| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 9:07:18 AM | lol - not on the FIRST date!!!!! God no!!! You don't want to scare the guy away!!!
If it has been a little time then maybe it would be a nice OFFER, but essentially if mama wants to get tail, mama better get a sitter on her own ... and let the guy take responsibility for the rubbers!! | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 9:16:38 AM | I can't believe the harsh responses. Personally, I believe not only is our responsibility to pay for the cost of babysitting, but also the additional expenses entailed by our prospective date. For instance, we should also be responsible for paying for her outfit, makeup, perfume, jewelry, etc. etc. In addition to that, she is wasting valuable time with us, so perhaps a per diem is in order of, let's say, $50 - $60 for the evening, to cover incidentals like chewing gum. | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 10:18:11 AM | My first guess is that there are a lot of “cheap” men on POF. My second guess is that they don’t have many dates. My third guess is that women who can’t afford to hire a baby sitter to go on a date were probably helped into their financial situation by a cheap ass dead beat.
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 10:42:15 AM |
My first guess is that there are a lot of “cheap” men on POF. My second guess is that they don’t have many dates. My third guess is that women who can’t afford to hire a baby sitter to go on a date were probably helped into their financial situation by a cheap ass dead beat.
Any questions?
Yes. Has anyone ever called you a "sucker" or "**** whipped" before? | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 10:50:41 AM | | Tick Tock he is not a whimp he is a gentleman I would like to meet someone with his ideals... chivalrious | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 10:55:00 AM | | ^ Funny how traditional notions of how men should be are wrapped in words like "chivalry", "gentleman" and "romantic", yet any traditional notion of what a lady should be like have been discarded like last week's garbage. Equality is a double-edged sword and so many of you have yet to adapt. | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 11:12:20 AM | It's very interesting that 'old fashioned' gentlemen in days of yore often controlled the household budget w/ an iron fist, decreed what his wife should wear in public, & generally brooked very little compromise when 'discussing' the problems of raising a family, etc., etc.......& yet very few 'old fashioned' women want to return to that side of how life used to be.
The only time you get to have your cake & eat it too is when you are very young, very hot or very rich. | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:05:06 PM | | Yeah....That's right up there with "you asked me out,you pay"! So now women who play coy and expect the man to do the asking so he's doing the paying are going to ask me to pay for the babysitter? I sure as heck didn't make your children and aren't obligated to pay for them.Now at some point I may CHOOSE too.....but until then I think that is Mama's job isn't it. | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:10:48 PM | | No of course you wouldn't refuse...That would only be an honorable thing to do! Your probably one of those that figures...You can make 50-100k a year and get some schlub to pay your bills! Man I tell ya....and you ladies wonder why men on occasion treat you like objects? BECAUASE YOU DESERVE IT,WITH AN ATTITUDE LIKE THAT! | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:15:01 PM | | If a woman asked me that question on a first date, there wouldn't be a second date. | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/16/2008 9:55:23 PM | I thought I heard them all,lol,,,someone forgot It's 2008. No wonder why I am single and happy. Hard to find a woman without espectations these days | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/17/2008 3:20:49 AM | I am sorry but are you F'ing kidding me?!!! I don't have any but, seriously, is this how far this dating thing has gone? No wonder men have become asses about taking a woman out and treating her ....its because of women like this who have expectations of pure strangers to pay for shite they have no business paying for!!!!
My god! I have seen posts, of men being surprised on the date with kids, being asked for rent money...and now it is a "normal" question to expect them to pay for the sitter?
What the f has happened to feminism? We are now regressing so far that we expect a total stranger to pay our bills?
I give up, I will be first one to put a man in his place for being an ass ...but some of the women on this site are leaving me with a bitter taste in my mouth. Sorry. Guys I am with you on this one!
These women have ruined men for the rest of us looking for equal behavior and the man who WANTS to treat not expected to do so.....knowing he is dealing with someone who will pick up the next one so to speak. Accepting the costs of dating...yeah, don't use it to pay your bills for fks sakes!!! | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/17/2008 8:44:13 AM | | So how would it make either side feel if the guy does pay for the sitter on date#1, he wants to see the woman again and the woman does not want to see him? Now what is the ediquette? Should she pay back the money? Would both people not feel uncomfortable? Woud the guy not feel used? I have gone out on a few dates with single mother's who brought the kids along without telling me forst and expected me to pay for all of them. It just made me wonder if they truly wanted a date to get to know me or just a free meal for her and the kids. I felt used!!! | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/17/2008 8:59:16 AM | When my daughter was young, I dated a man who offered to pay for the sitter sometimes...not every time we went out. The first time, I was floored and did not feel right about it, so we split paying for the sitter and he tossed in an extra $10 and said, "Here, take this. If it wasn't for you looking after her daughter, I would not have been able to take her out tonight."
It was just a really nice gesture. He would pay sometimes if it got to be a late night. It was never anything I expected of him and he did not pay every time we went out. But, I always smiled when he did! | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/17/2008 9:06:18 AM | | I might offer to pay for the sitter at the end of the night depending on her financial situation. That's whether I asked her out or vice versa. I certainly don't feel I'm in any way compelled to pay for a sitter though. If that's the deal beforehand then yeah, of course I'll cover the costs. I'm not going to pay for a sitter just because some person who still thinks it's 1956 says I should. | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:21:55 AM | | Dear Blued Babe, In responce to your "should men pay for the sitter" question. My oponion is that the lady should take care of the babysitter at first. I believe in time if the relationship developes into something more serious the man will do more than his share if a women has children. I believe at first it shows a man that she is an independent women and is willing to take care of her children at first. It also shows aman that she is just not after a man to take the responsibility to pay for the sitter. The man might get the wrong idea off the bat . I know this happened to me and I felt that it was enough for me to ask and plan the date not to have to worry about the sitter or even paying for it. The women should be recieving some kind of support for the children so she should at least show that she can take care of the kids ayt the beginning. I know from my experience it rubbed me the wrong way and I dont believe that Iam not a very hard person to please!! If the man offers fine but dont even ask!!! If you read this tks Brian | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:28:56 AM |
Call me old fashioned, but if a man asks a lady out and she has children, don't you think the guy should pay for the sitter?
Or at least offer?
Mine are grown, however I have friends that need help paying for their sitters.
Do men mind paying?
Ladies do you ever bring this up to your date?
How do people feel about this?
This is my sister's problem too, she just wont come out of la-la land.  | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:29:25 AM | | In responce to your "should men pay for the sitter" question. My oponion is that the lady should take care of the babysitter at first. I believe in time if the relationship developes into something more serious the man will do more than his share if a women has children. I believe at first it shows a man that she is an independent women and is willing to take care of her children at first. It also shows aman that she is just not after a man to take the responsibility to pay for the sitter. The man might get the wrong idea off the bat . I know this happened to me and I felt that it was enough for me to ask and plan the date not to have to worry about the sitter or even paying for it. The women should be recieving some kind of support for the children so she should at least show that she can take care of the kids ayt the beginning. I know from my experience it rubbed me the wrong way and I dont believe that Iam not a very hard person to please!! If the man offers fine but dont even ask!!! | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:31:44 AM | | In responce to your "should men pay for the sitter" question. My oponion is that the lady should take care of the babysitter at first. I believe in time if the relationship developes into something more serious the man will do more than his share if a women has children. I believe at first it shows a man that she is an independent women and is willing to take care of her children at first. It also shows aman that she is just not after a man to take the responsibility to pay for the sitter. The man might get the wrong idea off the bat . I know this happened to me and I felt that it was enough for me to ask and plan the date not to have to worry about the sitter or even paying for it. The women should be recieving some kind of support for the children so she should at least show that she can take care of the kids ayt the beginning. I know from my experience it rubbed me the wrong way and I dont believe that Iam not a very hard person to please!! If the man offers fine but dont even ask!!! | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 7:53:29 AM |
Hey TICK TOCK I am so impressed with your big vocabulary
Why, thank you! Don't be so awestruck by the beauty of my messgae that you miss the truth contained within. | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:21:10 AM |
Any questions?
Several, in fact:
a) Why is not wanting to pay for what you shouldn't pay is being "cheap"?
b) If she doesn't give me sex after I pay for the sitter, do I have the right to call her "frigid"?
c) So you have many dates only because you pay the woman to go out with you?
d) Am I the one to blame because she's so stupid that she chose a deadbeat to sire their children?
e) Why would I want to date a woman like that? | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:52:22 PM | | Tick Tock I see that you are just way to sophisticated to appreciate more of a down to earth opinion. I don't think we would make good friend material you don't strike me as much fun I bet you are the type of woman to send a man a drink at a bar and probably ask him to dance as well................ | |
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| Men paying for the sitter ?
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:20:31 PM |
Tick Tock I see that you are just way to sophisticated to appreciate more of a down to earth opinion. I don't think we would make good friend material you don't strike me as much fun I bet you are the type of woman to send a man a drink at a bar and probably ask him to dance as well................
First of all, I agree that we wouldn't get along because I don't tolerate "spoiled" brats as you've so proudly labelled yourself in your profile. It is no wonder you have such an appalling sense of entitlement. And please, don't consider your opinion to be "down to earth" because there are many women in this thread who disagree with you. I find it amusing that you would consider a woman who sends a man a drink and asks him to dance to be no fun...any guy would consider her to be a fun person and she would probably stick out from the crowd of usual hyenas.
Secondly, I'm a man, not a woman - honestly, how hard is it to read a profile and figure that out for yourself? | |
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