| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/19/2007 12:22:56 AM | | know what, jarbarian? you're a smart guy. absolutely perfect way of doing things. works not only at the gym, but at the bars, a supermarket, or wherever. kudos. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/19/2007 3:25:58 AM | Great advice, jar, but here's another "technique" I've heard of... (for picking up women at the gym, probably wouldn't work for picking up men...)
You wait till she's on a weight machine and ask her if you can "work in" with her... she says ok... you say,
"tell you what, I'll do your weight if you do my weight." She looks at you a little funny and says "ok...." you get on and push whatever she was pushing, but make it look like you're straining like crazy... then set the weight to 10 lbs lower and let her do a set... chat for a bit, say it was nice to meet her but you have to get back to your workout... get her number if you want, or wait till another time, whatever...
later, while you're in the middle of your workout, if you catch her eye in the middle of one of your reps, make some kind of crazy face, stick your tongue out and cross your eyes or something, like you're trying really hard to lift the weight... just make her laugh. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/19/2007 8:25:49 AM | I was the klutzy kid in gym class. To the point where I was regularly mocked & another girl in my gym class tried to shove me down the locker room stairs to get me off her basketball team in the class. I escaped injury by holding onto the handrails of the staircase for dear life. So I developed a weird aversion to any place with a locker room. Which I'm getting over.
But as a result, I pretty much just want to be invisible at the gym. If they had a cloak of invisibility I could wear, I'd wear it, though that would make it hard to see if the machines are taken. My first response when someone wants to talk to me at the gym is to first check for stairs! Or think they're going to insult me. It's completely irrational. Once I was doing weights under a tv showing Seinfeld because that was the only spot & I had to remind myself that the people looking in my direction laughing were probably doing so because of Seinfeld and not me! So if the response isn't good to a gym approach, maybe they just had a bad gym class experience.  | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/19/2007 8:50:54 AM | Imagine that, this poor girl sees something she likes and goes for it, only to wind up hitting on a "Christian". She's probably jumped some other guy while the OP is saving his next move for Easter. Good girls go to church while the bad girls get to go everywhere.
So what music does she listen to while she works out? How far does she travel? How often does she work out? What is the tattoo? Does her boyfriend like it? Let us know. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/22/2007 6:38:53 PM | Okay, next time I see you at the gym I'll leave you alone. You may not be in my city, never mind my province, but I'll steer clear.
However, not every woman is adverse to meeting a guy at the gym. Coincedentally enough I spoke to two women at the gym I go to just this past week. Both indicated they wouldn't mind being approached by a guy at the gym.
I think it's like anywhere else - it comes down the woman and the guy. If the woman is not interested, she's not interested, no matter where she is (she could be at the bar but just wants to be left alone). If the guy comes up and makes some braindead comment about her body (unless she's into that), probably he won't get far.
I think though that if a guy notices a woman's physique and can appreciate the fact that she's there for the same reason he is (getting in shape) there's at least some common ground. I go to the gym to be more attractive to the opposite sex; I'm sure many women are doing the same. If two people are at the gym and have the common goal of attracting the opposite sex, what's wrong with meeting at the gym? Okay, sure - I don't look my best after an hour of lifting weights either. But then again, if we were going out, you might see me when I come in from cutting the grass, all sweaty and smelly. Hopefully I wouldn't be written off then... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/22/2007 6:41:35 PM | Hmm... guess I should mention that my post was in response to a woman's comment about being left alone at the gym. Unfortunately, dimwit (aka me) forgot to quote what was said.
Sigh. So much for higher education... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/22/2007 6:51:14 PM | I have a story to share.....
The gym I work out in is populated by many lovely gay men who over the years have become great friends. I work out very early in the morning so it is always the same crowd of professionals. We all know one another and it is a bit like a gym "family".
One day there was a guy there who was in town for a short while. He said he worked for United Airlines and was on a week lay-over taking some vacation time. I don't know what kind of "lay-over" he had in mind but his opening line to me was "I really admire your courage". I kinda looked at him and muttered "huh"? He went on to say that he thought it was great that I had enough self-confidence to be working out in an environment consisting of 99.9% men. I just looked at him and said "In case you haven't noticed, most of these lovely men are gay and if I was working out nude, no one would notice."
The poor boy had no GAY-dar........He left within 5 minutes and I never saw him again.
Still get the odd chuckle over it.
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/22/2007 9:01:59 PM |
The principle of approaching someone applies whether you are at the gym or anywhere else. .
Thank you, that anwsers this whole issue. When I'm at the gym, I plug in my headphones, tune out and work out. I may glance around, and of late, I have caught this pretty thing looking at me, I look back. We did the smiling thing, and I'm taking the wait and see approach.
My point is, this is probably what I would do to a pretty girl I saw on the street; on the subwat, etc. Bottom line is same rules of attraction (or non attraction) apply, same rules of respect apply. If she/he is interested, you should be able to tell. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/22/2007 10:36:15 PM | | Hi my name is...usually works well.....I don't know. Be yourself, be confident, smile, talk, talk about whatever, compliment the other person, be real and genuine. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/26/2007 3:38:56 PM | I workout very often and don't mind at all if someone introduces themselves to me. It's happened several times & it's as good a place as any. I actually welcome it in fact, as I am new to the city. I do have to note that the key is "balance" & the OP had it right IMHO... A quickish exchange & let the person work out. I wouldn't agree with doing a whole drawn out chat type thing (as one would take longer if they'd met in a restaurant or club or something like this) for the first time, at the gym. When you see them again working out, you have grounds to say hello and if there is mutual interest you will eventually chat for longer. If not, it won't go much beyond a "hello" which might fade with time.
I am actually quite interested in meeting a guy I've seen at the gym a few times. We've made eye contact, said hello once, though I haven't seen him in a bit -drat!
I guess it is a matter of personal preference if people want to be approached in that enviroment or not... No "absolutes" on it... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 2/26/2007 5:29:20 PM | | I am a 49 yer old student and work out at the gym in the college. I have no worries about conversations. To the kids I am invisible, lol. I do have some fun watching some guy try to push the weights on the machine I have just finished with, the look of suprise is worth the admission. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:39:10 AM | | Thank you very much for the advice. Yes, I have tried to pick up women at the gym. It is nice to know that somebody has the same approach as I do. In other words, I will NOT ask a girl out right away. I will try to build a rapport. Thanks again. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:48:56 PM | Sorry to dig up an old thread but just wanted to say thanks for the kind words. I have met a lot of people at the gym recently.
Just smile, be yourself and you will make connections. Even if it's just platonic. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 7:52:34 PM | Forgot all about this thread. A couple of weeks ago I had a brief exchange with a girl at my gym, simply to comment that she appeared to live in the gym. She is always there when I am. Anyway we do chat regularly now. the approach wasn't intended as a "hit" but was merely a natural encounter.
If you set out to make friends invariably it seems "forced". | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:20:49 PM | | For the next few weeks I am going to use the freeweights bench at the Y. The weights area is where most of the guys go for at least part of their workout. And its the younger ones that are more interested in their physique that are seen over there, not the Silver Sneakers ones that are trying to tame their arthritis or osteoporosis. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 4/23/2007 7:26:09 PM | this is how you meet someone at a gym... you go up to someone on a stationary bike and say 'pardon me, mind if i take a ride?'  so just kidding lol couldn't resist........... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 4/23/2007 7:56:40 PM | I find most guys work out in pairs at my gym. Women seem to workout alone.
One of the previous posts gave me a humorous flashback. I would be working out on a machine and several times guys would ask if they could work in between my sets. My response would be.." I am just about done and you can have it. " I would tell my friends... "how rude that they can't go work on something else until I am done. " Then a guy friend told me that is their way of hitting on me. I said, that seems awkward to try to carry on a conversation with someone, while each of us is concentrating on what we are doing.
I just find the whole situation awkward. So I go to the gym, Ipod in, and just do my thing. If I meet someone there, well that will just be a bonus to my membership. Otherwise, I am getting what I paid for. :) | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 4/24/2007 6:47:57 AM | OP.
I dated one woman from the gym and it was that she approached me first. She did it by criticizing my technique (I was locking my joints too much on the uplift of the weights) and she offered to spot me.
I think that picking up women is both easier and harder than at a night club. It's easier because:
1. You see the opposite person at their most honest self, both physically and mentally (if they are there to work out).
2. You already know you have one thing in common.
3. Usually women work out on their own (at my club) unless they are there with a boyfriend so you don't have friends running "interference".
But in other regards it is tougher because:
1. They are there to work out, not to be pickup or to pickup.
2. They feel that they are not at their best, physically because they are sweaty.
3. They are completely sober! (JK). | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:00:30 AM | Oh Gawd....God bless the man who sees me working out in the gym and finds my sweaty, frizzy, unkempt self attractive and wants to hang out with me!
LMFAO
I don't know about the rest of you, but I go to the gym to work out, not get picked up by guys. (which is a shame sometimes, because some of the dudes in my gym are
H-O-T!!). I think that I would find it a bit uncomfortable if a guy approached me in that setting. But as I said, if anyone found me attractive after I've been working out there for a few hours (and haven't showered yet), then GOD BLESS. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 4/24/2007 7:35:31 PM | Since I stick some nice death metal on the ol' MP3 player and go into the gym, if you approach me, I'm not going to hear you...come to think of it, even if I take of the headphones, it will take a few minutes before I will hear you!
I get in the zone and work out. I'm not there to do anything else except work out and occasionally forget to wipe the machine down when I'm done!
Cheers! | |
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