| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/24/2005 5:56:26 PM | rusty,
I think you'll do just fine. You're getting yourself together at a personal level and that is the most important thing. You'll shine from the outside in and be like that metaphorical bug zapper attracting moths.
I'm proud of you. Just keep it up and you will definitely do okay. | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/26/2005 10:05:59 AM | Hey short guy, don´t despair. Most of the world´s famous lovers have been short guys. My dad was/is not the tallest guy. In fact he´s by today´s standards short. He also lost most of his hair by 35. But you know what? He´s had women after him all his life. Maybe women don´t feel as threatened or uncomfortable with shorter guys. I don´t know what it is. He was also a handsome guy. Never arrogant or assuming. Just a regular nice guy. I guess that´s what women saw/see in him.
But you know being tall isn´t a gurantee for success either. I´m 6´1" and 220lbs. I guess I still have a predatory gait, (leftover from those heady days as a ruffian in new Jersey) or so I´m told. This makes it not so easy, at times, to approach women. I´ve found that outgoing short guys have no problem approaching women. Sometimes they look at me as if I were Jack the Ripper when I try to start up a conversation. And no, I´m not that bad looking, I hope.
So take heart, It´s just a question of confidance and being yourself. The rest is easy. | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/26/2005 11:33:13 AM | | for myself I could care less about looks .. my feeling is that the skin is only given to us to keep the good from flowing out all over the place! .. just because someone is "good looking" doesn't mean he is a better person .. me I go for personality every time .. and no one, how ever much they think they are, is perfect!! Hang in there .. we are out there, us ladies who look past the outer shell | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/26/2005 2:55:06 PM | Knightrd was correct, not all women are wired this way. I think confidence looks best on a man, and I have found myself attracted physically to men once I knew them, when the initial attraction wasn't there. I try to give a fair shake to all. I think there needs to be a basic mutual attraction....I *being the girl I am* prefer a guy who is emotionally/spiritually/intellectually on the same level as I. don't get me wrong...I know a hottie when I see one, that aspect just isn't as important to me as finding someone I can trust/depend on/share with.
Though, if you have poor hygeine (bad breath etc) you won't get within a country mile of me.
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Posted: 3/26/2005 4:52:53 PM | Would people here go out with someone who they did not find the least bit attractive physically, but is attractive in terms of what they say, how they say it, and their personality in general? Probably. That side of me is optimistic. I'm not sure how many there are, and I surely wouldn't bet it to be the majority of people.
And let's do a little flip, too. How many would not be at all bothered if they were dating someone they knew was only attracted to them for their personality and not at all to their looks?
Anyway, back to the main question. Women like the good-looking guys because good loking guys aren't ALL jerks. Yes, lots of them are nice people with great personalities. For those of you that think beautiful people are necessarily spoiled, dumb, and egotistical, I think you're wrong.
Given this, think of what a girl gets to choose from on here. Would you still date someone you think is unattractive if you had to choose between him and someone else that WAS attractive AND ALSO had those wonderful personality traits? Women here have lots to choose from, and I'm sure the contest I just mentioned happens all the time. But if I'm that first guy, my odds are at a disadvantage, and that can be very discouraging. Though of course it does not mean you don't try. But surely you can't blame the girl for going for the guy that seems to have it all, given both contenders demonstrate wonderful personalitites.
You can do your best, and I think it would be a waste not to. But the truth is there IS alot of good competition in here, and I don't want to brush off beautiful people as necessarily being lower in the personality department, as some people seem to think. Actually, I've seen surveys that indicate people that are "attractive" date more and are more experienced in relationships overall. That actually gives them an edge that guys that haven't dated don't have too, I guess. But I'm just speculating here and playing the devil's advocate, of course. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 7:37:07 PM | Not that my opinion matters, but saritamiami, I think you look very attractive. Any man that states otherwise is quite blind.
I just hope that you have surgery for you and not for anyone else. If you worry about age, consider that a woman who sees to her health and learns to age well often looks 100 times better than the "surgically-enhanced" versions around.
At least that's my opinion. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 7:38:15 PM | looks arnt everything...long as he can last longer than 5 mins in bed | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 7:40:00 PM | sweetkristine,
I thought that you were haunting jazzy. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 7:43:13 PM | | heck no..i dont like "innocent boys" lol....plus he's WAYYYYYYYYY to young...he's only 19...in maturity years.(for a boy) thats like 20 year age difference lol | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 7:45:41 PM | Oh, so you're age intolerant?
How narrow minded of you!  | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 7:46:19 PM | | LOL he's gotta be old enough to *legally* drink in the US | |
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Posted: 3/26/2005 8:12:52 PM | Ah sweetkristine, what a picky woman you are...............
What can we mere mortals do to entice you? | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/26/2005 8:56:10 PM | I get a kick out of reading the many threads on this post. So many women are saying looks are not the paramount importance in male choice. Ah, come on ladies, who do you think you're kidding? Look at the hot looking guy profiles and the massive numbers of POF "favorite lists" they're on. They didn't put themselves on those lists.
I've seen pictures of hot looking guys who have been on POF no more than say fifteen days and they're already on 25 women's "favorite lists." And that didn't happen because they're profile prose was so commanding to read. Most of it is short sentenced, trite, and without flavor. And furthermore most of these guys are very young showing bumpy abs and bulbous pectorals. Those young studs know what you women want and so do us old buggers. We just can't compete for your attention is all.
Most of you gals are fakes. Just like guys, "...looks..." are the "...deciding factor in women's choices." Stop the attempts to suggesting inner qualities matter. When it comes to the choice between inner qualities and looks, women will pick LOOKS every time and I challenge any woman to legitimately deny it.
The devil made me do it.
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/26/2005 9:16:07 PM |
Most of you gals are fakes. Just like guys, "...looks..." are the "...deciding factor in women's choices." Stop the attempts to suggesting inner qualities matter. When it comes to the choice between inner qualities and looks, women will pick LOOKS every time and I challenge any woman to legitimately deny it.
Why must the two be mutually exclusive, Ron? | |
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| why do looks have to be so much of deciding factor in womans choices?
Posted: 3/26/2005 10:02:33 PM | late: They don't have to be mutually exclusive. But "looks" will take precedence over inner quality every time when it comes to women's choices. Yes, I agree, both men and women want to be hoggy and want it all. But, if they have a choice of only one without the other, they will, in my humble opinion, choose LOOKS!
Sorry, Sarita, this is where you and I part company today. Besides, in the past we discussed this and you felt looks were a very important ingredient in female attraction to finding a male, in fact, of supreme importance initially. Remember? | |
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