| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 10/30/2006 8:58:59 PM | | I am so selective now, much more than when I was younger. At this age I know exactly what I want and am not afraid to look until I find it. Attraction though kind of takes its own course. | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 10/31/2006 4:06:27 AM | I have to agree with RASCAL1060 & COTTER....being picky or very "selective" of who we spend the rest of our lives with...is very important!!! | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:01:03 PM | Women on here are very shallow.. Some not all. They barely take the time to investigate a person. They see a picture and they immediately pass up on you! they are so rude and inconsiderate.
I'm a great guy, I have a lovely personality and very kind and warming.. but they don't give a rat's A$$ if they decide your picture sucks..
too picky indeed! | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/3/2007 7:29:36 AM | | albertaontherocks.. for what its worth I think you have great pictures. | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/3/2007 12:31:57 PM |
Are we way too picky when it comes to who we choose? who we decide to date and not to date?
Funny thing is that you can only be choosey about what is offered. So being too picky doesn't really mean squat. It’s only half of the decision making process.
are we all a little too choosy and picky when it comes to who we respond to or write to??
Nah...I've only ever gotten one person on here send me an obnoxious e-mail about a post I made on a forum. I made sure to thank them for taking the time to read my post and moved on. Most people who contact me, contact me about something I said on a forum. So I do my best to thank them for their time and encouragement. I consider the e-mails thoughtful gestures.
I used to be a long time ago back in my earlier years very picky on who I was interested in and who I found to be attractive or worth my time...
I found a non-stressful way to meet women and date. Pick something you enjoy and go after it.
Do something to enrich your life...whatever that may be. Just don't be stagnant and get out of any ruts you may be in.
Don't act like every encounter with a woman is a date, but acknowledge she is a woman in your eyes.
Pick a direction and go. Chances are you'll meet someone along the way. Don't make a woman the center of your life, but make her a priority if she's important to you.
Drop the labels of your relationship. Either your married or not. Everything else is just flavor for other people's benefits. Just be happy that you enjoy one another's company and understand that you are both vulnerable to one another's thoughts and actions.
Alright...I'm done. | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/3/2007 12:48:09 PM | Definitely, We have way too many choices, just like in the cookie aisle of a grocery store. We look only for the great cookies with the fancy labels and catchy marketing, and pass over the generic cookies in the plain wrapper. Even if the cookies are equal in every way we go for the flashy wrapper or gimic. Or we stick with the one we always buy, because we know it and it is safe.
When communities were closed and the options were few, people still found love, and had lasting marriages. Now we literally have thousands of choices and either can't choose or can't stick with the one we picked.
These dating sites afford the opportunity to meet people we would never meet otherwise. That is the good thing. But it also seems so much like a supermarket of faces and bios. If this one isn't skinny enough, provocative enough, beautiful enough, rich enough...next. There is something to be said about meeting someone and getting to know them the old fashioned way. Perhaps that person doesn't meet 100 percent of your criteria, but they meet 95 percent. Is 95 percent good enough, is the other 5 percent essential? Without the benefit of conversation, human contact, effort, it is just too easy to say...next.
Yes, we are too picky. In our rush to meet the absolute perfect mate, we miss the really great ones.
There, that is my two cents, and my first adventure in weighing in on one of these threads. | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/3/2007 12:53:37 PM | I like what you said sunshine.
and I think its true.
I think online dating offers the best and the worst of alternatives. | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/6/2007 2:17:37 AM | | I think we all have expectations in meeting someone and standards that we seek. | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/6/2007 8:29:36 AM | | I think that the expectations and stardards we have should not over focus on who we meet or date, they should be cintinuous, ie they should include all phases in a relationship. When people have high standards and expectations but are willing to start making major discounts vis-a-vis those standards during a relationship (in order to make the relatiionship "last"), that can lead to problems. In some cases, given the discounts some people make, they might as well start without any expectations or standards (other than simple ones, eg "I need an LTR"). Some women advertise that they seek an "honest man", "a real man", "a man with a good heart". What kind of measurable standard is that? What kind of expectation? How do they expect to validate/measure that? Tests? What kind? Crash tests on his heart? His kindness? His "realness"? Hm! I do not see the syllogism is such stabdards AS STANDARDS and implementation thereof!!!! | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 4/6/2007 10:57:11 AM | Nick said:
Some women advertise that they seek an "honest man", "a real man", "a man with a good heart". What kind of measurable standard is that? What kind of expectation? How do they expect to validate/measure that?
That made me pause. How very true his observation is. We know what these things are in the abstract - but how do they translate to reality?
Anyway, I am far pickier now, and it worked for me. I found what I sought - in fact, better than I anticipated. I'd rather be alone than compromise very much. | |
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| Are we all too picky?
Posted: 8/30/2009 7:04:22 PM | OMG I love that statement "socks roll up and down"!
It isnt being picky it is being discerning. I think we all have to decide what we can and want to live with, what we cant live with, and not settle for less than that. Otherwise what we'll get is something "we knew we couldnt live with" instead of someone we cant live without. Not good! | |
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