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Posted: 1/20/2008 7:16:04 AM | | I stood by 15 yrs and help get her through college..........then the green grass got her. Went through a terrible divorce and both my teenaged daughters are with me. what a delightful challenge. I can't believe a mother could just leave everything for a new pasture, but it happens. The hardest thing now is dealing with a dead beat mom! Single dads are becoming more and more. Brothers stand strong be tough are children need us more than ever........! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 10:37:43 AM | smoothburner,
I ama singlemother of 2 girls and at times I feel like I am the only single parent. I would very much date a single dad if I was sked out by him. I love kids so if we had meny between the 2 of us great, His children wouldn't be treated any differently them I treat my own. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 12:47:07 PM | hey guys (and gals). I posted something sinilar on a different thread which was to do with the different attitiudes we get as single parents as opposed to single people. Anyway, my story:
When I met my ex wife she had 2 young sons of 3 and 4 and they had only recently split from their dead beat father. I didn't know him then and have only met him since maybe 3 or 4 times and he hasn't bothered with the boys, no birthday cards, no presents at christmas, for about 12 years. After having known them for maybe 6 months, they occasionally called me dad and it was such a great feeling After some time of this, not sure how long, we (my ex and I) asked the boys if they wanted me to be thier dad and both were over the moon about it and it was fantastic. We also had a little girl on the way too and pretty soon we were one big happy family. For 11 years.
Unfortunately, my ex wife decided that the grass was greener elsewhere and dumped us all to live 250 miles away. The youngest of my sons (I haven't called them stepsons ever, because I don't think that's what I am, I'm their father in every sense except biological) decided that he would leave with his mum. All that happened in June 2004, the boys were 13 and 15 and our daughter was 9.
So, now it's me who is the single parent. But looking after the children isn't something new to me either. After I was made redundant from the army way back in '93, I found it very difficult to get a job. So my ex started looking for work too and we made a deal with each other and decided whoever got work would go to work and whoever didn't would stay home to tend the herd. So that's how I became a house husband.
Whilst her mum obviously had a large input to our daughters upbringing, it was immensely satisfying for me to watch her day to day, to coach and direct, to do all those things that a father doesn't usually get a chance to do. I remember one of my highlights of each school day was collecting her at home time - she would see me, shout daaaaaaddddddddddddyyyyyyy and then run and leap into my arms (I'm filling up now as I type this ) She just had her 13th birthday less than a month ago, so I guess I still have quite some work to do. I'm up for the challenge though
So there you have it. I've been up to my elbows in puke and dirty nappies and loved every minute, I wouldn't change a thing.
Good luck everyone
Derek | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 1:04:41 PM | Iam a single Dad of 3 . Besides which I raised a nephew and a niece when I was with my ex.
Strangest thing I did today , like normal on a Sunday, I put a roast in the oven, potatoes, carrots the works . Didnt dawn on me though that there is only me to eat it. Son is in Mexico on vacation, oldest daughter moved to Los Angeles last Monday, Nephew moved to the Sault just after Christmas , Neice is gone with her husband to visit his family, and my youngest is doing a very rare visit to her Moms. Why on earth did I put a full roast in?
What on earth do single parents do when their kids all up and leave? How on earth do you cook for one , I have no clue. Maybe I should adopt a bunch of African kids or something, have no idea how that works. Just know that I liked being a single Dad and wouldnt have trade it for the world.
It was so hard at times yes, but yet so rewarding. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 2:21:18 PM | I totally respect single fathers. I guess I can do this because I am a single mother. Although I dont necessarily seek out single fathers when on a dating site, I welcome their messages to me. This day and age, folks my age are most likepy (though not all of the time) going to BE single parents for one reason or another. Being that I am at the point of no longer feeling like I am at the age of HAVING more children(or almost at the age anyway, lol), I welcome those who may have children of their own already. Not only do I love children but my son has alway wanted siblings.  In whatever way this may or may not happen is fine with me.
So yes...I welcome the sentiments of a single dad! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 2:28:11 PM | | I think it's great that dads are doing their part to take care of their kids. I am a single mother. The father doesn't have anything to do with her at all. It's so sad that men can just walk away and have nothing to do with their children. I'm happy to know that some men can actually take responsibility. :D | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 11:42:51 AM | Who would have thought a topic so short and to the point would have garnered so much response! I guess it is 3 years old too.
I am a single dad but only half time. But if it were up to me I'd have them full time. I've asked countless times for a joint agreement but to have them full time but she wants them half time as well. I don't think she does want them as much as she says she does, but who am I to argue I guess. I only bring it up when she talks to me about considering moving away (within an hour or two) or about being really busy and stressed with work and not feeling like she ever has "her" time because of work and the kids. I also have a LOT of help from family in terms of access to childcare and such, whereas she doesn't. But on the other hand her job allows her to be home for the kids before and after school whereas I leave at 7:30 and get home at 5:30 so I need to find childcare before and after. But I'd do it in a heartbeat full time. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 4:05:00 AM | | I am a full time single Dad of a twelve year old. My wife split. I'm raising her to be different and not like her mom. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 1:37:02 PM | | Single dad right here... Very proud single dad too. My daughter is amazing. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 5:33:30 PM | I'm a full time single dad and have been for 6 years my manchild has grown to be a great guy and I couldn't imagine my life without him...He's 18 now so i guess i better start imagining...lol It's been the greatest time of my life so far I hope all you other guys have as much fun with your son... If it was easy it probably wouldn't mean as much | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:05:27 PM | | I HATE that term "stepped up to the plate" when it comes to being a father. I love my daughter and have since the second she was born. I didnt have to "Step up to ANYTHING" I would not trade a minute or even a second of my daughters time for anything. ALL GUYS ARE NOT TRYING TO DODGE RESPONSIBILITY OR FATHERHOOD!!! I have tried to be everything for my daughter and its this kind of mentality that is allowing my exwife to tell the court that she is ready to finally be a mother and wants full custody of my daughter, who I have had her whole life without help from MOM!!, and the court is aggreeing that the mother should have custody because children and I quote "Need there Mother more than there Father" is trying to award her mother custody. The court system is so biasis it is freaking insane she is even trying to, all of the sudden, get me to not only pay child support but now pay her alimony because she cant keep a job, and by the way I already pay her house payment,cell phone and took all the debt in the divorce to help her get on her feet now this!!!!!!!!!! Simple minds breed simple thoughts!!! I am sorry if you do not mean it this way but it seems this is just the norm and men dont want to be tied to fatherhood ,, for me I wouldtake nothing less!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 12:50:23 PM | As a full-time single mom, I feel like the only one too though I know that single moms/dads are everywhere! Sure, at company functions and church socials you tend to feel like the fifth wheel, but I wouldn't change it for anything! I look at it this way --we got the best end of the deal! Sure, I'd date a single dad. We would be able to help each other with the various challenges we face as single parents--everything from dealing with social stigmas to playing serroggate parent for events like father/daughter dances (should the relationship flourish). In my case, my ex terminated his rights...poor guy. My daughter is awesome! Single parenting isn't for sissies---only those who are commited to our calling! I think all of us could say that it's worth it!  | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 5:38:43 PM | Well, I am a single mom and not by choice. My husband died five months ago from a massive heart attack in my son and I's arms, trying to get him out of the house to another hospital on my lawn. It has been difficult; I must say. I am glad that my family has not had to go through the legal aspect of a divorce or the worrying about who is going to take care of the kids later.
I logged in on the computer about a month ago and thought that the best thing was to find someone without children. No drama. No splitting up the weekends, and if they were completely single, never been married, no ex-spouse. Well, nothing against the single men, but I don't find that their maturity level is up to par (don't want to generalize - I realize there are some that would be an awesome new father). It is just that single dads don't know the responsibility of having and taking care of anything or anyone else but themselves. They tend to be a little on the selfish side.
Divorced, single fathers I have found to be more compassionate. In fact, all they want to do is love someone and be loved back. They don't mind sharing his and yours. They are just lonely and would rather be overwhelmed than to have no one to share their experiences. My heart goes out to all the men whose wives left them, sitting, holding the bag. Those are the real men; the kind that step up to the plate and fight for what is right. Ya'll are all special, and God will bless you abundantly.
Gina | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 5:40:01 PM | Single dad with two at home.
My greatest Compliment?
My stepson is 25 and still calls me dad!
Doesnt matter if your a male or female were all
doin the doo! So hats off to single parents in general !
We deserve a lil pat on the back! 
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Posted: 2/2/2008 6:40:08 PM | Hi,
I am a single mum & I love every minute of being a single mum. I also think its great to know that there are lots of single dads out there! I would certainly be friends or date a single dad :) | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 12:12:48 PM | | I just want to say my hat is off too you, Im a single father of a 5 year old girl and have raised her since birth . It makes it very hard too date and just finding a women that dont hold it against you is even harder than raising your child. keep up the good work and it will pay off in your child. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 1:58:42 PM | | I have nothing but respect for a man taking care of his children...I would be honored to go out with them...We should have more men show more interest in their children instead of some dead beat fathers who are out there... | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 6:57:10 PM | Since my ex and I seperated and eventually divorced people have look strangly at me when they found out that my children lived with me full time and not there mom. So many people wondered how could I manage, as if I was a strange creature from outer space, then they wondered how horrible their mother could be not be have at least some custody.
Strange as it sounds my children's mother had the kids best interests at heart allowing them to be with me. We all know that we do are best as parents a job and that mothers are no more nature at it than are fathers.
Today (after 7 years of divorce) I am happy to say that my children are very comfortable calling their mother up for a visit as well she comes over once or twice a week (with her significate other).
Remember it is not about being angry with the ex but about loving the children, a fact too many divorces seem to forget ....
Just my two cents, of course having kids full time does make a personal life a little more difficult, but nothing is impossible. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 4:37:14 PM | hi
im single mom of three. i think it wonderfull if you full time dad and there are not many guy out there that are true full time dads so you should be proud it hard and loney but it rewarding to. if you ever want some one to talk to im here | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 4:42:33 PM | | it hard i have full cuted though but the dad want to be there so he says but never that hard does he try so im left wandering what right for the kids? it take a good i only wish i good find one of you good guy that wont slit soon as life get hard | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 5:12:26 PM | I am a FULL TIME single dad 24/7 and love every minute of it. My boys are now 10 and 9 (yes, they are Irish Twins ) My ex had a substance abuse problem and found another man to share that with while I worked a 9-9 shift 5 days a week. She left all of us and left the state. We have not heard from her in over 2 years, not even on Christmas and we honestly don't know if she is alive or dead right now. I was not sure how to describe myself on my profile. Am I truly single even though legally I am still married? But if I say I am married over 80% of the women on here want nothing to do with me, who would want a married guy anyway? But its not by my choice! I dont want to be married but have no way of sending her divorce papers when I dont know where she is. So I have been "turned down" by what I thought were some nice open minded ladies who simply saw the word married and made up their minds.
But we will meet the right gal someday soon. Sometimes I will even meet up with other single moms and we will meet up at the bowling alley and go bowling together. She with her kids and me with mine and we all have a good time. Its nice to see all you other guys out here as well. God bless us all! | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 5:56:38 PM | | same here---full time single dad for years and its tough. but to have never had a kid and wonder what it would have been like to never play ball etc with your own kid its worth it. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 8:16:07 PM | | Ive been a fulltime father of an 8 year old girl and 11 year old boy since 2002 when their mom passed away. I love being a dad and cannot fathom men(or women) who dont do all they can to raise their kids with love and devotion. Sometimes its hard, they drive me nuts lol, but they also teach me new things everyday. | |
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