bobby7
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Joined: 3/22/2006
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/11/2006 10:31:40 PM | "I have only read half the posts in this thread but I think it is the wrong thing to discuss."
Nothing..I repeat, NOTHING is ever the 'wrong' thing to discuss!
How else may we learn?? Discussion bears fruit..Silence bears darkness, and fear.. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/12/2006 1:08:24 PM | Maybe the OP was questioning if he COULD fall in love again because of barriers. Some people experience so much pain and failed relationships that they put up barriers to protect themselves. The first question in that case would understandably be "Do I want to?". Is a person willing to open themselves up again to possible disallusionment again? I think each of us have to address both of those questions each time a relationship fails, and ONLY once those questions are dealt with and answered in a healthy manner can we go on living a good emotional existence. I'm not saying that you can't be normal and healthy without a mate; just saying that each of us has to make the choice of what will work for us, and how we can best survive as a human being.
Personally, I think the ultimate existence is to have someone to share and communicate in almost all "Important" aspect of your life, yet be secure enough in themselves to maintain their own personality. It doesn't matter if that person is with you continually or not, as long as you are both happy with your relationship and it works for each of you. That, along with respect (which includes giving the other person space to be themselves) is love...and ya can't beat it!!! Anyone can have that kind of relationship -- even at 90 years old -- so OP, YES, you can fall in love again; go for it - and best of luck to ya.
-Goldi | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 11/12/2006 1:54:53 PM | | the question you ask is the one you already did, do i want to?, i have been married onl;y once and has been single for quite awhile but i am not giving up on the possibility that a woman will come back in my life keep your heart open but be realistic,searsh your soul and awnser the question, do you want to? | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 1/16/2008 7:58:59 AM | How nice would it be to spend our " golden" years with someone special by our side , ever see an older couple walk by holding hands? Brings a tear of joy to my eyes every time | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 1/16/2008 11:48:27 AM | Well, The way I figure it. You could live another 50 years. Do you want to live it all alone or share it with someone else. I, personally, want to share it with someone else.....  | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/6/2008 12:12:28 PM | Lordy I Hope so!!! all this time on POF for nothing!!!OMG I believe in Love..I dont feel Ive ever BEEN loved(by a man)sad..but I have loved..I hope I can expereince that love,like in "On golden pond" or "The notebook" if not...(which is my truth since I dont have 50 more years lol ) the reality of being loved by a man the way my family,my children and friends love me,now that would be worth the wait!!!! | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/6/2008 2:58:40 PM | | I don't want to "fall" in love but I DO want to love, and deeply. I am through with infatuation. I'd really like to start off with a friendship, see the caring develop. But it's never too late to love. I think that's why we're all here (not only on this site, but on planet Earth!) | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/7/2008 2:57:51 PM | Well Buddy I asked the same question of myself a few months ago. I was marrid for my third time, and my wife told me one night that she wanted a divorce with no notice, fight/arguement, or anything. Fact is I don't to this day really know what happen.
Enough about that. I thought to myself that I got burnt so bad that I wouldn't love another woman again or even think about marriage. That was in Feb 07. I started dating to forget my ex-wife in May. At the end of June I met my current wife, and we got married in Aug 07. I will say it was quick, only due to her health condition, she has a rare brain tumor with a 50/50 chance of living and was due to undergo surgery on
3 oct. FYI: this has been postponed to Mar 08 due to puemonia. Little advise. I am 56 yrs old like you, but my wife is 41. I am thinking I should have gone younger earlier.
How many times have I fallen in love, serious love? eight times now.
Remember what has always been said- "it is better to have love and loss, then to never have loved at all."
Advise: Don't look for love, it will find you. It will also find you when you don't suspect or expect it. Good Luck my friend.
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/7/2008 4:32:47 PM | I believe that so many people get set in their ways or carry around a lot of baggage as they age but there is certainly the possibility of finding someone who fits your lifestyle, if it's meant to be, and love can follow.
If a person is lonely and unfulfilled, they will seek or get into sometimes compromising relationships which may not be the best for them. If a person is self sufficient, happy, has a busy and active lifestyle and someone comes along who fits in, it would be great for them to fall in love.
I have been spending the past few years working on loving myself and being emotionally happy after a few years of allowing myself to be hurt. I got past being bitter, resentful, etc. and now that I am happy and free of a lot of baggage I would welcome a loving relationship. However, I have observed a lot of people in our age range who try to rush something for convenience and that won't work either. Love after 56 may be different than it was 20 or 30 years ago, but it can still be rewarding. | |
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kellum
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Joined: 1/22/2008
Msg: 119 | |
| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:05:16 PM | | get focused on your life fist. prepare your life to be alone. be willing to accept that. THEN love will find you. and if its really true love, it will be worth it. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:33:02 PM | Not really...I think.
To be with somebody in relationship...but...why we have to love each other?
It has to be super match...what is impossible.
It can be chemistry...intellectual fascination...friendship...but not love.... | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:58:13 PM | Infatuation is as overwhelming and pre-occupying at 60 as it was at 16, for me. That hormonal, trick-of-nature part, rose-colored-vision is as easy as falling off a log.
The phase after the infatuation has evaporated (it is ephemeral) is what's "hard". Proof? Look and the 1000s and 1000s of postings on this board about the confusions and difficulties of making a relationship last. And how many relationhips succeed vs how many that fail. | |
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