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| | The truth about Introverts.Page 16 of 16 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16) | i think i once heard that an introvert is an extrovert with a broken heart. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 10:43:37 AM | just because I am not social, does not mean I am an introvert
I just don't believe banal and shallow false interactions with random strangers is integral to my life or happiness.
fun vs. drama - I choose fun every time - and I usually have the most fun alone.
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Posted: 1/13/2012 10:55:40 AM |
The difference is, I'm happy being introverted and having time to myself. You WANTED to be social and outgoing, but had yet to learn how.
I'm the same way. I'm an introvert. I have been like that for as long as I can remember. It does NOT mean that there is something wrong with me. I'm just quite content with my own company. I do enjoy being social with other people, but I find it taxing after a while and need to retreat to recharge my emotional batteries.
We live in a culture that encourages extroversion. Other cultures encourage a more introverted mindset.
Not everyone was meant to be a social butterfly. Just because someone is different from you or prefers to do something differently does not mean that there is something wrong with them. It just means they are different. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 11:02:10 AM | | Sometimes when people wont shut up, i tell them i can breath without talking......they dont get it. I'm a bit of both, but one thing i'll be looking for in my next mate, is someone not bothered by silence...my last gf would have a shitfit if i was just observing the crowd for a few minutes.... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 11:04:13 AM | | A lot of introverts isolate themselves due to anger and resentment in life...you can't assume that introverts are finding meaning in their lives, which is a false assumption. Most serial killers are introverts...is that healthy?...Most of the guys I know who are real introverts seem to have conditions such as anxiety disorders, depression, scitzophrenia, etc... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 11:48:51 AM |
The reason for this is introverts are more intelligent, more reflective, more independent, more level-headed, more refined, and more sensitive than extroverts
I resemble that remark. 
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Posted: 1/13/2012 11:59:55 AM | ^^^^^^^There's a huge difference between socially awkward and introverted... and a LOT more between socially maladjusted and introverted... or mentally ill and introverted.
I'm not shy...at all, and hold leadership positions in my life... but I'm very introverted. INTP (poster child)- and when I read the description of it I had to laugh, right on the money.
I have no tolerance for small talk... and I can't seem to acquire any. BUT I am a good communicator - just depends on whether it's something that interests me. I'm not very emotionally expressive, and am highly analytical, some may misinterpret this as not caring - which is far from the truth.
Being around too many people or in a social situation for too long exhausts me. I need lots of recharge time.
I'd rather be alone than with people I don't care for. And I rarely feel lonely. Give me a good book over bad company.
Do I find myself being misunderstood? Hell yes! I had a friend who was 'seriously concerned' because I was 'isolating' myself. I'm not - I choose to spend a lot of time alone. I find people don't understand when I refuse invitations to large social venues... maybe they think it means something about how I feel about them (?) but it's mostly the venue. I'm not very social but it doesn't mean I don't like people.
I despise drama (unless it's artistic), gossip, and a lot of things about common culture. I rarely watch TV. I value deep thinkers and creativity... it's just what I prefer/ am interested in. (I'll take a conversation about Nietzsche or Plato over last nights sit com, or celebrity 'news' any day).
Sometime I envy extroverts seeming ease in the world... but it takes all types to make the world go 'round. Society probably wouldn't last too long with just introverts in it - we'd be too disinterested or disinclined to tackle some issues, and then there's teamwork... which extroverts do better. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 12:06:17 PM | After reading "Letters To A Young Poet" I was able to be content in my solitude and truly identified with being an introvert. Now I prefer to be alone!
Thanks, Gaga :)
According to the Jung personality test I am :
Strength of the preferences %
Introverted 33
Intuitive 38
Thinking 12
Perceiving 33
moderately expressed introvert
moderately expressed intuitive personality
slightly expressed thinking personality
moderately expressed perceiving personality | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 1:08:25 PM |
A lot of introverts isolate themselves due to anger and resentment in life...you can't assume that introverts are finding meaning in their lives, which is a false assumption. Most serial killers are introverts...is that healthy?...Most of the guys I know who are real introverts seem to have conditions such as anxiety disorders, depression, scitzophrenia, etc...
Wow, sounds like you're trying to equate introverts with serial killers and psychological disorders. And that first statement about interverts isolating themselves... uh, no. Absolutely wrong. Being an introvert or extrovert is only a way that a person relaxes and regains their mental energy; 'recharge their batteries' as it's been said. Some people find it refreshing to go out to a crowded group setting and enjoy the company of other people, others find it more refreshing to relax with a book. The former are more extroverted, the later are more likely introverts.
Don't you think it might be more likely that a serial killer can't advertise for a 'partner in crime' or talk about his hobbies rather than he's an introvert? Don't you think that people with anxiety or depression may not have the energy to 'go out and have fun' rather than be introverted? Don't you think that extroverts might also have anger, resentment, a lack of meaning in their lives? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 1:13:21 PM |
A lot of introverts isolate themselves due to anger and resentment in life...you can't assume that introverts are finding meaning in their lives, which is a false assumption. Most serial killers are introverts...is that healthy?...Most of the guys I know who are real introverts seem to have conditions such as anxiety disorders, depression, scitzophrenia, etc...
Wow, sounds like you're trying to equate introverts with serial killers and psychological disorders. And that first statement about interverts isolating themselves... uh, no. Absolutely wrong.
you could reverse that whole viewpoint - MAYBE , OTOH, many 'introverts' are psychologically healthy enough to be happy within themselves, without NEEDING to have a large flock of followers around them admiring their every word and witticism -as many extroverts seem to require. many extroverts can only feel good about themselves if enough other people tell them good things about themselves | |
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Posted: 1/13/2012 1:14:31 PM | | also introverts in many ways are the ones who get things done. extroverts walk around talking, pontificating, joking, blah, blah-blah, blah, and more blah..all day long and often much of the night. | |
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| The truth about Introverts.
Posted: 1/14/2012 11:50:41 PM | Introvert checking in. I'll be over there if you need me.
You know what I hate about introversion - realizing you are the only person sitting down while everyone else is standing around talking about celebrities sloshing their drinks everywhere and touching each other while laughing like they are BFFs.
It's like everyone has a puffy, helium filled balloon and you got the broken one all deflated but you continue to hold out the stick with that pitiful piece of rubber just fluttering in the wind when super-extro man passes through on his way to the bar dressed in the couch cover.
I tell you, once I have counted all the floor tiles then noticed mount rushmore in someone's clothing - I'm out of there. That's my personal rule. Yeah, best to avoid parties. Big crowds are bull to the shit. Smaller gatherings suit us. | |
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| The truth about Introverts.
Posted: 1/15/2012 2:19:52 PM | MAD Magazine hit the nail on the head with their piece "What is an introvert?"
If you see yourself in that piece, try to lose those characteristics.
An introvert is a quiet narcissist, self-centered.
The word can also mean something less harsh. An example of a good type of introvert can be found in many east Asian tech workers. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2012 6:55:50 PM | I'm an extrovert, and that description was accurate for me haha
I can talk to anyone about anything at anytime.
I enjoy being around people, and I do get bored when I'm by myself lol
Many times I tend to speak without thinking first,and sometimes that's not a good thing =( The weird part is that I've only dated guys who are introverts. I guess they balance me out lol Idk | |
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Posted: 1/15/2012 9:06:10 PM | Well the OP is not a valid definition of introvert since it described me fairly well despite my repeated scores of ENTP/ENJP. That sounded more like wishful thinking than anything else to me. Let's take all the best qualities generally associated with extroverts, add them to most positive qualities of introverts and offer it up as a "truth" about introversion. I doubt that any person could read that without identifying with a good part of it.
I'm very introverted. INTP (poster child)
I would likely be the ENTP version - or at least I was once. I strongly suspect I would score very differently now after some major life changes. Solitude is my world but I reach out to touch other souls and get all excited about going out for a cup of coffee with a new friend. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2012 9:20:06 PM | I think they have no game. This is what my sister believes. Does anyone know what no game means?  | |
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Posted: 1/16/2012 9:59:52 AM | The Op's description of an introvert describes me perfectly. I am an introvert. I must always at some point in the day have alone time. I was just explaining this yesterday and I can tell you, extroverts have real trouble understanding it. Most people do not know I am an introvert since every day on the job, I am required to act as an extrovert, talking/interacting/teaching large groups of people. I laugh, smile, exchange information, and do quite well at small talk...still I lean more toward being an introvert. (All introverts know they are)
As a kid, I was very shy around strangers...yet I loved to be in a room full of strangers as long as I did not have to speak. I enjoyed watching, and observing the interactions, and thinking my own thoughts about it. I've always considered myself a people-watcher as opposed to a people person. I too prefer a good book over bad company.
My family always knew I was shy, though around them, I was a big mouth (still am hence the long post, haha) So Ive always jumped in and out of both worlds. I have tried to explain to people at various times that I am a shy, introverted type and more often than not, I get laughed out of the building, although fellow shy or introverted people understand.
I hate small groups..especially speaking in small groups so I usually sit and think of something quite clever to say, make my point then relax and think of another good point to make later so it seems like I'm participating. Most of the time, I'm just observing mannerisms and the group dynamic. Please don't ask me to share my thoughts...since I like to think before I speak and I usually over-think things. Besides, I am sooo much better on (electronic) paper. lol It is not unlike me to come up with an extraordinarily brilliant idea concerning the meeting ....later, then email my thoughts to the group coordinator. My nightmare in a small group would be another shy person...since that would increase my chances of having to speak more...so bad mix!!
I hate when the attention is on me, for instance some one throwing me a birthday party, or even being a participant in my own wedding. This I dread.... and though I'd smile, laugh and be personable...even enjoying it to some extent, the true introvert in me, wants to go home.
(Though, I am discussing the two together, shy and introverted are completely different, I'm both. However, to the naked eye, I'm neither)
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Posted: 1/22/2012 3:24:57 PM | sounds pretty bizarre when you start reading how this person or that person USED to be an introvert, but now has reformed. "oh, i used to be an introvert, but i decided it would be a lot more fun to be an extrovert, so i decided to be one."
you don't just DECIDE to be an introvert or an extrovert. you are or you aren't, but you don't just consciously decide to be one or the other, & then change who you are at will.
believe me, if you're now really outgoing, there's a good chance that you were never an introvert at all. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2012 11:22:05 AM | ^^
plus there is the social pressure that says extroverts are "better" than introverts, that it's better/more socially acceptable to be 'extro' than 'intro'..
so some people pretend to be, or calim to be, 'extro' who atre not, really, truly.
or answer questions on the Myers-Briggs test that will "show' they are extroverts -it's pretty obvious/easy to figure out - a 'self-reporting' test after all | |
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Posted: 1/23/2012 11:36:54 AM |
believe me, if you're now really outgoing, there's a good chance that you were never an introvert at all.
Agreed – there’s truth in that. Admit, I’m a puzzle to myself in this regard… a solid introvert, but have hosted many large parties and made a career of performing in public. And I’m often the first to speak to a stranger on the street or subway, if they look approachable.
I guess the difference is that it taxes me to do so. I need respite afterwards. Where a true extrovert is energized by the social stimulus, I feel depleted eventually, and repair to smaller groups, one other friend, or solitude.
I can choose to be outgrowing and gregarious when need be, but it's not my natural tendency. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2012 12:15:42 PM |
I can choose to be outgrowing and gregarious when need be, but it's not my natural tendency.
That's the key right there. Everyone has a "natural tendency" one way or the other.
So there are times when a natural extrovert can "appear" introverted, and a natural introvert can "appear" extroverted, by making a concious choice at that time.
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Posted: 1/23/2012 1:42:03 PM | right. i've been told i'm an extroverted introvert (but probably not as much so w/o alcohol in a public setting, haha).
but like was pointed out, if it stresses you to do the whole social thing, then you're most likely an introvert. i can be social, but then i want to go away & be on my own turf - where i don't have to deal with anyone. even talking to someone thru a messaging type communication would get overwhelming after a short while. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2012 4:37:31 PM |
A lot of introverts isolate themselves due to anger and resentment in life...you can't assume that introverts are finding meaning in their lives, which is a false assumption. Most serial killers are introverts...is that healthy?...Most of the guys I know who are real introverts seem to have conditions such as anxiety disorders, depression, scitzophrenia, etc...
See...it's statements like this that make me "hate" extraloudmouths even more.   | |
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Posted: 1/25/2012 1:07:50 AM | ^^^^^ This pucker face girl has posted this in many threads. OMG! Vote for me! Lord...the pumped up kicks generation.
Back to topic...I am a very talkative introvert. Kind of weird. | |
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