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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 4/24/2009 7:18:51 AM | | I guess I'm just weird. When I'm dating someone, I never look at other women or even want to look at other women. When I have a girlfriend, she is always the woman I want because I got the woman I wanted in the first place. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 7:52:16 AM | Looking at other women does not mean he is not happy with you.
No, they should not "lie about it", nor should they have to. Unless a person is blind, they will look ... it doesn't matter if they are in a relationship or not.
I'm sure beautiful women catch our eye too ... the difference being we may see them as competition - not as just beautiful.
Looking is natural, but yeah, it can become a problem if the guy is staring so hard that he walks into a wall! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 7:55:30 AM | Abelian, sounds oh so sweet and all but i'm calling BS on that one  You mean you never even take a sneak peak. OR possibly even watch a little porn when your lady is not around or out of town???  So if you are out with your buddies drinking a few beers and two gorgeous lesbians start making out........... you are going to turn your head and say "sorry guys but i have a girlfriend and i REFUSE to look. Tell me when its over please" HA!!! Srry abelian...... i believe you hun.  | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 7:56:28 AM | What you know:
Heterosexual men like looking at attractive women.
What you DON'T know:
That doesn't go away. Not for marriage, not for getting older, not for having kids. Never.
Your assumption that a man must be unhappy with the looks of his current significant other if he ogles another woman is wrong. It's only something to be jealous about if you think that you don't contribute a single thing to your relationship except your looks, or you think that the only thing he cares about is looks. Don't disrespect yourself or him in that way. It is better to realize the reality of the situation and accept it than to complain about something that cannot change. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 8:02:51 AM | I honestly find this complaint very odd, coming from either women or men. I'm a woman to the love of men born and I find much pleasure in looking at them and admiring them and I'm sure I will keep looking at them and admiring them until I'm a little old lady who can barely see. Why should I be insulted if the man I love looks with pleasure at other women? Our sexuality is both particular and general. One cannot love a particular woman unless one loves womankind -- if not all woman, at least other women.
To forsake all others does not mean -- because it cannot mean -- to ignore or neglect all others, to hide or be hidden from all others, or to desire or love no others. Whenever I got involved with a man I knew that I wasn't his "all". I was aware that he had cherished memories of other women that he wouldn't forget even if he could, and that he shouldn't forget. I knew that he experienced desire and felt affection and admiration for other girls. He wasn't my "all", either. I had my own memories and stirrings that didn't involve him. I had sweet crushes on other men. We were both aware of this about each other and we both understood that our relationship survived because of, as well as in spite of, these other women and men and the generosity of instinct that they represent.
I live my life trying to remember that order is forever threatened by the margin of wilderness that surrounds it -- relationships may be destroyed by instinctive sexuality, and the forest is always waiting to overrun the fields. These are real possibilities that must be considered, respected, even feared.
And yet I think that no culture that hopes to endure can afford to destroy these fearful possibilities or to set up absolute safeguards against them. When you forbid people to go into the wilderness, you lose the possibility of renewal. The most dangerous tendency that I can see in modern society, now rapidly emerging as a scientific-industrial ambition, is the tendency toward encapsulation of human order -- the severance, once and for all, of the umbilical cord fastening us to the wilderness. The threat is not only in the totalitarian desire for absolute control. It lies in the willingness to ignore an essential paradox: the natural forces that so threaten us are the same forces that preserve and renew us. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 9:22:12 AM | I will admire an attractive man if he walks in the room. As it has been stated many times it is normal and human nature, but I personally don't "ogle" them ...I think it comes down to this...Are you admiring them? or Are you "ogling" them? Do you have some self control? Do you want them to see you and hold your stare until they see you? Did you totally forget the person you are with for a moment? Will this be a habit with them? Will it get on your last nerve if they do this all the time? Do they have "Dating Attention Deficit Disorder"? LOL... I dated guy few years back that was bad to do this...I am now very glad I'm not dating him anymore...it was annoying... Some guys were not as bad as he was about it...
It's all about categorizing what kind of glance or stare it is... A perceptive woman or man knows the difference... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 9:24:56 AM |
I guess I'm just weird. When I'm dating someone, I never look at other women or even want to look at other women. When I have a girlfriend, she is always the woman I want because I got the woman I wanted in the first place.
Not weird .. just evolved  I am the same way.. when I am with someone I care about I don't have the urge to gawk at anyone else... because I am with the person I want.. there is no "grass may be greener on the other side" behavior..
Its also about core respect which is lost on many these days.. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 9:43:35 AM |
there is no "grass may be greener on the other side" behavior..
But that is NOT what looking at someone means, at least for me. I'm not contemplating that I want them, that I'd like to meet them, or have a chance with them. Its strictly that I find women attractive and therefore I like looking at them.
People like looking at things they find appealing. If I've seen a gorgeous sunset, does that mean I should avoid all other sunsets or never look at another one cause I've already seen one? Or say I have a really nice Corvette that I'm happy with, but then in a parking lot I see another very nice looking Corvette, I'm going to look. Do I want that car? Do I have to drive that car? No, I'm very happy with MY car, but I just like looking at other nice cars.
My first real GF had no problem with me looking. She even pointed out cute girls on the beach for me. And she enjoyed all the male sights she could see as well, which was perfectly fine with me. Meeting, flirting, talking to - THAT is a problem. Just looking? Please... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 10:26:42 AM |
She even pointed out cute girls on the beach for me
well how sweet of her, nothing like assisting your man to gawk at other women!! LOL... And do you scope out hawt men and go" hey look huney, get a load of the ass on that hottie!"
Or say I have a really nice Corvette that I'm happy with, but then in a parking lot I see another very nice looking Corvette, I'm going to look.
Ahh that familiar misogynistic comparison of women to cars.. how evolved!
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Posted: 4/24/2009 10:38:46 AM | why do men always have to look at other women!!
Because some of them have legs like sepia777's?  
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Women look as much or more than men. Men just don't make as big a deal out of it, and women are more sneaky. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 10:43:06 AM | | You can't stop them. It's the nature of people...mainly guys. It's bred into them. Besides, if it bothers you this much, look at other guys then go home fight about it and have a "make up session". | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 10:55:53 AM | looking at other women does not mean he is not happy with you.
When I'm involved with a woman, I will notice other women, as part of realizing how fortunate I am, that I am with her, rather than what else is out there. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 11:12:37 AM |
Because some of them have legs like sepia777's?
oh yeah blame the victims! LMFAOOOO
 @ CSB
women are more sneaky.
Oh I concur..You're correct in that assertion...
But the reason for this is because women want torespect their men, and avoid hurting his feelings if they made a spectacle of ogling other men..so they employ some discretion....women should be applauded for this noble gesture...
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Posted: 4/24/2009 11:18:09 AM |
But the reason for this is because women want to respect their men, and avoid hurting his feelings if they made a spectacle of ogling other men..so they employ some discretion....
Exactly. And this is all most women ask of men, too; just the respect of not being obvious about it. We know that looking is perfectly natural! Most of us simply prefer not to actually watch you doing it. Of course there are exceptions in either direction, but I really think this probably represents the majority. | |
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~Music
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Posted: 4/24/2009 11:34:17 AM | Oh I concur..You're correct in that assertion...
But the reason for this is because women want torespect their men, and avoid hurting his feelings if they made a spectacle of ogling other men..so they employ some discretion....women should be applauded for this noble gesture...
When this is true, it's great. And I make an effort not to be obvious or disrespectful myself. But.... I have been in trouble for leaving too big of a tip for an attractive waitress, when I leave the same 20% for every server. I've been accused of looking at women I didn't even notice, until I got in trouble for "noticing." There is an insecurity issue that goes along with the sensitivity many women have with this "problem." And yes some men are very insensitive to women with this problem. Some men are victims of it.
PS...
hmmm... maybe we could just feel our way around
I'm OK with that if Sepia is...  | |
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~Music
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 4/24/2009 11:38:44 AM | Blinders on immediately guys & gals.
From now on it's feel your way around 
(Sorry if there is a double post. Technical difficulty that apparently can't be changed) | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 11:41:26 AM | Men and women "look" at members of the opposite/same sex etc. That is being human, animal, alive whatever you want to call it.
I am fortunate not to have lost my sight, but I bet blind people compensate with smell, touch and sound etc ... think on that one....
It is the degree and context that are important in a relationship. People of all sexes and sexual persuassions get that wrong at some time or other, so we al lhave to "work" on it, some more than others. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 11:45:38 AM |
Abelian, sounds oh so sweet and all but i'm calling BS on that one You mean you never even take a sneak peak. OR possibly even watch a little porn when your lady is not around or out of town???
I mean exactly that. No, I do not. I have other things in my life that interest me a great deal and if you've read many of my posts, you'ld know that I'm blunt and don't hesitate to say something that would offend everyone, so I'm rather unlikely to to bullshit about something like this. I just have no interest in chasing women, the women I've had as girlfriends have for the most part, been my fantasy, and when I have what I really want (as far as anything goes) I'm happy with what I have. I do my looking up front. I can't recall ever having posted anything that was intended to make me look good, as many of my posts will make obvious. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2009 11:55:30 AM |
Or say I have a really nice Corvette that I'm happy with, but then in a parking lot I see another very nice looking Corvette, I'm going to look.
Again, I must be weird. I own a Steinberger guitar. I've had it for 20 years and I have no desire to play another electric and I haven't played my Flying V in all that time. In fact, I usually loan it out to people or it would sit in the case in a closet. When I have something that compliments me, I simply have no interest in anything else. | |
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