| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:02:46 PM | | My belief is that it's best to allow the men to pursue the women. I hear it makes them feel better because they like the pursuit, and it makes the woman feel better because she is being pursued. I have had plenty of contact from men in the short time I have been on the board, and don't feel it's necessary for me to email them. :) JMO | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/2/2008 6:47:36 AM | | So many women will miss out on a possible catch with that belief. Over half the girlfriends I have had in my life introduced themselves to me in some way. One of the last just stared at me from across a room for a very long time till I approached her and asked if I had met her before. She said no but she had seen me before and wasnt going to leave this time until she met me... | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:49:50 AM | | Why in the hell is anyone worrying about a first email when you can't even get a response email. In order for the woman to send the first email she would have to take her finger off the read/delete option long enough to write something.......LOL | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:16:18 PM | Its true I think....for me anyway I don't much :( I'm sorry...but SOMETIMES I do...but I do look at the profile...and hope that they see that and OCCASIONLY if I really like him I will add to a fav and hope that he sees that and in either case IF he is interested he will email me :) Really it's not to be wierd..I am just old fashioned and would PREFER a guy contacts me first...however again I will occasionally email if I feel he will miss me or not notice or I just have to talk to him and see if there is interest :)
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/7/2008 2:13:00 PM |  Half the women here say "I want the man to make the first move ..." kinda like the the "Old School" method of dating I guess. Which is cool ... But if ya read the forum titled "Why girls like Bad Boys ..." or something to that effect, you ladies continually mess us up! 
It would be nice if everyone would simply reply "Thanks but I'm not interested ..."
Ladies ... Email guys you have interest in! I'm sure if you express an interest you'll get a reply ... Good or Bad, you'll know where you stand. | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:35:36 PM | hmmmm, good question......i often send out "first contact" emails......usually just a short note to say i found their profile interesting, or that i noticed they lived close by me, or even that we have several things in common. (what ever the case may be) then i close with an invitation for them to check out my profile and if they are interested for them to contact me and if not......"happy fishing" 
most of the time i don't even get a response......just a "read and delete" , sometimes a delete with out a read......both of which i find really rude, but in the long run, they probably did me a favor.....even if i am not interested, i at least thank the person for their interest in my profile......but then that's just ME....... i try not to take it personal...........
happy fishing and think pleasant thoughts.......Wolfie | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/21/2008 2:38:06 PM |
Most women get more emails than they can possibly read so in order to keep their email box from getting full they just scan and delete.
Sounds like a good way to mistakenly pass over Mr. Right
And if some guy doesn't have the courtesy to answer a woman’s email, even to say no thanks ~ they are probably not the right person for you anyways.
That goes both ways doesn’t it? Must be a lot of disrespectful people these days, they read, but offer no response…
Emailophobics..
Yea, a very good term for their syndrome/ Hopefully they will create a treatment program for that soon?
why don't women send out email to men that they interested in instead of waiting to get email from men whom they aren't interested in? Are women still expecting the man to make the first move?
Exactly, as men are less likely to not respond with at least a courtesy reply. That’s more than can be said the other way around. I would think this would reduce both genders many headaches.
Unfortunately most of the e-mail’s I receive are just guy's looking to hook-up for a tickle and dip the pickle.
That’s not true of most men… Sure Mr. Playboy has all the ladies beating down his door why would he want to settle down he has a Baskin-Robins ever time he signs on?
Sending a message to a guy isn’t asking for a date, it’s just an opportunity to open some dialogue. It’s the absolute best way to learn what they are like long before you might want to say let’s meet up and have coffee. If you don’t first converse how can you say fairly they aren’t my type. What because of a profile? If you’re not taking that step and only using a profile as your gauge you’re missing a lot. I don’t consider message’s as someone “hitting on me” it’s merely chatting and if that chatting leads to somewhere then so be it. What’s the worst that could happen you gain a friend? What a tragic event that would be… | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/23/2008 8:02:07 AM | | Here's my 2 cents... I send out emails all of the time. If a profile is amusing and down to earth without a lot of cliches, I take the first step. If the photos are recent and I feel a visual connection, I also will send out a shout. Do I get replies? Hardly ever. Do you think it's because I am "OLD". I also wonder about the people who put you on their favorites list and then never contact you. What's up with that. | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:15:56 AM | | I send e-mails and get no response either. I guess by just saying "Hi" and making small talk is not enough. Heck, I'm not gonna make a big deal of a ladies pictures or something like that because it's more than a picture. I've gotten e's from women who don't even fit my profile. I read every profile and go by what they say and their picture. You would not believe the amount of e's I get that state that they like my profile and everything about me and yet they have things in their profile that definately don't match mine. Example..........I'm a smoker and when I read their profile, they have don't "must not smoke". Go figure??? | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:55:33 AM |
:( I'm sorry...but SOMETIMES I do...but I do look at the profile...and hope that they see that and OCCASIONLY if I really like him I will add to a fav and hope that he sees that and in either case IF he is interested he will email me :)
I think thats a great idea but know from being here longer than I would have liked and posting in forums that most ladies seem to have the setting set so we can't tell if they checked out our profile. I look at many profiles just to read some, check out the picture, see the face behind some post and such. I do live in a fairly small town so not much to look at near by so I check out others. | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:04:02 AM | | Women do quite often send the first email, if you don't see that happening, then you should revise your question. Why don't women send YOU the first email? | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:53:58 AM | It seems hot women rarely send the first e mail, no doubt because they are swamped with e mails from a hundred guys a day. I get lots of first e mails, but usually not from someone I can see myself with. I know what I want and won't settle for less. If I don't respond in some way, I am truly sorry. I don't have a lot of free time for this, but it is bad manners not to at least send a courtesy reply. However when you do, no matter how nicely put, some people are offended and feel rejected, so maybe no response is the kindest response.
Then of course sometimes I send an e mail and don't get a response. I just assume she is already seeing someone she is somewhat interested in, or maybe I'm not her type. No big deal. Although there have been a few that seem perfect for me from their profile, that I was disappointed not to hear back from. It's so hard to tell if there will be chemistry from a few lines on a screen and pictures. The voice, body language, the eyes and so many other things enter into it.
I think a lot of women are so swamped with mail that it becomes a numbers game. There are only so many nights in the week after all.
We should plan more get togethers as a group, so we can all just meet and talk. This is a good tool, but nothing compares to being face to face. | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 7/17/2008 2:36:32 PM | I feel like alot of the women here I have written with no response. and the funny thing is they dont delete it what are they waiting for a rainy day ? lol so that is why i stop writing, I atleast write back to let them know my intrest lever Hummmmm  | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 7/17/2008 7:47:23 PM | | Because maybe they are traditional. Or, they shouldnt have to. Go figure, the ones Ive noticed have been members for here, a singles website mind you, 5 or so years. And they're giving advise. F' , and some call me egotistical. lol. no wonder I drink | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 9/10/2008 8:38:46 PM | 1/2 the emails I send out I don't get a response. I usually make a comments on the profile or their picture. Sometimes I write about things that are in common. I have received the responses: Thanks for the email but I am not interested. When I am sending out emails I try and guess who is going to respond and who isn't. I would think if I receive an email first I would respond. I will let you know if it happens.
When women say they send out emails and don't get a response, it happens to us guys all the time. So you are complaining to the wrong crowd. The difference is we don't get emails from women wanting to just hookup. If a women get responses to just to hook up then she should suggest that the guy should change his profile to the section for encounters. | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:06:40 AM | Many things are a factor, for one is shyness or that social push of stereotypes into the back of all our necks saying that women are passive (Venus) and men aggressive pursuants (Mars), and whoever believe more in those dictating whatever social systems, those are the ones to have more difficulties to make the first email move...
You can say also some lack of confidence, but be nice to women... life is all about relationships.
If she doesn't make the first move, what's about trying yours, instead thinking of whatever might have prevented her of doing the first move and lah-lah-lah land... from thinking nobody makes a first move, right?
Com'on now, let's be nice to each other, someone gotta get started and it doesn't make much difference who... otherwise there is no communication, no sensation and no fun... 
Also, let's be ready for a nice "yes", but also for a plain "no", because nobody should be taken as granted to please whoever else wishes... | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 10/2/2008 12:42:59 PM | Oh, my oh my.....We ask such silly questions on a FREE dating site....lol....Home of psychos, whackos, perverts, fat people, skinny people. average people, smokers, non smokers, occasional smokers, etc. etc. etc........I have recived the first email from women, usually very large or very strange and occasionally from someone actually interesting (but with kids, a kennel full of animals or the "occasional" 2-3 pack a week smoker) I do get very nice emails asking how to do this or that on POF (technical)
and I always respond.....Now, why don't women send out the first email? Because they're all whack jobs with a higher than thou attitude or they're just too shy to come out of their little box where it might not be safe. The rest just don't have a clue how to fit in with society. To all you wonderful and not so wonderful ladies (word used loosely) out there that do send the first email, congratulations, this email is not directed at you....... 
Side note: The wonderful lady I've been seeing for awhile now did send the first email.
Thank god she doesn't read the forums......... | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 10/2/2008 1:21:00 PM | In this modern world, when you lovely ladies hit the grocery store, do you choose your sustenance from the products most loudly hawked by the by the bright suited-barkers stationed at the isle ends w/ their mini-franks on a stick & falsely-colored confectionary, full of empty-caloried smarm?
Or do you seek out, using your own active free will, those more fulfilling morsels whose innate quality renders such flambouyant marketing unnecessary? | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:50:37 PM |
In this modern world, when you lovely ladies hit the grocery store, do you choose your sustenance from the products most loudly hawked by the by the bright suited-barkers stationed at the isle ends w/ their mini-franks on a stick & falsely-colored confectionary, full of empty-caloried smarm?
Or do you seek out, using your own active free will, those more fulfilling morsels whose innate quality renders such flambouyant marketing unnecessary?
Someone needs to seriously think about putting the crack pipe down......WTF .. | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 10/3/2008 8:11:33 AM |
Someone needs to seriously think about putting the crack pipe down......WTF
Sorry if the metaphor was too abstract for quick comprehension, mon petit poisson....I'll translate for ya.
If women sit back & chose from the usual group of aggressive, player-type, online Romeos that contact THEM, they may, in the end, find the results of their dating life to be less satisfactory than if they had taken a more active role themselves & initiated contact w/ gents in their area that had profiles w/ a bit of dept & substance.
I've noticed many times, women in the 35+ age group, especially the more cerebral ones, report much better 'luck' finding a quality guy when they search out a like-minded individual...rather than waiting to see what the tides of whimsy may wash up on their shore.
Then again, they report contacting those whom were not necessarily the prettiest piece of eye candy in the bunch.....but ones who seemed to have interests/opinions that fit well w/ the lifestyle she herself had chosen. | |
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| Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 10/3/2008 9:21:29 AM | Happy to oblige...... some folks need the Reader's Digest version of life to feel comfortable.
& in the interest of keeping w/ our current theme of holiday snowmoticons:  | |
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