| WSRFR Asked a good question, Can men and women be friends 'after' having sex?
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:11:49 AM | | I believe they can be friends after sex as long as there is no emotional attachment. That means the woman and man while having sex understand that it is just the sexual act that is taking place and there is no connection between them. Sexual intercourse for many people is an expression of their desire to connect with each other. Most men can have sex with no emotional attachment. That being said some people can just have sex and not get attached but most can not. | |
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| WSRFR Asked a good question, Can men and women be friends 'after' having sex?
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:08:12 AM | To simplify the answer: you can be friends and genuinely feel positive towards your someone you wanted to sleep with, but never towards someone you have wanted to be with.
Hearing your former fukbuddy comment on your current dating relationship in a constructive way is actually supremely helpful.
As long as the arrangement was sex and friendship, not sex and hope for more, the friendship will not be affected when you stop bumping bones.
:-)
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| WSRFR Asked a good question, Can men and women be friends 'after' having sex?
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:48:21 PM | | It certainly is possible. I have several friends who used to be more than friends. In fact, I'm going to be the "best woman" for one of my former lovers when he gets married next July - if I hadn't taken him to an event with me last year, he would never have met his future bride. | |
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| WSRFR Asked a good question, Can men and women be friends 'after' having sex?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:00:33 PM | | If she did it the way he likes, they can be. Then there would be no hard feelings. A man won't be cold to a good performer who gave it all she had, even if she couldn't quite get there. It's those slackers who barely even show up and then lay there with their elbows all pointy and in the way, those are the women who can forget about being kept as friends after failing so miserably in bed. | |
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| WSRFR Asked a good question, Can men and women be friends 'after' having sex?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:19:55 PM | Of course men and women who have sex can become or remain friends. And for decades. Am still friends with lovers I had decades ago. And my late husband was reconnected, by me, with the woman he had as a first love decades earlier, a few years before he died. They had a great visit. Yep, I am a confident woman. No doubt its because of the way I was raised (French style), where lovers remain friends and where married couples often have a lover at one time or another.
It's all about being totally honest so each person knows what's expected. If a woman is concerned the man wont stay friendly after sex and they go their different ways, then she needs to be an adult and ask how he would feel. A good man wants honesty.
~Beth~ | |
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