| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 9/14/2006 8:54:17 PM | A polite rejection, albeit a lie, yet an actual possibility, is "I'm sorry, Joe, there has been someone else with whom I've been talking as well and we think we might have something. I know it may sound rude but if it doesn't work out can I call you later?"  | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 1/24/2007 11:46:36 AM | Ikusa -
2 or 3 texts a day would be nice, but 10 a day is just really overdoing it... I like it when a man makes an effort to keep in touch but too much is just a turn-off!!! If women aren't allowed to text/email incessantly, why are men allowed to? Clinginess and being overly eager turns off women just as much as it turns men off..... | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 2/22/2007 1:02:17 PM | Run, girlfriend, run!! Dont walk!!
This is one of those kind of guys that
I am trying to warn you about. LOL
Really, he is probably a very "needy" or worse yet, controlling man. Either way, he doesnt seem normal and Im sure you dont need the drama.... | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 2/22/2007 1:59:08 PM | OneMansQuest…I LOVED that explanation. (excuse, whatever you want to call it.).
That would work very well, in many uncomfortable situations!
Funman...
“Can you blame him from being persistent and desperate? He probably went trough 100s of rejection on here and now that he came across someone who shows interest….”
Yes, actually… there is no one else TO “blame”. Lot’s of people face rejection, in many ways, all the time, that does not give them a license to stalk someone,
If your facing overwhelming rejection, might be good to take a break, do a *Failure Analysis and make some changes. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 2/24/2007 4:46:32 PM | | The reason he is text messaging you is because he is probably married or has a girlfriend. Text messaging is silent and he can do it while he is in the bathroom or another room and this gives him power by thinking he is getting over on his woman. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 2/24/2007 10:33:47 PM | | OP: Considering your location, and considering I went through something similar with a PoF user in the same general area... I wonder if it's the same guy. And if it is... tell him to go away, for your safety. Dead serious. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 4/9/2007 7:51:25 PM | Heh. I'm sitting at work reading this, shaking my head.
Can you folks make any more assumptions about this guy? Chrissakes, he sends 10 messages a day every day!! Did the girl have the cajones to mention anything to him about it? Omg there MUST be something wrong with him and now hes not good enough. Note that this is the ONLY quirk she mentions. She DID feel comfortable giving him her number, now all of a sudden hes expendable. Probably a good 85% of the people on here are socially stunted in one way or another. Show some understanding. People are so weak and passive aggressive, it makes me sick. Just ask him about it, jeez.
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:22:17 AM | Hi OP,
I can relate to that, but I too have a question. this guy that ws really interested in me and vice versa just wanted to sned text messages never phone calls. I told him I prefered phone calls, he would not do it. Well in the text messages, things got misconstrued. He stood me up twice, 5 minutes before we were to meet, he said, somthing came up.
The text messages got out of control and even violent and argumentative. I noticed he was always logging into POF and would never call.
Am I crazy, or was this wrong? I hate my phone and prefer voice communication, not tping. I want a real person, not typed words.
Please let me know your thoughts on this matter, I'm confused and refuse to ever ever text again. My opinion, it's dumb, you can call me if you want to reach me. My phone sucks and takes me an hour to type a sentence.
This is twice this happened to me, Mr let's play text message games and set up dates that way. He was very rude, never let me know the exact place and or time we would meet, this went on for days. He said he was too busy with everything could not call, but in fact he was logging into POF continuously.
He is a principal of a school and using POF at work to pick up women while at school. if I was a parant at that school, i would be outraged. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:36:01 AM | good gawd...if I can only get a guy to get past the computer communications with massive messages here...I'd be in heaven 
OP@ just be upfront with him and say....I dont mind the text messages but i am starting to get freaked out with the massive texts...thats all. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:37:59 AM | I wanted to add to my original post, this man as well would send 10-20 texts a day, never ever a phone call, he was tooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo busy.
We started arguing in texts, I said "hey, call me to plan this date" He said I'm too busy, as he was logged into this site. I do believe he's married, not sure. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:53:21 AM | | Ok..honestly..I know what you are dealing with..you just meet someone,give him your number and next thing you know you are getting anywhere from 10 to 20 texts a day and some are saying are you mad,why don't you talk with me?? You an block him from phone and emailing you..if you would like to know how...pls write to me...I would advise writing him 1st and telling him WHY you have changed your mind,etc.... | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:59:52 AM | Thank you broken. the texts have stopped, I told him move on I do not want to meet somone that can't take 5 minutes out of their busy day to call. it got to the point the texts were violent and sickening. no texts as of yesterday, I suppose he found someone else on POF to terrorize. I will refuse any texts for now on. It's ok maybe once a day sayig hello. call me old fashioned, I need a voice especially to set up a date. i did get one phone call with him mind you, I said please let me know where and when we will meet . he said we will discuss it in texts? I'm like what???????????
It takes me a longggggggggggggggggggg time to text back, heck I could leave you 15 voice mails by the time I finsihed typing s sentence to you. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:52:53 AM | what's that have to do with anything?? The guy would not call to set up a date but sends 10-15 texts a day
I forgot I got 63 grueling sickenineing texts on friday, how's that? I told him unless you cna make a phone call I won't meet you, he went off!!
mainly my question is.. why do guys do that? Aren't you on here looking for a date, meet not text message games?
Do guys use phones anymore? | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:25:34 AM |
I still say the guy is probably just a little more 'hip' to modern forms of communication and a bit more laid back than the OP.
Um. I text all the time, but I would run for ze hills if some guy I have yet to even meet texts me 10-15 times a day.
1. He hasn't even met this woman yet, they have only been emailing for a couple weeks.
2. Lots of people don't have texting plans, a certain amount a month then you have to pay for each one.
3. I believe she said she is avoiding him at this point because he constant attempt at communication is freaking her out.. yet he is still calling and texting. Yes you may say she should tell him she isn't interested, but then again who wouldn't take that kind of hint!?
When you get to know someone better and actually start dating then the amount you communicate tends to increase a lot, like you said you and your girl texted all the time but here is the thing.. you were actually dating her. This guy hasn't even met this woman yet!
I don't know why you assume that the OP isn't that laid back, lots of people find this behavior needy and obsessive and find it incredibly unattractive. Nothing is more attractive to me than a man with this own life who finds time to call, text and see me but also concentrates on other aspects of his life. I don't want a man who constantly needs to hear from me at all times. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:55:38 AM | I just had a lady write to me to criticise me for being too indifferent.
Here we have a lady criticising someone for being too enthusiastic.
David DeAngelo recommends men contact a lady couple of times a week. I'm with David DeAngelo.
OP tell him he's being too intense - which he is - and suggest he reads David DeAngelo's ebook available off the net for £20 and then ask him to get back in touch again.
The poor guy just needs some training. All these people talking about what a sap he is behind his back - who'd be him, eh? 'not little me' said all the men. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 11:10:15 AM | | Maybe i'm misunderstanding something here. Did you ever reply to the first text? And if not , then why did you give him your #? Were those texts sent trying to get you to respond when he had every right to believe you would? Yeah, it's kinds weird because i would have given up after 2 and left you alone...I'm just having a very difficult time understanding why anyone would give their # out,and not answer the phone. I'm NOT taking his side. He needs to stop!!!! Tell him to move on,because you changed your mind and your NOT interested! | |
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