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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/18/2006 8:59:59 PM | Hey guys.....especially all the 'nice' guys....(and before I get flamed, this isn't directed to anyone one in particular) quit snivelling and get over it. Most women are attracted to men who are confident, are willing to take risks, and have some cahones (oh yeah, it doesn't hurt if you look like Fabio either). That's the 'it' factor..the chemistry factor. Now, intellectually, rationally (e.g. posting on a forum without the hint of testosterone within ear or eye shot) most women will say they want a 'nice guy'. But in practice (ie a guy steps into the room) biology takes over. You're fighting eons of evolution... it is what it is.
Now before all you gals start flaming me, and say "not me!" there's always the exception that proves the rule...I'd say the above probably applies 70%-80% of the time.
Just my 2 cents based on my experience (btw...most of my experience comes from the 'nice guy' point of view 'K?).
Oh, and the reverse is also true (at least for me anyways) I think most guys are attracted to gals who have a bit of a wild streak in them. If given the choice between Pollyana or Angelina Jolie, I think most guys would gravitate to Angelina. Disagree? Who do you think gets more fan mail
The kicker is, is you got to find the 'nice guy' who is looking for the 'nice girl' take my percentages above, and if my math is right there's about a 9% to 4% chance of that happening (30% times 30%, or 20% times 20%...this assumes that there is an even amount of 'nice guys' and 'nice gals' looking for each other)
Cheers!
Mike | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:20:38 PM | | Nice guys ??? How about nice women ??I send messages myself with no responses!! well the dating scene gets tougher every day expecially when u are over 40 and if someone doesnt respond i guess its there loss and your gain.I have so much to offer a woman its not even funny but what matters the most to me is being happy. im happy now being single but i could be happier with a woman to share things that i want, need, and my life with. I have found out on this dating site is if u dont have money or cant get horney 3 times a day (even when u r at work making a living) no one wants u what ever happened to morals in life!! LONNIE................A.K.A Nice,careing,most honest guy | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/19/2006 2:59:18 AM | hello gentlemen
I've said it before on a forum,...... it comes back to the caveman syndrom,...
women who look for the AKA "bad boy" are really looking for a secure man,.......
stable comes to mind also>
most are unaware of why there attracted to them,...and nice guys confused by there need of them, its simple in the days of the cave man a woman wanted to know her ofspring would survive, .. means there looking for some one who is brave ,means you can bring home the dino,......well ok theres no dino any more and in this day and age women
do not really need that type of man .but it comes from the genes,......just as faramons affect your brain in attraction, thats why first the eye is pleased by what it see,s and then attitude,..... body language, then comes the rest.
you can see this played out in its basic form watching the animal kindom
just because people can think doesnt mean they think good lol.........
why dont people write you back.well theres lots of reason i supose and not all of them have to do with this cave man syndrom,....
some are just rude,.some are foul people , some are lookE-loo,s ugh then the high percentage of married people on the hunt,....
and it seems to be universal here on the site weather your short, tall, heavy, thin, have money, not have it,.nice person or not,......
I,d say if they dont write you back,...not only is it there loss its also a good thing..you would'nt probley like them any ways if this is how they are to start off with
compatabilty thats the key , just keep looking, keep trying,........the right one is out there,.... | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/19/2006 12:02:31 PM | .
Here’s yet another “all the guys” type thread:
All the guys say the very same things in their profiles. Nice guy, honest, caring.....looks don't matter it's what is in the inside that matters.
Here’s one in a row (all that is necessary) to disprove that statement. Because, like beauty, that “nice guy” attribute is mostly decided in the eyes of the beholder.
Instead, I simply say that I say what I mean and mean what I say. If someone doesn’t like it . . . well, that’s a different topic. But, I’ll be polite about it and I will not deceive.
None of that means that I’m a “nice guy,” of course. It only means that, with me, folks are sure to get an honest starting point. LOL
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/19/2006 3:39:59 PM | | I try my best to respond to anyone who writes me, but usually its the ladies who say they're treated bad and unfair then they turn around and treat us like animals without feelings. I've found that if I say "Hi" to 10 women, I might get a response back from 1. Thats why I try to respond back, I try to treat others better than i've been treated on this site. I know I can't judge everyone the same due to others rudeness. Otherwise, I'd clump everyone into my ex's category. | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:03:33 PM | | To quick to judge those that only have one thing and one thing only on there mind? You give them the benefit of the doubt and you get a sexual comment..... hmmmm wheres the nice guys at? | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/23/2006 2:58:58 PM | | Well, there are plenty of nice guys out there, and I would say I'm one of them. But I think the thing that some nice guys and good looking guys out there lack is love for themselves. That's why I'm surprised that some of the hideous looking guys along with the jerks always seem to get the girl. But they have love for themselves, they are confident, and the have a passion for life. That at the moment is not me. I don't have a high self image or confidence, although nowadays I seem to have a passion for life. Passion is something you can't fake; either you show it or you pretend to. I wish I knew HOW to love myself, and to take the words of people that I am good looking. But I don't believe it. I truly hate me right now, and one lesson here is you can't give what you don't have. If you walk up to someone and say you'll give them a dollar, but all you have is 50 cents, what good does it do? Same with love: If you don't have it, then you sure as heck can't give it. | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:08:42 PM | | nice guys do want nice girl, But they also want looks.. | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:14:17 PM | | My problem is they all say they want to get to know you, want long term, but when it comes down to it they say "nice smile or your pretty" and they expect you to run out there to meet them. they know nothing about you at all. For all they know you could be a psyco. which leads me to believe they really aren't looking for long term or any term just a quickie.. | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:47:06 PM | | This is a dating site, youv'e both already established that your looking for someone. Why are you afraid to meet someone??!! 5 minutes with that person and you will know if there is any sort of connection. I don't fool around with women who don't want to meet, thats just silly, time is tickin!! ..you girls want to email, chat..for frickin ever..why?? I have plenty of theorys on it, but I'm not getting into it. Cmon this is not brain surgery..meet someone in a public place, at the very least it will be exp.. pts for you. ZERO tolerance | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:54:52 PM | | when you meet someone in real life, do you tell them to ''go home, I want to talk to you online for a few weeks before we go any further" yea-some of you actually probably do. | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/23/2006 6:40:16 PM | | Let face it, I've see alot of nice guys and they always go for the B???hs and if the girls nice back they have no interse in them... sorry guys I'm to set in my ways to turn mean and nasty now... If there is a truely good guy out there god will land him right in front of me... but haven alot of guys that say there nice and turn away might just make me have tunel vision for some time.. sorry about that.. you diffenently have to spell it out for me from now on.... | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/24/2006 3:16:01 PM | | Well, I think there are some valid points. No one should ever just run out to meet the first person that says they're nice, sweet, caring, etc., etc. That's rushing, and that's what gets people hurt. Some people are afraid to engage in relationships, and that makes things tough for both sides. You can be the greatest person out there, and yet never find anyone because you're scared to engage in something that involves give and take. Being all of the good things a person wants is all fine and good, but if there's no meshing so to speak than nothing will work. I also agree with glasstiger on this one, that God has to drop the right woman in my lap, and I need to have a really, really good and certain feeling if He wants me to take her. | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/28/2006 1:43:05 PM | I have read your message,,and others,,,yet what I see is "comparing all men "to those you have experienced,,be it good or bad,,,Yet at the same time "nice guys" seek a postive outlook on life,,they seek a postive and open heart,mind,,
The term "all",,the train of thought of "lumping all men",,,"they expect",,,"quickie",,,"they say",,,Nice guys would look at such negative terms and not even look at you any futher,,Yet you may be a great lady,,,at the same time,,,if you took your message and instead of" all men used all ladies",,,would you be intrested,,I myself would not be,,this also applies to when one looks at a profile and see's "all the WANTS",,,if I may offer a suggestion,,,in your profile use terms like what you desire,,what you seek,,your criteria,,,,,I do not fault you,,,yet offer you my opion,,there is a term of "they who fish in muddy waters,catch carp",,,
I do wish you well,,, | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/28/2006 2:06:19 PM | Nice guy right here
No bragging just ask my friends | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 10/28/2006 6:01:16 PM | Agreed,I used to be one,but then I got kicked where it counts after promising to marry the "love of my life" getting two jobs working overtime and kissing anything that counted on her body and whenever she liked. (maybe my problem was I was TOO nice?) In any event I would never EVER harm or belittle a woman but some females have a child and consider themselves grown up,same with sex,some guys are truly gay inside but escort women and expect themselves to boughten overall by their peers as "normal" or play both sides of the fence (sexually) and yet others are an accident waiting to happen,I was stabbed in the back by my "intended" 23 years ago by lies to our daughter and now she is afraid to meet with me due to her mothers evil crap and backstabbing two faced twisted ways.I forgive her but truth is truth and it hurts. In any event I quit looking for a woman here after being played every which way but loose. If ya' want a GOOD dating site,I'm afraid you'll have to PAY for it.I have only found a few pen pals here,I wish EVERYONE good luck and BTW are you ready for the coming of ages?- with respect,Aloha!
~B 1.
P.s. Yes I know my profile is blank,like I said,I gave up here after a year of trying HARD.
Now I am getting all sorts of offers at a pay site... | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 6/2/2007 7:32:21 AM | Pay site...Free site....What difference does it make....The guys that claim to be nice are players....The guys that claim to be players are nice....That's the reason you have to chit chat for so long before you meet them....After hours of chatting online they show their colors one way or another....One man's junk is another man's treasure, so why post your looking for 50 if you want 30....Why say you love honesty if you like to be manipulated....Men need to make up their minds before they post who and what they are and need
P.S. To the man that doesn't love himself....There isn't a person in this world that doesn't go through some crap in life, or doesn't feel sorry for something they did or said...Chalk it up for experience fella and move on | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 6/3/2007 5:59:38 AM |
Pay site...Free site....What difference does it make....
I don't know if it makes a difference but I'd give a site a chance. Sounded like an endorsement... | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 6/4/2007 8:31:31 AM | I don't know about anybody else, but I want honesty. If you're looking for "nice" but in a hot looking, Type-A, materialistically ambitious package, just be realistic in what "you" can attract in return. I've found highly driven, successful, attractive people tend to be very selective about what "they'll" accept in a partner. I know everybody thinks they're the grand prize in a relationship, but ever stop to think maybe YOU won't measure up to THEIR expectations?
And if not, would their rejection of you make them less "nice" in your eyes?  | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 6/4/2007 5:25:18 PM | I think this is my first post here, and it’s sure to rile a few, so flame away if you must.
The so called “Nice Guy” is BS! Nice guys are not the real men women perceive them to be. A nice guy will tell woman what they want to hear just as long as he is the nice guy. Total BS!
The “Bad Boy” is one that just does not care what the woman thinks about him other than doing what it takes to get what he wants. If it takes too much effort he’ll move on, there is plenty of fish.
A “Real Man” will tell a woman the truth even if it hurts him or her a little. The relationship turns out honest and true….win or lose. They don’t always work out.
BTW: It goes both ways
Nice Guy = Nice Girl
Bad Boy = Wild (little crazy) Girl
Real Man = Real Woman = meaningful relationship
The question is how long do people want to play games even when they say they don’t and become real? | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 7/12/2007 9:50:31 AM | | wow rip michkat and motown all on the same page. | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 7/12/2007 6:01:57 PM | I agree motown, in my case, I have to have honesty and respect or the relationship goes no where. And being rejected by a guy doesn't mean that they are less nice. Just means that they are looking for something else that I couldn't give them and that is ok. Would sure rather know it now then later in life, that is for sure.
Margie | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 7/13/2007 1:23:41 PM | | I'd classify myself as a nice guy...But it just gets me walked all over...lol | |
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| Nice Guys? Where?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:38:50 PM | Yea, nice guys get used, and probably nice women too.
"Accidently like a martre, the hurt gets worst and the heart get harder". | |
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