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Posted: 3/5/2008 6:32:33 AM | LOL You're a piece of work dude. Where did I say I was out screwing anyone else but this girl I've been seeing. We aren't exclusive and only see each other every other week for a play date as she can't get her mom to take the kids right now. Trust me. She's not out "mending other fences" as you so eloquently put it.
AnimeFreak,
I can't imagine what it would be like to have kids who were distraught by the divorce and did NOT want me to meet someone else. My kids are so supportive of me finding love. They ask if this girl is going to be my new wife. They really like this girl. My nine year old son is very intuitive though and has picked up on my not going in to see her as much. He said if things don't work out with her and I he has another hottie for me to date. It'll be Trish Stratus or Michelle McKool or some other diva from WWE, or Jessica Alba I'm sure. He's views on women are just a LITTLE inflated! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 8:40:20 AM | Octro.... Thanks gives ya a kiss back 
AnimeFreak,
Let me first say welcome and you did just fine on the forum. That is what this forum is about to put how ever many cents you want to throw in to the pot. That is how I got involved in this one these two were going at it and I had to voice my single mom thoughts. LOL
Anyway, back to topic at hand. As I said before, I think it is great the kids are involved in meeting your friends and being involved a little when it comes to the girlfriends. You brought up something that heck I cannot remember if we touched or not the no touching in front of the kids. I can say that is my general rules too do not be all over me when my kids are there maybe hold hands if the feeling is there to do so. You are right also about the kids being too dang smart for their own good my daughter is 7 and is the exact same way! She is already trying to marry me off to dads of friends at school. LOL
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Posted: 3/5/2008 9:18:11 AM | I think it's awesome how my kids can get along with my friends. I think it also helps them to understand what friends are for. They see us having a good time together and talking and I hope that it helps them to learn how to better treat their own friends.
I assume that the whole 'dating' situation is made easier by the fact that I have a good relationship with my ex wife. There was no fighting or anything involved, just a basic understanding that this wasn't working and it was time to do something about it. We've discussed how to handle things like new mates and the kids, plus it's been almost 2 years now so the kids are much more used to it now.
And no matter how smart they are, sometimes i'm still smarter. I dated a girl for over a year and my kids had no idea we were together. I guess that's the benefit to having female friends. If all my friends were male the kids would catch on that Dad has a female around now all of a sudden. I think the only problem now is finding just the right woman for me. I guess to use a POF analogy, i've had some bites but haven't been able to reel one in yet! HAHA! I mean, I love making new friends, but, uhhh, it would be nice to have a little more than that! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 10:12:22 AM | | My hats off to full-time, single dads. It is a hard job, yes, but if the man has kids, then that is okay in my book and I'm very proud of you. Not too many guys want the job of full-time dad. I have 4 kids, myself, 2 are grown and 2 are still at home. they are 9-yr-old boy/girl twins and i have talked with a couple of full-time, single dads and they are doing a darn good job at it too. i find that women think nothing of having the kids, but most of the men that i have talked to are more meticulous about details with raising their kids....not to say a woman isn't, but I guess it is because the men want to make sure they are doing the right thing with their kids and when they are in "full" control of having their kids, they are more "in-tune" to the little things....to where women find it more natural to just be the nurturers and "most" women things just come naturally. Please don't think I'm being racist, because I'm not. It's just with this day and age, more men are becoming full-time, single dads and it has always been the woman being the single parent, and it has just been more natural for woman to do this, as it has been throughout the ages. but, yes, times are changing and I give props to all full-time, single parents.....male and female....it's a hard job to do by yourself to begin with. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 11:03:46 AM | Nicely said corky:
I always figured it was easier being a single custodial father as most in society simply had such a low bar or expectation in respect to fathers parenting ability's.
The single custodial fathers I know are all very involved and enjoy and relish the time we have with our children and consider ourselves lucky in comparison to what we see some other fathers going through.
The difference regarding how we parent is also perhaps not wanting to fall down the low level of expectation that some have for custodial fathers....
I have however often felt that for me being a single parent has been easier than it was being married and a parent. I am just as involved with the children and still pay for myself all that is involved. The best aspect is not having to deal with a toxic relationship on top of trying to be a quality parent. And yes a relationship is two people but I either had to roll over and follow the direction of what was deemed right by one person and be very unhappy or stand up for what i felt was compromises in situations and that created the toxic environment.
So in hindsight...i feel that it is often much easier doing things by yourself as you do not have to hear someone in you ear telling you that you are nothing or a fool. ((LOL it was actually interlaced with profanities)) | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 7:36:29 PM | | Wow Westpark....I had to scroll to the top of your post because I didn't remember putting all that down in writing! You took the words right out of my mouth....that was me. That was the defining moment in my coming to terms with ending my marriage. When I realized that my kids were suffering at the expense of my misery and that I'd be much happier and be able to apply myself as a parent much more effectively on my own than under the reign of someone else who was squashing me, it was the start of a new chapter. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 9:15:04 PM | | I'm a single father of an awesome 10 year old. He does live with his mother, but I have him twice a week and any other time I want as long as I arrange it. One of the biggest things between my ex and I was that he was properly cared for. Fortunately, we get along well enough that this is easy to do. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 9:18:22 PM | myname is shane i will not give up on any kids which i get involved with in my life if any kids need help i am there for them and there mother's too.
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Posted: 3/15/2008 11:27:45 PM | | Hey there, I've raised my son since the day he was born. He is now 12 and it has been the single most rewarding experience of my life. I had no idea what I was getting myself into but wouldn't hesitate to do it again if I had it to do over again. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 11:49:34 PM | Im a single dad of 3 , 2 boys and a girl, oldest boy 6, middle son 4 and daughter 3 years old. got my hands full and truly love how much they really love and appreciate me. As stressfull as they can be its all well worth it when they climb on your lap to watch tv or run up to me and give me "big hugs" and wisper "i love you daddy" AINT NOTHING BETTER THAN THAT.
ALL you other dads keep it up we can do it just as anyone else can. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 8:41:48 AM | I,ve just read all 28 pages of this thread! There are alot of single fathers on this site! Sure it can be a tuff cake to eat ,but well worth it! Any women that will not give you the time of day because you are full time daddy,would not be worth dating (count yourself lucky).I think the most important thing to remember is the kids reguardless who has custody of them,they need to feel safe and loved !I think sometimes we get hung-up in our own selfpitty we loose site of whats really important in life our prodigy!Buy the way I,am a single dad in ONTARIO CANADA ,and love every minute of it! So guy,s suck it up and do what you have to !We can measure how we did as the primary care giver when our kids to be great adults!Lots of luck,love and laughter  
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Posted: 3/16/2008 4:29:45 PM | | Im a single full time dad of a 6 month old little girl. Ive just been scanning through the single parent part of this forum and Im am absolutly at a loss with how women feel about us. Im not just talking about those without children but those with children too. I dont want to accuse every woman of this as that is not true but it does seem we get a bad lot. I know single parent females have a bad time of it but I honestly do not know of ANY men that would not date a single mom. I am definately ready for a relationship, I can definately free up alot of time to date. Yes, my daughter will always have me there but that does not mean I cannot have another important female in my life. I guess some women actually find a baby or chld as competition when they really shouldnt. For me, if someone will not date me because I have a child that lives with me then they are obviously not for me and I will continue to look for the one that is. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 7:17:42 PM | paulypaul
I think you are right that there are a lot of women that are messed up in the thinking of not wanting a single dad. I think single dads are great! I praise you all cause as a single mom i know how hard it is to try and find that person to share your life with that will accept you and your child. That is one reason i started in on this forum was to voice my thoughts as a single mom and just praise you all for stepping up and being fathers.
To me i think a single dad is a good choice because it shows there responsiblity and compasionate side.
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Posted: 3/16/2008 8:48:46 PM |
I,ve just read all 28 pages of this thread! There are alot of single fathers on this site! Sure it can be a tuff cake to eat ,but well worth it! Any women that will not give you the time of day because you are full time daddy,would not be worth dating (count yourself lucky).I think the most important thing to remember is the kids.
Exactly and very well put. My daughter is 21 years old but has MRDD so I am in it for the long haul. We do everything together. She makes my day sunny even when it doesn't shine. If we're lucky, after years of special education and struggles she may soon be able to attend college and if necessary - i.e. if she needs the help - I will be in the next seat taking notes for her. As it states on my profile she is my princess and always will be; you will just have to settle for being queen. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 3:07:11 PM | Hello all
As a single mum i can understand the heartache, stress and joy rolled into one due to being a single parent.
I have full time care becouse as like alot of single parents have in Ireland the other parents get away with just walking due to our out of date laws. At least in states your court order for maintance is respected not like in Irish courts!!!
I love my two girls aged 7 and 8 yrs so i respect all those full/ part time dads that see the childrens bests interests rather than revenge.
Well done lads wish my girls had support like yours in their lives. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 2:26:41 PM | TO ALL SINGLE DAD " GOD BLESS " YOUR KIDS ARE SO LUCKY TO HAVE YOU...  : | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 5:04:55 PM | Well your definately not the only one. I know of a few others on my area and I have had to take care of my daughter pretty much by myself and with help from family for the past 3 years.
She's only 6 now.
It's not easy, but I know it will all pay off someday. It already has.
When I hear that laugh, that precious giggle or see her being truly happy.
It makes it all worth it.
My daughter knows she is truely loved and that is worth more than anything. I love being a Dad, wish it wasn't a single one.
But, that's just the way life is.
If I can just avoid having a nervous breakdown, I'll be ok. LOL
Your Michigan friend,
RRB
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Posted: 3/26/2008 6:13:28 PM | Hi, I just had to jump in here. I don't think that Butterflykisses at all is representative of sole female parents. In fact, I found myself screaming while I read her responses to you.
I am the only parent of 4 boys (widow). I cannot believe that anyone is suggesting that right off the bat you take your kids with you on a date. You're kidding, right? I too live in the midwest, and I assure you, this is not the norm.
It's true, it can be difficult to find the time to socialize. But I would much rather take some time to find the time than expose my children to the dating scene.
I don't think you should introduce someone to your children until your serious about them. All of our kids have gone through SOMETHING to be the child of single parents. Life is complicated enough for them.
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Posted: 3/27/2008 1:32:48 AM | | Try being a 50 year old single dad with young kids. My Ex moved out of state to with her new boy toy and I told her she wasn't going to take my kids away from here so she left them with me. Problem is most ladies my age now won't have anything to do with me because of them. Still, I would not give them up for anything. Sometimes when I feel like i am being a complete failure as a dad and about to throw in the towel, my 11 year old will tell me that I am the "best daddy in the wholewide world" and my heart just melts. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 8:29:59 PM | | I'm a full-time dad of five kids 14, 12, 10, 8 and 4 my ex wife left us 18 months ago to find herself LOL it's a hard job but I love being a full-time dad and they are great kids. I hope to find a real woman one day but if not I have the great love of my kids. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 8:46:23 PM | Attention: Ladies (Single Mom's... Or Otherwise!!!!)
There is NO FINER MAN on God's green earth than a man who has stuck it out,
done the HARDER thing, the righter thing, NOT just for himself BUT for the sake(s)
of his child/children. (Just WHAT was I THINKING when I picked so badly???!!!)
I could not be more impressed, nor more IN AWE of what you guys are doing 24/7!!
You have much to be proud of, guys! And YES, sadly, there are more & more of you,
too. And I see nothing wrong with single moms getting with single-dads... who better to understand!!! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 8:55:56 PM | | Thank you for your kind words TERLETGO sometimes thats what we need to keep us going. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 1:09:21 AM | | hi i am a single dad to 3 boys and have been now for the last 8 years | |
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