| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:03:32 PM | When I'm working out at the gym, that's the last place I would want anyone trying to meet me. I'm there to work out! (I have to get as much as I can into 30 - 40 minutes)
I love my women's-only gym and only go to the other one when I have my daughter with me, because there's a place in there that she can hang out while I work out. Not so at the women's gym, otherwise I would only go there. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:05:09 PM | jarbarian,
Nice,, I can't believe the negative feed back you are getting! I say way to go!! there are tons of guys who are starting forums asking "how to approach a women?, or "what do I say?" or " how do I ask A women on a date?" then you offer a success story so these guys have something to read and learn from!! and you get grief!! that is Crazy!! | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:17:45 PM | I know........I have to say that, as a woman who has worked out for years, it drives me crazy when women wear makeup at the gym. Personally, I'd give these ladies a miss because its a sure sign that they are high maintenance. My biggest pet peeve, though, is anybody who yaps on a cell phone at the gym, particularly between sets, when others are waiting!!!LOL
While I am there for a definite purpose and to work hard, though, if a guy at the gym took the time and trouble to say hi when I am clearly not at my best (sweaty, no make-up), I think I would be really impressed :-) so I say, go for it! | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:25:54 PM | | I don't like meeting anyone at the gym....When I go to the gym, I am there to work out, nothing more. I don't like making friends there because sometimes I may be pressed for time and I don't want to end up being stuck talking to a bunch of people. Also, I don't like dating gym guys in case it doesn't work out....then I am stuck going to the same gym as them all the time. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:48:37 PM | Hey...wait a minute... I wear makeup to the gym! Not because I want to *look good* for the guys, but because I apply it in the morning, and then when I go to the gym later in the afternoon - it is still on!
The makeup they have out today does not just melt off as easily as it once use to - so working out with makeup is a not so un - common thing. just thought I would share.
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 8:12:02 AM | craigsh77.....So then I guess it would be safe to say that his "tips" are no good and men would be crazy to take the advice? | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:02:07 AM | Paulchino
I'm not bitter at all. I'm simply stating there's a reason why there are all these women only clubs. Guys that act like they've never seen a girl before ruin it for the guys that appreciate the eye candy and can focus on their own workouts without bugging a chick.
Like Mrs. Bucket said girls are going to look around. We all do. Just because some girl looks you in the eye for a split second doesn't mean she's telling you she wants you to **** her brains out. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:19:39 AM | Like Mrs. Bucket said girls are going to look around. We all do. Just because some girl looks you in the eye for a split second doesn't mean she's telling you she wants you to **** her brains out.
Two quick things:
1. I never said just because a woman looks at you means she wants to boink your brains out. Show me where I said that because I am positive I did not. That has never been my M.O.
2. There's a difference between someone "looking" at you and someone "making eye contact" in a positive manner. Those that can recognize the difference will know when someone wants to be approached. FWIW, she wasn't wearing a headset. If you don't want to be approached in the gym, I've found wearing a headset usually will prevent it. If you want to be approached and are not, well, stop wearing the headset :)
If you don't want to be approached at all in the gym, go to a girls or guys only gym. Problem solved.
If you notice my approach, I did not come off like a creep. I introduced myself, said something funny and then let her continue her workout. This isn't about trying to "score", it's about how to approach someone and build a rapport.
It's the same approach whether you are at the gym, grocery store, gas station...whatever.
The last thing I wanted to address was the comment "I don't want someone to approach me at the gym because I don't look my best...." Give me a break!. You aren't going to look your best all the time and if someone is attracted to you when you aren't looking your "best" then perhaps you'll realize that is a positive reflection on you.
Tons of people ask "How should I approach someone...." and I've given a good example. Who cares WHERE it was? This is just an example of how to introduce yourself and get over the fear of rejection.
Most men and women, especially if they give you an inviting look, will appreciate you introducing yourself. It shows you are confident and self-assured which is very attractive.
Ask any man or woman if they were approached by someone this way if deep down they would not appreciate it to some degree. It's a compliment, for crying out loud and if you are offended by it -- get over yourself! | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:22:45 AM |  I think it is ridiculous that people are so desperate to go to the gym solely to meet people. I have seen young guys at the gym making fun of women who are overweight, as if we are only there cause we want them. I personally go to the gym to lose weight and I have problems with my knee. I have seen people at the gym who just sit on machines and never exercise looking around to see who is looking at them or talking on a cellphone on a machine you use your arms on. I see no point in wearing make up to the gym, just to get all sweaty. I refuse to join a womens gym cause heard they were very cliquey. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:27:44 AM |
I think it is ridiculous that people are so desperate to go to the gym solely to meet people.
Not once did I insinuate that.....
I have seen young guys at the gym making fun of women who are overweight, as if we are only there cause we want them.
Young men are naive and it's very typical. Kids make fun of everything.
I personally go to the gym to lose weight and I have problems with my knee. I have seen people at the gym who just sit on machines and never exercise looking around to see who is looking at them or talking on a cellphone on a machine you use your arms on. I see no point in wearing make up to the gym, just to get all sweaty. I refuse to join a womens gym cause heard they were very cliquey.
Some people DO go to the gym to meet people. They are easy to pick out. Wear headphones and do your workout -- nobody will bother you. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:32:16 AM |
but have ya noticed the women that wear make up to work out, that drives me nuts, haha [/unquote] Wellll it's like this. I go directly from my office to the gym a couple of blocks away. I am *not* going to stop and scrub because a select few might think I dolled up just to go get all sweaty, or to "score" their happy a$$es. I am working hard to tone and firm. And, at 58 years old, that's some righteous work. BUT: Ask any man or woman if they were approached by someone this way if deep down they would not appreciate it to some degree. I appreciate hearing that what I am doing is working. Not all guys who talk to us at the gym are closet lechers waiting to spring [darn it!]. I vote that y'all give Jarbarian a break. He was succinct in relating his experience and from where I am sitting, he didn't do anything wrong.  | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:42:32 AM | | I don't like wearing anything on my head and usually I go with my teenage daughter, so we chit chat. Did you ever think the women at the gym have boyfriends or husbands? Obviously your not meeting anyone there, cause your on here begging for advice how to meet someone there. your 37 yrs old if you have to ask people how to meet someone at 37 that's sad. Maybe you might meet someone if you get into reality and not set high standards. the women must be 25-32, have no kids, and be in shape? then what its a match made in heaven? your no better than those little 18 yr old boys at the gym. Women on POF can see what you are looking for in a woman, but how do you screen them out at the gym????do you make them fillout an application? | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:14:07 AM | I don't like wearing anything on my head and usually I go with my teenage daughter, so we chit chat. Did you ever think the women at the gym have boyfriends or husbands?
I wouldn't know as I don't approach women in the gym often (see next reponse). But if she has a ring, regardless of where I meet her, I don't "hit" on her. Besides, that's not my M.O. I am not trying to score, I am showing by the example in the first post what is a good example to others of how to "meet" people. Did you not read that?
Obviously your not meeting anyone there,
As I said, she's the first one I've approached in the gym in 2 years...or did you not see that?
cause your on here begging for advice how to meet someone there.
Uhh, no. I am giving advice, not asking for it...
your 37 yrs old if you have to ask people how to meet someone at 37 that's sad.
Can you read??? I am NOT asking for advice, I am giving it. I think what's sad here is you didn't comprehend the thread and make an awful a LOT of assumptions.
Maybe you might meet someone if you get into reality and not set high standards. the women must be 25-32, have no kids, and be in shape?
Umm, who cares what you think about my standards? They're MINE, not yours, so I don't care if they please you or not. I take good care of myself and have a lot to offer the right woman and feel like we both should bring something to the table. That's not high standards at all, THAT is what is called "reality." I'm not going to get into a relationship with someone who brings little or nothing to the relationship nor am I apt to "take care" of someone. I want an equal.
BTW, she has to be a Christian too, or do you feel I should set aside my beliefs as well?
then what its a match made in heaven? your no better than those little 18 yr old boys at the gym. Women on POF can see what you are looking for in a woman, but how do you screen them out at the gym????do you make them fillout an application?
The difference, my dear, is that I am not going to the gym to meet women. I go there to work out. But if there is someone who sparks my interest I am confident and secure enough to go introduce myself.
I'm not sure where you are getting your assumptions from or why you feel you need to dig into my personal perferences (I could care less what yours are) but obviously I touched a nerve somewhere. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:29:36 AM |
I wasn't talking about your specfic instance. I was talking about it in general terms.
But that's why I gave my example. Too many people either fear rejection or come off as complete pervs.
The point is that you shouldn't try and "score" on the first meeting. If that's your goal, you're a "player."
Introduce yourself, build a rapport and get to know them before deciding if you want to ask them out. It'll save unnecessary headaches in the future.
I'm a firm believer in really getting to know someone, hanging out with them, learning who they are before you start dating them or become a couple. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:43:17 AM |
Maybe you're assuming that most guys in the gym have social skills? lol
Hehe, true. That takes time but the only way to improve is to practice! | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:43:27 AM | | the point to all of this is NOT the fact that he was at the gym! but the fact that he made a polite approach, introduces himself get her name and has a conversation,, he could have done this anywhere,, it just happens to be at a gym,, he could have been at a grocery store and done the same thing,, | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:59:29 AM | | Craig, I think I should have chosen a better title for the OP. That's what is confusing to some people... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 11:12:08 AM | | you titled your thread how to meet someone at the gym? what is there to understand? my opinion was some people go to the gym to actually work out. your whole thread sounded totally dumb, don't you think you could have worded it a little better, instead of your corny little story. and i noticed a few others responded the way i first did, funny how they didn't get the insulting replys like I did. you flat out called me stupid and implied I couldn't read is that how you handle everything someone says that you don't like by name calling? you obviously haven't met anyone, so who are you to GIVE ADVICE on picking someone up at the gym. then you ramble on and on about how you take care of yourself etc.................., its apparent why you are STILL ALONE, you sound like a bitter unhappy person. you say you have alot to offer the right woman, What a bad attitude? the way you cut me down did you ever think some woman who might have been interested in you might be turned off by the way your trying to belittle me and insult me and call me dumb. some people set their standards so high they wind up alone. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 11:19:37 AM | your whole thread sounded totally dumb,
On the contrary, not reading and understanding the thread would be perceived as pretty dumb if you ask me....
don't you think you could have worded it a little better, instead of your corny little story.
Maybe.
I only decided to respond after reading what quiksilver wrote, about how some people actually go to the gym to work out. and i noticed a few others responded the way i first did, funny how they didn't get the insulting replys like I did.
That's because most everyone else read the story and understood what I was trying to convey. The didn't acuse me of "asking for advice" or make the assumptions you did.
you obviously haven't met anyone, so who are you to GIVE ADVICE on picking someone up at the gym.
I didn't give advice on "picking someone up at the gym." I gave advice on how to tactfully approach someone and introduce yourself. It might help if you actually READ the original post.
then you ramble on and on about how you take care of yourself etc..................,
I addressed your "opinion" of my personal preferences, something that was brought up by you for no apparent reason....
its apparent why you are STILL ALONE, you sound like a bitter unhappy person.
Funny, that's the first thing I thought about you when I read your replies. I'm hardly bitter and I am alone because I got out of a two year relationship in December and have been slowly working on improving myself before I dive into another relationship.
you say you have alot to offer the right woman, What a bad attitude?
I DO have a lot to offer, what's the problem with that?
the way you cut me down
I didn't "cut you down" I merely addressed the fact that you did not read the thread or understand what was being said. In fact, YOU have insulted me several times yet I have refrained from doing the same to you.
did you ever think some woman who might have been interested in you might be turned off by the way your trying to belittle me and insult me and call me dumb.
No actually because I didn't call you dumb and most everyone who has read your replies to me can plainly tell you did not read the thread or understand what I have been trying to convey.
some people set their standards so high they wind up alone.
What on earth does that have to do with my original post?! | |
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