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Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 5:05:13 PM |
i decided im just gonna talk to whoevr i want, shouldnt i be able to do that anyway, without being judged? ??
It's up to any member to decide who they want to block, or not. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 5:53:19 PM | | they can do that anyway after their first contact, why is that not acceptable, how did it come to this? theres other sites that r free, thats my choice. ull quickly run out of guys, and shortly girls too. this site kicked ass till then, i could open 2 profiles, is that why ur numbers are up lately, yeah thats it dishonesty works. wouldnt it make more sense , like i said, to just block people looking for intimate encounters, freedom is what made this site so good, whats next block people who have messaged people for 'other relationship' and so on...great!nobody can message anybody! | |
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late™
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Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 28 | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 6:18:40 PM | its not the intimate encounter block, if thats what i was looking for thatd be fine IMO im not the only one upset about it, how many people dont take the time to write about it. lets have a vote, lol. actually thats not a bad idea, a polling station on the menu bar where people can can have their say on current issues with respect to the site. starting with issues on this forum, POF suggestions, wutevr, like it or leave it. i guess i grew attached to this site. now u made me cry. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 6:27:38 PM | like i said, to just block people looking for intimate encounters, freedom is what made this site so good,
Just a minute here, the system, POF, isn't blocking you, women who choose not to talk to you are the ones responsible and of their own free will. They're the ones who choose to enact their freedom of choice and were empowered to do so, just as you are free to not receive contact from people you don't find suitable.
Curious here, women who don't want to talk to
smokers
member outside of a certain age bracket
who are married
who live too far
etc ...
why aren't you chastising them for similar restrictions? (rhetorical, no need to answer , just ingest the thought and comprehend)
It's called freedom of choice to speak to whomever they wish, or not wish - plain and simple. Imposing your wish to speak to them, thereby infringing on their freedoms is what resulted in such filters. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 9:41:49 AM |
tracking of IE contacts happened at the same time the filter was implemented Makes perfect sense to me ... try finding a doggone email from two months ago ... good luck with that. Given that all email disappears within 30 days, it's only logical to assume that at the point in which the "IE filter" was implemented, it only could register available emails ... not the ones that were all permanently destroyed ... gone forever.
Either party involved could have changed from what they were doing now til then. I think this is a bit unfair. Can a dog change the color of it's fur? Hardly!! Find that statement judgmental? In my book, it's not.
It's just been my personal experience that those types of behavior do not change ... they are perhaps suppressed, but not changed. Sooner or later it will happen again. Just going by my own personal experience on that, so I do not believe I'm being judgmental ... simply "selective" in protecting myself from the possibility of having to eventually encounter a behavior I find quite distasteful.
Not to mention that you might not always check the relationship the person was looking for. You might have just saw their pic and thought you liked their profile. Hmmm ... another case of "look at the picture and click". Doesn't matter if she's into killing people and selling their body parts ... she "looks" good, so ... "jump on the clicker" ...
I've never understood that ... probably never will either. How can a person consider sending someone an email without even reading their profile first? Aren't they the least bit curious about the person? Wouldn't they want to know something about them ... even look to see if they have like interests? Perhaps see if they are seeking the same thing as you?
No wonder I get so many "one-liners" or "two-worders" like ...
"Wassup baby?" ... or ... "Hey cutie!" ... or most recently, ... "Mmmmm ... nice legs!!!"
(*just sits here and shakes head ...)
Hey mods, tell Admin we need an icon that just sits there and bewilderdly shakes it's head. The brick wall does a nice job, but I'm getting too many doggone bruises to keep using that one ... 
what kind of crappy dictatorship is this? Must not be too stifling ... still here! (joined 9/8/2005)
It's called "Admin gets to do as he pleases because Admin owns the site and he makes the rules. It's the largest dating site in the world, so he must be doing something right ... YEA Admin for giving us that IE filter ... 
wouldnt it make more sense , like i said, to just block people looking for intimate encounters A lot of people do that as well ... again, YEA Admin for giving us that IE filter ...
It's called freedom of choice to speak to whomever they wish, or not wish - plain and simple. Imposing your wish to speak to them, thereby infringing on their freedoms is what resulted in such filters. Too bad some people just don't get it ... some of us just don't want to have anything to do with people involved in IE ... whether they are seeking it or have been contacting others who are seeking it ... YUK!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 9:47:12 AM | | This question has probably been asked and answered a few dozen times already, I just can't seem to find it. What happens if some of the people you've messaged/emailed, (that were looking for freinds, dating etc...) change what they're looking for to IE? I've gone through my "contacts" list and I think there was one pair of cowboy boots that WAS an IE but no other IE seekers that I can remember contacting. I've been coming across some interesting profiles lately and find I'm blocked from sending an email to them, dang it. Any help would be appreciated. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 2:55:57 PM | Sheesh moderator....how do you put up with the same banal whining and question?
over & over......the patience of a saint.
Some of the best chuckles on the forum. Thank you, ya makkame laff !
ps...i think i love you
kidding...don't block me ! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 4:21:17 PM |
Thank you, ya makkame laff Me too!!!
I get my daily dose of humor, by reading the posts of the poor, wrongly-flagged innocents, who only contacted somebody by accident. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 6:52:33 PM | I checked the box....but I don't want to be penalized if I'm talking to someone "socially only i mean" and they have another adjenda, does that mean I could get flaged...cause' if so , that sux!!! I'm an openminded person, but I checked it to filter out girls that are overly promiscuouse (butchered the spelling of that word, I'm sure!) Can some one explaine to me how it tracks this....is it watching what i say in I',m , like , key words? So if I was to say...."what makes a person say...._____________" and than say the triggering words?
while talking to someone, suddenly my chances of finding a girl are alot slimmer?
Some one help me make sense of this please? | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 7:03:56 PM | ^^^^
Can some one explaine to me how it tracks this.... it's not based on what you say in your emails. There's no triggering words.
It depends on who you message.
The system keeps track of how many people you contact, who's profiles state that they are seeking "intimate encounters"
You won't get flagged if you contact people who are seeking "long-term", "dating", "talk/email", "friends", "activity partner" etc.
I believe that you are also safe from being flagged if they contact you first. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 5:19:15 PM | while talking to someone, suddenly my chances of finding a girl are alot slimmer?
Well Orwell, I am not sure the mod can answer this one. The odds of finding a girl a lot slimmer depends on what she considers average body type. I think if we can figure that out, we would not have to discuss the IE factoring issues, the whining, the "it wasn't me" excuses.
Can we filter body types? I never looked.
Having Fun!!! | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 5:23:57 PM | they can do that anyway after their first contact, why is that not acceptable
I agree with Late, I should be able to choose who I block contact from. Why should I waste my time (or anyone else for that matter} when that is clearly not what I am interested in? Why should anyone who is not looking for that (or even interested in being friendly with someone like that) have to wait until the "first" encounter to tell them? The filter makes it quite obvious.
People who chose this option are serious, they do not want to correspond with anyone looking for that type or relationship even if its just for friendly chatting. It's nothing personal and I don't know why people get so upset by this. They don't want to talk to you...why get so upset about it...move on. People are looking for different things. There are PLENTY of people out there for you to chat with that don't have that filter in place. I doubt you will "run out of" people to chat with. Respect our choice and don't fret about it.
how do you put up with the same banal whining and question?
over & over......the patience of a saint.
10 cc's of anti-banalityzygosulphamine mornings and nights administered by a cute nameless paramedic helps.
I told you to quit watching ER and House!!!!!
It's 10 cc's of "whackmyheadagainstthewalluntilIloseconsciousness"
And when that doesn't work, I feed him Martini's and sing Dean Martin....works like a charm!
Mrs. Grinch
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Posted: 12/5/2006 5:36:22 PM | I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that I think the reason this filter was needed was people who did not want to be blocked by having I E as what they are looking for in their profile, even if that is what they really want. They change it to "Other" or "Short term" or "Hang out" and then still go out cruising for sex.
Trap mentioned that you're not automatically flagged for just one email to an I E person which suggests they allow for the occasional mistake, lapse in reading a profile (or maybe just a lonely horny Friday night at home  ) though the actual number is a closely guarded secret. They'd tell you but then they'd have to delete you ..... with extreme prejudice | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 8:37:38 PM |
Trap mentioned that you're not automatically flagged for just one email to an I E person which suggests they allow for the occasional mistake, lapse in reading a profile (or maybe just a lonely horny Friday night at home ) though the actual number is a closely guarded
It could just be one contact, and the mere "thought" of attempting another - we're on the verge of perfecting TPP - Thought Probing Programming - careful .... ;)
And when that doesn't work, I feed him Martini's and sing Dean Martin....works like a charm!
is that what they call a "speedball" ? | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 8:52:55 PM | | Oh oh. There's a poster who I have been conversing with on technical chit chat PMs (large and small-scale solution engineering). He is an IE. Am I getting dinged for this? | |
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Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 44 | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 9:03:16 PM | Oh oh. There's a poster who I have been conversing with on technical chit chat PMs (large and small-scale solution engineering). He is an IE. Am I getting dinged for this?
You have mail.
Edit - see? you're fine.
It takes more than just responding, do take care and check first before you contact or reply.
Read profiles, that's what they're for. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 8:32:25 AM | All I know is that I haven't used the site in a long, long time, until this past week, and I noticed that new exclusion's presence in some profiles. However, despite the fact that I have taken care not to message users looking for IE, it appears that I have been blocked all the same. Read my profile. I'm not looking for sex, period. I don't know if I messaged an IE a long time ago, before this ban went into effect, but I meet all of these requirements in someone's profile that I have never even messaged before:
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
Must not be looking for Photo Exchange
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be married
And I still get back "You are not allowed to message..."
I don't give two you-know-whats about anyone else's profile, but someone ought to look at why mine is being flagged down when I don't fall under the message restrictions for someone else. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:18:00 AM | I don't know about the rest of the people out there but I look at the Must not have IM for intimate encounters and remember a joke I read some years ago.
Man dates a woman and get's amorous, she says no premarital sex. They date a while longer then get married. After the wedding they go on their honeymoon and he gets ready for the big night, she says "and what makes you think there will be post marital sex"?????
Many of the not wanting list's read like they don't want a man, they want a perfect man, forget about it gals, he died 2006 years ago. You have to take'm as you find'em and not hold against them a natural want or if you will need. If you get to picky you will find yourself with no one or worse someone that is so screwed up you might be real sorry you found your "perfect" man.
Kodiak8
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Posted: 12/18/2006 6:24:31 AM | You have to take'm as you find'em and not hold against them a natural want or if you will need. I don't think anyone is holding anything against a person for having a "natural want or need" ... we all have those. However, apparently some of us have learned the art of "self control" and some have not. As with just about everything in life, there are consequences for most of our actions ... sooner or later. This is one.
We have already been told that it takes more than one "incident" with contacting a person for Intimate Encounter before one's profile is "flagged". Just how many, we will never know, but apparently Admin is smart enough to realize that "accidents do happen" and has left some space for that.
That said, not being a "betting" person, I'd still wager that if a person's profile has been "flagged" ... it most likely is because that person has in fact been on the "hunt". There are simply those of us who just don't want to be approached in that manner, and I happen to be one of them.
If you get to picky you will find yourself with no one or worse someone that is so screwed up you might be real sorry you found your "perfect" man. I can't speak for anyone but myself ... personally I'm not looking for a "perfect" man. I don't consider myself "picky" and quite frankly, I'd rather be alone than be with a man on the "prowl" for that kind of stuff. So .....
Again ... THANK YOU Admin. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 12:39:12 PM | Well, I have the scarlet letter too!! As a good Christian I constantly message IE's to tell them that they are skanky ho's and they are going to hell! My future wife, once I decide which girl I want from this site, will of course not be a matress marathoner and will have the "IE box ticked" to avoid the heathens they prey on poor dirty hellbound crackwhores. Call it bad programming, bad admin decisions or big brother dabbeling his dirty little fingers in my life but I am probably the only person who has truly been affected by this.
Sure you clicked by accident, sure you didn't see that she was a self proclaimed tart and sure you only did it once. While your romping around in the beds of America fullfilling your primal urges like an escaped lab monkey remember there are women and men who want nothing to do with you!
Now if admin could please remove the flag from my account so I can meet a real woman who wants to meet a nice virgin boy like myself, I'd be quite thankful.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 6:08:01 PM | Well, I have the scarlet letter too!! As a good Christian I constantly message IE's to tell them that they are skanky ho's and they are going to hell!
A good Christian loves all, skanky ho's included, tsk tsk, thy penance shall be harsh. Agendas such as yours though could possibly get you a quick ticket to thy own redemption.
Call it bad programming,
nope, call it the freedom of choice by the individual, it's in their power to enact the right not to be contacted by their saviour
bad admin decisions or big brother dabbeling his dirty little fingers in my life
and your little moral mission to chastize the "tarts" of the world, what would one call that - Salvation or Ezekiel 25:17.
"The path of the righteous man is beset on
all sides by the inequities of the
selfish and the tyranny of evil
men. Blessed is he who, in the
name of charity and good will,
shepherds the weak through the
valley of darkness, for he is truly
his brother's keeper and the finder
of lost children. And I will
strike down upon thee with great
vengeance and furious anger those
who attempt to poison and destroy
my brothers. And you will know my
name is the Lord when I lay my
vengeance upon you."
Now if admin could please remove the flag from my account so I can meet a real woman who wants to meet a nice virgin boy like myself, I'd be quite thankful.
admin's call .... (made me do it} | |
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