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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/13/2006 6:58:09 PM | | On one hand, I can understand his upset, because in our western culture, it's considered ok to put someone down for their looks. Misrepresenting themselves is something else. Also, does refusing to date people who are either not an intellectual match or just flat out stupid count as vain as well? (I'm not talking about whether they have a degree or not, but how well they can think and process information.) Granted, I don't get mad about being out with someone that isn't that bright, and have occassionally been in very embarrassing moments when their behavior or words announced to everyone around us that they were pretty dumb, but I can't even make myself be attracted to someone I can't talk to because there is nothing going on inside their head. | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/14/2006 4:49:28 PM | " was surprised to find that most women that I told, “there is just a friendship here and that’s it” didn’t want anything to do with me once there was no chance of a romantic relationship. I find that to be very vain, I’m good enough to date, but not good enough to be a friend? I believe it’s also a sign of low self-esteem. At least some of these women should like to remain friends in the hopes that I will, “come around” to them. I don’t believe this is a healthy attitude to have, but a lot of people do it, I’ve even done it myself in the past."
It is also a matter of how much time a person has. If you are looking for a sexual relationship and already have a lot of friends, taking on another where there is no chance of what you are looking for in a man is a waste of time - even if you are a great person - if you are blessed to have a lot of great friends already. There are only so many hours in a day. I don't think people "should be expected to hang around in case there is a chance" - what an ego trip. You admit you have done it yourself, so you know it is not that you don't want more friends per se, but friends you already have are an investment - you have to stay foucused on what you are looking for out here. | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/14/2006 5:18:19 PM | Tmofedm1,
A quote from John Steinbeck's Grapes of Wrath.
"It starts to rain again as they walk. Inside the barn they find a man and a boy. The man is nearly starved, couldn't keep down bread the boy stole the day before. After Ma makes everyone else leave, Rose of Sharon nurses the man".
There are people in this time and place which value to quote Tmofedm1 "you'd understand that Rose of Sharon proved herself, in the end, to be caring and selfless......putting the needs of others before her own, and in her time of greatest need...." Nicely wrote Tmofedm1 | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:40:44 AM | Again, it's someone complaining about people having personal preferences. OP, we are sorry many girls on this site have rejected you and that your mommy didn't love you enough. It's just the way the cookie crumbles.
Everyone has a different idea of what they think is attractive. Some guys think I'm hot, some guys think I'm hideous, not much I can do. Luckily my boyfriend finds me attractive.
Another example, my friend likes tall skinny men, I find that unattractive. That's life.
Life sucks, get a helmet.
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/16/2006 6:50:13 AM | OP: I've had the same problem with not being able to do long posts. There's a way around it though. What has happened to me anyway is I would try and post something and I would evidently get logged out, or basically end up in the login screen. If I log back in (retype my username and password) then hit the back button twice, I think it's then that I end up back at the same page with everything I've typed. Then I hit the post button, and voila!
I may get flack for telling this as some don't seem to approve of your long posts, but I agree with you, no one is forced to read it. The way I look at it is your thread has not been deleted or locked (at least not yet). I'm at the point now where anyone I see who starts a thread without it being deleted is a demi-god! | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:51:10 AM | rose of SHARON well, well,where did you get that from,,when writing me you mentioned how hot you thought my red hair was,,,until you found out it was a wig!!!!!!!!!!!
whos vain!!!!!!!!!!!!
i question your vanity myself!!!!!!!!you are not the same person that writes me,i think you copy from books,because when writing your words are less complex than your profile,,,,
you are sad and may be you are sick,,,,,,but i do not judge people ,,,,,,,you DO!!
sharon | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:17:19 AM | rose of sharon, hibiscus syriacus, self-seeds prolifically.
the usda considers the plant an invasive and aggressive competitor known to displace native plants.
although its appearance pleases some people, once a gardener really gets to know rose of sharon, its habit and tendencies, they will do everything to rid their land of it...much like an individual who falls for an attractive appearance, proper hair color, well-shaped body parts and other external assets.
the 'pretty' individual who cannot keep from overpowering others and runs roughshod over them will soon find theirself uprooted and discarded. | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/25/2006 9:31:06 AM | sorry dude, I'm a retard and don't know how to post without replying.
Beauty's simple. everybody bleeds the same color. The earth didn't spend millions of years developing us all in different ways just to eat popcorn and watch us kill each other. the trees are all laughing at you, waiting for their corpse dinners. If you can't look at life as a vital journey in the challenge of understanding the unseen...well...u should just off urself and spare the oxygen. You're wasting everybody's time. :D
By the way, learn to use condoms. That way you won't have as many little ugly babies to compare yourself to. Peanut buttah jelly time  | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/25/2006 11:54:14 AM | I know what you mean, guy-who-started-this-topic,
I have witnessed a group of women in their 20's who met this new girl who was a friend of one of their friends, and they were totally snotty to her and acted like she had a horn coming out of her forehead, I found out that they were acting like that because they were skinnier than her. Thats sick. Thats not even in a dating scenario, thats just people hanging out.
Gross!!!! | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/25/2006 1:06:34 PM | | Yes,I have dated a man who did not have a picture posted.I feel that looks are only the imediate attraction.He was smart,kind, and very pleasant.We both had a nice time.Was he the most beutiful man in the world,no,but I am not the most beautiful woman in the world either.And after getting to know him, him manner made him more attractive.Unfortunatly,he did write to me asking to see me again,but I don't think it would work now.My friend is also a member on here,and I know it's not my business but he wrote to her also.So I can only assume he is not that into me.But not all women are into looks,because under the skin,we all look alike. | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/25/2006 1:31:17 PM | | i'm seeing an eeeeeeego trip here! and pal, the jesus look went out with the 60s, man, so maybe, like, uh, get a hair cut and a bread trim? you're not Jesus, you know? | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 9/25/2006 1:36:54 PM | OP: I'm going to have a talk with your mother. I don't think she hugged you enough.
I wouldn't want to meet someone who hasn't seen me. I'd want them to see me and see if they're attracted to me; and I'd want to see them. If their personality was that sparkling and fascinating to me, then their looks won't matter either way. It's just a face to go with the name. If someone's hot (in the other's opinion,) it's a bonus.
That said, I'm NOT meeting anyone right now. Nor am I looking to meet anyone in the near future. | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 10/1/2006 7:26:29 PM | Prophet,
I think after reading some of the posts, you will agree with me when I said this;
You can pretend to be serious; you just can't pretend to be witty!
Wouldn't it be great if we could all adopt the "Jesus look-style"? Behavioral speaking that is...
Physical appearances then wouldn't be such an issue...:D
I really don't think that has gone out of style, well for some of us anyway....!
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Posted: 10/5/2006 7:01:07 AM | ya know what.
reading everyone's replies (with very few exceptions, there actually WERE EXTREMELY FEW well-behaved people on this thread) ... 95% of you do not even have a CLUE of the main extent of what I was even complaining about, nor of the whole point that I was getting at.
F Y I, the phrase "rose of sharon" that I was using was NOT from some John Steinbeck novel, it was a biblical phrase and in no way was I quoting from Grapes of Wrath.
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most of you did not even BOTHER to read or LISTEN to what I really had to say and instead because you did not want to try to even understand, you just took what little you thought you grasped of it, and ran on and on and on and did nothing but TOSS INSULTS back at me with no obvious regard for respect or tolerance or courtesy or to even be polite in the first place. NOTE THAT I IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM EVER BEGAN ANY TIRADE DIRECTED AT ANY PARTICULAR PERSON - did I? If I am wrong then I will admit if shown to be so. But I do not believe that I did, so at what point did i start to deserve all the ROTTEN COMMENTS THAT 95 % of you have already thrown my way ?!?!?!?!!?
MY WHOLE MAIN POINT WAS THAT IT WAS ENTIRELY WRONG FOR PEOPLE - FOR ANYONE ... TO BE DISSED (disrespected or INSULTED or "cast down" or REPUDIATED or disenfranchised or rebuked in any fashion whatsoever!) ONLY for BEING ON THE SOLE ACCOUNT of their looks, whatsoever state they may be in. To REPUDIATE, to INSULT, TO BACKSTAB, TO insult a name OR outer OR inner being of anyone, to libel or slander a person's character or person, just because one thinks they are "ugly" or just because their outer looks are "not up to par" with YOUR STANDARDS .... IS SO DAMN WRONG !!!!!!!!!!!
AND THAT WAS MY WHOLE POINT !!!! IF ANYONE HAD EVEN BOTHERED TO READ ANYTHING I HAD SAID IN MY THREAD THEN YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN WHAT I WAS TRYING TO SAY, albeit in very verbose and exhaustive forms ... sighs.
Is it such a sin to LAMENT in such prosaic and prolific fashion? did not the writers of grand renown do such after their own fashion and have they ever been matched since? NO THEY HAVE NOT. Has anyone forgotten Jeremiah? or King David? or even the poet Milton? Has anyone even bothered to read the Psalms or the Lamentations? Or "Paradise Lost" ? I AM SORRY IF NONE OF YOU LIKE MY WAY OF EXPRESSING MYSELF BUT I NEED NOT ASK PERMISSION OR APPROVAL FROM ANY OF YOU ... ABOUT HOW I VENT MY FEELINGS NOR HOW TO EXPRESS HOW I FEEL ... and I hope that now I am finally clear on THAT.
honestly, to sum all of this up. I am now even MORE DISGUSTED at how people have treated ME simply for pointing out a STICKING SORE POINT about websites like this, and especially the 1 particular thread in question about which I was so thus disgusted. And yet so many of you RAILED AGAINST ME FOR NO GOOD REASON, as if i had injured any of you personally ???
NOT.
Some of you need to start looking in the mirror more often, because I am not the only one around here with obvious problems. It is something that I do every single day (look myself in the mirror) and I think it is high time that some of you start doing so. You say that I am VAIN for simply liking to hear myself talk? And yet, whose vanity was it who insulted people in the original thread simply because someone ON THIS WEBSITE was "ugly" ?
It was NOT I. If you felt guilty or injured by something that I said, then I do not think it is any problem of mine. If your conscience convicts you, then perhaps you ought to be more subject to YOUR OWN CONSCIENCE, than to mine, and ought to deal MORE WITH YOUR OWN SELF, than to deal with me, especially when i have no fraction of relation of ANY OF YOU PEOPLE's "problems" at all. I have enough of my own, thank you very much, all the same.
Now ...
if anyone would care to bother to even re-read anything I have earlier said and perhaps attempt to re-understand it for what it REALLY DID say, and as some VERY FEW here have already done (within 5 % only) .... then I am honestly feeling quite honored by that very scant few (you know who you are :-) Other than that ...
Veni, Vidi, Vici.
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 10/5/2006 10:44:06 AM | | thers nothing more annoying than ppl who think their the biz..........its nice to look good with a healthy dose of modesty..but to think your better more worthy should have special treatment just because your nice looking is concited.........of course now ppl are going to think i myself am bitter because i might not look too good for saying that and having no pic up but i am pretty but to me it means f..k all and different ppl have different tastes anyway.dress up whats on the inside thats what counts.maybe when ppl are very vain its because they dont feel worthy thou...........and try to make themselves feel better..overcompensation in any one thing usually means a lack of belief. | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 10/5/2006 10:56:34 AM | Okay, I will admit I only read a small bit of what the OP said.
I take it that your feelings were hurt by people who consider
themselves better looking than you?
Anyhow, I have been insulted on my looks many times, online,
but mostly in real life.
I will admit it can hurt sometimes, and sometimes I just let it ride,
because I am not trying to impress the person who bashed me.
Once I declined to go out with a guy on POF, and he wrote back
and was making bad remarks about my weight.
In life you will find people who have to build their egos up by
putting others down, they do this due to insecurities.
Now, on the other hand, I have also been complimented many times
in my life about my looks........
I think you have to stay away from people whom you are not comfortable
around.
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 10/5/2006 11:15:57 AM | On a daily basis, not many people are cast from society based on looks...
When dating most people do go with THEIR particular preferences, with good reason: they need to be attracted to who they are dating. Still they are not rude to those who they are not attracted to that I have seen, they are honest about it as they should be. People do not deserve to be lied to or have their time wasted.
Outside dating most people are generally polite to other people. We do expect people to be confident in who they are and learn to take others in stride when basically all that matters is how THEY see THEMSELVES.
In some threads here, and some circumstances in life there will be maybe 3 out of 100 who are outright rude, insulting cruel about it. It's wrong and it's awful but will probably never change. All we can do is ignore it and move on. | |
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| WHY are people so VAIN? Arrrghh, it makes me so sad, sick, and angry :-(
Posted: 10/5/2006 11:24:46 AM |
I think we can all agree that OP's vocabulary is a lot more extensive than the president's don't you think?!
ROTFLMAO ~  beer for you!!!
~OP~ The sad, harsh reality is that we are all subjected to cruelty at the hands of others. The best thing to do is ignore those that simply don't know how to be kind. My mother demanded perfection from me most of my life, all of my life really. We all know that is humanly impossible ~ nevertheless, it was her thing. Almost a year ago ~ I stopped allowing that attitude to infect me or my life which means I have NO contact with her, none. And I won't have in the future. Sometimes you just have to realize that you don't need to impress or please anyone but yourself. Sadly, some people are so unhappy they project that on everyone in their path. This is not only happening in the real world ~ it happens all the time online, maybe more than in the real world. Vanity, cruelty, ignorance, etc., are such negative thoughts/emotions. You can't change someone else, you can change yourself ~ leave the haters to rot in their own filth, and be happy with who you are.  | |
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