spelling really bothered me too. Sometimes people are writing so fast words get mispelled.
I think what makes a person attractive is not just looks but the presence they have when you meet them.
When I look at screen stars, I'm more attracted to (and here's where my age is going to show) Harvey Keital especially, Al Pacino (now not back when he was a hottie) Jack Nicholson, Nick Cage etc. etc.. These are all men who aren't in the Brad Pitt range of looks, but it is their presence, their "cock of the walk" personal that is deadly.
I've actually found that men who aren't what is considered hot by today's standards make me weak at the knees if they exude self-confidence. The same can be said by women. When my daughter was a teen, our neighbour was just gorgeous and was married to a beautiful but terribly obese woman. She asked why he wasn't with somebody hot. I told her that it was obvious from seeing them together that he was totally in love with her. She held herself proud and I loved her for that.
Well enough babble for now. I just had to post to this.
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Posted: 4/11/2005 1:20:19 PM | Looks are not everything, BUT DAMN, you NEED to be attracted to the person!!! Everyone has different taste is what is hot, and all, but I am not one to walk around with my man, while he wears a paper bag on his head!!! :P
Looks are only a small part, personality is key tho! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2005 4:18:06 PM | As a man who's older than most of you posting on this forum,and has been around the block more times than Id like to admit,let me throw in my two cents.
Ah! what is good looks? A pretty or handsome face? Large breasts, six pack abs? Shapely butt shapely legs? Beautiful hair,tall,short? Or all of the above? And let me Include "BBW'S"
See where Im going with this? It's all on the outside! Its like looking at a photograph. It tells you nothing of the person as a human being.
If your looking no further than a one night stand,and some fun dateing while your young flowing harmones are at their peak,than by all means,have fun with your photographs,while you can.Like all photographs they get old,tarniished,they chip and peel.
But if y our looking to spend the rest of your life with someone whos going to care for you,make you smile,hugs you every day of your life,have things you love to talk about,is not going to abuse you,cheat on you and grow old with you then you better look into that photo, alot deeper. I talk from experience when I say,that if you think beauty is in itself the key to happiness,than you better think again.
A nd to all of you out there I say learn to respect and accept others views about beauty.
beauty is certainly in the eye of the beholder | |
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Posted: 4/11/2005 10:32:23 PM | Hey, heres and idea. Stop arguing about what is and what isn't and go and find what you want. The person you may be looking for could be snatched up while you are messing around in here on this stupid never ending argument over personal opinions.
Just for the record. Any man that says he prefers women with small breasts obviously has a woman with small breasts otherwise he would never say that!!!!!!!!
There is very little chance I am going to check replies to this so please feel free to drop me a line at Englishmanc. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2005 5:12:27 PM | | iM REPLYING TO THIS ONE BECAUSE AT FIRST GLANCE IT IS ALL ABOUT THE LOOKS,IF THE LOOKS DON'T GRAB YA THEN HOPEFULLY THE TALK IS GOOD ENOUGH TO MAINTAIN YOUR ATTENTION,BUT THAT TALK HAS TO SAY ALOT RIGHT OFF THE BAT IN ORDER TO GRAB THE PERSONS ATTENTION.SO THE LOOKS ARE HUGE,UNFORTUNATLEY WE LIVE IN A WORLD WHERE GOOD LOOKS CAN GRAB ATTENTION,AND ALWAYS REMEMBER THE WAY THINGS ARE MEANT TO BE IS THE WAY THEY'LL BE,PEACE | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/15/2005 5:24:53 AM | Stonetemple hit it on the nose...
Sometimes IT IS the pretty ones who are left out in the dirt! ;-)
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