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Posted: 4/7/2008 11:24:25 AM | Ok Greeneyes.. u got me convinced.. I never dated anyone younger so u want to be my first??? There's not much to do in the Thumb area but I could show u around some farm tho?? LOL.... send me your email addy.... I thank u also for the nice compliments too so how about getting to know each other unless I'm too forward??? send me a line ok...  | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 4:03:35 AM | | greeneyes, come on now, go meet smilinkris. older women have much more to offer! | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 3:58:51 PM | LOL Joanne.. Greeneyes kinda dissapeared???? He thinks I live too far away & it will cost too much to meet me so I'm hoping when we have the POF party posted in Bay City that he'll change his mind... I really gotta see what's young men is all about....LOL... Evening Robin..hope u r having a good week...
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Posted: 4/9/2008 4:06:47 PM | Joanne.... did u get your photos from Benji the hot babe???  gee maybe he got scared now... what an idiot...... | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 4:12:05 PM | I am thanks for asking, where has John been Ripley? Have you seen him posting? Will you come to the POF party in Bay City when we have it? I'd love to meet you and Karesse and Lighthouse and everyone. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 6:32:04 PM | smilinkris, sad to report no photos were sent.  | |
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Posted: 4/9/2008 8:29:48 PM | | Oh, I am here...just waiting to see what happens next. Bay City...just might have to take a road trip. Keep me posted. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 3:16:59 AM | oh u sneeky hot babe greeneyes.. I just send u a posting.. will keep u posted on the POF party for sure... muahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Have a nice day!
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Posted: 4/10/2008 5:41:51 AM | Hiya Robin,,,,,,nope i havent seen John but im sure he is lurking around. Bay City is a tad too far for me to party. :( Checkers is about as far as ill go,,and thats like 45 mins away. I just dont like night driving on roads im unfamiliar with (dont know the cops sneaky spots LOLOL) 
OT: There are buttloads of nice guys. Just some of us (me lol) are pickyyyyyy!  You ever meet a great guy (or woman. for you men) but then he/she does something that annoys you and you think, 'Hmmm,,can i possible live with that for the long haul?'. I think thats alot of where the pickiness (at least for me) comes in. Sure we all have faults,,wow even me! haha But dang,,,,i dont wanna be griping about someones habits down the road! | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 4:23:01 PM | Val, hang in there, not saying that all the men are this way... I have had luck and did met a great guy.... Just wish they they say what they mean and mean what they say!
All talk and no action makes them lonely boys....lol | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 6:09:18 PM | I think possibly I am one of those "just too picky" women you are describing Rip...
I was seeing a guy, he seemed really nice, good looking, always complimenting me, not cheap, but I noticed just a few weeks into dating that he had some quirks that drove me nuts ans I was like wait a minute....I can't stand this! Here's an example: I would say something and he would say "Blah Blah Blah Blah" and laugh like he found that to be funny! Or we would be having a conversation and he would just go walk into the living room and leave me standing or sitting in the kitchen thinking wait a sec...weren't we just having a conversation, did it end and I just didnt know it? And he made a noise...like a cat with a hair ball stuck in it's throat, all the time, it made me want to smack him on the back and say just spit it out man! I know I have faults too, but life's too short to settle so unless he makes my toes curl and my heart melt, I'm digging life this way for now. Lonely is better then going nuts
Robin
Bummer Rip!!! Do you live above or below Checkers? | |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 10:47:27 PM | Apparently in my old age I have aquired some wisdom along the way...not much, but some. I have become a much more understanding and patient person. While most if not all people have some annoying habits, everyone has some redeeming qualities. I can easily overlook the fact that a woman might not put the cap back on the toothpaste, or that she doesn't keep her car all neat and tidy, you know what I mean.
I am more interested in the overall person and do not nit pick the little quirks that we all have. I think some people may say they are too picky to cover up their own shortcomings when it comes to being in a relationship. Let's face it, not everyone truly desires to be in a relationship. Peer pressure was the root cause of my marriage that subsequently ended in divorce. I will not make that mistake twice.
Like Robin, I too am lonely but keep plenty busy enough with my businesses that I have no time to go nuts. It's 1:30 in the morning and I decided to take a break from paperwork. Tax time...I hate it.
This is my longest post so far. I had to vent a little.
I only require a few minor qualities in a woman I would be interested in dating.
#1) I am only interested in sane women. After some time on here, that seems to be asking alot.
2) No drama queens. See second sentance of rule #1.
3) Please do not have any psycho stalking ex husbands or boyfriends. On a first date with a gal, this actually happened.
4) Please actually be available, as in not married or in a relationship. Likely more than a few married shoppers on POF.
5) Be employed, preferrably in a career. Nothing bothers me more than someone that can't appreciate what hard work will earn yourself.
6) Bankrupty filers need not apply. I believe that those who have filed bankruptcy have a history of making bad choices.
7) Inelligence is a must. I will also lump in excellent conversationalist as well.
8) No alcoholics or drug users. More common than I ever imagined.
9) POF profile must not contain the words "Looking for my soulmate" We already understand this, wouldn;t we all like that? No need to rush into things. I prefer to let the butterflies in my stomach let me know when the time is right.
10) I like to see a woman smile, so a full set of teeth would be nice. And good hygiene in general.
That's just the top ten. Damn, I guess I am picky too. I probably won't make any friends with this post, but it is honest and from my heart. I learned from this post that we all have our list of demands, lol.
Happy Friday!
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Posted: 4/11/2008 3:23:06 AM | Sane women? That seems to be asking a lot???? Ha Green Eyes, (I so like that name for you better than Charlie and you can consider that my official name for you Charlie) if you think there is some strange women on here baby boy, come with me to the OTHER SIDE and I'll show you some doozies in the men's dept! That being said...hehehe, I do notice you seem to have a lengthy list, guess that makes you PICKY like Ripley and I !!! I am not going to bash you for saying we are trying to cover our own shortcomings....hmmm, although I disagree, I am just not willing to settle any more. If someone bugs me in the first five dates, he is really going to bug me farther down the road, so why lead him on? I think it's just nicer to say sorry but no thanks. I don't want someone that I have to argue with or that irritates me already. I want someone GreenEyes...that makes me so happy, I can and am willing to over look his shortcomings, so far that has not happened. But fear not darlin'....Ihavent given up hope yet, LOL!
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Posted: 4/11/2008 3:36:31 AM | Hey, did everyone read that Yahoo article about the best combination of women and men according to looks?
It was saying that the happiest couple arrangement is when the better looking woman has chosen the slightly less better looking guy. I guess because the guy treats her like a lil goddess.
So all you beauties, here I am
Oh, and is there such a think as a Sane person, let alone woman? :) | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 5:14:32 AM | | Yyyyyuck Robin! See that kinda stuff would drive me insane too! (thats where us insane women come from, Greeneyes and Tony. You men make us that way! hahaha!). I once dated a man who had the extremely annoying habit of (ok this is gross lol) hawking up loogies! Ack!!!!!!!!!! Im actually making an ick face as i write this cuz that just totally turns my stomach and makes me wanna hurl!! Arghhh!! He could be in the house,,outside,,in a crowd of people,it didnt matter. It wasnt just once in a while. This was a habitual hawker. Cripes that was gross! My friends' ex used to pick his ears and that gave me the shivers too. So yeah,,,that kind of stuff i just cannot overlook. I cannot be in a relationship where he makes my skin crawl! LOL | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 8:06:51 AM | | My ex used to fart really loudly and on purpose in front of company and then laugh and not say excuse me or anything. This started after we got married. I tried to "overlook " this until one friend told me not to bring him over anymore, which embarassed me even more. It didn't faze him one bit. Gross!!! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 9:05:59 AM | | ^^^^^ O M G! That reminds me of my brother who,,to this day and he is 44 yrs old, will stand up, lift his leg, raise his arms and hands like he is on a motorcycle and when he 'revs' the motorcycle,,he farts. Also,,every-single- time he burps , he says 'ralllphh'. Ughhhh!! Nice guys? More like Gross Guys!! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 11:04:07 AM | Rip, Robin, Val....
Some of the actions you describe are just plain vulgar, crude and disgusting. They show a complete lack of class by these individuals and certainly no respect for you. Yes I must admit, at one point in my life I thought some of these actions were funny, but then I graduated into the 4th grade. (Please note, though, never graduated out of the 4th grade. Dang, that long division)
Rip - you mentioned earlier, "...but he/she does something that annoys you and you think, 'Hmmm, can I possibly live with that for the long haul?' ".
Robin - you wrote, "...he had some quirks that drove me nuts..." and then gave an example of some, in my opinion, very rude behavior.
My question ladies, and I know we all have our definitive "deal breakers". On those behaviors which were "quirky" or annoying, not rude and disrespectful, did you have an opportunity to discuss your feelings with the gentleman? Hopefully this would allow him the opportunity to understand your viewpoint and possibly initiate a change in his behavior.
Candidly, I think most of us guys should enroll in a class entitled, "Ladies - 101". Not so much to learn that the borish(sp) behavior mentioned above is a no no. But to understand that, much like the lovely snowflake, there are no two ladies alike. And how do we get to know and understand the individual intricacies of these beautiful creatures? By listening, they will tell us how to win their hearts.
So please ladies, rather than kicking us to the curb for our annoying or quirky behavior, please talk to us.
Rip, Robin, Val, .... I'm not insinuating that you did not. I'm only trying to indicate what I feel is important.
Just one man's humble and lengthy opinion.
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Posted: 4/11/2008 1:09:39 PM | Hello there Dave....
I am pretty sure that alot of the time i didnt discuss the annoying habits of some of the men i dated since i just figured eh,,,,he wont change (tho my brother of course continues to get an ear full from me! lol) , but i can say that i did on MANY occassions discuss 'Mr. Hawkers' disgusting habit with him, to no avail. Like Vals guy,,my guy would just laugh. Made the excuse that he had to clear his throat (i wont get any grosser than that!!). Uh,,,,400 times a day??? Pffft!! Im sure some other woman is being grossed out by him as we speak!
I dont want to change anyone. Perhaps they feel their habits arent annoying and we are just overreacting. I do adnit,,,,maybe some habits (not the ones mentioned above tho) can be overlooked, but like Robin,,i just know that down the road its gonna bug me! | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 2:35:22 PM | Rip,
I would agree that the Disgusting Mr. Hawker, hey wasn't there a film with Matt Damon by that name, should make his way to the exit as quickly as possible. On a scale of 1-10, he and the Fartman warrant a 10 and a "Do not pass go" card purely due to the fact that they're probably not old enough to date and obviously have no idea what respect is.
However an annoyance in the 1-5, maybe 6, range could be worked on if we only knew. If someone would be considered a nice guy/gal, and according to many of the POF threads difficult to find, wouldn't it be kind of a win/win situation if a discussion led to a behavior change? But, then again, that's just me. We all gotta do what we all gotta do.
Thanks for your feedback.
Dave | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 6:08:43 PM | You know Dave, I did say something to him about his ummm, behaviors? With the Blah blah blah I said "that is really irritating did you realize that?" and he laughed and did it all the more.
With the walking out of the room, I actually told him I thought it was rude but I said it nicely, hoping he would get my point...he just didnt care, it was all about him.
Rip...I'm glad to see you feel the same way, I don't feel so picky anymore, now I feel that what I was thinking was on the money...thanks girl!!!!
Ahhh Tony?? "sane people, let alone women" <-------- what are you saying Mister? LOLOL! BTW....phooey on yahoo's article...I'm suspose to find an ugly guy cause he'll treat me better? LMAO! I want a guy that's going to treat me right because he loves me, not worships me! I don't want to be a princess Tony, I want to love and be loved back just as much! Sighhhhh
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Posted: 4/11/2008 9:24:23 PM | Robin,
All we can ask is for an honest exchange in communication. If you advise someone of an irritating habit and they do nothing to respect your wishes or attempt to make you happy then, in my opinion, you've attempted to communicate. They've either failed at listening or holding you in high enough regard to attempt to make a change.
As Ripley noted, she does not want to change anyone. However wouldn't it be nice if we, with the help of our companions, recognized some of our shortcomings and then we decided to make a change.
Thank you for your feedback.
Dave | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 4:37:21 PM | | "They've either failed at listening or holding you in high enough regard to attempt to make a change" Dave, I eventually figured that out. Not only did his crude behavior continue after I told him how it embarrassed me, he seemed to enjoy it more. And, like Robbity's guy, he would walk away during a conversation. I even tried an experiment and stopped talking right in the middle of a sentence. He never did bother to ask "what were you saying?" That was my light-bulb moment for the realization that there was no regard there for me what so ever. But he will tell anyone who asks that he treated me like a queen. Go Figure!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 10:12:16 PM | Val,
Ouch !!! Regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not, walking away from someone who is talking to you is just plain rude. I just don't understand some people. If you've an interest in someone, especially if you're in a relationship, I would think that their ideas, desires, dreams would be of interest to you. But, hey, that's just me.
Thank you for your response. I had hoped that, maybe, the guys were not aware of their irritating nature, hence no change. However, each of you ladies offered that you had made your feelings known. I can only shake my head in wonder of these guys.
I very glad, in reading the postings of the 3 of you, that you don't hold all men accountable for the actions of some. Thank you.
Just one man's humble opinion.
Dave | |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 11:39:43 PM | | You know, I just feel lucky or something. I'm met plenty of very NICE guys (men) on plenty of fish! Have you actually gone fishing before? Sometimes you catch the fish that are not a keeper! But there are days the best fish just seem to jump in the boat! Just enjoy the experience and laugh off those wierd fish that happen to cross your path! Because maybe one day you'll land the one that was worth all the aggressive of waiting for! And remember, sometimes the getting there is as fun as the arrival! | |
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