| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 9/16/2006 10:42:44 PM | | yea i get that alot... i will compliment some1 ex: nice artwork, nice picture.. intresting profile... and i get nada back... some ppl are lookin for sex.. and if ur not that person... they dont bother... Blaaa | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 9/16/2006 11:35:35 PM | | You know its funny about that, because I have wrote alot of nice e mails that doesn't contain sex and i only have received maybe about 3 so far but i have written alot and I got nothing back you know why can't we at least have a nice convo you know? what happen with lets get to know each other before anything else happends? What happen to sending an e mail and get a response? That don't happen no more I guess. Nowadays people just don't give damn about relationships or one another. Or they just ignore them and not even to say hello how are you nice too meet, damn i miss those. but what can ya do about it? | |
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pgs71
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Joined: 8/6/2006
Msg: 54 | |
| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/17/2006 5:06:33 PM | I have moved back here from Philly 2 years ago. One thing I have noticed is that most guys in my area are tools or so self absorbed about their "six pack". As far as emails...I have to say, I have seen barely nothing that interests me here. At least in my surrounding area. Doesnt anyone in my area have tattoos AND a flippin job and home, doesnt do drugs, and have a sense of humor? I think not
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avis25
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Joined: 8/31/2006
Msg: 55 | |
| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/17/2006 7:20:03 PM | i believe secretlover86 said it best...
some people are just shallow.
lets face it. people do not know you here and do not give a person a chance if they do not see it in a picture.
i pretty much gave up on dating and writing people online to not get a response. i think ill stick to real life and making friends. i will not date someone until i have known them for a while, am friends with them, and have hung out as friends with them before i even consider dating now.
saves your time, money, dissapointment, and u might even make a good friend out of it later. everything else people call romance on here, i have another word for it...LUST | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/17/2006 11:08:32 PM | the ones I get a kick out of are the ones who post their profiles up and complain about men or women and when they get a genuine response that's unique and shows a sense of humor which winds up being different from the rest of e-mails they get they go
"pfft" and delete it. Then wonder why they're single.
seriously. Why go through all the trouble, find a singles site, create a profile, expect to find Mr. Right and go "pfft.. F**k the world"? Esp when the object of coming to these kinds of sites is to MEET people. | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/18/2006 8:46:57 AM | What I don't understand is the people that do respond (or message me first) and we exchange several messages and then they just stop responding. In both cases I sent follow-up messages a few days later and still heard nothing. This makes no sense to me.
I've been using dating sites for about 2 months. I've sent out about 30 messages to women. I received one polite "not interested" (which I was glad to get), I met one for lunch, but nothing developed (I enjoyed the lunch though), but besides the two cases I spoke about above, I heard nothing from the rest. So, is that par for the course? | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:06:17 AM | Yes...if you check w/ the rest of the 'regular' guys who are decent & sincerely want to meet someone here, that is EXACTLY par for the course.
PS....I just saw you live in Gainesville! Get out of the house & go do something fun on the town, there are LOTS of pretty, single women here & for the most part they are very nice. | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/18/2006 7:09:58 PM | | Most of the women on these sites are mostly here to get attention. The ones that are seriously looking for a guy are looking for some ridiculous ideal that no man can live up to but a con-artist can emulate very well. And it is those guys that get most of the women who aren't gold diggers or idle attention seekers. | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:01:50 PM | I've come to the conclusion that some of the other guys have arrived at. That being that a lot of the women on this site set their standards on appearance, income, current family, etc...SOOOOo high that the majority of us "regular joe's" may as well not even be on here. And, I'm not whining, but merely stating my newly formed opinion. Lady's, I've got news for you that you're probably already aware of. Those tall, dark, handsome, rich guys with the college degree and their own law practice or medical practice will not be found on internet dating sites. Those guys are all either married, enjoying being single (due to dating abuses, referring to being used for money), or maybe gay. Now, yes, a lot of the dudes on here, as well as many other sites are extremely superficial, and I can only speak for myself, when I say we're not all like that. I've dated hot, cold, beautiful, average, below average, thin, and fat. Then I got married to my current ex, and thought I had it made. lol. I, for one, read every word of a lady's profile, and if I make it past the non-smoker part, I look at pictures for the heck of it. I've also written to profiles with no pictures, many times. In other words, I try to emulate what I believe others should do, which is give us not-so-photogenic people an honest chance at at least being noticed, and maybe finding our special "someone". Be gentle with your response, bellydancer | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:22:04 AM | How did you know I would respond?
If anything I'm going to defend men....because there are guys online who are tall, dark, handsome, and some even have money and degrees in law and medicine online....these are busy busy people and the internet has allowed them to find a new alternative to the other avenues of finding someone...one of my ex bfs from way back is a lawyer now and he's been online looking...a couple of doctors and lawyers have contacted me....but I'm not looking for an ''occupation''...I'm looking for a guy I click with...someone who is honest, respectful, loyal, intelligent and creative...and has interests similar to mine...and who I feel comfortable around (since I'm very shy which is why online dating works better for me)
Just because a man is good looking and successful does not make him gay...
I (and other women I'm sure) look for a guy I'm attracted to physically AND mentally...I need to read that profile and see something there in the words AND the photos...There are certain guys who I am generally attracted to but that doesn't mean I'm going to email them...or respond to their emails...I need to feel an attraction or that something might come out of it whether friendship or a relationship.....plenty of very good looking guys have mailed me on this site and others and have ended up in the deleted mail
everyone has their preferences of looks...and if I lined up the guys I have been attracted to and dated, most people would probably laugh at me...I know my 19 yr old daughter does...she's only thought one guy in the last four years that I've dated was good looking...she tells me all the time, "Mom you could do better''....lately I've been attracted to nerdy geeky types...definitely NOT the bodybuilder, "i'm hot, and I know you want me'' types
what gets my attention in a photo is a great smile...those are the guys i tend to click on...and then read their profiles
since this post started I've tried to answer most of the mail i get, even with just a ''thank you'' and leave it at that if there is nothing further to pursue | |
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TishaG
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Joined: 11/13/2005
Msg: 63 | |
| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 5:19:10 AM | I've stopped politely responding with "no thank you's" and I've even said in my profile why and that if you don't hear from me, I'm not interested. I hate being rude but what I got in return was much ruder than my "no thank you's" could have ever been. At first contact I was amazing/sexy/beautiful/hot, but that quickly turned into: you're ugly, you're fat, you're old, you think you're too good for everyone, and the best one...I hope you die a slow painful death and rot in hell. Nice people, huh? Funny thing is, I'm a betting woman and the ones I thought might respond like that...DID. Good thing my woman's intuition is working well. | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 6:50:15 AM | I wish people wouldn't let the jerks and idiots of the world alter their behavior. If someone cuts you off in traffic, do you sell your car and stop driving?
The guy that said, "I hope you die a slow painful death and rot in hell" should have been reported and removed from the site. | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 10:06:04 AM | Lets just say what we really mean. 1st off people are no longer curtious to others. This is due to lack of training by parents and lack of enforcement by parents. and yes im just as guilty as the rest of you. But i try to change how i act by doing the little nice things now and then of course not over night. Remember the old saying sticks and stones might break my bones but freaking words will never hurt me. well its true. If you send a no thanks email and you get an ugly one back then guess what just ignore that dang email for god sake instead of letting it turn you off from responding. Personally i never stick my nose in drama like this but every one whining and moaning and complaining and so on is getting really old and its time to take the depends off and grow up and act like an adult and go out and get what you really want and quit waiting around for it. Sure its nice to have an ad working while you sleep but you never freaking no until you take that leap of faith. any way thats my 2 cents hope it has gotten some reactions if you think i was out of line guess what i dont care this is my right as an american to speak my mind.   | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 3:20:03 PM | Tisha...same thing happened with me and not just on this site...but others...and yeah u block them but it still makes you wonder how you can go from hot and sexy to fat and ugly in one email....
it's not like we're saying anything bad to them....
i responded to a guy recently who i thought was attractive and told him thanks but as you smoke and I really can't date smokers, i've tried...he whined and whined and tried to convince me to try again and that he didn't smoke that much...couldn't i deal with it? see i really don't want to have to deal with those situations either...sometimes after a long hard day it's just easier to hit delete...
i email guys all the time and get no response and I don't sweat it...to me it means...they're not interested | |
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TishaG
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Joined: 11/13/2005
Msg: 69 | |
| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 3:33:55 PM | I know Bellydancer..lotta immature little idiots floating around on the internet ("I see dumb people"). Believe me..I don't sweat them. I do block them. And as for the female poster who was COMPLAINING about others whining and complaining. It's a forum. We're here to chit chat. If someone wants to complain..let them. It's not hurting anyone, much less YOU. Remember..it's a free site. It isn't costing you anything. If you don't like it..don't read it..lol.
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:30:57 PM | Trisha
It's a forum. We're here to chit chat. If someone wants to complain..let them. It's not hurting anyone, much less YOU. Remember..it's a free site. It isn't costing you anything. If you don't like it..don't read it..lol.
I salute you for an awesome thought ...well done! | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:47:43 PM | mr right i think u missed the point...the point is these men will contact you and pretend you are all that...and as soon as you say, "thanks but no thanks...good luck" they become verbally abusive and sling the insults...like ''fat and ugly''....
frankly i think anyone who uses that sort of language to insult another human being is lacking in their own self worth...u can think ugliness but must you really say it outloud to someone else....
we're grown ups, we should start acting like it with one another | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 10/20/2006 5:22:25 PM | | nowake, it all starts with the person. people can make thier profiles to sound great and make themselves to sound like this fabulous person, but it all comes down to the real person they are and thier actions show the real them. manners arent real high on most peoples list, people are more about nonsense then being real and genuine. most people do not have respect or manners for other human beings, attitudes and rudeness seem to be high on thier list. if someone has no respect or manners for others then they rarely have it for themselves. most profiles are a bunch of bs, i myself would rather communicate with the person and find out about the real them not just words. | |
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| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 11/13/2006 1:05:50 PM | | Now you see I hear something like that all the time in many different profiles that I have found thats like you, but then they still don't respond to crap of e mails that guys write. See what I don't understand is that mostly I understand about women but I don't most of the time lol but the point that im trying to make is that. Say that bellydancer is looking for the samething but as a guy and then a guy wrote oh im the samething as you are that is looking for the samething that as I am, and would like to know if you would like to get to know each other often and to talk more you know something intresting but then a couple of days later I still don't get a response from that person. So you see my point is that, why are there bad girls in here? LOL. I found a couple of nice ones but don't even talk to me as much. So its just like whatever you know? So ballerdancer im talking to u hun lol if you want to talk im here because only if your intrested in to talk to me that would be cool and will get to know each other and stuff like that because now i think that you sound very intresting to talk too. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 75 | |
| Why don't people respond to emails???? no whining...lol...
Posted: 11/30/2006 8:33:10 PM | Okay, last night I recieved an email from a nutjob who thought he had a stellar sense of humor (apparently, he is the only one that "gets" his humor). His email said something about having a space ship and it was hard and glistening, asking if I wanted a ride. There was a whole bunch more that made absolutely NO sense and was just stupid. I have a great sense of humor, but that wasn't even slightly humorous. Yes, I get the sexual innuendo, but you'll understand in a second why I'm talking about humor.
Well, I have put it pretty plain and clear in my profile that I'm not looking to just get laid. I wrote back with "That must be pretty good crack you're smoking". Not offensive, not mean, mostly tongue in cheek, sarcastic.
This guy writes back with a tirade about what a **** I am and is quite angry at my response and tells me that it was humor and it's no wonder I'm single and on a dating site (so are you, nimrod! Oh wait, did I mention he ISN'T single?). Now THAT was funny!
THESE are the kinds of things some women are getting in their inbox. It gets real old, real fast. I love a sense of humor, but stupid is just, well, stupid. | |
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