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Posted: 5/21/2008 1:44:46 PM | i'm a full time single dad, my sons 14, between working full time and looking after (and running round after) him and a dog i don't get much spare time, but when i do i'm lucky enough to have a hobby he loves too and because of that we get days where we're more like mates than dad and son
i get no help off his mam and no money,
he rarely sees her at all these days due to her never bothering with him,
this has caused a load of problems and keeping him on the rails hasn't always been easy, fortunately as a big bloke i'm not gonna back down when he kicks off as teens with troubles do and we rarely fall out, but how a lass in my position manages with teenage sons amazes me and i take my hat off to single mams ! | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 11:55:45 PM | Full time single mom of a wonderful 2 yr old boy.
I know a few other single moms and if the chemistry is there I don't think that a man who has his children full time is less attractive. It just adds a few variables, like parenting styles and combining more personalities into the family, not to mention who takes whose last name. If I ever get a chance to date, I think I would prefer to have a few more little people around. The problem is, all of the responsible dads are at home and so am I. I am new to the computer dating thing, and I just don't see how you can tell enough about a person to judge. Ah well nothing is perfect and in 16 odd years I will have more free time than I ever wanted  | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 4:53:44 AM | | Hi I am a single dad to four sons, 8 11 13 15, plenty of us about...A | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 12:58:09 PM | Didnt think there were THIS many single dads out there. Wow.
Hiya. Ive been a single dad for over a year now, with no mother in the picture. After a 16 year relationship (not married), she walked out on my son and me for a guy she met on my space and we have only heard from her 4 times, none since January 7th (thank god). My boy hasnt spoken to her since October of last year. Probably the best thing that ever happened to me was for her to abandon me, and, sad to say, my son. Its a sad, pathetic story, but thats it in a nutshell.
Cheers to all single dads who have stepped up to the plate!  | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:54:49 PM | I'm right there with you guys! I have twin 7-year old daughters that are the most awesome girls on the planet!!! (...I'm sure yours are cute but mine are cuter  ) On the one hand, I'm "just dad" and on the other hand I'm "the greatest dad of all time". Kinda keeps you humble and makes you feel special at the same time.
My wife died of leukemia 2 years ago so it's been kind of rough but the thing I'm most proud of is that they are truly happy kids in spite of it all. Not sure how to do the makeup, hair and puberty thing but I'm not gonna cross that bridge until I have to!
I also have a 27-year old stepdaughter that married a guy that used to work for me and a 19-year old stepson in college that lives with his dad. And...I already have 4 stepgrandchildren from my stepdaughter. Yikes! Hard to believe I used to be 33, never married and no kids (I'm only 42 now).
At least I get to watch all the cartoons I want and play with the kids at church and at the park without looking like a complete fool!  | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 4:17:02 PM | Single dad here. But I have a great family and support system, so I feel odd considering myself a "single" dad. I guess the single part means I'm not married or otherwise corralled..lol  | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 6:22:21 AM | I'm in Nova Scotia...
We are out there, and its definately not easy. I have a daughter who is 2 and I've been raising her on my own since she was 6 months old. Her mom see's her about once a week but doesn't pay a cent or offer to help out anymore then she has to.
I've dated a few times since then but most just don't understand the committment to having children so I tend to think its easier to date someone who also has children. But thats just my opinion. And yes females seem to be attracted to single fathers but not always for the right reasons. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 1:42:12 PM | | Single Father of a 5 year old. his mother left alittle over 4 years ago. nothing from her since. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 3:33:34 PM | | I think it would be nice to be with someone whos single dad, because they would know how to treat kids, and how to communicate with them, also, will accept and understand more about children.x | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 12:09:43 AM | I am a single full time dad, in the Dallas, TX area, are there good places to go to meet women that aren't afraid or feel like I have the scarlet letter on my forehead because I have a soon to be 3 year old at home?
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Posted: 5/26/2008 1:59:37 AM | Isn't it funny. Men, are the percieved villians when it comes to women and children. But, alas, after reading some of these posts, women are just as bad when it comes to kids.
Single dads..let me ask you this.....would you want your kid around some lady who dislikes kids, or is a potentual harm to them?
Trust me....women can wait. period. Its nice to have an adult to chat with sometimes, but that kid comes first. And, believe it or not, there are women out there who will date a single dad. But, that kid comes first. regardless if they are 18 and getting kicked out of the nest, or they are toddlers, who require your full attention. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 5:46:15 AM | I am a single dad of two girls aged 6 and 12 years old.
Up until six months ago I was also caring for and razing my 17 year old stepson who ran away from his mothers care and came to me when he was 15 years old.
Before my daughters where in my care my Ex used them like a gun to my head because she knew I loved them so very much and she took advantage of this to blackmail me and bleed me dry and I still did not see my daughters for 2 years because of there mother and her actions to stop me from seeing them both despite the court orders I had for access on weekends!
My youngest daughter was removed from her mothers care by DoCS for child abuse and gross neglect at the age of 2 years old and placed into foster care!!!!!!
She was covered in 3rd degree burns and she has cigarettes burn on her stomach as well!!!!!!!!!
I had to fight my Ex who wanted my daughter back from DoCS and DoCS as well in the Children's Court for 2 years to get my babe back from them and she has been in my care as a ward of the state now for the past 2 years and I am still fighting to have her released from being a ward and placed into my care as her father and not her career!!!!!!!!!!!!
My eldest daughter shortly after her sister was removed from there mother ran away when she was 8 years old and hitch hiked over 100 kilometers to find me!
SHE VOTED WITH HER FEET!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have spent the past 5 years in the family law courts fighting for the care and custody of my eldest daughter who has been in my care now for the past 4 years and about 3 weeks ago I was finally granted 100% full care and soul custody of her!!!!!!
The cost finacially runs near the half a million dollars mark to fight for the eldest in the Family Law Courts and to also fight for my babe girl in the Children's Courts of Australia against DoCS and my Ex and when my babe girl is released to me and into my care my Ex will start up again to fight me in the Family Law Courts for her all over again.
A Childs well being, safety, self esteem and happiness has no cost but true and devoted unconditional love and understanding for them and the right to live a life without suffering pain, being hurt and living in anguish and fear of one of there perants!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The financial cost to be where I am today is nothing compared to the pain suffering and terror my children lived within the care of there mother and now I am the one who receives the love kisses and cuddles from my daughters their both are nothing but PRICELESS to me!!!!
If I had to do any of this again I would within an instant and with no hesitation and I will fight on!
For the futures of our children we endure so much and make personal sacrifices for them and those small moments of love kisses and putting them to bed knowing there safe well and happy are just priceless and we have these times and our Ex. don't!!!!!
We as parents and people are richer for these experiences and for hearing those four magic words every night as you tuck you child into bed and know there safe "I LOVE YOU DADDY!"
SO NEVER GIVE UP!!!!
CHERISH EVERY SECOND WITH YOU CHILD and at times it’s hard and very lonely for us all as single fathers but the rewards are endless and well worth everything you go through in life for them!!!
Keep up the good fight and never give up!!!!
And know you your not alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 5/26/2008 6:17:41 AM | I am happy to be reading this thread and seeing all the single fathers. It gives me faith and courage to continue on being a single mom. My son is five, and he is a treasure. His father isn't in the picture. I feel sorry for his dad, he is missing out.
Good luck to all you that are single dads. May you find peace and happiness for yourself and your kiddos!  | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:40:33 AM | Well, honestly, you dont see to may single dads out there.. i think that its great that guys step up to the plate... my daughters father.. the minute he found out i was pregnant, he took off... he promised the the stars and moon, and was gone, has not seen her, and not called her... has not given her anything... and honestly, we are much better off... i think that its great.... honeslty, i would not want to date just a single guy... i prefer single dads because they understand the responsibilities that comes along with being a parent and how much work it takes... me personaly, i want someone that understands and thats gonna understand and is not gonna get upset and think that im just trying to brush him off and make up excuses just not to spend time with him, sorry but my child and her needs some first before anything else... i think single dads are sexy... wouldnt have it any other way.. does that answer your question??? 
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Posted: 5/26/2008 5:29:54 PM | | First off I want to say How wonderful it is to see that there are guys out there to take care of their kids.. You really dont see to many of them.. Second I would like to say that it is nice to talk to a single guy that hads kids at home.. Sometimes its hard to find someone that understands that I still have a teenager at home .. I think it is great for dads to have kids at home.. But believe me I do understand how hard it is to find time for yourself.. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 7:10:30 PM | To all the single dads out there. I think you are doing a great job!
I know what it's like being a single parent and I also know it's very important for kids to have their dad in their lives.
I know I wouldn't mind getting to know a single dad 
Have a nice day! =) | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 7:28:11 PM | | your not the only one out there bro. i have 2 boys, 5 and 13 that i raise alone. its the deadbeat dads that give us a bad rap. i wouldnt have it any other way though, my boys are my life. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 10:04:47 PM | | Wow.. it's good to see i'm not the only one. i find it does attecting the dating scene. have two kids at home under the age of 5 tends to scare dates away. But that's fine, they wouldn't understand what my kids mean to me then anyway. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 5:40:16 AM | I think single dads are awesome!! There's not the support out there like there is for us single moms!
I think single dads who step up to the plate deserve all the respect in the world!! | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 6:28:11 AM | | Well I am a single father of a lovely 7 year old daughter. The feeling is great. The only thing that I find, is that many women who I have come across,do not like the idea of me having a child. But it is OK for them to have children. What is going on out there. Are women becoming that selfish? | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 1:35:44 PM | I'm so surprised to see all of the other single dads out there! I have many friends who are single mothers, and they always look at me with this sense of admiration. Women have been raising kids on their own forever, and people don't seem to think it's a big deal - wonder why it's such a big deal when men do it!
I've been on my own with my 7 &9 yr-old boys for 6 years now. It's pretty tough to date, as most "eligible" women want to start a family with a man who has never been married, has no kids and has more time and money than a single dad does. On the other hand, women who are parents themselves, seem to appreciate what it takes to raise kids on your own.
Bravo to all of you (mn AND women) out there who know that raising kids is rewarding and worthwhile! | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 1:37:07 PM | I'm so surprised to see all of the other single dads out there! I have many friends who are single mothers, and they always look at me with this sense of admiration. Women have been raising kids on their own forever, and people don't seem to think it's a big deal - wonder why it's such a big deal when men do it!
I've been on my own with my 7 &9 yr-old boys for 6 years now. It's pretty tough to date, as most "eligible" women want to start a family with a man who has never been married, has no kids and has more time and money than a single dad does. On the other hand, women who are parents themselves, seem to appreciate what it takes to raise kids on your own.
Bravo to all of you (men AND women) out there who know that raising kids is rewarding and worthwhile! | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 10:39:33 PM | You single dads are great, I can't believe any parent would walk away from thier children..  I now of several single dads, its great, they took over the mother and father role. I work with children and for mothers day the children that live with their dads full time, made the gift for their "dadma" because they are both roles..
A GREAT ROLE MODLE ALSO!!!  | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 3:01:26 PM | | I am a full time single Dad and let me tell you it is the best. I became a member of this site at the request of my kids a few days ago. They think I am wasting away. I have 3 of them. A 15 year old girl a 12 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. I have more fun with them then anyone can imagine. My son and 2 friends, ages 10 to 12, in fact, with some help from my oldest(between text messages and instant messages) Have given me what they consider to be the 9 best pick up lines. My favorite is #3 and guys feel free to use this one.... "How much does a polar bear weigh. Enough to break the ice, can I get your number". Of course being able to trick out on a skate board would also help my chances cause girls think thats cool. God love em. I know i do. Chin up to all those single dads and don't take life so serious. Have fun. | |
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