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Posted: 11/26/2006 10:16:51 PM | | I had to post this in general reply to all that would read this. I am a father of 3 great kids. They are everything to me and life really sucks without them. I really feel dead. They are living with their mother in Washington and she wants money. No problem. I know that some of it will help them out. but I also know that SHE wants the money. THAT is my problem with this whole thing. I can't have them to raise them and she uses them as a weapon against me. Even though she tells me that 'They need their father'. She says that she is SO tired of raising kids but will not give them to me to rais. I went to the school on a regular basis (I lived on that island for 2 years). The school never knew her (she has been there for 5 years). I went to ALL the girls softball games and everything I could get to for all my kids..SO, to my point. Why the hell should SHE get to raise children she don't want to have( she spends MOST of her time with her boyfriend and leaves them alone) and yet I HAVE TO BE THE ONE PAYING FOR THIS CRAP !!! Ladies, if the father of your children does not want to be in their lives ask him WHY? If he just don't want anything to do with them then make his sorry ass pay. BUT if he really wants to be in their life then MAKE him work something out that he really feels is worth it. SO, after you read this, really think about what you are gonna say. If it is hate mail then I have some hate words for you and I would see you as one of those females who probably drove that man away, and can't figure out why he don't wanna come around. Can you tell I am still in pain? Can you tell that I resent having to pay for something I am NOT allow to be a F***ING part of ? If you really knew the damage you inflict you would change your tune. (I know that there are A LOT of REAL (really bad word) Jerks out there, but not all of us are. I would rather be in jail than live without my children. Let her F'n boyfriend buy his OWN dvd player...catch my drift? I hope that I have not truly insulted anyone too bad (can never please EVERYONE). Please, remember that there are some of us that really love and care for our children and really want and need to be a part of their life. I am sure that I would want to edit this but I am gonna let it fly.... | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 10:33:02 PM | | Hey.. well from one mother to another.. Money shouldnt be the main factor when it comes to children.. BUT at some point thats sadly what it comes down to.. Your daughter as well as yourself deserve that money.. I think you should take him to court.. The laws now are a little harsher when it comes to child support.. When ordered to pay you could face jail time if you dont pay.. BUT again.. If you can make it without his money.. and some how get him to sign off as the father.. I think me personally I would do that especially with his "problems with the law" hes obviously not a great influence.. Your daughter and yourself deserve better.. My sons father isnt in his life and i dont get a cent... Im happy, my sons happy.. Ive made it on my own without his money.. You become a stronger person.. Its tough from time to time.. but you get through it.. good luck.. and dont forget to kiss your daughter good nite every night.. even if shes sleeping.. ;) | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 8:11:09 PM | | well a lil update... i did recieve money from him months of sept and oct. but we fueded again late november and he yelled at me he wanted her for 2 weeks by himself and i told him no and he told me he wouldnt pay if he didnt see her, and then he proceeded to tell me he wished i had an abortion and he wished the car accident he and her were involved in that they both died, i was completely enraged and fed up. the convo got worse and it came to me.. i dont want him in my life and i dont want him to screw up hers so i told him i wanted him to drop his rites and he gladly agreed stating he didnt want to deal with either of us ****es anymore. i have yet to get representation as i dont have the money, but i havent heard a word from him since then. i do believe there are good men out there, and i think it is wrong that women use their children as weapons, but this is not the case here. i am not really concerned about the money anymore, i mean it would be nice, but whats more important to me is my childs safety and well being. well take care all and thanks for the posts. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 8:17:43 PM | Go to legal Aid. Get a lawyer through them.
Small claims court for the money owing to you from loans, as North Exposed pointed out to me LOL You dont need proof to win small claims court.
You definitely want to get this dealt with, as said in other posts, without custody arrangements he has just as much rights to your daughter as you do.
Chances are though, hes so hard up to pay you the money, and doesnt give a shit that he wont even show up just like my ex isnt. So everything will practically go in your favor. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 11:12:27 PM | sirdodinel
my point EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't ya just love the expression,, these are your kids, whys the cheque late, WAY TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS!!!!!!
Oh but try to get more time with them.. NOT GONNA HAPPEN.
OH the Cheque was late because i was on strike pay for 3 mos..
NOT my prob, wheres MY money
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Posted: 1/1/2007 2:24:59 AM | if he has text messaged you or left messages on your voice mail or something talking about the money he owes you and owing you back child support......save them. This will be your proof.
Definately take him to court if you want to be done with him. You can get full custody and child support ...... or at least full custody and something stating he is out of the childs life which may be a good thing. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2007 10:27:00 PM | | Take him to court and demand that he pay back support. In most states they can take his drivers license, and his tax refund. Go after his sorry ass. It is men like that who give the true good men a bad name...... | |
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Posted: 3/27/2007 10:27:45 PM | | Take him to court and demand that he pay back support. In most states they can take his drivers license, and his tax refund. Go after his sorry ass. It is men like that who give the true good men a bad name...... | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 6:32:09 AM | " he has quite the impressive criminal record"
Dizzy angel and all,what were thinking of??? not enough men out there without such an "impressive" background for ya???gees,i must admit that some ex convict are doing very well and lead very active and productive lives,but by golly gees,wake up ladies,i know thats not the point,but it was to be expected,sorry you have to go through this,however,the sign was there,being young is not a good enough reason to wander off with an ex convict.There are so many nice guys out there to make a wise choice.Not saying what you are going through is right,but dammit,you saw it coming a long way. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2007 2:31:23 PM | I can remember being angry about paying child support because my ex is re-married. She has 3 cars, two homes (one at the shore), a boat, and her husbands income, in Washington State.
I moved to Jersey 1 1/2 years ago and I do know, when I see my kids come off the plane every Christmas and Summer, that the money I pay for both of them, goes to them. They are well taken care of and want for nothing.
What I had to do was look at the reason that I'm paying child support. My ex never told me to leave, I did that on my own. I left a very good woman!! What a stupis A S S I was.
When we were making the kids, I knew that I would take care of them no matter what. I still want to be more than a "dad on paper".
We'ver been divorced for 12 years and I pay more than than most pay for rent, but they are my kids. Shame on the man that dips his "wick" and then refuses to take responsibility later. I think it will come back to haunt them in later years.
Just my opinion. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2007 4:12:31 PM | | As a legal secretary, I can tell you that court was invented for this stuff - get tough, sweetheart, and then don't back down for anything! The law is almost always on your side, and funky behavior can result in jail - plus, most of the country is integrating databases, so running is often temporary. The hell that would hang over his head forever by trying to hide from his obligations is very real and a great motivator (plus, criminals know how easy it is to get caught up); here in California, failure to pay court-ordered fines gets your driver's license suspended, and they can short-stop tax refunds, etc. You need to fill out the legal paperwork and get as many of the debts declared as possible, and there are almost always legal services available to assist poor folks with this (although you will often have to sign over any support to the DA if you are on any type of welfare). If you have a computer and the right software, you can fill in the forms online, and your county clerk can help direct you through the process - just don't try to get legal advice. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2007 4:37:53 PM | | dont' be discouraged. Child support is to help you the caregiver of that child. You don't have to prove he gave you anything at all. Do yourself a favor and go and speak to a child support counselor, it won't cost you anything and they will answer all of your questions. It took me 8 years after being divorced and always waiting to see if I got anything from him, now he send his payment and the court sends it directly to me. I am so sorry it took me so long to get the courage. He was very upset at first, but now it's all smothed out the way it should be. Good luck. | |
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