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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 2/4/2006 7:43:09 PM | | OF COURSE! This is the internet...it should be looks first, before you actually spend the odd seconds to write him / her a note. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 2/4/2006 8:28:33 PM | | I have people interested in me, some of them are really hot too so,it isn't all about the looks. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 2/5/2006 1:53:10 PM | It's all about the looks on and off the net. That is the first contact you make with everyone for all eternity you want someone physically attractive to you by your side! They don't have to be a 10 but a plain look is fine as long as it's not ugly.
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 179 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 2/5/2006 4:58:26 PM | I had a girl come up to me and say " by any chance are you on POF " ok, so I look like my pic's, and I replied " yeah "
" Oh cool, ahh can I have your number " once I found out her nickname, I walked away as I remember her not giving me the time of day online yet once she saw me in person she wanted my number.
It's all looks, nothing to do with how sweet you can be how caring/romantic anymore. If you can't make them jealous, and have 20 other girls checking you out while your with them, they don't want to be seems with you. | |
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Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 180 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 2/8/2006 7:51:26 AM | no it's not ..
I dont care how attractive someone is..
If they're an ***hole ..dull, stupid, whatever ..I want nothing to do with them.
Funny, smart and sweet..jeez..I'm swept away. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 2/8/2006 8:14:30 AM | Funny the person posting does not have a picture posted... is there a picture on her page?
Everyone is either attracted or not attracted to someone... saying different would be a lie....
If you are a few pounds extra but only attracted to muscle bound guys then yes... you main run into an issue.
if you have no profile to read then well what are we going tobase our observations on?
Give what you hope to recieve and if you actually receive it be happy cause that rarely happes | |
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gitm
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Joined: 3/23/2006
Msg: 182 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/6/2006 10:58:06 AM | I did not have time to scour all of the posts on this topic, yet it is interesting that I have not seen one of the most important factors discussed. As it turns out, actual attraction is more olfactory (smell) based than visual. The substance Major HistoCompatability Complex (MHCC) is a sort of olfactory file containing information on a person's immune system. In fact, it is more than 60% of the influence in determining whether or not any one person will be attracted to another. Another large influence is auditory information, or rather talking to the other person and getting to know them, this is the personality aspect. However, the limitation of these two factors is that they are usually proximity dependant, that is one has to be close to the other person. The visual factor is relatively recent and is a relatively small influence, but as someone else pointed out it gets "your foot in the door." Of course there are many other factors which can play a role on a case by case basis, yet they remain largely insignificant.
Much more can be said about this topic, but I have to go. Have a great day everyone! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/6/2006 6:34:54 PM |
I did not have time to scour all of the posts on this topic, yet it is interesting that I have not seen one of the most important factors discussed. As it turns out, actual attraction is more olfactory (smell) based than visual. The substance Major HistoCompatability Complex (MHCC) is a sort of olfactory file containing information on a person's immune system. In fact, it is more than 60% of the influence in determining whether or not any one person will be attracted to another. Another large influence is auditory information, or rather talking to the other person and getting to know them, this is the personality aspect. However, the limitation of these two factors is that they are usually proximity dependant, that is one has to be close to the other person. The visual factor is relatively recent and is a relatively small influence, but as someone else pointed out it gets "your foot in the door." Of course there are many other factors which can play a role on a case by case basis, yet they remain largely insignificant.
Much more can be said about this topic, but I have to go. Have a great day everyone!
I notice that you didn't mention Pheromones. What you say is true but we wash the majority of Pheromones off our bodies everytime we shower. Only people who produce high volumes of Androstenone, androstenol, androsternoe, respectively will this come into play. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/11/2006 8:44:15 PM | Yeah that is so true. Though both males and females, most tend to judge on the bases of looks; in my opinion and experience it seems that it is slightly more with women then men who judge on looks. Case in point, on a different dating site, after reaching stage four of communicating with one person, I was asked to show my photo, once I showed my photo, SLAM! communication was closed-- person listed all 17 reasons why communications was closed.
So now I'm just tossing my profile here putting little effort into it when I can. I've nearly given up-- tired of these games-- tired of hearing where are the nice guys and I get your a nice guy BUT
Anyway just wanted to toss my two cents about looks
And NO! I'm not picky on looks, personality is what matters to me and similiar likes and dislikes as well as interests. | |
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gitm
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Joined: 3/23/2006
Msg: 185 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/12/2006 2:52:59 AM | To awesome_male: MHCC are the pheromones, and it is suspended in the oil secreted mostly through the apocrine glands on the scalp. Interestingly, the fact that hair grows longer on the head than anywhere else may have several advantages, and to better hold this MHCC laden oil may be just one. In addition, MHCC helps to identify who is family and thus helps to reduce incest by stimulating a feeling of repulsion to the idea of interfamily mating. However, this repulsion may be reduced or reinforced through socialization. And if I recall correctly, androsterone and other related compounds are hormones, much like steroids which lead to secondary effects. There has been some research into using pigs to produce these hormones for use in colognes and such, but I believe that type of research is no longer conducted because of low success rates.
To honest and nice: Don't get too wrapped up in dating sites, it's probably the worst way to meet someone, not to say that it can't happen just that it's probably the exception rather than the rule. I would recomend watching the movie 'Hitch', but once again, don't take it too seriously.
Anyhow, time for bed so goodnight once again.  | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/21/2008 12:31:39 PM | Everyone seems to be putting their 2 cents in on this subject so here is mine. Everyone, no matter what they look like has someone that is attracted to them. The difference between one person and another is this... Even if you can't get past the outer shell of a person (ie: looks) then someone else can and will. How many of you can honestly say that you can look past the looks of a person and look at what is inside that person first.
The cover of the book looks stunning, but then you open the book and start reading it's content. Are you still impressed? The point of this is, you should always start from the inside out. Never judge the book by the cover because you might be disappointed anyways... or not. If you read the contents first, then look at the cover you will then discover a more attractive first impression & find that the beauty is not just what is on the outside, but also on the inside. (Again, this is only my opinion and how I look at a person)
Here's an example: You talk to a person online for months and you hit it off well. You have great conversations by email and on the phone (his or her voice) captivates you and now you'd like to take it to a new level. So far, this person has your interest... you are even talking about getting serious... So now it is time to meet. She is attracted to you and you??? Well, on the outside she wasn't what you expected but she is still the same person you spent months talking to. You truly liked her then, but now??? What do you do? | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/21/2008 12:54:15 PM | | Most men ignore her after they meet her since she isn't hot looking to them, and then they whine because no one likes them and they cannot find any good women to date. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/21/2008 6:39:25 PM | I don't think it's a bad thing to feel confident about yourself, and if you do work a bit on your looks, try to keep yourself healthy or change how you dress to look better, why is that a crime? I am not at my best health right now, but I am working on gaining weight (yes, that's right, thin people can also not look their best either), and taking care of myself. Looks do matter, but looks are part of a bigger package. Sometimes your photos can show how great you look by how you smile in the photo, instead of a shot frowning. Or a shot of you doing something you really love to do, (for me, that might be going to concerts.lol) so people can see you in action having fun, not just reading about it. I am a photo person, I'll admit, so I don't get why so many people hide that fact. This is a not like meeting face to face the first time, so you got to kinda recreate a visual at least to help that person feel like they want to know you. And I really am getting tired of the thin=idiot. I run some websites, was top in my class, and know my way around conversations. Being bigger doesn't make you smarter, any more than being thin makes me any one's catch.
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jetjim
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Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 189 | |
| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/21/2008 7:18:43 PM | Attractiveness is a fascinating topic 
Fact of the matter is, looks help. They help in most aspects of life, but they especially help in finding a mate.
That said, the thing I find puzzling is why more women don't work harder at improving their looks. If you want it bad enough (and if you have an average womans reproductive drive, then you want it PRETTY BAD), you should be willing to work hard on your appearance if you are not getting what you want.
Being attractive takes time, money, and work. But just about any woman can be at least "nice" or "attractive" or "pretty" with sufficient work. "Hot" or "Gorgeous" or "Stunning" is a different story, but in reality, those women don't always have great luck with men. Usually, just the opposite.
One of my friends is porn-star HOT. She has a terrible time with men. Mainly because she is a high maintenance drama queen (which is why we are "just friends"  ) whereas another is just an average "nice looking" girl of average height and weight who has had men chasing her left and right.
Intelligence and "nice looking" are really the best combinations for a woman. I actually feel sorry for the really beautiful women, because guys are so intimidated by their beauty. or are insanely jealous because they are sure she will cheat.
For men, appearance is not as important. For men, the ability to make a woman feel good is FAR more important. One of the best quotes about this was a girl who said, "I don't like bald guys, short guys, fat guys....unless I'm in love, in which case all bets are off."
If you are a guy, and you are not good looking, learn to make women feel good and you will never sleep alone. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/21/2008 8:07:59 PM | Looks are important to all of us but luckily we all find different people attractive. I have to be attracted to someone physically and mentally to want to spend time with them otherwise there is no point in getting together.
Sometimes the persons personality outshines their looks unfortunately that takes time to get to know the person first and with internet dating we dont have the time to get to know everyone that way. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:23:43 PM | | Some people just do not have an attractive face to others, nothing short of a face transplant will change their appearance. I think most people do the best with what they have been given, guess it is either that looks matter or they don't to the other person. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/22/2008 7:54:07 PM | Yes, looks do matter. Let's say you make first contact with someone. Now if you're good looking that in itself leads to a reply and further conversations. That person wants to know more about you.
But, if you're unattractive you wont get the chance to reveal anything about yourself. You just wont get your foot in the door. You're message will get Read/Deleted or Unread/Deleted. Believe me, I know. Maybe it's my pics.  | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/22/2008 8:15:52 PM | I would hesitate to go out with a stunningly beautiful woman for some reasons:
1. They are used to having any guy they want. Unless you have above average looks, chances are there are going to be many guys hitting on her. If she loves you for real that is fine, but the way these women tend to love, it is likely that they are like guy players and when they find a better looking guy than you, you are gone.
2. Since they are so spoiled, they require monumental material resources to keep. Not that I am cheap or anything, but I know very pretty ladies and their lifestyle is, well, outrageous. Their trips to the mall, to the saloon, the 40+ pairs of shoes they have well, you get the picture......
3.They think the world owes them everything because they are beautiful. they have all these kinds of complexes that they have the right to demand only the very best based on how they look. There are major issues with people like these, believe me I went out with one a while ago. Not anymore.
Give me an average looking woman or an older one and I am happy. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/22/2008 8:23:26 PM |
But, if you're unattractive you wont get the chance to reveal anything about yourself. You just wont get your foot in the door. You're message will get Read/Deleted or Unread/Deleted. Believe me, I know. Maybe it's my pics.
Now, I have said this on other posts. Depending on the location of the world you come from, ladies tend to be different. For example Hispanic ladies are not as hung up on looks or height as Caucasian women are. They value other things more than physical attributes and even though there are ones that are hung up on looks and all that stuff, they tend to go more for the heart and the feelings. It is a cultural thing.
Other types of women like intelligence and substance over looks. If you are smart, you stand a chance. But if the woman is Caucasian, chances are you have to have good looks, height, and be very successful to stand a chance. And, the younger the woman, the more she bases whom she chooses on height, looks and wealth.
I know these are obvious things, but if you try seeking ladies from other cultures, you may be pleasantly surprised as how they do not rely so much on materialistic attributes as other women do. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/22/2008 8:34:44 PM | Just wanted to say that rumble and princess have a fantastic view on what people are all about. And beacause of this will probably have very full lives enriched with love and excitement from lots of wonderful people.
I was pretty hot in my twenty's lol, but now I am 35, had a few babies, and breast fed, so everything doesnt sit where it used to lol, but i wouldnt change those life experiences for the world! I am still the same loving, exciting, caring person I was when i was younger and sexier, but personally think I am more interesting, confident, horny, and "educated" lol.
We are conditioned to react to the first visual impression, but looking past imperfections to see the other qualities may be the answer to getting to know some pretty awesome people! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:53:01 PM | Hey don't be so hard on yourself!
I think that since I am so outspoken in my opinions and not Brad Pitt nor Bill Gates that repels most women online for dating.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And women are impossible to fathom at least for a guy. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/24/2008 10:44:21 AM | I think people can be attractive/sexy no matter what their age or how many kids you have had.
I have 3 kids and when i go out try my best to be sexy and attractive and feel that way. I think if we all make the effort we can be attractive to someone out there. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:27:42 PM | Of course looks start the attaction, but then they either have what spices your life, or they don't. On that note,,, they can also have the looks "great looks", but then be to hung up on themselves. I wonder what what it would be like if we didn't have pic's on our profiles, and our personality is what got the attention... | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:32:54 PM | | It's not all about the looks - it's about how someone makes you feel inside. | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:41:54 PM | | Sad but true, they do fade, some faster than others. At my age most of the guys are all equal but the ones who are still cute want the younger women who are cute, AND they can get them because the younger women want someone who is settled and maybe has assets that younger, cuter guys dont have. SO where does the ones of us older chicks who still look good, take care of ourselves and really want a guy who still has his own hair, teeth, etc? The really HOT older guys wont give us a second look. Plus what gripes me is these fat, balding, older guys who want young chicks with hot bodies! HA, thats a joke, guess they never look in the mirror. SO, it is best to find someone who you love being with, can laugh with and just forget what they look like, in the end, no matter what (well except plastic surgery) we are all pretty much equal, so enjoy that firm skin and body parts where they are supposed to be cause sister, it dont last long! | |
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