| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 10/28/2006 12:58:49 PM | "Falling in love" is a delusion. Having love is real, but its not something you can only have with a woman or a man, its something you have in your relationship to yourself and others. You can have love and be loving and also loved without a man or woman in your life, theyre just icing on the cake.
I don't think the above is the type of love that the op is referring to. If you've never had earth shattering love.....the feeling that being apart from your loved one is almost an ache, well then you might think that the above is as good as love gets.
"Love the highest place a mortal can aspire to."
Never are we more vulnerable to pain, getting hurt than when we are in love........having experienced that twice in my life I can attest that it is frightening to think of giving my heart away.
Loving a man comes easy to me; being in love with them is another thing entirely. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 10/28/2006 1:56:20 PM | When he left me in the morning (after we hug each other for a very long time), I can remember being in a fog like state, still able to smell him, still able to feel his touch. The rest of the day was unreal, like I wasn't really part of that day, because I was still with him, even though he wasn't there.
Just brushing against his arm sent an electric current though us both.
Yes, I want that again. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 10/28/2006 2:45:01 PM | | Could you fall in love again at 56, of course you could. I am your age and my mother just turned 80 this past week and she met and fell in love with a gentleman this last year. She tells me that she feels like a teenager again. She is young in mind and heart and age doesn`t diminish the feeling. I am so glad that she can find this kind of happiness and that she embraces it instead thinking she is too old for love. Don`t give up. When you are ready for love it will find you. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 10/28/2006 3:37:02 PM | Well tig, being a big strappin' Kansas-bred boy, they don't usually call me Dorothy. But I guess there's a first for everything.  heh heh. So you're no stranger to TN either huh? The Memphis area, home of rock 'n roll soul. 
Well, I think it's awesome he could have accumulated that much wisdom in such a short time. Must have something to do with having a pretty insightful mom! Ya think?
Better to love or be loved? Wow! That does sound like a good topic for another thread.  That's a heck of a good question! And not one that would be a breeze to answer. I'd have to ponder that one a bit.  While quite different things, both are indeed significant.
-Suthn_Boy
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 10/30/2006 3:07:01 PM | I think most of the problem is availability, circumstances and opportunity. Not so much desire.
As we get on up there a bit, the circumstances change, and we are less likely to meet an abundance of new people as we did in school, college, or on the job. And again, those we do meet are in different circumstances, more set in their ways, much more structured lives, and usually less prone to flexibility than they were as younger people.
Add to that, less and less are a part of the bar-scene. It just takes more effort and creativity to adjust to altogether new sets of circumstances.
-Suthn_Boy
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 10/30/2006 8:14:05 PM | I was just reading the posts and thinking how long it has been since I was in like.
It is hard to be in love, if you don't see someone you can be in like with. I have a hard time liking regret, and that is what I see most of in the dates I have been on. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/2/2006 10:53:45 PM | | I have stopped thinking that women and I want the same thing when it comes to love. I can still fall in love, but there is no future in it. There never was, but I thought so. The thing about life is you go along and one day you end up where you went. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/3/2006 12:22:51 AM | Goldi you certainly are an eternal optimist! But I like the way you think! 
Here's the deal though, I betcha. As we get on up there a bit, (you know, over 25 or so, and it won't be long now), I think the potential for us to fall in love with the "same" person who is in love with us, is a bit less likely.
It's not that we don't fall in love, or that 'they' don't fall in love with us, (whoever 'they' are), but less likely that the same two people will be in love with each other. Probably because it's a little harder to do so than when we were all way young and frivolous, since we're more structured later in life, (over 25), and flexibility is not as prevalent for us as it once was.
No??
-Suthn_Boy
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:16:50 AM | | When we are younger, most of us don't realize what real love is. Maybe it is more of a question of it being harder as we get older to find real love, because we recognize that real love is rare. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/3/2006 2:12:04 PM | | Never give up for those moments that you "connect" with someone however long or brief they may be.....enjoy them (warts & all)....live your life as if each day is your last....because one day it will be...(got that "quote" off a "spiritual book".....now having typed it...seems depressing, lol!). | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/3/2006 2:44:55 PM | You seem to feel that it is something you can choose or not. I dont feel that way. I've known many women, but only loved a few and it was never a choice. It chose me.
Anyway, there is no effort involved with being in love with someone. Its been a while since Ive been in love but for me it was a very powerful experience and felt like being on an extremely powerful drug.
There is no denying it when it happens and there is no making it happen if it isnt ....so why dont you just not fret about it? It will find you again if youre lucky .... ...and if you arent, well, youre still lucky because you wont have your life all turned upside down! | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/3/2006 10:18:43 PM | ..Do I want to fall in love at 56....you bet your booty I do.....Just like the original singer of wishing and hoping by Dusty Springfield. Which was later song by Ani DeFranco in My Best Friend's Wedding.....yup its all about falling in love .
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/3/2006 10:27:17 PM | SuthnBoy, I think that's the nicest compliment you could have ever given me. May I always live to be optimistic, even if disappointments do fall upon me at times. Goldi
Probably because it's a little harder to do so than when we were all way young and frivolous, since we're more structured later in life, (over 25), and flexibility is not as prevalent for us as it once was.
No??
You're right, flexibility isn't as prevalent. We have to work at it a little which does make it harder - but the things in life that are really worth having are worth working for. No??? | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/3/2006 10:51:45 PM | | Love hurts...and love heals. The finest moments of my life were spent gazeing into my lover's eyes and seeing all the love that I felt reflected back at me. Seeing his smile and knowing that I made another human being incredibly happy. Feeling safe and warm within his arms. Yes, once burned twice shy, I'm scared to death of another betrayal, another loss, but I pray that if nothing else I have aquired a self-worth that will allow me an openness to love without submerging my own self. Then I can experience all the best love has to offer knowing that nothing lasts forever. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/4/2006 1:48:38 AM | | I think this is so neat, but can't remember for the life of me where I heard it. Someone asked this old couple that had been together like forever, "whats your secret, how have you stayed together for so many yrs.?" response,"we never fell out of love, at the same time." Ooooohh, makes me melt. We still have hope. Hi Suthn!! I'm caught up on sleep. | |
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Finally got your nap out eh?