Sirpep
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Joined: 5/10/2006
Msg: 351 | |
| full-time single dads
Posted: 10/22/2006 8:15:40 PM | Im a single dad also. two boys 13 and soon to be 16. Its been a long haul. i would never give up on them,,, be it male or female. parenting is an act of love and devotion.
UN-CONDITIONAL LOVE!!! No matter what: | |
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 10/23/2006 10:03:44 AM | you are not wrong there's plenty of us out there,it just seems that society chooses to ignor us sometimes! the system ignors us all the time !and as for single women ! well ! if they have issues with you been a single dad and cant accept your kids then b******s to them and dont waist your time on them ! spend it with your kids instead !after all they are what its all about !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .Having said that there are plenty of good women out there so dont loose faith ! hang in there dude | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 12:53:43 PM | | I think It is totally cool that there are others out there loving,caring,and nurturing the souls of there children.I also am a full time dad.I have two sons,where I live it is not common for us dads to envelop our children into the #1 spot in our lifes.I have a terminal disease,phyber muscular hypertrophy.say that three times fast...lol.My childrens mother abandond us after my youngest was born.I wish they had more female contact in there life,they starve for it and it breaks my heart.I pray every day that the lord lets me finish my journey with my children.The area I live is buetiful,but mostly retired.Not much in the area of dating here.It's hard to think that my boys will never know the true love of a mother.Anyway....just happy to find other dads out there doing what used to be unheard of............raising and loving a piece of themselves.... | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 3:53:30 PM | 65slaphead is right. Focus on the kids. I'm a fulltime single Dad as well. Damn proud of it too as we should all be. Society hasn't figured out to do with us yet. Maybe it's time to do something about it. If your interested just reply to this note and maybe I'll reactivate an official society I created in BC called
S.P.E.R.M. Society for the Protection of Equal Rights for Men.
It's hanging in limbo right now as single parent hood/life took over but the main premise is to help single fathers be the best we can be and provide access to the resources they need to do this. Secondly, to support fathers in child custody disputes and also child visitation and support issues.
To the feminists that will boil over this yes some Dad's are "butheads" but the same holds true for some Mom's . The idea is to try and help the good ones not justify the bad ones. | |
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Joined: 6/18/2006
Msg: 355 | |
| full-time single dads
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:02:28 PM | | I agree. I think single Dads are better able to relate to children & how your life revolves around them. | |
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:37:50 PM | | ive been a single parent going on 9yrs.I love my daughter very much.Her mom left us when my little girl was 6 mnths. old.Good luck to all the men who stood up and took responsibility. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 5:24:38 PM | S.P.E.R.M. Society for the Protection of Equal Rights for Men.
MAN, I THINK IT IS SO GREAT FOR SOMEONE TO COMEUP WITH THAT. I AM A SINGLE DAD WOULD NOT HAVE THOUGHT OF THAT. IT IS GREAT! WE MAKE WOMEN SO MAD WHEN WE START TALKING BAD ABOUT THEM AND I LOVE IT. IT IS TIME THEY GET SOME BACK OF WHAT THEY GAVE US MEN. THEY CALL US DEADBEATS AND OTHER WORDS EVEN IF WE HAVE THE KIDS OR NOT.
MY EX WALKED AWAY FROM US WHEN ME KID WAS 2 WEEKS OLD. HE WILL BE 4 SOON. I GET LOOKED AT SO BADLY CAUSE I AM A SINGLE DAD. LORD HELP IF BY CHANCE YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR ANY HELP FROM D.S.S. OR H.R.S AS THEY CALL IT. ANY COUNTY GOVERNMENT. YOU ARE REALLY LOOKED AT LIKE A DOG. ALL JUST CAUSE YOU ARE A MAN. IT IS FACT NOW THAT IT IS GETTING MORE MEN RAISING THERE KIDS THEN WOMEN. THE WOMAN IS WALKING AWAY FROM THERE KID(S). BAD PART... WE ARE STILL BEING TREATED LIKE DIRT CAUSE OF THEM.
ONE DAY THE COURTS WILL STOP LOOKING AT US MEN LIKE WE ARE THE BAD GUYS HERE WHEN THE WOMEN ARE TO BLAME.
YOU GO HIASEEN, I LIKE YOUR THINKING!
BEST OF LUCK TO ALL YOU SINGLE DADS OUT THERE FROM THIS SINGLE DAD. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 8:00:49 PM | to tell you the truth, i admire single fathers.......especially the single full time fathers. it's easy for a woman to play the roles of mommy and daddy but it's harder for a guy to do it. too many men wouldn't be able to handle telling their daughters about the birds and the bees or when his daughter starts maturing and starts with her womanly problem. most guys has to rely on their mothers to help them out in that department. some men are even embarrassed to go into the px to pick up a bag of rags or a box of plugs so to speak.
now as for dead beat dads.......my younger son's father is over $48k in arrears....now that's a dead beat dad. not all guys are bad....there is a such thing as dead beat moms too, they just don't publically talk about it.
 to you guys that are the single full time fathers........i greatly respect you for what you're doing | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 8:27:03 PM | | I to am a full-time single dad. I have been rasing my 2 sons for the last 7 1/2 years and I would not change that for anything. I love my boys to much to let them go. They are my world. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 11:02:57 PM | Hey you may be shocked, I am a woman and I agree with you. The governent stuff you are taking about I have noticed that thay make things harder for the men to receive stuff for example government grants. I am not predjudice either but especially if your white.
I am a single mom of 2 and I have noticed several woman who could have treated there ex and kids a lot better.
Hey more power to you single dads.
I guess thats it for now. God bless. | |
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 11/3/2006 8:31:12 PM | I am to a Full Time Single Dad to a Beautiful 11 Year Old Girl...
I have raised her since she was born....
She is my Life and She is and always will be my Little  | |
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 11/6/2006 8:35:51 AM | Full time all the time single Dad of three of the most incredible little humans you ever did see.
It seems there are a bunch of us out here, but yet, I still haven't found any internet resources dedicated to the unique challenges men face raising kids alone. There are tons and tons of things our brilliant sisters have managed to put together to support one another, yet we dads, plunge on ****ing and complaining sometimes, but we never organize, form support groups, etc etc...
To all the single parents out there, male or female, keep your chin up, love your babies, and enjoy all those little moments that parenting gives us.
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:34:27 AM | here here i just wanna say 2 all single dads and mothers keep it up im a single father off 3 i missed out on a lot of things wen they was younger as i worked a lot of hours.. but now my wife left us 5yrs ago life is so great as the other guy said his wife left him 4 another so did mine off the net my kids have within reason clothes they dint have trainers wot they want and so on.my oldist is my daughter who is nearly 18 in jan..and me other 2 boys r 17..16 we all get on better now than we ever did wen ther mother was ere.. they havnt seen her 4 nearly 4 n half yrs now that doesnt bother them as last yr she was seen on ch5 swingers club in france and that did a downer on them wot i went through they pinched off me twagged school even my oldist son had his mate brake in 2 my house n pinched my stuff n our money i had saved 4 our holiday..sorry if im boring just wanna get it off my chest...but now its forgot we r so close n happy with out her im just looking 4 ward 2 another xmas with them all at the table doing wot we do thanks all take care n chin chin gd luck 2 all all i want now is a nice lady lol 2 luk afta me hehehe | |
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 11/6/2006 4:49:58 PM | | I'm 34 and a single mom of one almost two-year-old. His father like to see him as often as possible, but he is the type that wouldn't be a problem if I were involved in another relationship. I worry about the ex when I date men who have children. Personally I would prefer a man who has children, but no more than two, primarily because of the chunk of child support it would take from our income. But in response to your question, a single man knows what it's like to have children, the patience it requires, not being able to find someone to watch your child(ren) when needed, and other responsibilities that come along with having children. I would also prefer a man who's children weren't teenagers. I realize that might be difficult because I waited until later to have children, but that's my preference anyway :) best of luck to you. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2006 8:20:38 PM | | Why cant there be any single dads in London ONtario Canada... I much rather date a gentlemen who has children as well.. So that they know that a child comes before anyone... and yah they know all the strings with it and everything. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 12:26:11 PM | at one point i was a single father at age 26 and stupid me got back with the same woman who already had 4 kids previously.so after 12 years of kaos and shit we have split up for good, and i have my son now for the last year.
Single fathers,, ya there are lots of us and i would like to ask how many of us single fathers grew up with only one parent taking care of us??? | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:43:23 PM | | I am a single father,been one for about 7 years now.My x called me one day and asked if i wanted to take my son.OF COURSE!I paid regular support and put alot of miles on my car going to visit when she had him.Since then she doesnt pay any support(i think i got a grand total $250-300)in 7+ years and she never came up to visit once(i bring him there a couple times a year) .You always hear about deadbeat dads.....my question why do we never hear about deadbeat parents?I dont need her money to get by but maybe i could put that extra cash tward a college fund for him.Am i doing him wrong by not chassing her for that?Do any single fathers get support?AM I SUPPOSED TO TALK ABOUT THIS?LOL...anyways i think the kids should come first and mine certainly does S.P.E.R.M...IN my opinion custody should be automatically 50/50 for starters then take it from there.Kids need both parents!Maybe some day the courts wont be so gender bias.I dont think its right for children to be alienated from their father or mother.OPINIONS?? | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 10:34:05 PM | | Thats true we NEVER hear about deadbeat parents and when you do post one about deadbeat parents most of the single moms get offended by it even when your NOT talking about them i think it shows alot of a woman/man who stands up and takes full responsiblity to raise their child, and it is NOT right/fair for the children to be alienated from their father or mother! | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 3:17:47 AM | hi drsan..as u know if u have read my bit it should b 50/50 all the way till the kids can look after them selves well thats my thought..i dont get nothing off my x 4 them at all as u said u dont need her money i dont but i would come in handy 4 other things..well hope it goes ok just think whos got the kids at xmas ehh chin chin take care gaza.. | |
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 11/8/2006 6:49:34 PM | | I AM A FULL TIME SINGLE DAD OF ONE SEVEN YEAR OLD BOY. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. WE ARE OUT THERE. | |
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| full-time single dads
Posted: 11/8/2006 7:54:24 PM | | I've been a full-time single dad for almost 7 years now. My daughter goes to her Mother's every other weekend. I work at a grocery store right across the street from my daughter's school & four blocks from home & I have every weekend off, so she & I spend a lot of time together. Even though she's 16 & has a boyfriend, she still wants me around as much as possible. Still, it would be nice for adult companionship on occasion. Especially when the 3 of us go out to eat or shopping, I feel like the odd man out. Thank God, I'm patiently waiting. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 4:12:30 PM | I been doing the Dad and Mom thing for 10 years..  since my kids were 6 and 8 ..their Mom left to go visit friends for a few days, left and never came back ...I heard a few years later she had met someone else thats why she left ( yes her priortys were a little outa wack) ...Don't worry it was happiest day of my life ...she has had little to with them since.. and didn't even call them on their Birthdays..her loss... and the greatest joy in my life ...I feel my duties are almost done ( well in the way of having to be their for them all the time now ) so thats why I out here looking for a little something something  and maybe a life again | |
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