| medana
Posted: 3/18/2005 3:01:59 PM | reallyrusty,
I consider myself an ugly guy, but I've managed to pick up some nice and startlingly attractive women in my life.
I credit that to self-confidence.
I grew-up dirt poor, but decided a long time ago, that I would make something of myself. It took a great deal of work, but I've done fairly well.
During my toils, I discovered that I was a fairly talented fellow and that I could achieve what I wanted, if I just believed in myself.
My self-confidence grew from that.
Women are drawn to self-confidence like moths to a bug-zapper.
You ask why I'm on this site, if I can pick up women? I have to admit that I'm only on this site looking for new faces, not because I can't meet women locally. I guess that I'm a little bored. Plus the people on these forums are fun to trade humour with.............
Believe in yourself man, and you'll get women. Maybe even an attractive one. | |
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| markawelch
Posted: 3/18/2005 3:49:51 PM | | i spent the day thinking about the forum i started on here and realised that the reason i started it was nothing more than i am missing things i have yet to be like a father when my father passed on i went into denial i could not or would not except it as fact but of course i had to come to terms with it as i have with my whole life so i'm going to enjoy life and if fate should have me alone so be it but i don't tend to believe fate is cruel or unchangeable so when miss right comes along and decides she wants to be mrs. d then great but as far as looks i look within to find what i want in a woman not the outside but don't think for a second i don't look at what is considered hot of course i look but i look wondering if she's as hot inside as out | |
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| markawelch
Posted: 3/18/2005 4:39:13 PM | | Most people that are gorgeous on the outside are not on the inside, because they know they are Hot and it affects their personality... | |
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| markawelch
Posted: 3/18/2005 10:28:18 PM | I understand about losing a parent. I lost my Mom a few years ago. In fact, all of my close family is gone except my Dad.
Its hard, but you push onward.
You'll survive. Battle-scarred, but alive. | |
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| markawelch
Posted: 3/19/2005 1:51:09 PM | | very true i am over it but every now and again something i see will bring me to tears but i'll have a smile on my face and know it's just a freindly reminder that i had a blast being friends with my dad so all in the world is as it should be i'm happy that i started this forum because i have been given different aspects and insight to some really kewl people and i met some one because i started this forum which is really nice because she wants to get to know me and i'm better off because of this forum in many ways and mark just so you know you'r looks are typical of what my sisters find to be handsome though i'd never put you through meeting either of them there not pleasant to know though i hope that will change lol | |
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| markawelch
Posted: 3/19/2005 3:35:19 PM | | (chuckles to self) | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/20/2005 11:54:54 AM | It all depends on the woman, and what she decides is desirable.
Personally, looks are secondary, as long as I share chemistry with someone.
Chemistry is a product of attraction and respect.
Respect is a product of admiration of character and understanding someone.
Understanding comes with time, and patience.
I could add a million more little personal true-isms here, but they basically boil down to loving someone inside out.
I know I am a bit strange like this...but my point is not everyone chooses partners based on curb appeal.
I've had dates with some very very good looking men...I remember the last one I had with one fellow, we walked into a singles bar area of a resturant, and I swear everyone just stopped talking and stared at him. It was great, he was eye candy...so we cozied down and started talking about life. We really didn't match internally, had different values and ethics, wanted different things in life, had different hobbies too. I turned down the second date.
After, I dated a very short, bald guy who was average looking that had given me every reason to love him, and my whole heart was in the palm of his hand. He and I kept an amazing and healthy relationship going for a year.
My question to you would be which girls judge you on your looks, and are you really sure YOU want them? Flip it around, YOu select your values and needs, then find someone who fits into that slot...THEN give it a shot. you just might get lucky | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/20/2005 4:32:24 PM | guys can be just as shallow, if not worse....but women are generally more selective because they can be....they have the power.
There are way more men out there lookin for women then visa versa...in any setting, club/pub, internet, anywhere really, so they have the option to be picky.
and if they only go for looks, probably because they are (or think they are) good looking themselves.
If your not so attractive, you will need have some other tricks up your sleeve to get their attention, ie humour, smarts, porsche, $$$$  | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/20/2005 4:33:46 PM | shallow? I was having a wonderful two week conversation with a man on another site....asked me "so your profile says you are slightly overweight...care to explain?" Do I really need to explain to someone? Pictures were exchanged....not another word from him. And women are shallow?
Just glad I found out what he was about before I wasted the time to meet with him.
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/21/2005 9:11:20 AM | | there is one point i failed to mention about guys and that is a large number will do the deed but not help in the raising of what i'd consider a blessing in most cases that i've heard or know about it's younger guys who do this so when you look at bad it exists on both sides i have read some really intelligent responses on here and some not so but it really does come down to looks for the most part if it didn't woman wouldn't pick a total jerk and vise versa for intsance i had a major crush on the girl who played on who's the boss and later charmed but do i find her attractive well the answer to that is no i don't but i might if i got the chance to know her who can tell whats going on inside one person right i know i've things i'd love to change about myself and i won't change them without effort but i will change them over time i've heard it said so much that there is some one for every one i believe that but if you have been alone as long as i have you don't know how to play the game as some would say and i met some one on here whom i'd really like to get to know and i find myself scared and trying to hard she's given me the time of day and all i can think about is if i'm worthy of her i'm a good guy but i am insecure and that really bites because until now i hadn't noticed and the whole issue of looks doesn't seem to be as big a factor as it was before it still is a factor but my own isssue with insecurity is bigger and i need to work on that real bad lol | |
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