| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:24:57 AM | Ive met some nice guys thru here (forums) and have had the pleasure of meeting them at some POF parties. Now if i could just find some nice guys who smoke and are closer to my area! lolol Seems everyone lives too far  | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 4/28/2008 1:45:25 PM | | RIPSTER, I'VE MET SOME NICE FELLAS AS WELL AT THE PARTIES....... | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 4:15:57 PM | Speaking of Linda....where are you gf? Put those fingers on the keys and start typing. I know you don't want me to threaten you with another four page email again | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:29:59 AM | the main thing is linda cancelled the date.  | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 4:42:29 PM | Hey girls....I have been here ....I have been in one of those funks! You know what I mean? It seems like I say all the wrong things to everyone lately and piss them off! I have just been reading everyones comments and keeping my mouth shut until I feel it's safe...You know what I mean?
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Posted: 4/30/2008 3:13:31 AM | Awwww Linda...I havent seen you pi$$ anyone off here....and you know what? You can't please everyone all the time so why even bother? At this stage of the game...as long as you're happy.... Anyways...I'm emailing you when I get home...got a proposition for you gf Put your party clothes on, get your suitcase out, dust it off and get ready to party is all I can say for now
HUGS GF!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/1/2008 12:44:55 AM | Will mention that I have met some of the best people I have met off here at parties...
I have met some great people in Detroit before I started to go to parties in my area...
It was a very BIG reason for me to start hosting parties over here when the only host I knew of over here got in trouble and was banned off the forums. Going through some things I have through the past few years Been much more interested in making new friends then finding a girlfriend so the parties make sense... Although I have also found out there are some real decent women out here as well. Seems going to these parties people are more themselves and are not as reserved as they might be on here.
So If you are having problems meeting decent people in your area you should really consider going to parties local to your area. Some hosts just name a place and people show up and other hosts try mixing it up a little bit. But both types of parties work out somewhat.
Biggest thing is you should go to these parties thinking you are going to make new friends regardless. If you happen to find someone special along the way GREAT but if you go to these parties enough you start to realize you can find companionship and have fun and stay single at the same time. Being single ISN'T a crime or even have to be a bad thing. We all are "programmed" to be with someone but socializing in a group setting and making new friends allows you to not be desperate and sit back and wait for someone truly special. Of course there can be the ocassional special person who draws your attention and makes it very hard for you to ignore them... Whatever it takes. Going to parties also makes it a little safer to meet new people as well since you are in a more public forum.
Parties do tend to bring out some of the social misfits or people who have no business trying to find someone for whatever reason. With that in mind you should not be afraid to contact the host or someone in the management or security of the club you are in if someone is following you around or causing you to question their intent such as they won't leave you alone or otherwise making you feel uncomfortable. You should not feel that you need to leave because someone is causing you to feel uncomfortable and you don't want to start trouble. Especially since it is possible that person is doing the same thing to others as well.. And these miscreants are a big reason why it is a good idea to meet people in a public setting instead of 1 on 1... Atleast in a club you can get help to get them away from you if they are bothering you.
Rodney
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Posted: 5/1/2008 3:10:59 AM | Hmmm reserved on here you say?? I am thinking some of us are much braver here than in person, and talk a LOT more trash then they would in person <----- LOLOL, that'd be me Of course that's just til I get to know someone.
Woe to the first guy that harrasses me at the bar First thing I learned upon becoming single was a fast lesson in "dissing jerks 101"  | |
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Posted: 5/1/2008 3:23:06 AM | | Wow, it's funny. Guys would love to have ladies harrass us | |
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Posted: 5/1/2008 9:25:33 AM | no we wouldn't.... obviously you have not felt the full rath of a womans harassment
some of the mild harassment is fine
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Posted: 5/2/2008 4:16:15 AM | Hey Robin,
I took "dissing jerks 101" too. Thanks for the lessons! they really work. I'm already off on a new "Adventure". I am hoping that this one goes much better than the last. I will keep you posted while I ride on the back of his new Harley. Wish me luck GF.
Linda | |
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Posted: 5/2/2008 4:58:32 AM |
Wow, it's funny. Guys would love to have ladies harrass us
oh yeah??? are you sure, tony??? | |
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Posted: 5/3/2008 5:55:46 PM | Linda....share the details! On the back of his new Harley? Whoa you go girl! Never been on a ride before, almost had one when they did that last ride but I had already given up and made other plans when an invite came in.
I've got my fingers crossed the date went well but if not, zillions of little fishies out there for you to try...LOLOL, no problem about the dissing men 101 lessons. Always my pleasure to show a badly behaved man his place in the line
Tony...I'm thinking Joanne can give you what you're looking for, ask and you shall receive.
Nice guys don't get told off so you arent going to be feeling any woman's wrath any time soon I think. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 4:09:14 AM | Hey ...Robin
Well, here goes about the ...Date? The Harley was a wash because it rained and was only 39 degrees. Neal, the guy I went out with turned out to be another Jerkazoid...We went to a bar and had a few drinks and he turned into a monster! I just don't understand men! He was another "hands on guy"! I don't understand what I do to make men think that they can just "Maul" me. I'm 56 yrs old and would think that this kind of stuff would be over! I walked out of the bar and called a friend to pick me up. I said I had to use the restroom and never came back to the booth. When I got home I called his house and left a message, with many explatives! I think I am done dating anyone!! I think that I am supposed to be a widow for the rest of my life. I am only going out with my friends from now on . So, now you have the story on another "date from Hell" for Linda. What is going on this world? I guess I just don't know how to pick them or something. Stick a fork in ME...I am done.
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Posted: 5/5/2008 4:26:32 AM | actually linda you shouldn't go looking for a guy or pick one
make friends and if something is supposed to happen between you nature will do its own thing
someone has naturaly moved into my life well i wasn't looking
the little sneak | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:08:27 AM | Hodgie...Good for you! I hope it is a long and lasting relationship! For me...I am going to go slow and yes take things as they come. I thought I knew this person, but with a few drinks too many he turned into a . I think I will devote myself to making my lawn look nice all summer. The grass won't talk back or maul me, I will only get blisters and they won't be as painful as what I have been going through. Thanks for the advice. Good Luck to you!!!!!!!
Linda | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:20:48 AM | Echoing what Linda said, I can't tell you how many times women complain to me on how vulgar, arrogant, and sex-crazed men behave on dates (and communication in general). Seems a lot of my fellow men feel the need to act like horny, immature 15-yr-olds in order to attract women, and mistake overheated machismo and rudeness with masculinity and virility.
But women aren't off the hook of responsibility, either.
Face it, this society is geared to what I call the pursuit=>catch game. Many women lament the fact all their choices are crap and complain there are no decent men out here but never proactively take the time and effort to find someone more compatible.
Most classy, attractive, intelligent women my age seem content to let men perform like trained seals at their feet, vying for their attention, without so much as lifting a finger. Quite the opposite, in fact; they seem to enjoy and feed off it. Sickening behavior to watch, actually, and I see it all the time. I refuse to play that game. Most women have the enormous advantage of simply picking and choosing who's acceptable from the pool without really getting their feet wet themselves. I can't tell you how many women's profiles I see that have 400+ in their Favorites lists (one local woman had a mind-boggling 1400+!!!), and then have the temerity to say they're not on here for an ego trip or really enjoy all the attention. Yeah right. I look at those profiles and don't even bother responding. I have no desire to add to the legions of admirers and try to make myself visible from a rather bloated crowd. With that much attention, quit sitting on the fence and make a friggin' choice, dammit! ...lol
Bottom line is there's a lot of blame to go around with our dating dysfunction, and it's about time people started examining their own selves honestly and squarely through a very uncompromising mirror. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 7:39:28 PM | Linda, do you know who the little "sneak" is that Hodgie is speaking of ???
I did not such thing...he started it, I am innocent, he snuck up on ME
Maybe I should take over your dating profile....all men intersted in Linda need to apply to me but be prepared, I am brutal and she deserves the best! From now on she meets only for coffee or lunch to start and will be chaperoned
You need to find a get together from here, that way if the guys become all hands you have lots of back up to turn them back into gentlemen, grrr, you don't deserve the creeps you've been getting!!! I forgot where you said you live...but we can find some nice guys for you, I just know it. I wish we lived closer gf!
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Posted: 5/6/2008 4:33:11 AM | Hey Robin...
I live in the dinky town of Wayland.
That's it...I am going for breakfast or lunch from now on ...if there is another. You can manage my dating anytime...so what's up with you and Hodgie?
Linda | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 4:39:05 AM |
Maybe I should take over your dating profile....all men intersted in Linda need to apply to me but be prepared, I am brutal and she deserves the best! From now on she meets only for coffee or lunch to start and will be chaperoned
Hmm, group dating is it?
Let me ask a serious question. Is it really that hard to identify a jerk after emailing them for a week? Isn't there something that tells you they aren't being honest or caring? I hear about this want sex thing all the time, don't they mention sex or hint it somehow?
I try to be the perfect gentleman. If anything happens, it's usually the lady that wants it to happen. I usually don't expect more than a handshake or maybe a hug. If the lady makes it perfectly clear they want more, then I figure it's ok. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 5:46:32 AM | I agree with Tony. I wait for the woman to initiate. I'm sick of trying to interpret "the signals" or take hints from "body language". You pretty much have to lipsmack me upside the head to make your intentions known, but once done don't cry foul about being duped or hoodwinked by me into doing "anything".
And "most" men wear their horniness on their sleeves so should be easy to see what they want. I know there are some slick operators out here that use charm and subterfuge to insinuate themselves into a woman's bed, but even then, once they make their real intentions plain, all you have to do is say no?
I'm rather amused people make such mystery out of such things. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 3:48:55 PM | Okay you guys...I believe that I did nothing wrong....meaning I never lead anyone on whatsoever! I have learned in my younger years that it only leads to trouble. I am not looking for drama or any kind of trouble. The last guy that I dated and LEFT had been talking to me on the phone for quite some time. In fact, I kept putting him off for a date in order to get to know him better. He definitely had too much to drink and starting saying things like ...your ten times more beautiful than your picture....I think you can get any guy you really want and things like that. I guess he thought that I must have liked that kind of talk but he was way out of line. He was trying to feed me a line and I didn't take it. I don't know what I say or do to give the wrong impression. I feel that I am only being an honest and caring lady. Maybe I have "Take advantage of Me" written all over my face ....I don't know. I agree that there are some women that ask for it but believe me...I'm not looking for one nighters. I'm looking for a lasting relationship , maybe someone to spend the rest of my life with. I am taking a break from the dating scene! Like I said in another post, I am working on my lawn for the summer! Blisters are much less painful!
Linda | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 4:51:14 PM | Awww Linda, I know you didn't do anything to lead him on!!! Some guys are just like that, they think you want to hear that line of bs or they think that makes them look or sound good or something. and with a lot of guys you get instant a ** holes when you add grown up beverages.
The good guys are the ones that are willing to talk for a while or just chat for a while without pressuring you to meet right away, really get to know one another and become friends before meeting. You can tell them by whether or not they disappear when you say "no thanks, I dont feel comfortable calling you just yet but we can talk online or im each other for a while first and see if the interest holds"...the rest werent and arent worth it in my opinion.
So you asked about Hodgie??? Hmmm, well let's see what he says, LOL! Hodgie, she wants to know what's up with us | |
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