| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/29/2007 3:01:48 AM | With ageing we have no choice ,, what gets me is .... even as we age , we still seem to be waiting , waiting , waiting ,, for that special"one" !!!!!!!!!
Surely , by this stage we must realise it is but just a dream ,, mostly in the movies .
So how the hell are we going to find a partner with this attitude ?????
Isn't growing old with someone with a compatible lifestyle far better than growing old alone??? Why don't people stop acting like teenagers ,, appreciate the wisdom of the age we are at , and seek a partner with a practical advantage rather than a romantic one .
We can see that seeking the romantic is not the answer ,, unless , of course one seeks many short term liasons . We can see this all around us , and I for one am a tad weary of going in to a relationship wondering if it will still be there tomorrow .
Ok , so you are going to say " what if the partner dies ?" etc ,, well that I can live with , but this attitude ,(which seems rife today ) of walking out the door if things are not right for two days , just doesn't cut it for me .
Hence I remain single, with a little bit of control over what's left of my life .
Yep , I don't mind growing old , actually appreciate the age I am at , and feel it's been quite an achievement arriving here ,,lots of fond memories , and still looking forward to the future ,, just with a far wiser view on life .
So, I'm seeking a "friend " to share life with ,, and if she happens to appear .. life wil be that much more enjoyable . | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/29/2007 5:03:06 AM | Not so good this morning...
My shoulders ache, my knees shake, my hands tremble, cough as well.....
It feels old to be 55.... But my mood is an happy one. | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/29/2007 10:16:05 AM | Loved that answer peterjol,
Getting OLD sucks !!!! But we all know and hold onto the " you are as young as you feel" "being young is a state of mind" and "age is only a number" Well I still act like a 30 year old and can behave much younger too. But each day it is still getting harder to get out of bed. Creeky bones , dizzy head and limbs just not getting enough blood as I sleep. But I still think " I'm not that old !!!! 52 is not that old !!!"
Well , than there comes a website being talked about by major News Station and what not. A friend of mind tales the test there and tell me about it. My friend is 63 and she reported to me that she came out with the age of 53. By the way the site is RealAge.com. Very useful site with great imformation. Check it out. Well she send me to the site. I'm so young at heart , I thought , "why not"? Took the test and guess how old I really am? 69.4. What an eye opener. At 52 I was expecting to live atleast till 80. I better get my butt going and get out and LIVE I might only have another 10 yrs here . 
Moral of this story : Think yourself young all you want but if the body isn't in on it , you better work more on the comunication. 
PS Forgive any misspellings here........... I'm old ! | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/29/2007 10:53:54 AM | barra:With ageing we have no choice ,, what gets me is .... even as we age , we still seem to be waiting , waiting , waiting ,, for that special"one" !!!!!!!!!
Surely , by this stage we must realise it is but just a dream ,, mostly in the movies .
So how the hell are we going to find a partner with this attitude ?????
Isn't growing old with someone with a compatible lifestyle far better than growing old alone??? "
Well, if you want to settle for just someone, that is your choice. I prefer growing old alone over just settling for a male presence, any male, any time any day. NO thank you-I have preferences and while I don't expect to find someone who fits most of them, I have been there/done that in the "settling" dept and have no intention of doing it again. But, that is your choice and you are free to do what you want. I just hope the woman you might find has the same attitude, otherwise, she might be incredibly disappointed to think she has found love only to find she is just someone to have around the house just because you are both older.  | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:18:36 AM | Strange really.......I was cruising along the seafront today in my car, (it's been a sunny warm day)......and 'The Who's' ..'My Generation' was playing really loud on the radio .......a record I loved when I was young ....... there were loads of people of all ages walking around and it made me feel exactly as if I was still looking through the teenage eyes I was looking through when the record first came out...... eyeing up all the girls who would have been around my age at the time and feeling as they should have been looking my way... checking out the good looking young Mod (as in the English thing of Mods and Rockers in the 60's ) who was driving by. (although in those days I would have been driving a Lambretta scooter)
Trouble is some of the words in the song are.........'I hope I die before I get old' .....sometimes it's really hard to get your head around being old..... even the same person who was once a teenager is still inside there as well. | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/30/2007 11:48:25 AM | | Footnote...........Now I am feeling like I am a romantic twenty year old because Al green's ..'let's stay together' is playing on the radio...... so that's all you have to do ......play the right record and that's the age you feel.... | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/30/2007 10:01:08 PM | I love it! To me, it sure beats the alternative!!! I've lost most my family, a lot of friends & my only child...I live for everyone! I'm a firm believer in celebrating birthdays! I've never hidden my age from anyone - I'm proud to have survived this long!!! LOL!!!
I'm hoping to be on a cruise for my 50th - if not on that day - not far off!!! I will celebrate for several weeks - trust me!
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/30/2007 10:04:33 PM | Getting old beats the hell out of the alternative!
And I'm trying my best to enjoy every day of it, and a night here and there... | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/1/2007 6:46:44 PM | Well, I'm 64 and now I know how 64 feels. I also know how 24 feels and I can go there anytime I want to in my memory. I can get in touch with all of my ages. The little girl filled with wonder at an untamed, uncaged animal to the 64 year old trying to get a handle on this age. I hope I never lose track of all of those women and girls that live inside of me. Next year I will be 65 and will have to learn that one too. Life, by the numbers. More important is how many people I have loved, some a little and some with every fiber of my being. Now those are numbers that are worth counting and remembering. I am the sum total of all of it, and glad to be. If my spirit grows with the love I give out, 64 is better than 24.
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/22/2007 8:33:35 PM | Barra56, I think I understand what you are saying. Wayne and I were both getting out to the car at one point and we both groaned at the same time and then we burst into laughter.................THAT'S the joy of growing old together..........you both have aches and pains..........you know and he knows that there's just no way you are going to look like the Playboy centerfold and he is going to make it five times in one night.
Passion is great but what happens when your partner has a stroke or is diagnosed with Alzheimer's? When I was in my teens, I asked my mother how I would know if I loved a guy enough to marry him and she said to me, "If you can picture him in a wheelchair with a stroke and you can still want to be there with him and to talk to him even if he can no longer talk to you, THAT'S enough love to marry someone." I thought she was so MORBID! YUCK!
But when I was wheeling Wayne around the hospital in his wheelchair after his stroke and he couldn't speak and I didn't know if he even understood what I was saying to him, it dawned on me. My mother had been right all along................that was the kind of love that lasted............I loved him no matter what. I talked to him as if he was just fine and okay. And as it turns out, he did recover a little and he had been able to hear me and it meant a lot to him to have me still there and relating to him as if he was still normal...........
I guess because I've been through that experience, I realize that love is far more important then passion in the long run................. | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/22/2007 10:55:25 PM | | Well, consider the alternative for a moment. I feel great about getting OLDER,not OLD. I don't think I'd be too happy to NOT get older. This is a great time...remember, 60 is the new 40, 50 is the new 30,and 40 is the new 20....that makes me almost 26...lol. As a Nurse, I see people leave this world every day who would have LOVED the chance to grow old with their loved ones. I guess it's all a matter of perspective. Enjoy your time on Earth....it can be taken from you at any time. | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/22/2007 10:56:18 PM | And maybe that's the trick- to find someone who you are willing to see in unvarnished truth and still find happiness with- that's what I meant by not ever feeling as it will ever happen again... healthy relationships are result of taking time and getting to know someone and them getting to know you- it would be much easier without the scars of life that come with aging- those tend to narrow our initial acceptance of someone who is actually a stranger- it takes time to learn, and this society does not put a premium on wisely spending the time..
I just don't have the emotional energy to pick through the culls- you have to kiss some frogs to find the prince or you might just end up with another frog.. works for guys too, only maybe it's toads... | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:22:55 AM | | Time marches on. In my fiftynine years of living the only advice I can give is to live, laugh, and love. The past is the past and the future will take care of itself. Your here right now. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2007 9:44:30 AM | I don't know if I should post this here but it's a part of real life right now ........ We all just assume that we are going to live to be 70 and 80 and heck, I have one friend who is 74 and she still seems to be surprised if she gets sick........
Well, I just got the news that one of my friends passed away. 58 years old. And she was alone.........another one of my friends and her husband were there for her at the end. Buddy and Kathy are just the greatest couple and they didn't think anyone should have to be alone so they took her into their home until she passed away.
And I found myself thinking back to two years ago when she and I were both at Buddy and Kathy's for Thanksgiving dinner............who would ever have thought she would be dead now at such a young age? And she was a talented, attractive lady.......
When I read these forums sometimes and compare it to real life, sometimes I just want to scream, "C'mon, guys, there's more to life then sex.........there's love, kindness, caring............We don't have forever.............couples like Buddy and Kathy are successful because their lives together aren't just limited to sex...........there's caring, kindness, love, having fun together and with others..........It's not rocket science."
I'm sorry .......... I guess maybe I'm just being forced by her passing away to see how brief and fragile our lives are and what really is important...........We really don't have forever........I know there are some great men out there because several of my girlfriends are married to them...........
Anyway, yes, growing old is scary ..... and we never think it's going to happen to us but it does eventually............thanks for listening.........I think I'm out to lunch right now. | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:56:11 AM | Old is just a number. I quit counting when I turned 50. I am a long way off from the rocking CHAIR and just plan to "keep rocking" ...LOL | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/23/2007 10:34:09 AM | Old? Whose getting old? Inside I still feel 16, only a lot smarter than I was then. I can still do everything that I did then--in my mind anyway. I can still do cartwheels, round offs and flips. As long as I don't actually try them now, I can still do them.
Grey hair? Yes, but I've always thought gray hair was pretty, so no problem there. Wrinkles? Yes, but if I don't like looking at them I just take my glasses off. Makes the wrinkles are a lot less visible. Arthritis? Developed that in my 20s.
What does make me feel old: when my oldest turned 40 and found his first gray hair. | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/23/2007 10:51:06 AM | How do I feel about getting old? Hmmmmm let me think about this one.
What was the question?
Oh OK
Getting old is a blessing and a few or more actually get old. I say 60 is still young.
But in my case ! I turned back the clock and I am offically
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/23/2007 11:23:21 AM | Old???? screw that!!!! I have always said I am the oldest teenager I know.
Still like to get out and shoot hoops and the occasional road hockey game is a must. I have always had active jobs and find that has helped to keep me young at heart although that face in the mirror is starting to look like someone I don't know some mornings. | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/24/2007 4:27:20 PM | | It didn't really bother me until I hit 50. That means I only have about 30yrs or less left. I started having nightmares about dying. My body started to go down hill and I would try to stop the ageing thing. Face creams, working out and dressing young etc. Then one day I said screw it....no guy wants a old woman when they can have a younger one. Then I realized baking chocolate chip cookies w/my grand-daughter and watching movies with my family was way more fun then caring about how I look or if a man would ever love me again. For GOD sakes.... I am a Grandma !!!! I just got to find a Grandpa!!! | |
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| how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 10/24/2007 6:11:09 PM | I wasn't sure what to post here........I guess I will just blurt it out. I don't mind getting old ....... it's part of life..........but I've lost friends at 36 and 58, my mother died at 58, and I'm turning 58 in another two months and I think that part is freaking me out a little. I found myself thinking the other day, "Gee, can I really be THIS old.......At my age now, my mother only had six months left of her life.......can I imagine that?"
No, I can't................that's about all I can say really..........I shrug it off but it's still just weird sometimes.......... | |
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