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| | why do men always have to look at other women!!Page 11 of 27 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27) | BigDaddyJinx, you look foolish bantering with that woman. Apparently she has some kind of controlling fetish. She wants a p-u-s-s-y whipped lap dog. So be it. There is no point to pointing out to her.
When you see a homeless guy shouting "the world will be end tomorrow! God is your only salvation." at street corner, do you routinely try to talk him out of his madness? | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:49:30 AM |
BigDaddyJinx, you look foolish bantering with that woman. Apparently she has some kind of controlling fetish. She wants a p-u-s-s-y whipped lap dog. So be it. There is no point to pointing out to her.
When you see a homeless guy shouting "the world will be end tomorrow! God is your only salvation." at street corner, do you routinely try to talk him out of his madness?
Iron...this is why I left it as-is. There's plenty of room in the real world, but some would rather not live there.
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Posted: 9/11/2008 12:05:02 PM | Why do women have to be so painfully insecure, and where do they get this
utterly retarded notion that us men are always comparing them?
Women: When you go to an Art Gallery, do you compare one work of art
to the next? EXACTLY, I thought not!
Men: I'd like to hear from ONE guy, that has ever compared one woman to another
as far as looks go? | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 12:11:20 PM | I don't see anything wrong with looking, just don't drool down your chin. Ya know, you can do it without being obnoxious. I look. Why not? It's like admiring flowers. Just don't step on 'em, don't be obnoxious about it.
They lie because you give 'em sh*t about it. Don't give 'em any sh*t, don't even mention it, and they won't have to lie. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 12:19:46 PM |  You have Heard of Wine Apreciation,ART LOVERS,ect.??? 
Well Men are natural Born Bird/Girl Watchers, we naturally LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN...
 This in no way translates to weather we want them or not, but we are Damn Sure GOING TO LOOK!!! 
 For those of us who will NEVER DATE AGAIN, a LOOK is as good as it get's...  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 12:27:58 PM | I know exactly how you feel...I used to be the same way...when I was in love with someone, I wouldn't even feel the desire to look at another man...& I couldn't understand why he did..I would feel guilty if I did look at another man, even if mine was no where around...I thought that was being truely dedicated to someone..I took it as if he still wanted to, then he must not love me as much as I do him...
never could decide which was worse...if he was looking at someone prettier than me, that would hurt, because I can only be what I am...or if he was was looking at someone not as pretty as me....which I totally didn't get...he's got this girl standing beside him, that all the other guys are looking at...but he's looking at some butterface...dam* that would make me mad & hurt soo bad...
but now I've come to realise that the only person I was really hurting was myself & my relationship....it's just part of being a human animal...living in jealousy is a great way to torture yourself...
so long as he isn't being rude to you by staring at someone else constantly & ignoring you...or actually flirting with them....then you should lighten up & take a look around yourself....
I also realised that men are simply attracted to more than most of us women...like, I bet most guys see at least 10 girls a day they would want to sleep with if they could...whereas me, I'm lucky if I see one guy a month that turns my head...but take me to an Ozzfest or something, where there is a lot of the type that I personally like..(long hair, tats, piercings,etc.)...& I'm practically breaking my neck to look...
the real problem is when you get a guy that actually is going out with other girls...or trying to talk you into liking them too...lol... I say if he is someone you can trust, then don't worry about it...
so much time & effort is wasted over this, if he really is being faithful...like I remember I was at the beach once with my ex...we were taking our kayaks to the beach...there was this girl that his eyes kept going to....so I started an argument...so here we are standing in the sand fighting, when this whole school of dolphins come swimming down the beach...it was amazing....& I should have been out there on my boat in the middle of them...probably the one chance in my life that I could have experienced that...but no, I was standing there fighting over some dumbaZZ girl that we would never see again & that didn't matter in our world at all...I still kick myself for that...
my sister & her husband used to blow my mind...because they actually say stuff in front of each other...like, dam*, he's hott...I thought it was so disrespectful...I really didn't expect them to make it, figured one of them would end up screwing around...now I see that because they are able to be completely honest with each other & even joke about it...that they are able to completely trust each other...& they are the happiest couple I know... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 12:41:32 PM | Some of the greatest relationships I have ever had were ones where
both partners could share their impressions of others they found
attractive! I have to qualify, that we each found the other highly
attractive as well!
Possibly nothing is a killer of true intimacy as jealousy and insecurity!
And this is almost the norm, I would say! SAD!
If nothing else, it suppresses our natural expression of human sexuality. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 12:46:51 PM | Wow...we could easily summarize this thread by saying, "Confident and secure people step to the right of the room, please" and "Unconfident and insecure people step to the left of the room, please!"
Seriously...sometimes people are just too attractive NOT to look! I do it...and to both genders, and I am straight as a board! Sometimes it is someone that just has something about them that makes it nearly impossible to look! It's almost as if it is a reflex!
Of course there IS a difference between admiring, looking, checking out, etc...and drooling all over yourself or sporting wood! In other words...do it with tact...or at least comment on what it is that makes the person you are admiring, so attractive!
Why do you think television, magazines, and other media is so chock full of beautiful people? Because it sells! It entices! It's a good work out for our eye muscles! ;O) | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:05:16 PM | Some of the greatest relationships I have ever had were ones where
both partners could share their impressions of others they found
attractive! I have to qualify, that we each found the other highly
attractive as well!
Wow...we could easily summarize this thread by saying, "Confident and secure people step to the right of the room, please" and "Unconfident and insecure people step to the left of the room, please!"
Seriously...sometimes people are just too attractive NOT to look! I do it...and to both genders, and I am straight as a board! Sometimes it is someone that just has something about them that makes it nearly impossible to look! It's almost as if it is a reflex!
These statements pretty much both sum up my experiences and belief on this subject...I've been in relationships where we looked and pointed, and communicated to each other, where we were so confident about ourselves and each other, AND our relationship...Where we could even joke about the "freebie" that we would give each other. The person, usually a famous person that, if the situation ever happened we would give permission to our partner to sleep with....(Mine happens to be Nigella Lawson.)
There's a big difference between looking and making a move on someone...There's a huge difference between admiring beauty, and looking for a replacement.
I can be with a partner in a moment where we're looking in each other's eyes and a bomb could go off and I wouldn't know it...Where the passion, and the love is flowing through us, where we are the only two people on the planet, OR we could be sitting in a cafe, people watching...I, or more likely we, can look at someone we find attractive, and be secure enough in our relationship, not to fear that that means our relationship is in danger.
AND both the above posts once again goes to prove these are NOT GENDER SPECIFIC Issues.....It's neither something that ALL men do, nor is it something that ONLY men do either...
Men don't ALWAYS do anything, nor do ALL MEN do the same things, Nor do ALL WOMEN or women ALWAYS do the same things...All of us, both male and female are just more complex than any generalization can define... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:08:34 PM | | One word chick, insecurity. Men who look at other women when theyre in a relationship shows no respect for their partner and also hint hint they shouldnt be in a relationship.... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:11:16 PM | | Nothing wrong with window shopping, You just don't go in and buy..Human nature is it not?..To look at things that are beautiful or attractive?..It does not mean we are going to cheat..If the other person thinks this, they have serious insecurity issues IMO | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:17:52 PM |
One word chick, insecurity. Men who look at other women when theyre in a relationship shows no respect for their partner and also hint hint they shouldnt be in a relationship....
Which are you saying...it is insecurity, or it is disrespectful and an indication that they should not be in a relationship? Or are you saying that the one looking at others, is insecure?! How does checking out someone attractive make one insecure? Nah...you could not mean that! LOL
Sorry...I am lost on your comment! LOL | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:25:30 PM | Harleykat - what she said...................is right on the money:
Wow...we could easily summarize this thread by saying, "Confident and secure people step to the right of the room, please" and "Unconfident and insecure people step to the left of the room, please!"
And here when I started reading this thread I once again thought I was going to be 'odd man out' again
If I am 'with' someone, then I am secure in that knowledge. A 'ring' just means your married - NOT dead and buried.
It does boil down to an insecure issue................which again, if I am 'with' someone, I am secure.
I am actually the type of person to point out to my partner, the attributes he admires in the female species. For example - if he's a 'boob' man..............I would be more apt to turn to him and say "WOW - look at the rack on that woman"...................(and I have actually done just that)
Now - having said that...........if I had to put a drool bib on him everytime we went out - that could lead to problems.....................LOL
B. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:27:18 PM | It is a VERY thorny issue, this respect thing! Firstly, respect is only
ever genuine, when it's earned, not demanded!
To **** foot around any one's insecurities is not respect!
If your on a date, obviously the man shouldn't be caught looking at
the waitress's legs! And yet, he probably notices them and appreciates them! lol
It's unrealistic to think that just because someone has the control to not overtly
do something, that it still isn't on their mind or in their nature! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:32:06 PM | He's involved with you honey (maybe), he aint dead!
I have an eye for beauty, whether it be nature, architecture, art or people, male/female...I look, he looks, no harm in looking-- it's trying to eat off the menu that gets ya in trouble.  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:34:13 PM | Bedroom Blues...I hear ya', chica! I am always the one to point out a hottie! "Woah, Nellie...lookit' the t1ts on her!!" Hell...I may even cop a grope for him if it is someone I know! 
When I am with someone, I do not fool myself into thinking he only has eyes for me...but I know his heart, soul, mind, and body are MINE. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:34:35 PM | Re the Opost:
"why do men always have to look at other women!!"
Because even when we are in love, that does not mean we go blind, ie we still look at beauty of other women, does not mean we do not appreciate the woman we are with or plan to be unfaithful. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:35:36 PM | Bedroomblue63 & HarleyKat: I concur with you both.
The difference is one scenario is admiration (not staring) of someone's style/beauty and the other is salivating at the mouth/doing an "exorcist" when you see someone attractive.
Surely we all can't be blind to everything around us just because we have someone in our lives.......Class and tact is the key. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:43:38 PM | Seriously though. THIS IS A MAN WE ARE TALKING ABOUT. I dont give a damn if my man is looking at another woman. As long as he isn't humping her it's okay! Let him look! DAMN! I'm wondering what's up with these insecure females who can't handle their man looking at another female without posting a bulletin about it!
Have a freakin' BLESSED DAY! ughhh!!
Tiara | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:50:09 PM | | I just love looking at all the new cars in the showroom window, but that doesn't mean I'm goping to take the damned things home with me. Big deal, so we look but it's not what we see, it's WHO we go home with. You don't see us guys bit*hing about every time you look at a pair of shoes or a new dress so get on with your life. It will never ever change the way GOD made man-WE LOOK, sorry bout that!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 2:15:24 PM |
I'm wondering what's up with these insecure females who can't handle their man looking at another female without posting a bulletin about it!
I'm with you, Tiara. I suspect some of it is an age thing. I think younger women may be more prone to be insecure. I figure I can *look* at anyone I please and so can he. Thing is, at the end of the day he's going home with *me.* All those other good-lookin' women are out there and who is he with and going home with? Me! Now that's something to feel good about.
You know, when you see someone you find attractive for any reason, it makes you feel good. It doesn't mean you're going to chase 'em down, leave your honey on the sidewalk for someone else. What are you supposed to do? Kill the part of yourself that notices? Guess what happens then? You also start killing your attraction for your lover, too, because attraction is attraction, good feelings are good feelings, and when we suppress them, it doesn't just suppress them in one place, it suppresses their expression everywhere. That's certainly going to extinguish the spark in a relationship.
Look, just don't be obnoxious about it. Enjoy it. Then take those good feelings home to your lover. And if the guy you're with goes a little over the top - well, make a joke of it. "Here, honey, you want me to put your eyeballs back in for you? I think you dropped them on the sidewalk." If he gets to weird, give him a dope slap and teach him some manners. Expecting him not to act stupid is reasonable; expecting him not to notice a woman is attractive is not.
Guys I'm with have to put up with knowing I'm looking at both men *and* women. They'd better be tolerant! And secure. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 2:23:23 PM | I used to have a GF years ago who always started to rub my neck
unexpectedly while driving! She thought, I may have strained my
neck, looking at scenery, that I had already, long forgotten about!
My God, some of you Women are HyperVigilent! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 2:52:21 PM | | ^^^ I had a girl friend get mad at me when I was younger. She was wondering what I was looking at that snapped my neck around. I was looking at a real nice boat. LOL she felt foolish | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 4:16:11 PM |
Vinny, Vinny, Vinny! OK...maybe *I* don't sport wood...but yes, I have been known to drool a time or two! There was once this Charlie Brown sort.....does a cl1tty or t1tty hard on, count??
That would count in my book!!
You gotta watch out for those Charlie Brown type  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 4:25:01 PM |
why is it that a man cant be happy with just you? And why also do they have to lie about it, when they have been caught looking at other girls. Surely if they are happy with someone, they wouldnt feel the need to look at other women?!
Ever consider that you may be a bit insecure in your relationship??
Maybe you should work on that particular issue, because the difference between men looking and women looking, is the simple fact that women are better at not getting caught!
Men who look at other women when theyre in a relationship shows no respect for their partner and also hint hint they shouldnt be in a relationship....
And women who expect men to put blinders on and a daily dose of salt peter, should just get a life... | |
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