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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 11:34:43 AM | I met a great guy on another site that at first, freaked me out. Talked for a few weeks, then we met half way at a little restaurant. We enjoyed each others company. Firstly I needed to make sure no one was going to follow me home, and he certainly wasn't picking me up at my place for a first date.
On that first date we exchanged phone numbers. He toooo text me often. I thought it was cute. Then arranged a 2nd date, closer to my town this time, but still meeting there. Well doesn't he call my place and say he's 20 minutes away and can pick me up at my door. I literally freaked. Apparently he googled my phone number by reverse look up, and after pulling up my name it connected to mapquest. He was almost outside my door.
He didn't realize he overstepped. (And yes I can be a tight ass). He appologized and headed home. I was still shaking an hour later. After that he wrote me a long, beautiful poem. Veryoriginal and heartfelt. He really was a good guy. He also, loves modern tecnology and we had a blast tesxting. 'Hi how's it going." He worked on towers and one text came in 'hey the corn is mighty high from up here'. It was hilarious.
He just like to feel close, and it really didbn't bother me after awhile and I could hardly wait to see him. | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:54:15 PM | Well BFG14,
You were e-mailing this guy for 2 weeks, what kind of information was shared? What did you tell him during that time you were e-mailing? Obviously, y'all were doing well enough for you to give your phone # out.
Obviously, he really likes you. Is he a stalker? Maybe his sin is that he's trying too hard? Maybe his ex told him she didn't get enough attention from him and he's over compensating now, because he really likes you and is putting in the effort to communicate with you.
Apparently you took his calls for a while even when he sent you 10 plus text messages a day, so you gave the signal his behavior is acceptable, and so he continues, oblivious to the fact that you're freaking out due to all this attention he's showering you with.
So here's the question you should ask yourself? Is he a good guy? Do you have much in common with him? Attracted to him? If he wasn't freaking you out with all the contact would you still be interested?
If you answered yes to all those questions, maybe you should tell him and talk with him, but perhaps, if y'all are still both on POF, maybe he already knows what he's done and is willing to stop smothering you. For all we know he might be thinking "DANG It! this is a lot of work and a pain in the butt trying to keep this woman's attention!"
Sometimes some of us guys can be pretty clueless, I'm a firm believer that everybody deserves (except cheaters) a second chance. If you were really into a guy, and were screwing up your chances that initially seemed pretty good, wouldn't you want to know before you totally blew it?
And as for me personally, 15 text messages, ESPECIALLY if I'm not answering them back, would be sending up red flags too.
Good luck! | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/12/2008 11:05:37 PM | | Some people live with their text at their fingertips. How do you know he's a freak? What has he said? Sorry, but I need more info before I can really say anything about the situation. Is he a freak because you're not used to the type that like to text message all the time? | |
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| Have not even met and have 15 text messages from him. Huh?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:57:38 AM | Going too far, too fast... I get that all the time.
I was in contact with a guy from the U.S who posted on the same political message board that I did. We started joking around with each other there (nothing sexual.. at most a "god, you've got to move down here and marry me")and moved the conversation to IM. He told me of his attraction to me and I told him I thought he was a sweet guy but obviously there were too many obstacles for us to ever meet/have a relationship.
One day he said he might have to come for my province to visit and asked me to show him around. I told him it was a great idea and made suggestions as to where he should stay and what he should see/do. He asked me what I'd like to do in his hometown if I ever came to visit and I told him.
The next day I decided to take an impromptu trip to my hometown for the weekend and didn't sign on . When I got back I got over a hundred messages from him starting off with "hey, haven't seen you on today" to "why aren't you answering me back" all the way to "Listen, you ugly b*tch, I already picked up the Bruins tickets and my mom was planning on making lasagna when we went to visit her. But you really f*cked it up. Who the f*ck do you think you are to ignore me? I hope you get hit by a car and die". Not his exact words but close enough....
I think that's the kind of thing that the OP is afraid of. If he's showing this much "interest" in her before they've even met, how bad will it get if/when they do meet? And if he's this overboard with the communication even though it's not being reciprocated how will he take the rejection? Will he just be sensible about it or will he go just as overboard as he did with the texts? You guys might not think it's a big thing to just message him and tell him, but it's scary dealing with the unknown. | |
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