| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 2:06:57 PM | You raise a very good question.
I have 3 landlines, and 1 cell phone.
Unless it is business related I very seldom talk on the phone.
I guess after being on the phone all day, you dont feel like being on it all night. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 2:59:11 PM | "When you have a man at a phone, you have him at his weakest point. Pure communication is not usually their strong suit, if you take men as a group."
Mominatrix, when I'm at my weakest point I'm pretty darn unintelligble, and phone skills made me a good deal of money the last millenium.  | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:07:49 PM | ive already said it but Ill say it again...the phone is good after you have met...before its all mental masterbation..
it really proves nothing....
those who think it means were hiding something might want to take a more positive outlook at the male gender and dating in general ...cause if you think were all hiding youve kinda already shot yourself in the foot...
and yeah like cabin said...I sell and spend too much time on phone anyway..last thing I want to do is spend time sxplaining how I spend my sundays..
get together and then decide if there is reason to "phone".
but then im wierd that way..there is no such thing as "phone chemistry"...excpet when you spill coffee on your phone.. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:46:50 PM | I agree you have to meet to determine chemistry...it's been my experience that guys want to skip the IMing and get straight to the phone...or even an immediate meeting. Guys just in general want things to move FAST! lol
Guys probably don't like the phone because if they're in person, there's a chance for sex - otherwise, not so much!!!!! | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 4:28:40 PM | Heavensong-
well, here's your dissenting opinion.
I MUCH prefer the phone to IM or email.
In the first place, it gets tiresome to me to try to type out long answers to questions. I'm a bit longwinded, tend to maybe overexplain. A flaw. That's easier to do by voice.
E-mails or IMs can so EASILY be misread, misinterpreted, and there is NO immediate opportunity to explain or clarify what you mean like there is on the phone.
You get a sense of the person's personality much better over the phone, at least i think so. LOL doesn't do it for me- I want to hear them laugh. Or not.
I tend to have these EPIC 3 or more hour phone calls- I have free nights and weekends, so sometimes I'm only limited by my charge and I can plug it in. My record was a 7 hour call. Really. And yes, my arm was cramped like crazy!
I am on the road a lot, so I can talk on the phone from my hotel, because I'm not in town to meet up.
I have a main laptop that is my company's and I can't put IM software on it due to company policy.
My real preference is person to person, face to face, but with my schedule, that's tough, so phone calls meet a need for me.
My 2 cent's worth. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 4:34:48 PM | | I have one of those unreliable cheapo cell phones and I also despise talking on the phone. I would much rather Email or IM. A short hello thinking of you is fine. Person to person is the only way to go. A message works better for me. I do not like people who get two or three phone calls a day just to talk to someone they are going to see in a few hours. My cell phone is for emergencies. My home phone is for the computer and keeping track of where the Boys are. Other than that a phone is such a bother to me. Its not that I am married or have a girlfriend. I will give out my number to someone I am interested in. But talk on the phone for hours about me? Thats not happening. My ear starts to hurt. I have things to do. A lot of my buddies feel the same way. Glad to see I am not alone on here too. I hopes this helps. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 6:45:10 PM | I do agree that this is a generalization.
But I personally did not like talking on the phone to any previous girlfriends because they would often try to lay a guilt trip on me when I felt it was time to hang up. We'd talk for long periods of time and then hit awkward silences, not because of any chemistry problems, but just because we had practically exhausted every subject of conversation. But instead of hanging up we'd have to continue with idle chatter and strain to find new subjects which would be better suited for email and IM, and certainly less painful than holding that stupid phone up to my head for an hour. If I'd say "OK, I think I'm gonna get to bed", or something like that... I'd get the "oh.... ok then" and I can almost feel the icey stare. Just because a guy doesn't want to have an hour-long conversation on the phone every single night doesn't mean he doesn't like you. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/9/2006 7:31:23 PM | Guys are visual and action animals, not verbal.
When guys hang no talk is needed. Two guys can go hunting or clubing and not say a word to each other and have a bonding experience.
Two gals can talk over the phone and have a bonding experience. This doesn't happen for guys.
So when guys talk to gals over the phone the 'connection' is minimal'. The guy must be with the gal to get any connection.
Well thats my opinion. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/10/2006 12:35:38 AM |
Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Because I hate conversations on the phone that drag out for more than 10 minutes when the conversation is based on nothing. I would rather go DO something or go SEE my girlfriend.
When I am driving several hundred miles, THAT'S when I call my girlfriend up to talk for hours. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/10/2006 12:59:33 AM | Men have learned the hard way that women like to talk alot and honestly talk differently then men about subjects that men could care less about. With phone minutes and women weeding men out on the phone, who would want to? Why not meet at a public place anyway? That is a heck of a lot better than talking on the phone.
This really seems like a minor issue. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/10/2006 1:14:13 AM | | Some guys do, I guess it's just whether we have anything to say. I have had lots of phone dates last more than 3hrs. The last woman I talked to before we met for the first time talked on the phone 3 times that totalled about 17hrs. The only problem I have with the phone dating is that it's easy to build a relationship by talking on the phone, but if you meet and then there's no connection it's been a waste of time and generally both are left with this empty feeling because you had such great conversations and then "boom" it's over. It's definitely weird because you both know very intimate details of the others life and have a lot to talk about when you meet but quite awkward because the chemistry from the phone calls doesn't carry over into the real world. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/10/2006 1:15:40 AM | | I HATE talking on the phone. It's so on the spot personal. Ill talk on the phone to set up a meeting. I don't even talk to my mother on the phone, I just hate it. Writing something you can read what you say and make sure its what you mean to say and is conveyed in the right way. I dunno maybe im just new age or somethin, but I really hate the phone. Messanger, e-mail or face to face meeting, sure but phone? Not likley. I cant really explain why i dont like it, but i freeze up every time im on the phone. In person i can be just fine, but not on the phone...maybe thats why other guys dont like it either. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 10/10/2006 1:16:00 AM | | I HATE talking on the phone. It's so on the spot personal. Ill talk on the phone to set up a meeting. I don't even talk to my mother on the phone, I just hate it. Writing something you can read what you say and make sure its what you mean to say and is conveyed in the right way. I dunno maybe im just new age or somethin, but I really hate the phone. Messanger, e-mail or face to face meeting, sure but phone? Not likley. I cant really explain why i dont like it, but i freeze up every time im on the phone. In person i can be just fine, but not on the phone...maybe thats why other guys dont like it either. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 11/1/2006 6:24:46 PM | | It is hard to say why men don't like talking on the phone, because the phone holds no gender nor respect of person that uses it. but personally I feel the phone is a beautiful way of making love to each others mind. if you cannot click there, then, there is no need to take things any futher. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 11/1/2006 6:29:23 PM | Maybe find someone around your area that you can meet in person...
That is better then some stupid phone. Things can easily get misinterpreted by phone, text, e-mail or what not... And you don't have the ability to look into the other person's eyes and know they are true to their words and feelings...
Phones are nice to say hey whats up? Where you at? What you doing? You busy later or on such and such day and time? No? Great want to get together? Ok sounds good see you then...
Not to blah blah blah for 30 minutes to hours and hours...
It can get boring... Believe me... I know... I have fallen asleep several times on the phone cause its boring and I would rather hang in person.
So yeah... Thats my belief...
Get past it and take my advice or something similar to it.... Or keep looking for someone who actually wants to talk over the phone and not get frustrated about the outcomes..
Thats the best I can say...
take care, good luck, and god bless... | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/7/2008 1:47:49 PM | Sometime us men don't like talking phone for long periods of time. Men need visible stimulation. I personally don't mind talking the phone. What is the chances that someone is going put you on hold while you talking face to face. Holding that tiny little piece up to your ears gets uncomfortable at times. Wireless headset still doesn't cut. Too much interference when using this device. Always a battery issue. It gets uncomfortable holding the phone for hours. This is not cop out. I am just defend myself and the us men. You can't do everything on the phone. GIVE THAT PHONE A BREAK SOMETIMES PLEASE. YOUR PHONE WILL APPREICATE IT. LATER.
Telephone is just another form of communication, but not only form.
-Wesley Z.- | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:13:29 PM | We don't always have that much to say or talk about.
I know plenty of guys that, if it ain't about guy stuff, they aren't a male equivalent of "Chatty Cathy"!
Many guys are satisfied with the outline of a conversation. That means, give em the subject headings and the facts. They can live w/o all of the little details.
In my personal experience, it can go either way.
With some people, phone conversations tend to be very brief. With other people, I can find a different connection and chat for hours.........about nothing.
Edit: Just to add, Psychologist and author, Deborah Tannen, has observed that little girls tend to gather and engage in little social circles while little boys tend to engage in physical activities, as a way to communicate.
That is to say, men can tend to talk while they are doing things while women prefer to stop what they are doing and focus on the person nd the conversation.
This is all generally speaking, of course. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:31:29 PM | For the same reason a salesman doesn't want to sell you a car over the phone...much more difficult to close the deal.
What are women so afraid of anyway...I mean...you can come here...look at our pics...check to see if we make enough money for you/have a car...chat over I.M. a bit about mutual interests...what else do you really need to know??? | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/7/2008 8:12:50 PM | I think that virtual conferencing is the wave of the future!
It combines the phone, IM, and pics.....yet adds an IRL aspect.
It really is, the closest you can get to being in person, from the comfort of your home....or even while away!
If you haven't tried it...........I would sincerely recommend that you try it....with the right person. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/7/2008 8:34:28 PM | | About the only person I talk with at length on the phone is my sister, but even then it takes about two months of no contact to build up even a half-hour's worth of conversation. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/7/2008 11:21:38 PM | Shitty cell phone billing rates.
I prefer the phone, but due to current living situation (landlord wont allow us our own phones) , I'm not really in a position to chat for hours.
*ACTUALLY* if more women would use things like skype, ventrillo or voice over IP we could talk for ages over IM, I would prefer that over IMing since it would leave my hands free to do minor work at the same time :) | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/7/2008 11:54:25 PM | | I would rather establish some form of connection or common ground (through chat/email) before moving on to the phone. Most people tend to be judgemental during the initial stages of contact and i'd rather not put myself on the spot like that since I can be relatively shy at first. I have had some horror first chats online where the woman barely said a word even though she seemed interested.....that awkward silence and one sided conversation would be even worse on the phone because you feel forced to keep the chat flowing. | |
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