| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/3/2006 8:35:26 PM | I have no idea why some men screw with Womens hearts. Women do it to men too. It's just what you get when you're dealing with a fuk'd up selfish person. If all I was looking for was sex, I'd probably hit the Bunny Ranch up in Carson City.  J/K
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:33:01 PM | Boy, these global generalizations are so tireseome; not enough prozac to go around, I guess.
Kcjoy, thanks for the honest post. I can relate to it completely. I'm looking for long term, but I'm willing to put my goals on hold for a kiss, the way I feel today, hoping that kiss will lead to another. But, I will not be out there jumping from bed to bed (I haven't got the energy for it--and I'm too busy for that) and I will not be lying to anyone, either.
I don't know what I have on this site as what I am "looking for..." It might say "friends," or "hanging out." I have no real clue what "activity partner," is...and yet it seems reasonable to me to expect most people are looking for a friend they can hang out with, do activities with, go on out with, and, eventually share a bed together. Of course, for some, skipping steps 1 through 4 means you're a slut or a dog, because some people confuse sex with love or believe they are one and the same. There's a also a raft of evil germs out there and society, as we know, has prudish expectations, which were never very realistic to begin with.
Yes, I am no longer 20 and when I was AIDS had yet to be invented. But I still don't prescribe to any arguments that say enjoying sex means women are sluts or that men are disgusting. From there, I don't think that sexually aggressive women or sexually aggressive men, if they are not commiting any crime, are to be condemed.
There are various degrees of emotional attachment to sex...but how different are men or women who want sex on the first date from men or women who want sex 10 years into a marriage when the emotional needs have long been answered to and they simply want a rumble for release, for fun, for helping them fall asleep? Well, the difference may be that trust is established and the fear of disease has been removed. But, a disease free man or woman out there putting on the moves on a first date...well, that might make them idiots, because it usually doesn't work. But, it doesn't make them a dog or a slut. | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:45:19 PM | My opinion, they enjoy the power of being in control and having u like a puppet on a string at their beckon call.Makes them feel superior that they have this over powering control on you're emotions.Mind you, not all men are like this. I have met many who are sincere and have good values and know how to treat a lady. Just my 2 cents!
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/3/2006 10:03:58 PM | Some men are jerks and very selfish !!! they only care about getting in a womans pants as a conquest or something !!
There is so much more to a person !! i myself care less about a dress size or how attractive a woman might be when dating i look at her personality and her heart first and foremost how we get along ..can she make me laugh ...ect
I can say that yeah i have met women and things are going good and it progesses into sex
but it also makes me wonder if she moved this quick with me does she do this with all the guys? or does she think damn does he do this with all the girls on first meeting??
I can say there have been times i have turned a girl down and times i have not but i feel so damn empty inside after sex i want it to have more meaning more of as bond there before things progress damn im rattling on good luck in youre search
hope this helped some LEE | |
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Posted: 9/3/2006 10:27:50 PM | Posted By: lonestar_knight on 9/4/2006 1:03:58 AM
Subject: why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Message: Some men are jerks and very selfish !!! they only care about getting in a womans pants as a conquest or something !!
There is so much more to a person !! i myself care less about a dress size or how attractive a woman might be when dating i look at her personality and her heart first and foremost how we get along ..can she make me laugh ...ect
I can say that yeah i have met women and things are going good and it progesses into sex
but it also makes me wonder if she moved this quick with me does she do this with all the guys? or does she think damn does he do this with all the girls on first meeting??
I can say there have been times i have turned a girl down and times i have not but i feel so damn empty inside after sex i want it to have more meaning more of as bond there before things progress damn im rattling on good luck in youre search
hope this helped some LEE
I commend you for thinking like that Lonestar. Very nice. Men who think like that are few and a far between. Keep it up! Keep it real! Cheers! | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:38:04 AM | makes me wonder if she moved this quick with me does she do this with all the guys? or does she think damn does he do this with all the girls on first meeting??
well said Lee
I have asked myself the same thing on occasion. You know you meet someone get together once or twice and you feel that spark and want more but you say no I can't cause thats exactly what hes going to think about me I better take it slow if I want it to last, if its real it will last. It is good to listen to your instincts, I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. Hopeless romantic oh well what ya gonna do...
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:47:56 AM | | This is a very good point. People can't help themselves. We all want a companion and love but since we have physical attraction on our brain , such as sex, than all our genuine good intentions turn directly into a ONE NIGHTER ! Squeek-squeek !! Oh Yes !! Oh Yes !! | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 2:03:28 AM | | All men will go as far as you let them. I do agree that they do seem to often play games. They list long term relationship in their profiles on all these sites, but quite often, that is not the case. I think all of these internet dating sites are just one giant booty call! Where are all the decent guys hiding anyway? | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 2:29:25 AM | | Yes, well, men are getting a bad rap too! Just this last night, I've heard from 2 women that wanted something with me---I can't explain it! I want something long term, not a one night stand, and I just not hitting it--I don't get it! | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/4/2006 3:09:34 AM | | well if you open ya legs on first date ........what do u expect if u make it easy for guys to have a 1 night stand yeah they gonna jump at the chance ....haven't u heard the word NO!!... if u say no and he still once to see ya another time then hey!! u past the first date hurdle if u keep em at arms length for first couple of dates that way gives u plenty of time to sum up the guy and see if hes worth openin ya legs for plus makes him keener ... . theres a sayin ... treat em mean keep em keen | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/4/2006 3:54:53 PM | Why do women play games with sex? dangling it out there like some carrot for the jack-asses are never gonna get or at least gotta jump through hoops and buy you shit and play nice to get there?
you play with their labido's they play with your hearts...
You don't really care about the guys or his needs and his wants, you only care about the commitment and the security they provide you with...
you use him to get what you want, why do you expect him to treat you any different? | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/4/2006 4:14:14 PM | | We are not powerless in our relationships. I don't think all men intentionally go into a relationship (well I'm sure there are some) with the intent to get a one nighter and leave. What happens a lot of times is there is instant attraction, things move too fast, they do the deed and he realizes he isn't that interested in her. He leaves, she feels used and now she wants to blame him. If she was adamant about not being a one nighter she could practice some self-control. Unless it is rape we are willing participant. We make the choice to sleep with them we are risking being a one night stand. Probably the sooner it happens the higher the risk. We have a say in how we are treated. There are men who play games but here are also women who can see through it. For those who can't see through it they can hold off from moving too fast. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2006 4:34:56 PM | Please someone help me understand !!!why it is that so many men want to play games with, a womans heart??? why do so many men on here (p.o.f.) say they want a serious relationship,and then really come to find out they really dont want that. They are only looking for a one night stand!!!!! come on men if u really dont want a serious relationship say so in your profile and stop playing with womans feelings
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Kelsea!
Are you blind. Or deaf.
Havent you ever heard your gf's yapping over lunch. Havent you read any of the womens trash rags.???
Garbage like "Don't say yes the first time or he wont respect you" ie Say NO even when you mean YES. Hello! Under the rape laws no means no. If this isn't playing games with a mans heart then nothing is.
What about, after the stupid bimbo has woken up to herself enough to actually say "yes" the first time, to a request for a date? And has finally managed to land a bf of some sort. He looks at a passing girl and she flies off the handle throwing a tantrum like a child, calling him a cheat. However this exact same girl is engaging in simulated masturbation, with a stranger, in the middle of the dance floor, under the bfs nose and has the nerve to call that "harmless flirting"
Lets go one further. You have the nerve to talk about men who say they want a serious relationship when they only want a one night stand.
The ultimate "serious realtionship" is still the wedding. Where you swore, "untill death". Over eighty percent of divorces, are instigated solely by the wife, withing the first seven years of the marriage, and most of those over something petty, like a toilet seat or muddy shoes in the kitchen.
No Kelsaea Its not the men playing with womens emotions. It's women playing with mens and taking some sort of sick pride in doing so. | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/5/2006 4:37:04 PM | But I still don't prescribe to any arguments that say enjoying sex means women are sluts
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Me neither undaunted Try the following definitions of sluts.
Male Defintion - A slut is a girl who uses her tits to make trouble regardless of her sex habits.
Female definition. - A slut is any girl who has more bf's than me, regardless of the reason. | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/5/2006 8:37:23 PM | | actually all men are not dogs...and its men and women alike who play games ... its those other women out there that messes up the gud men for those of us who are good to our man.. so in turn those good men just get determined not to get hurt again and we pay for it ....but im not sayin i think all men are victims because i know all too well how men can play with ya heart and it isnt pretty... | |
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Posted: 9/5/2006 9:03:12 PM | | i agree most men are, but there are men out there that think honesty, integrity, trustworthyness and truthfulness are very important foundations in any long term relationship. When i signed up on this site in june of this year i was looking or a long term relationship, well i found her. Its rather a long distance affair, and it takes a lot of trust, honesty, communication, and respect for each other to even give this relationship a chance to succeed. All of which men don't want to do or just think that they don't have to do. Well i took all the other women i had on my favorites off and left only her and i rmoved all the women who put me on theirs, oh by the way thank you too all of you who did that i was very flattered, but i was not willing to put that effort forth at the beginning. But i guess i had to change my attitude and mind set and look at it from her perspective. You see when i did that she knew that she was the only one for me and she did the same thing and now she flatters me every day by just wanting to spend time with me. I love hearing her voice when she wakes me up in the morning and she loves hearing mine when i phone and spend, on many occassions three hours on the phone. It takes time and a whole lot of change in attitude for that to happen. | |
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| why do alot of men just want to play games with your heart!!
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:54:18 AM | I have read many a profile : "Looking for honest, decent, nice, respectfully, ... ...etc guy, not for intimate encounter....., a guy for a long term relationship ....etc". All sound very wholesome, and honest,
but what i have experienced more times then i care to admit is,
what I feel IS Really meant is : "Looking for a i guy i find attractive and guy who turns me on, and, for the most part, isn't an ignorant dog (at least some of the time) , and hopefully isn't married (or living with someone)"...
Of course there are a number of men, acting in a "less then respectful" manner, Yes, there are men out for the one obvious pursuit, BUT... and i mean BUT, I have come to believe that many women are no more, and maybe less honest then the men they pursue......
If the way men go about things Never Worked (or even almost never worked)... Men would change..... They haven't, cause the need has not shown itself to me necessary, or actually even desirable.
Do i sound like Iv'e become a bit of a skeptic?? You bet ! | |
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Posted: 9/6/2006 9:07:37 AM | Because: I think they to f nice girls who are looking for LTR and not the kind who want one night stands Great book to read called "he's just not that into you" by Greg
Berhrend Ya read the book it's easy reading and make ya feel great and understand to dum asses | |
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Posted: 9/6/2006 10:14:08 AM | My friend Les ( yes that is his real name) is the nicest guy in the world IMHO.
He is smart, funny, good looking, fit, has a great job, nice house etc etc.
And yet repeatedly women play him.
Or say they want to take it slow....which is so far just a code phrase for "I am seeing other guys to"
They have messed with him so badly, that he now refuses to date anyone.
I tried to fix him up with a friend of mine...she is truly a great gal....but he will not date her, just because he is sick of the BS women have pullled on him.
So the bullshit is a two-way street ladies....its not just men that play the games....trust me I have seen it first ahnd from the gals to. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2006 10:32:03 AM | | Both men and women play games. If you're really interested in a guy, let him know, but play it a bit cool. Give him space to warm up to the idea. Guys need it whether they say so or not. But continue to show interest in a relaxed way. Return his phone calls and call him first occasionally. If you tell the guy he's playing it too cool too early in the game then you may lose the guy because it will put him in a defensive position. The guilt tripping may drive him away because he's not totally sure about you yet but now no longer wants to "lead you on" because you've called it that. | |
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