| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/10/2009 9:37:00 PM | Men are visual creatures...and there is a lot to look at out there. It does not mean they aren't happy with just one it means they are human and most humans I think most can agree with me here like to look just for the sake of looking. I still look just for that reason.  | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:15:43 AM | There is a difference between noticing a attractive man/woman, and slobbering over them undressing them with their eyes and wondering how they'd be in bed...
As humans we usually notice everything around us, especially other humans.. it's just curiosity. If someone is attractive, we might acknowledge that and then the thought is gone. If your partner is always looking out for the next yummy babe/hunk and then making lots of comments, you would be right to have a problem with that.
The poster above who said he has tunnel vision when in a relationship is similar to my boyfriend, I am a big fan of female beauty and often point out gorgeous women but his reaction is "meh, you're all I need to look at".. I don't point out males though, but I probably notice them less! I'm similar, I'll acknowledge to myself that someone is attractive but the thought is gone in an instant and there's nothing sexual about it, just a natural observation.
We're all different.. the men or women who start off by saying "we're men, it's in our blood and we all do it"... can't speak for all men, as a woman can't speak for all women. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:49:19 AM | | As far as I am concerned, go ahead and look! I will check them out as well, sometimes even point them out. There is nothing wrong with it, it's human nature. But I'm not the jealous type. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:52:57 AM | Wow...how did this topic make it this far?
If you have to ask why men look...are you really mature enough to even be in a relationship?
Looking isn't the problem, I thought...
TOUCHING....now THAT'S a problem... | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 4:49:57 AM | | op, men will never self-castrate just because they're with you. are you telling me that your ONLY problem is that you caught your BF looking at other girls? what the hell is the matter with you? you're a big crybaby. get over yourself. you're also being unreasonable and unrealistic. expecting a man to avert his eyes from the female form is just like expecting a dog to refrain from drooling when it smells bacon. in other words, he's *normal*. perhaps what you really need is more self-confidence, i don't know... but it's YOUR problem, not his. he's lying about it because he doesn't want to have a confrontation with you about it. keep it up and he's going to get sick of your insufferable nagging and leave. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 6:04:11 AM | I know a friend who's guy turns around and says 'wow i'd hit that' in front of her. Shes slapped him. Ive laughed. And the cycle starts again.
My partner has said to another woman in front of his ex 'i'd do ya if i wasnt a married man' now i told him when i heard that, if you ever say that to any of my friends (and i dont care how low their self esteem is and if your trying to make them feel better!) its dumpsville, population you.
If i was his Ex i would have gotten up at that party and stalked out after telling him 'well you no longer have to worry about being married so feel free'. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 6:10:45 AM | a man can be happy w/just you, provided you're secure enough in yourself not to wig out b/c he likes to look.
men are visually stimulated. they are hardwired to look. they might sneak a peek, but you're the one they're with. if a quality man wanted to be w/someone else, they would be w/someone else instead of you.
I know a friend who's guy turns around and says 'wow i'd hit that' in front of her.
now this ^ is where to draw the line. there is a huge difference between simply visually appreciating a girl's assets and this fine example of neanderthal mentality which lacks social grace and propriety.
the sooner you learn this, the happier you'll be, too.
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 7:16:22 AM | There is nothing wrong with looking. If I saw a good looking man walk by, you dont think I would look?
Relationships require trust....... let each other look all you want, just dont touch | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 7:50:11 AM | I've been in a relationship with an insecure fool who used to accuse me of lQQking at other men ALL the time. How I fixed this was finding someone NOT so annoyingly insecure. Looking is not searching-- it's observing. I observe my surroundings and it was a dam shame that he felt intimidated EVERY time we were in the presence of men he thought were more attractive than him.
On the other hand, if I was the women coupled up with a man who had wondering eyes for females exclusively, he was probably too distracted to notice other men oggling me.
To be with someone who makes you feel secure you have to feel secure yourself. You can't get that security from a man ever. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 8:21:08 AM | | Just because he looks doesn't mean he's not happy with what he has.Who cares if he looks.It's when they act on it that you need to worry.It's human nature to look at people.When I have a SO,I look at other men,I can't help it,especailly if they have a nice chest,mmm. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 8:48:23 AM | I was going into a burger joint with my ex and his 21 year old daughter....he was holding the door for his daughter and me....he was looking at a lottery ticket at the same time. Daughter and I get through the door, and he comes through the door, looking up from the lottery ticket. He shouts "Oh my God!" and STARES at the chest of the woman behind the counter......it was huge. Daughter and I look at each other, mouths open.....we BOTH slap my ex on his arms....we go to the counter, and apologize to the woman behind the counter....we had trouble getting her to stop laughing, so that we could apologize.
We all had trouble eating our burgers, we were laughing so hard.
Did I feel threatened.....NO....I was glad that the lady behind the counter was such a good sport about it. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 10:02:39 AM | That all depends on you definition of "look".
If it's a woman that walks through your line of sight, he's gonna see her- it's unavoidable. But if he gawks he has issues and obviously little respect for your feelings.
When in a relationship, I don't "window shop"... ever!
It's painful to your partner, and as mentioned, "men are visually stimulated" (I had to say that for you, Avenger805), and as such it is an open invitation to trouble.
Yes, women I believe are visually stimulated too.
It's a 2-way street of respect IMHO. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 10:11:19 AM | | A man look at other woman because they like variety..... men are visuals and it doesn't matter how happy they might be they will still look....and it doesn't help when they are not getting what they need and want at home. There is so much distraction out here that most man are not strong enough to not look. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 10:43:50 AM |
A man look at other woman because they like variety..... men are visuals and it doesn't matter how happy they might be they will still look....and it doesn't help when they are not getting what they need and want at home. There is so much distraction out here that most man are not strong enough to not look
Bingo.
Spelled it out perfectly.
This is like saying, "why does a man have to look at all of the beautiful trees and flower and birds that nature offers?"
It's absolutely absurd. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 11:17:19 AM |
becasue we are pigs and we fantasise about what we would like to do to the other women ..
Hey man, you're not a pig because you have sexual fantasies about other women. You're a normal healthy man.
Read Nancy Fridays "My Secret Garden" and read about womens sexual fantasies.....yours will PALE in comparison to what women fantasize about. Your jaw will drop. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:29:31 PM | Its funny cuz guys I have gone out with dont look at hot women walking by, or not that I have seen. But my boyfriend always catches me looking at hot women :P
I don't think it bothers him. I have told him multiple times, I dont cheat, and I am happy with him. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 3:52:43 PM | Beauty is meant to be absorbed is it not? Be glad that he is with YOU but still has an appreciation for beautiful women. Unless you have a low self esteem this should not be a problem as far as I am concerned. I look at beautiful sunsets too but that doesn't mean I would like to visit.....relax and unless he is cheating on you let him appreciate what he sees with HIS eyes. Too many people act like they OWN their partner and that OP is a quick way to drive him off, give him the space to be himself and it will be much more rewarding than trying to censor him.
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 4:14:27 PM | men will be men ,they have always done it from the dawn of time and i,m sure they will do it to the second this world ends lol (now if he is looking at every woman that walks by lol thats different ) but at the end of the day he is going home with you and thats what matters surely momen eye men up its just nature ! relax don,t be so cut up about it , he is with you !
next time you spot him doing that lol point out another women to him "what about her ?" or "what do you think of him, he is nice isn,t he !"
whats good for the goose is good for the gander !!!!! | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 5/11/2009 4:47:19 PM | Depends...
Has this girl, let's say gotten so comfortable in the relationship that no longer dolls up as nicely as she once did to initially act as the bait and hook to which now when the catch is out in public with you he may look at another woman and say, 'Hmm, I remember when she used to make an effort too...'
I'm posting this half-jokingly! | |
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