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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/22/2008 5:08:42 PM | Infatuation is that phase, aka puppy-love, "falling in love", "romantic love", that initiates most relationships, at any age.
It's so wonderful that some people are addicted to it, running from relationship to relationship to get a new high from the next infatuation. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/22/2008 6:49:36 PM | | I would like for love to come softly....find someone I really enjoy spending time with and then one discover that I can't live without that man.........to not be sure when it changed from friendship to love and hope it is returned. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/23/2008 8:54:36 PM | | Anytime that I've fallen in love........the guy fell in love right away and it took me about a month to know him well enough to realize that I was falling in love with him. I think it's because most men initially experience love as being physically attracted but I experience it as a closeness that builds as I get to know him and have fun with him and then suddenly realize that I do love him........... | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 2/24/2008 12:41:47 AM | you are probably hitting on ones that have the same problems you do. The older you get the new ones available are more suspicious yhemselves or want to do themselves what they missed for the past years thet had with us. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/10/2008 4:01:03 PM | There is nothing better than being in love, except for feeling loved, which is priceless!There is nothing in this world that I would rather have.
However, it does seem that most people, in this age group, have become very self-centered and independant. For these women, having fun, and/or "a good time" appears to be more important than finding love.
I think "love at first sight" is infatuation and infatuation is "pure chemistry." True love comes later in the relationship after you become friends and lovers.
I just can't figure out what a 56 year old woman wants. There are so many apparently wonderful women here on POF, but very few seem to be emotionally available. Am I wrong ladies?
As for me, give me love or give me death! 
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/27/2008 5:38:56 PM | | Yes, I could fall in love again at my age of 58. Do I want to? Yes, I do. I have seen couples in their 70's and 80's fall in love again and they look at each other with love and so I know that love is still possible. But the key question is does someone WANT to fall in love. It's not going to happen until they WANT to fall in love........ | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:13:22 PM | Geez, Poster, you talk about being so physically and mentally fit but act like you're ready for the nursing home when it comes to loving again!!!
Get your butt out in the world and start living and believing that a lovely lady is just around the corner....with your current emotional 'tude, no wonder she hasn't turned around the corner and bumped into you!!! | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:22:46 PM |
falling in Love has nothing to do with whether the person of our affections is actually a good partner or not
That sounds so wrong maybe because you've expressed it as a negative of falling in love with someone who would be toxic or not a good partner.
The way that was put to me was that love is not JUST a feeling. It's a decision. It's a choice we make TO love someone. I may not like six things he does but I can find ten things I DO like and chose to focus on those things and love him..........
Kind of like that...... | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/28/2008 8:00:58 PM | | Hellllllllllllll yeah it is. There is absolutely nothing like being in love. But, the key is not too fall in love just to fall in love. Some people don't like being alone, therefore they are desperate to fall in love with just about anybody. To me, it just makes life complete, but am not desperate either, so if and when it happens, it'll be by accident, not because I am looking for it. If that makes sense. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/28/2008 8:14:34 PM | 56 or even 86......fall in love........sure!
I love watching "elderly" young couples of 70/80ish holding hands and being so loving to each other
so could I fall in love again? that's an easy answer.......Yes!!
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/29/2008 8:32:03 AM |
Get your butt out in the world and start living and believing that a lovely lady is just around the corner....with your current emotional 'tude, no wonder she hasn't turned around the corner and bumped into you!!
whoissue, you have a way with words[pep talk] & a jump-start & swift kick
in the butt just might do it for op.
It sound like the op is stuck in a woulda,coulda, shoulda rut. NG ,not good ....baby.
'you only get what you give'
Whether it be about love, life and everything in between.
And just sitting in front of this screen with a light beer in your hand is not going to have them knocking on your door any time soon. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/29/2008 10:54:17 AM |
Whether it be about love, life and everything in between.
And just sitting in front of this screen with a light beer in your hand is not going to have them knocking on your door any time soon
.....* gets rid of the beer before typing response*
I quite agree.... I have just recently decided that its time I started taking a pro-active approach to this whole dating thing. I will admit that maybe I was kinda waiting for the right guy to "fall into my lap" but that hasn't happened.....so I have just recently sent a few short e-mails to a couple of guys that I find interesting. I went for coffee with one earlier in the week....he wanted "something different" so we enjoyed the coffee and parted ways. And unfortunately, I was stood up by the other. Well thats not entirely true, we made arrangements for Friday night and he never confirmed. ...so, its back to Plan B .....its a good thing I enjoy my own company so much
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/29/2008 10:58:42 AM | It seems like as we get older/more experienced it's harder to hide in the innocence of the youthful "Love will conquer all" mentality. For me, through my life experiences I have learned how much work a good relationship takes and even in the best of relationships, there is the potiential for pain along the way. It is not for the faint hearted...
However, I have also learned that there is nothing more fulfilling or incredible than being in a loving relationship. And for me, life is too short not to live it to it's fullest.
So, yes, I want to fall in love again. Could I? is a harder questions as it takes two people and I can only speak for myself. | |
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/29/2008 4:50:57 PM |
However, I have also learned that there is nothing more fulfilling or incredible than being in a loving relationship.
....I think that statement says it all for me.... for the most part I am a fairly happy person, I am surrounded by family and good friends, I earn a decent living and lead a pretty full life.....but there is a void, I'm feeling an emptiness that I never felt before.... I am convinced at times its only because so many people close to me have passed....And maybe thats true to a certain extent. But my heart tells me its about not having my needs met, both physically and emotionally. And for me, that can only be achieved when you are in a loving and caring relationship.
Could I fall in love again at 56?...just as easy as I did at 36...and do I want to?...oh yes, I most certainly do.
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:46:55 PM | Yes definitely! Like many things I think love gets better with age. My last relationship (when I was 58) was the best of my life SO FAR...but the pain was also the worst when it ended. I know my next loving relationship will be even better yet. I'm a firm believer in learning from the past. I'm learning more about me with time, things I need to improve in myself...more about what I really want and need in a man...learning that it's worth waiting for the right one to come along. It will be grand!
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| Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to?
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:55:30 PM | Of course you can. I have a 94 year old aunt who lost her first husband when she was about 65. She loved her husband with all her heart and soul. They were married and continually together for about 45 years. Then about two years later she met and fell in love again. She loved that man with all her heart and soul. He died when she was 75 or 78. Then after about two or three years she fell in love again. That marriage ended in divorce when she was about 87 or 88. Now she's single again and says she doesn't want to date anymore.
One thing about her, she is very outgoing and no stranger to anyone on earth. Plus she is so generous and loving; no wonder men liked her and came to love her. She never found fault with anyone. She never talked badly about anyone, including the husband she divorced. And she is so strong. She wants to live until she's 100. Frankly I think she will.
Her outlook on life is nothing short of precious. And when you're around her, you can't help but be happy! | |
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