| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 4:34:32 PM |
I dont go to the gym to meet girls. I go to train hard. hey, nobody does
It was not the point of the topic....we don't go to the grocery store to meet anybody - we go shopping......we don't go to a gas station to meet guys -- we go to fill the tank..........we don't go to bank to meet people - we go for some money purposes.
But do we meet people there? You bet
And the point was how to do it socially, not trying to make them uncomfortable. How to approach them nicely.
There always will be someone who won't feel comfortable with any attempt to connect them. So, should we never do it? NO. there is always a hope that someone right for you won't freak out and respond with the smile. And you will smile back | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 4:39:58 PM | (((I never compare how pretty they are in the gym in comparison to me.)))
Ummm..scuse me Mom..but I wasn't comparing anyone to myself. I guess my comedic sarcasm kinda got "lost" on you. But yeah..it's ANNOYING when you have two chatter boxes on either side of you that rival the volume of your headphones. Kinda hard to concentrate. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 4:42:05 PM | Sunnybunny
The fact of the matter is you can't compare a gym and a gas station
For a lot of people going to the gym is just like going to a nightclub
That's what makes it so annoying
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 5:42:33 PM | I am not at the gym to *meet guys*. but if some guy started talking to me I would not be offended. If I saw him everyday...and we started to really get into training together or something like that, I would not be offended either. I go there to better myself. And personally I would want the same attitudes from the person I dated.
And a lot of the times, people are brought together by doing what they love to do. To me, going to the gym is something I love to do! | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 7:44:57 PM | | As long as your aren't interupting her workout or getting in the way of others just go and talk to her. You are both there for the same reason so you already have that in common. Personally when I'm at the gym I like to concentrate on that. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/1/2006 10:58:28 PM | Here's an idea....
My gym hosts social events i.e, Holiday parties for an hour or two. They are grateful for their members so this is a way to show appreciation. Its fun cause THAT is a great time to mingle and get to know other members at the local gym. Not just to meet a member of the opposite sex of course but other people sharing common interests-Personal Trainers, members with children, men on ****roids hahaha The gym is like a place we go to feel great (at home,comfortable) Healthiness and wellbeing is a lifestyle and social events at the gym are great to participate in and encourages us to KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! My gym is full of great looking ppl, but mostly everyone is like one big happy family...Staff/members
So if possible, plan a MEMBER APPRECIATION day....who knows you may find someone nice to talk to...and skip the cake!
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/2/2006 5:20:42 AM |
For a lot of people going to the gym is just like going to a nightclub
That's what makes it so annoying I probably live in a very small town but I didn't notice what you describe Everybody looks like in a gym not in a nightclub.
And it's hard to annoy me anyway. I have a teeneage daughter which may be much more annoying than all the people in gym who I really even don't know. Why should I be annoyed? Just because I am too old to understand younger people??
Then I might be annoyed when someone chit-chatting in the line in a grocery store...........I don't know............. then the life is pretty annoying too | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/2/2006 5:54:51 AM | ...lol...getting PUNCHED!
So True...I am with you on this one. As a lady working out INTENSE, we do not appreciate anyone Male or female) entering this mind-body ZONE, but it IS nice being acknowldge WITHOUT making us feel you are WATCHING...lol...or circling....lol
Nothing is more annoying than having to ESCAPE any unwanted approach, as we do consider the gym our SANCTUARY...a place to run to ....DE-Stress and WORK "IT" out...
So, when a Girl does smile, she IS Interested ...AFTER the WORKOUT...to maybe get to know you.
IF she actually walks up to you and ask you to change the heavy plates...then she feels comfortable with you being in the RESPECTED ZONE...and trusts your Gentle-MAN-ers...
...Obey Gym Law: Respect Personal Space UNTIL Eye contact and Smile allows for it...this goes two ways....lol
...beware of serious GYm Rats....they can PUNCH or bite....anyone...guy or girl who approaches without work-out intent!
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/2/2006 6:27:23 AM | jabarian, I've read your forums in other places, good advice...POF doesn't work for me so well, so I've reverted back to working the more traditional way of dating...
general rule of thumb if there's some initial attraction, talk to the person, if they talk back then you're in (like flynn)..and take it from there...
the challenge is getting the conversation going in the first place, whether it's a gym, airport, etc..and since most people aren't 'smooth talkers', it can be a jump...it's good to step outside your box for at least a few minutes and see where it takes you...if she brushes you off, who cares...if she goes out with you, then good for you...think of the upside... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:16:37 AM | Bingo...
I love the ladies, dont get me wrong. But when im training, I want to be left alone. No doubt tho, most girls who see my workout partner and I train are way too intimidated to come talk to us..
For some the gym is a place to stay in shape, and they dont mind the chit chat. Im a freak, I dont wanna talk, I wanna train. Wanna talk to me? catch me after my workout, I always stick around a little while and have a shake...
The way to my heart is good food and not delaying my workout.. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/4/2006 12:37:28 AM | | I don't know Jar, I think that picking up a woman at the gym based on her looks is just asking for a one nighter . Maybe not for you but for me. I find that anytime in the world that I approach a woman in the gym or out in the world anywhere it just turns into a stupid one nighter. The best way to meet a woman is when she approaches me. Yep. If someone likes me enough and approaches me than it is almost assured to be a long term relationship. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:04:16 AM | I don't know Jar, I think that picking up a woman at the gym based on her looks is just asking for a one nighter . Maybe not for you but for me. I find that anytime in the world that I approach a woman in the gym or out in the world anywhere it just turns into a stupid one nighter. The best way to meet a woman is when she approaches me. Yep. If someone likes me enough and approaches me than it is almost assured to be a long term relationship.
No where did I infere I wanted a "one nighter." Remember, I said I want to know WHO she is, not WHAT she is... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:14:18 AM | | OOOPS SORRY. Go for it. I have a hard time, that is all. I find that I have to stay clear of the opposite sex unless she is 100% the one. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:18:36 AM |
OOOPS SORRY. Go for it. I have a hard time, that is all. I find that I have to stay clear of the opposite sex unless she is 100% the one.
That's good advice for anyone who is healing. Heal yourself and get your confidence back up to speed. Learn to love yourself or no one else will love you.
It's that simple. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:39:45 AM | From the post he started I am quite positive the OP is not going to gym to only pick up girls. He is going to there work out and he just saw this girl by chance.
But it's good you are taking it easy and taking your time. One reason I stopped going to gym because first I actually prefer doing exercise at my own place feeling more comfortable and second I hate being starred at.
Nono I don't mean I am being checked by guys. I went to a gym for girls ONLY. But there is a cleaning staff he always ALWAYS staying at in front of the machines which the girls working on their legs. There were couple times I was working out with my legs opened and he was cleaning by his hand but his eyes were staring inbetween my legs. And he did that with other girl also. He is a staffs so I think I will have no way to get rid of him then I just choose to get rid of the gym and work out at home. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 10/17/2006 9:56:17 PM | Update.
So I finally saw her at the gym today and went up and said hello. She remembered me. We had a brief chat, smiled a lot and made good eye contact. And the end of the conversation I asked for and got her email address
The point is, I didn't come off like a creep. I knew there was some genuine interest on both sides (due to the eye contact we were making both times). The key is to recognize those signals of interest and just be calm, confident and yourself.
If you aren't being yourself when you meet someone, even if you do start dating, the real you is eventually going to come out and he/she won't like that.
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 11/30/2006 7:41:53 PM | I got thinking about selling my home gym today...I thought it would force me to join a gym and get out more...possibly meet a woman....
...point being...I look at going ANYWHERE public as a chance to meet women...but I would never FORCE the issue...which is what so many people do at the gym...
...focused too much on the "pick up" instead of developing the non-verbal connection beforehand.... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 11/30/2006 7:48:09 PM | Ask her if she wants to go for a powerbar or a protein shake?
Or if she likes the simpsons ask if she wants to go grab a powersauce bar ;) | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 12/12/2006 12:55:34 PM | | ohh that's a tough one. I mean meeting people at gym can be hard. because it seems like verybody is into their own thing you know. personally I am at my most abrasive stage because when i work out I am stress out and come off very aggressive, I don't know women may be going through the same, thing. I think I met a girl or 2, we talked a bit but I never asked for their numbers or nothing. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 1/16/2007 1:40:52 PM | *sigh* well there went my hope of Jarbarian moving to calgary :P
YAY :) I rather liked this thread......always helpfull Thanks | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 10:54:45 PM | | Gosh, I would totally be happy if a hot guy hit on me at the gym (even if I had worked up a sweat). Wow, he must really be interested! There are opportunities everywhere to meet people. Anyways, you can not look your best all the time- means he must even like you at your worst. | |
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