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Posted: 3/1/2009 7:40:43 PM | | YES!!!!!! I want someone to come when I call...exactly!! What a concept!!! DUH. My girlfriends and I talk about it and say, wouldn't it be nice to have someone to just call and say- "hey, come over here and let's screw around, but then you gotta go home." Ha, we laugh, but the more I spend time alone, the more I like it. I've spent waaaaay too much time chasing when all I need to do is sit back. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 10:49:59 PM | I understand what it is and I'm sure it works for some but not for me. Quite a few
people I have met on-line were looking for exactly that..and forgot to inform me.
I end up feeling like a prostitute..but without the pay. How stupid is that??? | |
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| Do women understand what a fuck buddy is?
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:27:14 PM | | To each his or her own. I personally think you are delusional if you think even being honest at the beginning will stop the whole fwb thing from getting complicated and/or ending like the relationship from hell. If I am going to get my heart broken, it is going to be for a better reason than fwb. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2009 4:20:52 PM | I have had **** buddies, but they did't all work out. Seems that when I call them, they are not available. Yet they want me whenever they make the call. Always looking for a new one, guys! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2009 6:39:46 PM | | Unfortunately for me! Most of my ex ****-buddies,either wanted me toleave the wife, or they turned into bunny-boilers? Yet? All said at first...........I`m not like that......or, I`ll never do that to you! Men be warned-Lol | |
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Posted: 3/2/2009 6:40:35 PM | | But I mustsay....ya dolook quite gorgeous! So,if ya still lonely.... cum to Ireland! ;) x | |
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Posted: 3/14/2009 11:39:05 PM | | Yep, porn without the camera or paycheque -- wouldn't that be great!! But please make sure the guys are just as fit and attractive and can last more than just 5 minutes. For me to really get into it, I have to have eye candy. :) | |
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Posted: 3/18/2009 9:08:19 PM | Some do... but alot of times they get attached and then you can lose not only a f.b. but also a friend over it...tread carfully.
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Posted: 6/15/2009 10:24:29 AM | I had an extraordinary relationship with a young woman long ago -- we were both in our 20s at the time. This was decades before I had ever heard the term "f___ buddy." I'll call her "Violet."
Violet and I enjoyed doing things together, and while we each thought the other was physically attractive, neither of us felt romantically about the other -- we were just good friends. But we would talk to each other about our frustrations in finding a sexual partner. For my part, I was shy around women and was, at that time in my life, a "nice guy" who, as one gal told me, just "didn't make [her] socks roll up." And besides, I was afraid of being hurt emotionally. Violet had other reasons for avoiding physical intimacy. For one thing, she confided to me, the only previous sexual experience she had had was when she had been raped as a teenager.
However, we considered ourselves good friends, and one day I said, jokingly, that we should have sex with each other until our "romantic passion" came along, so that sexual frustration wouldn't be a reason for us to rush into a sexual relationship with someone that we would later regret. But the more we talked about it, the less it seemed like a joke and the more it seemed like a good idea. So, we decided to give it a try.
We went very slow and easy with each other, and it worked out quite well for both of us. Neither of us either regretted it or began to fall romantically for the other, but we remained good friends. This lasted for over a year, until one day Violet told me she had met a man with whom she was developing a mutual romantic attachment. As we had previously agreed would happen when one of us found the right person, we stopped our sexual sessions and I told her, honestly, that while I would miss the fun of it, I was very happy that she had found somebody right for her that she loved romantically as well.
I've never had another relationship like that, with only mutual friendship and lack of complications associated with the sex, nor have I heard of anyone else who did (although I don't doubt it has happened to others). However, when I tell people I had that kind of relationship they usually don't believe me, telling me that in such cases one person will always fall in love with the other, or there would be sexual jealousy, or it will always ruin the friendship, or for whatever other reason it would be bound to end badly.
Well, perhaps it often does for others, but in my case it didn't. Neither of us regretted it, and while I've had many relationships, sexual and otherwise, since then, I've never had another that was so carefree, uncomplicated, and satisfying, as when I was with my good friend whose bed I would often share. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 11:27:27 AM | | I never wanted a buddy at the time that I ended up with one that is what I thought anyway. I had just got out of a realationship and didn't want another one anytime soon I wanted to enjoy my freedom. Anyways I wasn't looking and neither was the guy I ended up with. Most people think that f**k buddies are a short term thing...mine has been ongoing for over a year and I see no reason to discontinue unless I am with someone. You say it is not a relationship but it is just not in the way of having expectations more than sex and friendship. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 7:30:29 AM | I dont think women do understand what a f*ck buddy is? My 1st, was an angel! We became soul mates. I never took her out for dinner,never bought me flowers etc. This was also at her recquest too! BUT... one day outta the blue she says!..... I want ya baby! and.. Please leave ya wife,I need you always! So, that finished. Shame- THE best s*x Ever! On reflection I should of run off with her? Regret not doing so to this day!
Next women, a definite seasoned player,if ever I saw one! A great f*ck buddy. But.... An absolute loon! Hard work- goal posts kept shifting(you girls are good @ moving `em)!? Became dangerous as she was secretly recording our sessions, without my consent,or knowledge@ the time. It was all sorted,finally,after I played her,and showed my hand!
Last buddy! Well! She couldn`t help,but want to be wined `n dined! Fine.... Untill she wanted a full on relationship,engagement etc!
Yet to find a female buddy, who sticks to the rules,doesn`t change their minds!? And who doesn`t get all goooey and sentimental-YET!
Altho any woman,who can change my view on this? Ya welcome to convince me!? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 7:49:57 AM |
Unfortunately for me! Most of my ex ****-buddies,either wanted me toleave the wife, or they turned into bunny-boilers? Yet? All said at first...........I`m not like that......or, I`ll never do that to you! Men be warned-Lol
Why the F are you married?? I've Never understood why people get married if they want to fvck around.
OT - Fvck Buddies? "MOST" not all .. but Most women are hardwired Emotionally, MOST not all but Most men are hardwired Physically. ie: Most men can jump on, get off and get out without much more than a little heavy breathing and maybe a smile (if i'ts good) .. Most women? not the same. "We" are more likely to become Emotionally attached to someone we are Intimate with. The better the sex - the higher the likelihood.
Men and Women (Generally speaking of course - cuz we are all different) .. but Generally - Men and women are wired differently. Just the way it is.
CrAzY world .. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 9:01:58 AM | they do
of course they DO understand
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I had a couple, brief but sweet...
you have to work at it, just like any relationship, to make it work for both of you (like someone else said on here, it is not a relationship in the "standard" sense and you need to keep emotions in check).
I love it.
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Posted: 7/11/2009 9:56:35 AM | | I think it is difficult for a woman to have no emotional ties to a sex buddy unless she is doing it just for attention or self-gratification. If there are no ties, I think there is some other ulterior motive. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 10:13:53 AM | I think it's important to understand that unlike relationships other than of the f+ck buddy type, the latter should not make you feel like a failure when it ends, as it is by mutual agreement.
This also means that if you and the other half agree to break it off if it doesn't suit (or if one of you finds love, or for any other reason), then even if one person took the decision before the other, it shouldn't be a problem. Giving up sex and intimacy with someone you trust isn't easy, whether it is a f+ck buddy relationship or not, but if you both stick to not getting involved and keep an open mind about meeting new people, you will also be cool about enjoying the sex and intimacy until it lasts, without hang-ups.
So, in a way, everyone is a winner in the end...
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Posted: 7/11/2009 10:23:26 AM | | OMG- totally took the words outta my mouth. i'm new to this NSA thing, and thought that's what it was, pointed it out several times at the begining. next thing you know-guy is offended that he thinks we are just fooling around, and this isn't how couples behave. fml | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 10:48:35 AM | Some people are better able to handle a NSA situation
but everyone can get better at it, if they do it more than once, as with practice you learn how to keep yourself in check...
Some people think they are open to NSA, like with threesomes, but then they realise they can't handle the openness. It helps if you are naturally a stronger person, meaning one who is able to just crack on without feeling the need to linger on sad thoughts, who thinks positively and handles difficult/unusual situations well.
Where the boundaries are blurred, whether in your work, social life, or personal life, you need a strong sense of how far you are willing to go, what you are definitely not comfortable with, etc. and let the other person know from the start, as much as possible. In a way, it is like going to the hairdresser's not knowing what you want: it is more likely that you will come out feeling unhappy about the result. It's better to stop and think about why you want, say, a f+ck buddy, and then decide how you want to play it, before you even start looking...
It really isn't for everyone... just like threesomes, just like dating a pornstar or any other type of celebrity or someone into fetishes you didn't even know were possible.
If you do find someone to have sex with and share intimacy with on a regular basis, just make sure you can handle it before you let the weeks or months (or more) go by, and be open about your feelings. Also, be prepared for the other person to develop feelings for you, in which case it's better to be honest than pretend that you also feel what they feel.
Knowing who you are and being very articulate about your feelings and needs (with yourself, first of all, and then with the other person) is essential in a situation as mobile as a NSA relationship.
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Posted: 7/11/2009 1:00:00 PM | kittenluvr wrote:
I understand what it is and I'm sure it works for some but not for me. Quite a few
people I have met on-line were looking for exactly that..and forgot to inform me.
I end up feeling like a prostitute..but without the pay. How stupid is that???
Nah, it's not my cup of tea or any other drink for that matter. LOL Call it FWB or whatever, but if it's like that I may as well get paid for it. Seriously, I'm just not cut out for that kind of relationship even if it is discussed beforehand. My emotions will inevitably lead to  | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 4:34:24 PM | | I understand exactly what it means and have had those type relationships since my divorce seven years ago. When it ends, there is a sadness for the loss of a friend but there isn't a broken heart. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 7:21:13 PM | | The reality is that women view sex different then we do. Be a real man and let the woman know where you really stand, you may get less sex by telling the truth but will hurt less people | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 3:03:11 PM | Have sex without feelings?... maybe in that parallel universe which you can't get from here... | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 6:21:17 AM | That it is a way for women who like a certain guy to try and get him snared into a relationship thinking he will start wanting her more, but it is actually the opposite. He automatically thinks that she will want more out of the situation which is true. But now it is anytime a woman shows any interest the man thinks that way.
Then he will say and do anything....dates, flowers, dinner, etc... to get her in bed and then start throwing in the f**k buddy thing afterwards.
Talking about it before hand is a joke. How do you know if you want him for a f**k buddy before hand if you find out he really is no good at sex and you don't even get off?
THE BOTTOM LINE IS THAT WOMEN ALWAYS WANT MORE BECAUSE THEY CAN GET SEX WHENEVER THEY WANT AND A MAN CAN'T.
"WOMEN WANT QUALITY AND MEN WANT QUANTITY."
*unless he can't get it ever and then when he does he keeps it around so he has at least something to f**k.
How much more easier can we make it now for men? | |
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