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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/11/2006 1:03:12 PM | | everybody looks! -women are usually faster at glancing at men. i have caught a few long stares from women who didn't know i was looking back at them, through my sunglasses -or watching them staring from their reflection in the window etc. sometimes we give a long stare -just to get her attention! | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/11/2006 1:04:53 PM | Men are visual, sorry. That's the way we are...and to look at another does not mean that we are unhappy with the one we are with.
But because some of the ladies do not want us to "look" at another girl, we have this knee jerk reaction whenever...you know, twice slap twice shy.
I am lucky in that my lady points out the cute ones for me and I, the hunks, for her. Hey, it's a two way street.
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Posted: 9/11/2006 1:10:04 PM | this reminded me of this one time that i was out with a group of friends [with my bf]. we are about to meet this one guy and finally see his bike. dude pulled up and a lot of us were in awe. i was in awe. i thought a guy in a yellow suzuki is hella hot! anywho, i've always thought that guy to be pretty sexy [before i hooked-up with my bf now]. it was so hard to just drop my jaw...so i glimpse and just made eye contact with my bf. iunno if he happened to look at my direction at the same time, or he was trying to see how I would react to that dude [would it be the same as the other girls in the table]. i don't want to make my bf in any way jealous or insecure ...so i just kept my eyes on him and smiled...until the dude finally sat in our table.
though if anything, i think its just a human nature/instict to check out other people. i wouldn't worry about it if i were you. i'd be pissy though, if we're having a serious talk [eye to eye] and his eyes keep wondering and drawing away when a chick passes by. it's not even the fact that he's checking out someone else, it's the whole, "are you listening?"  | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/11/2006 1:15:29 PM | i think its great to look..but not touch....awwww id say to myself if my guy was with me but glanced at another woman..ill dress better...be sexier for him ..id think to myself...woman look to..but as long as you dont stray thats fine...i met a guy from here.. we went out and he was honest to say he would always look at other woman...excepted....it didnt work between us....but honesty is great and looking dont hurt...id just be happy with a man..who looked...smiles..be happy have a great day everybody... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 1:19:33 PM | | OMG sooooooooooo childish. Yeah your 19, makes sense. Humans are visual creatures, its simply the way in which we are wired. I look at other women beacuse it's impossible not too, even ones your not attracted to, you still look. My Dad always said that if you don't look, your dead. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/11/2006 1:32:08 PM | OK...I skipped Pg. 2 so I don't know if these are covered there, but for the OP
and any other women with self-esteem or insecurities issues, here you go!
First, like Fery said......worry when your man DOESN'T look.
Men are attracted to women.....they look wonderful to us.....so naturally
when we see them we want to look. If I didn't enjoy looking at women
I wouldn't enjoy looking at my S.O. It doesn't mean I'm not happy with her.
Here's an explanation I've given.......I like cars......all kinds of cars......and I
will always like cars. Let's say I own my most favorite car in the world and
have it fixed up EXACTLY the way I want it, I wouldn't trade that car for
any other car in the world.......OF COURSE, I'd still look at other cars, I'd still
go to car shows, a great looking car on the road would still catch my eye.
It doesn't make me like my car any less.
The difference there is......I would drive another car.....but since I'm NOT a
cheater (cheaters suck!) I wouldn't "drive" or date or have sex with another
woman when I'm in a relationship, but I'd still notice other women.....and,
believe it or not.....sometimes we do actually look at other women and think
that the woman we're with is much better looking! I notice women all decked
out in a mini-skirt and lowcut blouse with the fancy hairdo and makeup, that's
not the "type" I date, but I do notice. I don't approach every woman I notice
or even find to be attractive. There are men who do......there certainly are men
who, given the chance, will cheat on you with many of the women they look at.
Find a man with character and integrity, put your faith and trust in him, and don't
worry about him "looking" at other women.....be glad he's chosen to be with you. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/11/2006 1:42:48 PM | Why do men always look at other women??? ARE YOU KIDDING? Do you not look at other men? I think it is human nature to appreciate attractiveness in people - men & women.
Do I look at other men? HELL YES! Does that mean I will cheat on my significant other? NO! I point out other beautiful women...not because I want the guy I am with to leave me...but because I am secure in who I am and in our relationship. If I was not secure enough to do that or to freak because he looks at another woman, then I would not be in that relationship...it's about trust!!! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 3:32:45 PM | | Looking at other girls doesn't mean we're not happy with what we've got. And we probably look for the same reason that you look - because we're curious. I'd much rather know what a partner is thinking then have her hide it from me. And it's a good thing that guys don't pay attention to subtle hints that there partners are window shopping or thinking about other guys..and that we don't confront girls about it either. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 3:43:15 PM |
Men are visual, sorry. That's the way we are...
Hey Doc - so are WOMEN, and any who says she isn't is a liar. It is human nature to look at that which we find attractive and it knows no gender. Come on you guys - just because you happen to be on a diet does not mean you cannot LOOK at the candy on display. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 3:45:17 PM | Looking does not mean anything, as long as he's with you. And of course they lie about - you'd only get upset if he told you the truth, then be subjected to constant questions "is she prettier than me? do you want her? etc etc Now, if he is ****ing other women, I'd take an entirely different position.
Hell - I look at other women all the time - what kind of shoes they are wearing, how they are wearing their hair, and I'd be pissed if every time I did that my boyfriend (which I don't have right now) immediately started asking me if I was a lesbian LOL
There is so much worse to get upset over, this is nothing. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 3:47:00 PM | When you go to a museum and see a lovely painting, do you stop there and go home?
I know its not a great example, but men are attracted to women. A part of that involves looking. But if they don't take it to extremes, I think its okay. I notice women that are attractive. I don't stare... but I do see them. ;) | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 4:02:33 PM | I can certainly agree with you about it being bad manners, if that's your point.
Otherwise, you're starting to maybe get into something philisophical. Kind of along the lines of why can't people just be happy with their lot in life. How is anyone going to concisely answer that question?
As to him lieing, he was 1) careless and 2) there wasn't an answer that would get him out of the hot seat. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/11/2006 4:21:55 PM | Because they have eyes  !
Men are visual creatures.
They are hardwired to tune into attractive members of the opposite sex.
(well, most are)
It has nothing to do with you,
their happiness with you,
or necessairly that they want to stray.
It's just how they're radar is calibrated.
I was happily married for 20 years, ( I'm widowed ),
if he missed one,. I'd point her out.
We'd play a game with Cosmo or Glamor -
I'd pick out who I thought he'd find attractive,
then see how often I got it right.
I used to tell him,
" I don't care if you look at other women, dogs chase cars, and they can't drive." or
" I don't care where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home."
You have a choice, get angry and frustrated, 
or have fun with it!  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 4:36:33 PM | | Horseygirl, you need about 20 more years under your belt, if then you are still saying the same stuff then you haven't matured one bit. Jealousy will ruin a relationship faster then being a gold digger. It isn't who he looking at, it's who he comes home to..... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 4:37:31 PM |
LoL! Too funny Indigo. Isn't it funny how the pretty ones always jiggle by?
I always loved jello comercials as a kid.
As an adult, I am conditioned to appreciate some jiggle. :P | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 4:38:54 PM | It's sort of hard-wired into our psyche. Kind of the same way that women always look at another woman's outfit, shoes, accessories, etc... It just the way things are. Get used to it! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 4:53:57 PM | I think a lot of it has to do with whether or not the woman is able to show she's happy being with the man. It is a give and take. The more confidence you can show in your man, the more confidence he will show in you. And vice versa too. I had my eyes set on a long distance relationship for 9 years and never met anyone else. Bad mistake, which I won't repeat since she didn't bother come to visit me after we had both ended our college, and I visited her thrice. Keep the man's attention, and you will be set. Find out what interests them and allow it to mix with what interests you. Don't let it be all about you anymore than letting it be all about him. Many people have a very short attention span. Give him 5 minutes to say what he wants to say, and he will be happy to let you have 5 minutes about what you want to say. Sooner or later a man is going to lose interest when the attention span has been lost. If his eyes begin to wander, stop yourself a moment and ask him if he heard what he just said. As much as we like to say long statements, it can be lost in thought. A question will let a man think enough that it will involve him. I try to ask questions of women too. Some never get answered.
Also, don't take every look a man might make at a woman as trying to be insensitive about you. He may be on the lookout for friends for both you and him to talk with about something. Sometimes someone can't avoid ignoring what they see in their peripheral vision either and just want to look to make sure it wasn't an illusion. Allow momentary distractions, and don't make the man feel guilty about them. We are after all animals, and we should all be allowed to have small lapses. Just so long as we don't act seriously on them. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2006 5:25:31 PM | | 2 YEARS OLD : My < 2 year old gorgeous daughter was sitting or standing next to me ( I was aged 28 years old then in 1988) on the front seat of my ute ( utility ) as I was driving slowly on a quiet suburban street.On the other side of the road and on the footpath was a woman walking in our direction who was maybe aged between 20 and 40 years old .I didnt see her or was not consciously aware of her or was aware of her and did not look at her. Just as we were about to pass the female pedestrian the cutie gorgeous 2 year old looked at me with a big smile and said fairly loudly 'DAD!'.I wondered why she said that and then I was aware of the woman just walking past.I thought for sure that she must have been thinking that I was looking at the woman.So is it something that a female is born with or learns at a very young age from the less than 1 1/2 to 2 years of experience?Or was cutie 2 told by her mother or mother's other females relations that men ( always ?) look at girls ? Cuties reaction in the utility was a positive one compared to the negative jealous hateful angry insecure reactions of some shedevils. The mother also repeatedly reacted in virtually the same way as her daughter towards me about 3 to 4 years earlier !The bible mentions somewhere that females ( was it mentioned in Genesis near Eve ) will be cursed with some sort of insecurity ?The mothers repeated reactions of suspicion and distrust towards me ,concerning looking at other women, just made me suspect her own behaviour and attitudes .So I also did not feel trusted and so then her worrying caused her worry to come true. | |
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| why do men always have to look at other women!!
Posted: 9/11/2006 6:37:28 PM | | For the love of god.Human beings look at each other period.Whether it's a man or a woman we all look.Men and women feel the need to lie when we are "caught" because of our own lack of security in the relationship we are in.Last time I checked I had to look to notice, to become attracted, to feel the need to interact and so on and so on.....There is a huge difference between looking and eye F_ _ king someone while you are with your partner.Looking at someone esle isn't the issue.Look inside the relationship to see the problem. | |
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